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"not caring what ppl think" is a useless mindset for many reasons. Ppl adopt it cause it makes them FEEL GOOD, even tho it long term can have sideeffects that are not that awesome.
YES, u can get loose of your fear that way. but do you REALLY not wanna care what anyone think? That mean you cant learn from anyone who is intelligent either lol. Some ppl you will actually learn to respect the opinion of. The mindset also can make you into a huge social retard etc.
Stop thinking constantly about others perceptions of you is good, but do NOT adopt that mindset of "i never care". also what u can do is have boundaires of what you let into your reality (shit talk is screened out for exampleI).
the mindset of "dont give a fuck" has weirdo consequenses. The reason you want girls in the first place is cause u do care about what they think. You want them to like you, and get attracted to you. thats called REALITY. have respect for it.
my 2 cents.
Quoted for Truth man, absolutley correct.YES, u can get loose of your fear that way. but do you REALLY not wanna care what anyone think? That mean you cant learn from anyone who is intelligent either lol. Some ppl you will actually learn to respect the opinion of. The mindset also can make you into a huge social retard etc.
Stop thinking constantly about others perceptions of you is good, but do NOT adopt that mindset of "i never care". also what u can do is have boundaires of what you let into your reality (shit talk is screened out for exampleI).
the mindset of "dont give a fuck" has weirdo consequenses. The reason you want girls in the first place is cause u do care about what they think. You want them to like you, and get attracted to you. thats called REALITY. have respect for it.
my 2 cents.
I have had this mindset for a long time, and believe me I'm having a very hard time snapping out of it. Once you totally internalise it, this will fuck you up. For the last year and a half, I've been walking around in a state of such total indifference that it wasnt getting me anywhere.
I came across as arrogant, didnt really get past my insecurities or fears. True the mindset did a few good things for me. It stopped me thinking about what others thought of me entirely. But it didnt push me toward any social interaction whatsoever, because after all I didn't give a fuck, so why should I talk to people I don't give a fuck about? Well I stayed in my group of freinds who kinda shared similar mentalities, ranging from cool dudes to criminals.The mindset was pushing me away from social interaction.It was also making me more defiant and combative. Yeah, I'd look people straight in the eye, but coming from a "what's your problem?" frame.Not a simple assertive one.Also I didnt really take care of my appearance or clothing or anything regarding to that.Why? Because I don't give a fuck implies you really don't give a fuck, so why the hell should you talk to anyone else or fix how you look or come across?
Thats a I don't give a fuck mindset for you. It sucks, no joke.I just recently discovered all this pooaaah stuff, and thank god I did, because with it I am snapping myself out of this bullshit mindset.I still have remnants of it.
Thing is with the I don't give a fuck mindset, you're not eliminating your problems. You're not dealing with your inner issues, insecurities and fears.You're simply covering them up with a front.
I believe the real "I don't care what people think of me" mindset will flow naturally from dealing with your problems, going out, facing your fears, and learning that at the end of the day you're still alive and well ; As well as screening out negative feedback you get from others and by silencing negative self-talk.This in combination with a non judgmental position in regard to things and people in your life.Because after all if you judge, it is only logical to assume that you also are being judged.Unless you take on a mindset of arrogance and superiority, which goes hand in hand with the I don't give a fuck what people think of me mindset. And both are unhealthy.
This shit is bothering the fuck out of me.
On paper Im better than 99% of my friends but I still sit there and worry about what others think.
Im not bragging but seriously Im good looking, smart, successful, and I have a good sense of style and i still feel like shit. I have women throwing themselves at me often but I feel like I'll fuck it up eventually.
It really depresses the fuck out of me.
I know there are other RSDers that feel like I do.
you just have to find some inner confidence that DOESN'T revolve around comparisons to other people. if you fully accept who you are, you can only go up from there. On paper Im better than 99% of my friends but I still sit there and worry about what others think.
Im not bragging but seriously Im good looking, smart, successful, and I have a good sense of style and i still feel like shit. I have women throwing themselves at me often but I feel like I'll fuck it up eventually.
It really depresses the fuck out of me.
I know there are other RSDers that feel like I do.
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Yeah, i turned into huge "blindspot" guy with that mindset... and its reaaaallyy contraditory.... you are into this shit cause you want GIRLS, you do care about what they think. Mind-fuck 2000.
"To get girls, i shouldnt care what they think... but.... the reason i want them is cause....I DO care...".LOL.
Trust yourself is probably a better mindset (?). Being a real logical dude always looking at books and shit, im working on that...
With this said, it IS GAY to walk around thinking "oh what is these ppls opinion of me.... am i Pretty?".... but turning it into some core belief of "i do not care" will turn into a mindscrew that will mess ya up.
