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Distant Light "Socialite & Spiritual Monk"
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Distant Light

Distant Light

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This was an interesting night due to the fact that I have no phone and how I ended up meeting women tonight...

Lprince came out, so we chilled, I drank today so were on the dancefloor dancing. All of a sudden I lose mix and Lprince as I go to my fav area "The Pillar" where there are lots of women. I'm just having fun thinking nothing, I remember interacting with one chick who liked me but I didn't stick around.

Next thing I know everyone is gone, I refuse to go home and I'm on the pillar again. Some chick shows up, next thing you know I'm at a table of 5-6 guys and 1 chick. There is a HUGE bottle of champagne, I drink some and take a picture, climb on the sofa and now I'm surrounded by about 7 women. I ended up #closing one of the chicks who turns out to be hanging with her boyfriend. I then head out...

This was purely a fun "get drunk" night since I have no phone. However, while on the train I'm buggin out having a blast and RANDOM CUTIE APPROACHES ME. She leaves the guy she is with to come to me an figure out what I'm listening to since it seems like I'm having FUN FUN FUN...

Let me repeat myself, this chick LEAVES GUY SHE IS WITH TO APPROACH ME, an I end up telling her it's my favorite russian dj "Fast Foot". She loves it, I take her # hahaha and she goes back to the guy. I was so nonchalant as she qualifies herself and overall looks at me in fascination.

I've got video of me buggin out for abit haha...

P.S...Pictures are very interesting, one of the unattractive chicks actually like nice in her facebook pictures from a year ago hahaha. Funny how putting on abit of weight can totally change how a woman looks.
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XXL

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Distant Light wrote:

..yesterday I get a message from mix that my phone is off, FUCK. I hit rockbottom, I was about to throw it all away and just end the train ride because all this is a reflection of my incompetence and laziness..

..I almost quit everything, phone still hasn't come on so it delayed the whole 1year exploration bs..

..The hard part is getting started an maintaining since phone is VERY IMPORTANT..
huh??  yo what's the problem with this phone stuff :)))) how hard is it to copy all of your contacts to different sim card and get substitute pre paid phone, 30 minutes?
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http://www.boostmobilestore.com/bpdirect/boost/PhoneList.do?action=view&...


Sell ur phone on craigslist, buy this, ask parents for 60 bucks. And ur back on track, this will work just
as well for txting. U can still listen to music, the rest of the stuff on ur samsung is just a distraction anyway.
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Distant Light

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XXL wrote:
Distant Light wrote:

..yesterday I get a message from mix that my phone is off, FUCK. I hit rockbottom, I was about to throw it all away and just end the train ride because all this is a reflection of my incompetence and laziness..

..I almost quit everything, phone still hasn't come on so it delayed the whole 1year exploration bs..

..The hard part is getting started an maintaining since phone is VERY IMPORTANT..
huh??  yo what's the problem with this phone stuff :)))) how hard is it to copy all of your contacts to different sim card and get substitute pre paid phone, 30 minutes?


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Progressive wrote:

http://www.boostmobilestore.com/bpdirect/boost/PhoneList.do?action=view&...


Sell ur phone on craigslist, buy this, ask parents for 60 bucks. And ur back on track, this will work just
as well for txting. U can still listen to music, the rest of the stuff on ur samsung is just a distraction anyway.


This area isn't my call at all, I've got zero control over this...

What I've done to proactively maintain my phone in the past was save abit of everything I get which was working well UNTIL my dumbass gave my parents all the money I had save. (hidden) Series of other personal events caused all that money to bleed faster than I could blink and then bill was due, I of course need to focus on BEING ALONE. Meaning I get nothing from parents and I do everything myself, acting school showed me I could manage on my own very well...

I can't sell current phone because I'm stuck with plan that also includes my brother. I wanted my own personal plan, that was the whole plan an then 1min before everything was set my father threw in another phone (For brother) which fucked everything up. (I don't even use 1min call time on my phone) My cousin she's looking for the exact phone I have but I can't even sell it.

Now, I'm just nonchalantly waiting it out as I no longer care since I've got like 30 years or so committed to this...

