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why its unlikely ill get a girlfriend anytime soon
Ignorance is bliss... really. We're different because we have totally different concepts of reality than most other people. It doesn't make us special, but it does make us different. Most other people don't know this stuff exists, they have no idea that it's possible to "Get good with women". They just accept what they get, and they're happy with it.
However, "we" on the other hand, realize the potential that exists, when other people cannot see it. So we're not happy just getting the one girl, we want to find the BEST girl. This means, the best girl for that particular person. Everyone has a different idea of what their ideal woman is, but we're trying to find it, as opposed to other guys that just settle for what they can get.
However, "we" on the other hand, realize the potential that exists, when other people cannot see it. So we're not happy just getting the one girl, we want to find the BEST girl. This means, the best girl for that particular person. Everyone has a different idea of what their ideal woman is, but we're trying to find it, as opposed to other guys that just settle for what they can get.
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"Oh stop!" Said the creature, pleadingly. It lifted its hands towards them and its golden eyes were full of pity. "You make everything petty and meaningless," it said. "Let me tell you of the Master-Plan of the Universe. It is so simple and nothing to do with gods or rules, myths or superstitions. Nothing to do with fear." - “Star Beast” by Nicholas Stuart Gray
People can be happy in virtually any situation if they don't know that there's something better out there. I mean, there's a lot of guys with girlfriends who just settled and would love to have someone more attractive, but don't know how to get it or don't care enough - but you're right, some people are just happy with what you and I might call mediocrity, regarding women.
I think those of us who come here and seriously want to improve with women are somewhat of a rare breed. You have to get over your pride enough to look for help, be ambitious enough to keep at it, and truly care enough that you're willing to stick with it until you get results. There's not all that many people like that.
I think those of us who come here and seriously want to improve with women are somewhat of a rare breed. You have to get over your pride enough to look for help, be ambitious enough to keep at it, and truly care enough that you're willing to stick with it until you get results. There's not all that many people like that.
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Seek and you shall find...
We get whatever we look for. I think you are always looking for what's missing, what could be better... Its okay to analyze your situation once in a while, but what brings peace and happiness into someones life is to always look for the good - in any situation, in people, and most importantly in yourself.
There's no perfection and if you continue to think "why am I with this girl when I could be with someone better"...well, youre fucked ;). There will always be a better girl, always. Instead, look for the good. See the beauty in everything.
Learn to appreciate the beauty of a 6 or 7.
Your dream girlfriend is someone who does not exist.
We get whatever we look for. I think you are always looking for what's missing, what could be better... Its okay to analyze your situation once in a while, but what brings peace and happiness into someones life is to always look for the good - in any situation, in people, and most importantly in yourself.
There's no perfection and if you continue to think "why am I with this girl when I could be with someone better"...well, youre fucked ;). There will always be a better girl, always. Instead, look for the good. See the beauty in everything.
Learn to appreciate the beauty of a 6 or 7.
Your dream girlfriend is someone who does not exist.
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There are risks and costs to action. But they are far less than the long range risks of comfortable inaction. - John F. Kennedy
They just accept what they get, and they're happy with it.
Are you sure about that? I'd beg to differ. Most chodes seem pretty unhappy to me, because they settle for the first or second girl that gives them the time of day. They don't know that they could have a choice if they put their mind to it. __________________
Life is always short. Thus, only the quality of it matters.
Problem is, what I've seen many times is that if you have problems with girls, with getting girls etc, and then by chance you get that one awesome girl to have a relationship with you, it will suck after some time, because there will be an imbalance of power. The girl loves the guy, but the girl also knows there are other guys out there. Whereas the guy thinks that he'll be lost without her and will go to any length to keep her. So either she will lose attraction or he will be her puppy.
There are of course other examples, a guy that doesn't have these issues with girls will also have awesome relationships. But if you suck and you know it, waiting for that one girl to find you is in no case a good choice.
There are of course other examples, a guy that doesn't have these issues with girls will also have awesome relationships. But if you suck and you know it, waiting for that one girl to find you is in no case a good choice.
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It's not about more, adding stuff.
It's about less, removing stuff that's holding you back.
It's about less, removing stuff that's holding you back.
Your dream girlfriend is someone who does not exist.
LOVE it
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What's that feeling? Uh oh, what's that feeling in your gut?
You just realized that you don't give a fuck and you can do anything you put your mind to.
That's what that feeling is.
You just realized that you don't give a fuck and you can do anything you put your mind to.
That's what that feeling is.
DavisBloome
Respected Member
Join Date: 06/22/2009 | Posts: 471
i look around me and see alot of people getting girlfriends, maybe its the kind of age we are all at.
we probably all went through similar things, got our hearts broken, and while they all just milled around like normal people, i was devastated and got into the pick up.
now none of these guys with girlfriends could be described as naturals, or good with women, they just are, you know regular people with regular girls. the thing is i wouldnt give any of these girls the time of day
i used to have quite low self-esteem, but after approaching hundreds of women, seeing that pretty girls really are everywhere, its really skewered view of the world, you might know it as abundance mentality.
there was a time when id fall for any girl who would give me attention, now i expect attention, where once i wasnt sure if a girl liked me, i now assume she does.
i guess when i saw my two normal friends together, boyfriend and girlfriend, it made a little sad to think that it had been a very long time since id been intimate with a woman that i wouldnt mind not seeing the next day.
my standards are stupidly high,i freely admit this, id rather be single than date any of these girls that they're dating, but am very happy for them - beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
it just made me think, i am happy being single, having core confidence, its not about me not being able to get a girlfriend. i guess its about me thinking every time im with a girl, fuck theres so many other girls out there!!! why would i stay with this one for an extended period of time?
it just made me wonder, what makes me, or people like you, the people reading this, what makes us so different that we've chosen to become good with women, why wasnt it enough to just get a normal girlfriend?
i dont have an answer. i just hope that when the dust settles i can go back to chodesville, and lead a happy life
hector
Mark Twain