I dont think ANYONE with that belief has consistent good inner game. Yes, u get rid of some social pressures / becomes more expressive.... but it goes back to the same inconsistencies with reality sooner or later.
Yeah, i turned into huge "blindspot" guy with that mindset... and its reaaaallyy contraditory.... you are into this shit cause you want GIRLS, you do care about what they think. Mind-fuck 2000.
"To get girls, i shouldnt care what they think... but.... the reason i want them is cause....I DO care...".LOL.
Trust yourself is probably a better mindset (?). Being a real logical dude always looking at books and shit, im working on that...
With this said, it IS GAY to walk around thinking "oh what is these ppls opinion of me.... am i Pretty?".... but turning it into some core belief of "i do not care" will turn into a mindscrew that will mess ya up.
I dont think ANYONE with that belief has consistent good inner game. Yes, u get rid of some social pressures / becomes more expressive.... but it goes back to the same inconsistencies with reality sooner or later.
I just do what I want because it's what I want to do. Doesn't mean I completely don't care what other people think...but it probably won't stop me from doing what I want.
try this
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Not caring what people think puts people in the socially retarded asshole direction.
What they really mean is don't live your life trying to meet other peoples standards.
Your better than 99% of your friends... nice
What they really mean is don't live your life trying to meet other peoples standards.
Your better than 99% of your friends... nice
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My buddy Derrick says it best, "It's none of your business what another person thinks of you"
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My buddy Derrick says it best, "It's none of your business what another person thinks of you"
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That's a good way to put it.Dave
Some people on the forums have misconstrued RSD's meaning of "DO NOT give a fuck what anyone thinks of you" as being nihilistic and misanthropic.
It's not like that.
Not giving a fuck, as we put it, simply refers to acting through your own intentions independent of the reactions of others.
If someone nay-says you, you don't hate.
If someone gives you props, you thank them but don't attach much to it.
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Sales Manager: You have no previous sales experience, I don't think you can handle rejection.
BonoboTimes: Your right, I don't. However, I've been fucking models since I was 17. I've dealt with being called ugly, stupid, gay, creep, asshole, and a bunch of other shit. Been told to go away, don't talk to me, go fuck yourself, and I'm not interested by over three thousand women and groups of people. I can handle rejection better than anyone on this lot if not city. Not only that, I never leave. I will follow the customer across the fucking street if I have to. I simply do not give a fuck. I close.
Evil Stifler: "My internal cheerleaders are on my team, bro. They're like, GO, GO, GO, GO!"
Eckhart Tolle: "Adam and Eve saw that they were naked, and they became afraid."
TheFADER: "The club is always a place I can count on to get complete peace and quiet while studying my math."
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Sales Manager: You have no previous sales experience, I don't think you can handle rejection.
BonoboTimes: Your right, I don't. However, I've been fucking models since I was 17. I've dealt with being called ugly, stupid, gay, creep, asshole, and a bunch of other shit. Been told to go away, don't talk to me, go fuck yourself, and I'm not interested by over three thousand women and groups of people. I can handle rejection better than anyone on this lot if not city. Not only that, I never leave. I will follow the customer across the fucking street if I have to. I simply do not give a fuck. I close.
Evil Stifler: "My internal cheerleaders are on my team, bro. They're like, GO, GO, GO, GO!"
Eckhart Tolle: "Adam and Eve saw that they were naked, and they became afraid."
TheFADER: "The club is always a place I can count on to get complete peace and quiet while studying my math."
Bonah Jamz 2010~
I always saw the not giving a fuck of what other people think as more of not caring emotionally, you can still know what people think, and value their opinion, but you always trust how you feel and your own judgment above theirs.
For example, if someone points out that your shirt is weird, if you werent giving a fuck what people thought and you liked your shirt, you may consider their viewpoint, but you wouldnt worry too much about it cause a shirt really doesnt matter in the scheme of life and you want to wear it, it doesnt mean your going to go full weirdo/ do crazy obnoxious shit, just you decide your self image yourself
For example, if someone points out that your shirt is weird, if you werent giving a fuck what people thought and you liked your shirt, you may consider their viewpoint, but you wouldnt worry too much about it cause a shirt really doesnt matter in the scheme of life and you want to wear it, it doesnt mean your going to go full weirdo/ do crazy obnoxious shit, just you decide your self image yourself
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- When I'm out: it's me-time. I focus on expressing myself and doing what's fun for me, I don't care about girls. Self-absorbedness.
- 'It's all good, it's going to be fine, I am enough'. No worries or concerns. Let the dynamics work for me.
- Nobody is going to pull girls home for me. Self-image will stop you, take action regardless.
- Focus on finding a girl DTF vs. trying to game/arouse/whatever girl after girl.