Despite a shitty "march" in terms of building all this, all this has currently fucked up all the stuff I've done over the past month or so...
-  Chicks I was bringing out since I started back, I have zero contact with (Last friday I bumped into one of them)
-  Chick I banged a year ago, haven't contacted at all (She will come out and her girl friends are attractive)
-  Phone is totally disorganized, if I'm not actively living then I stop everything and now I have numbers/notes scattered on my phone and I don't type in anything when I get there number. So I have different contacts of women I don't even remember.
-  Chick from last week who wanted to fuck the day after, haven't spoke to at all
-  Go Go dancer chick (mix, chick you took footage of) hit me up on facebook which had the perfect setup of "Text For Sex" but phone didn't come on so I didn't even sort out the logistics
-  Flaked on CC for this hipster-like rave party which would've made me some money in the end. Reason I flaked was because I didn't want to deal with coordinating how we'd meet up since I'm phone-less. Heck, to meet my good friend I had to get wifi from a bank and facebook mix/progressive to text him and let him know I'm at the spot.
-  Chick who approached me on the train was DTF, she was fucking fascinated by me, she left the guy she was with briefly just to talk to me. I have her number but of course can't do nothing with it, its all useless at the moment.
-  This other chick #closed me friday, which I told her my phone was off so she could text me in a week or so.
-  Chick about a week ago climbed the pillar with her friend and they were on me hard, I went for the # and the main chick demanded I take her own instead of her friend. I already knew the deal hahaha BUT nothing has come of that as I never even contacted her.
-  The "fri" night with those 2 russians, the black dancer chick was a completely waste of potential night since I never got to followup. Did speak to black dancer chick though who was still recovering from that night haha.
-  Italian Vogue model chick and I were suppose to party the weekend that my phone got cut off, she had hit me up the week before. This was huge since she could easily go hangout with the dudes who knows way more models than me, but again that "Presence" factor is what's priceless. You're presence is the biggest currency an I'm slowly learning it more and more.

Overall, I'm no longer worrying about any of this and just letting it all go. It's no ones fault but myself for being in this situation and honestly internally it doesn't bother me anymore. Right now, I'm watching films eating chinese and drinking red wine. Later on during club hours I'll be listening to music and then meditating. Yes, it would be great to be out socializing, messing with chicks and making money BUT certain external circumstances don't allow me anything beyond a ONE-OFF night. I've been going the facebook route again which is still a hassle since I don't really use it enough to really keep in touch. (Also doesn't help that I like foreign women so everything is in different languages hahaha) In the past, majority of the women I facebooked were the ones who I knew didn't live in NY an to keep in touch I'd use that. (Still in touch with finnish cutie, new orleans chick, LA chick, etc)

It's easy to say "Just get a job" but I already know what I want to do, in my mind its insane to get a regular long hour (boring) job when at a low point I almost locked in making about 400 in a day. It's not the actual job that is hard its the pressure of constantly knowing that if I don't make it I will end up in my current situation. This then makes me completely outcome dependent and start taking everything seriously. HOWEVER, irony is when I'm in the rut an just go back to the normal me everything falls into place BUT now I lack basic essentials. An the cycle continues hahahahaha...

P.S...I'm not going anywhere, I rather not be alive than just give up over external shit, which is why when the time comes I'm giving myself 1 whole year of non-stop building and evaluate from there. In the span of a year I'll have the resources to continue acting again so if I don't find the year profitable I'll forget about everything and just go back to acting. To me it's just stupid for me to NOT work in the nightlife business when I know regardless what I do with my life I'd be partying atleast 4-5 times a week because I like everything about it.
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XXL

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oh man.. i had no idea that "i need new phone" might even be an issue discussed so deeply
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XXL wrote:
oh man.. i had no idea that "i need new phone" might even be an issue discussed so deeply
Yep, cell phone is what keeps all aspects of my life together...
-  Certain venues if we bring 10 attractive tall women will yield 500$ flat (So in theory even if I went out 4 nights a week, I'd make 2,000)
-  Venues we have tight connections with, if we bring out women they'll give us unlimited vodka and champagne
-  I don't do day 2s or call chicks, so in order for sex to occur chicks have to TEXT ME (Usually in the weekday I get texts from different women)
-  My days aren't planned ever so when I go out, in less than 10mins I can setup something where I have women meeting up with me since I now know what I'm doing. Only thing that tends to be pre-planned are nights that I'm rolling with mix/progressive. When I was solo on weekdays I had no clue where I'd actually end up during the night but I had women on call to come out.
-  Sending invites is my way of pinging as I have no time for the back and forth texting, if people want to hang they come out. Every so often other "connector" type of people hit me up to hang for abit or something which I then sometimes bounce with people there.

So yep, basically my cell phone controls my social life, income, sex life and what I'm capable of doing. When I'm out with no cell phone it's like a ONE-OFF night meaning I can't really do anything besides hookup with a chick. I'm used to having all 3 things (social, sex, work) running together an overlapping as I tend to meet lots of guy's and girls. Like my last post I had met a mixed group who I ended up hanging with, they spent 1,250 on a 3L bottle of champagne. I took the girl in the group # who was with her boyfriend. In a perfect world, they'd come out this weekend an buy more bottles through me since there will be atleast guaranteed fun. However, I'm so fearful of my own unstability that I don't even attempt such things due to me knowing one minute I'm normal and next minute my whole life just collapses.

