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October 22nd, 2014
Did you decide to stop giving a fuck one day?
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Newuser

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Join Date: 08/16/2009 | Posts: 601

I have my good days and then my shitty days.

I want to have the consistency where I dont give a fuck anymore. I think Im going to make a pledge to myself that Im not going to care what people think.

I know its irrational but for some stupid fucking reason I still get down when people talk shit. It bothers the fuck out of me.

Tell me what you've done RSD.
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BloodmoneySWE

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Join Date: 06/07/2009 | Posts: 755

"not caring what ppl think" is a useless mindset for many reasons. Ppl adopt it cause it makes them FEEL GOOD, even tho it long term can have sideeffects that are not that awesome.


YES, u can get loose of your fear that way. but do you REALLY not wanna care what anyone think? That mean you cant learn from anyone who is intelligent either lol. Some ppl you will actually learn to respect the opinion of. The mindset also can make you into a huge social retard etc.


Stop thinking constantly about others perceptions of you is good, but do NOT adopt that mindset of "i never care". also what u can do is have boundaires of what you let into your reality (shit talk is screened out for exampleI).


the mindset of "dont give a fuck" has weirdo consequenses. The reason you want girls in the first place is cause u do care about what they think. You want them to like you, and get attracted to you. thats called REALITY. have respect for it.

my 2 cents.
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Newuser

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I would rather be the guy with blind spots than the guy who sees every fucking thing wrong with him.

I've got friends who are completely oblvious of the problems they have and pull chicks and have lots of friends.

I, OTOH, sit there and worry about every "mistake" that I have.

I would rather not give a fuck than sit there worrying about the problems I have.

Im so fucking tired of it.
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Newuser

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This shit is bothering the fuck out of me.

On paper Im better than 99% of my friends but I still sit there and worry about what others think.

Im not bragging but  seriously Im good looking, smart, successful, and I have a good sense of style and i still feel like shit. I have women throwing themselves at me often but I feel like I'll fuck it up eventually.

It really depresses the fuck out of me.

I know there are other RSDers that feel like I do.
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Bard

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Join Date: 08/27/2009 | Posts: 270

THE REASON YOU DON'T GIVE A FUCK WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU IS BECAUSE YOU KNOW THERE'S NO REASON FOR ANYONE TO THINK ANYTHING BAD ABOUT YOU. AND IF THERE IS YOU'LL MAKE AMENDS BECAUSE YOU HAVE SOCIAL AWARENESS. CAPSLOCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So yeah you know you're good and you're not judging them too so it's all fine.
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JokerMan

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Join Date: 04/25/2008 | Posts: 43

If you think that your friends have more blind spots than you, but you pull less than them then maybe you have blind spots about the extent of your blind spots?

Also, why are you comparing what problems you have to what problems your friends have? It's irrelevant: solving your problems won't get you laid, being comfortable with them and accepting that it's cool to have problems will. Woman won't expect you to be perfect but they will expect you to at least not be neurotic about your imperfections - how can they be at ease around someone who is always on edge? There's nothing wrong with you, you're fine as you are now.
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BloodmoneySWE

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New user,


Realize that it is about FEAR......... thougths about others opinion about you is fear about your social status.


you can loose ya fear without adopting that mindset. That mindset turns u narrow minded and creates different barriers.


just stop investing into constant thoughts about others perceptions about you (DO NOT turn it into a belief "i dont care what they think"). Stop thinking about it, is the best advice... and battle your fears.
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MagnusTolle

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Join Date: 04/15/2010 | Posts: 10

the blueprint explains this very well in its references to eckhart tolle

just be in the now. everything is the now. if you approach a girl and she 'rejects' you, then one second after it happened, return to the NOW. your STATE should nott come from whether or not she approves of you but from your own center. from your now.

i am working on this minset currently, but i can almost feel it coming... that when i become my source of happiness and my strength then no woman can take that away through 'rejection'. when i approach im not looking fro approve, im just seeing if her and i are compatible to have a good time at that time.

there are 3.5 billion women in the world. don't just say 'there are other fish in the sea'.... LIVE IT.
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BloodmoneySWE

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Magnus,

you cannot TRY to be in the moment. It will fuck with ya head. TRYING suggests that there is some place you need to go to.

Just BE.


Read some tony parsons.
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Eazy-R

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Treat everyday like its your very last. No joke, pretend you're going to die the next day

I started this shit the day my girlfriend dumped me. It took about half an hour to get over her. I made out with a new girl that night too.

When you live like this, you dont have time to feel bad cause it is, after all, your last day on earth.

Seriously do it
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You just realized that you don't give a fuck and you can do anything you put your mind to.

That's what that feeling is.
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fishbulb

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 That's not how it works.

What happens is you stop hiding behind your roles, lies and defensive strategies. Then when you are vulnerable and naked    you can see clearly.     You see other peoples' facades for what they are and they no longer threaten you.

Tyler got FORCED to do this by Neil Strauss. He was exposed. For most of us, we have to make the choice to expose ourselves. Start by revealing yourself bit by bit until you get to your deepest darkest secrets.
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