When I first got back my cell phone an started going out again, you'll notice I was just going out over and over again. It was amazing watching these sports players talk to chicks, meeting all these nightlife vets, fooling around with lots of women, (its like 1 big hookup scene) group bonding, after hours (hotels, clus, stripclub, apartments, etc)

The Big Picture Perspective
Reason I have more focus on the big picture is because the overall "vibe" is what I enjoy. The dude who makes 200k a year hosts a table at nightclubs every so often based on when he wants to due to knowing so many people who can set it up for him. That's like a "Side" thing for him, beyond that he hosts "model" dinners at different restaurants and "books" tables for friends. Based on what he told me, people pool money with people they know to help invest/partner in different nightlife ventures so everyone wins if the venue does well. It's all free lance work where he can select where he wants to work his "magic" because he knows he can deliver. So in a nutshell you've got this natural dude who BANGS WOMEN, makes 200k, has tons of free time, connected (saves tons of money) and can setup his life in whatever manner he see's fit. With that picture drawn, I guess you can see why being phone-less sucks.

I enjoy it all so much that to quit would mean to fly out of NY and go to europe to maintain partying 24/7 because I could never live in NY knowing the potential possibilities, especially when I genuinely enjoy those areas of interest. It's crazy to see nightlife heads from las vegas, new york, and even london flying into miami just for ultra. One guy I'd consider my mentor doesn't even hang in NY consistently anymore due to going international. However, he has partnership in 2 of the top night venues here in NY.

Many of these people have been at this for many years which is why I don't get annoyed anymore, I haven't even lifted off yet and have many years of trail and error to go. Persistence and dedicated effort is all I need as I take 1 step at a time. Something I recently learned was taking the long view in a "I'll be good in 20 years" attitude.

Anywho, back to the waiting game hahaha...
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XXL

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it's suicide IMO if you don't have a second sim card with backup copy of all your phone contacts and important messages/notes.
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Cell phone company I'm with doesn't have sim card BUT I have everything backed up both online and offline in case I lose my notes or contacts. More and more my cell phone is becoming my lifeline. Mix/Progressive and I always joke about the different places will work at during the day, meaning a bad ass view while working from our phone setting shit up...

With that said, its as if the uncertainty principle is playing into my favor as I might have potential WORK that I actually enjoy which can keep me afloat until  actaully start making money in nightlife...



The person who makes these videos contacted me to find out if I was interested in acting/modeling since he has this new gig, turns out the film production group is legit in terms of music videos and commercials. For the most part I'd do background work...

ALSO, pornstar chick is screening 2 of her films which I'll be going to end of this month and of course there will be an after party so that means more fun fun fun. However, I'm remaining indifferent an just letting things play out since things seem to go better that way...
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FR: Friday, Hospital!?!? Saturday, Hangover!!!!
This was a weekend full of personal growth...

There was a sorta "new" state of being that I was aware of on friday. For some reason I felt truly free as if all intentions were full of clarity. Went to pre-game had 1 drink, hit night venue with mix, I'm just helping out since there are about 10 chicks with us.

Next thing I know, a few fun moments an I'm BLACKED OUT on some random street, I only remember hearing a girl trying to help me, me giving some guy the finger and hearing paramedics asking if i can get up...

This night was turning to be epic before I got super drink, which is due to getting offered so many drinks. I have pics of me double fisting vodka and chugging a whole bottle of champange. How'd did night progress...
- Start of the night some guy basically introduces me to this black chick an her friend. I'm full blown listener as of late when interacting with women. She's chatting away, I am going back and forth having fun with mix's girls. I wasn't into this chick, she liked me though

- On the sofa, some chick is there, not clear what I did or said but I take her facebook later in the night and I remember getting very phyiscally playful. ALSO, there was a moment where I had 2 new girls on the sofa and we were interacting with mix's girls and a few other new girls. During this time I am of course phyiscal, an realized the chick had an amazing ass so now i am grabbing/slapping her ass. One of the chicks i was interacting with from afar came over to stand on sofa. I dont know where this group went, one thing is for sure i didnt even get to contact close them for when cell phone comes back on.

- I mentioned leaving my house I had this NEW state of being where all my intentions were clear. I wanted to fool around with a chick in my normal stripper-life manner. So I see this chick just go up to her an BAM my nose is between her tits, I got her locked between my legs and Im going up and down kissing her neck. You can see on her friend's faces that they were jealous about what was going on. I once again have no clue what happened.

- I'm near our table again an start messing with a chick at the bottle buyer table but she nor her friend were down for playing around with me. Then I ended up messing with one of mix's girls BUT got opened by this lesbian who offers me drinks at this other guys table. (Mix told me lesbian was tryin to pull the chick i was first interacting with) I end up playing around aka making out, solving logistics and bouncing outside. Something happened though an she RAN AWAY, i think she noticed i was a few mins away from BLACKOUT DRUNK because she just stopped everything an just left.

An from there it was over for me as i ended up blacking out and waking up in the emergency room...

NOTE: Its funny how lots of people want to align with me due to my ability to create a rather chaotic fun atomsphere. Two promoters approached me, one wanted me to work with him. Beyond that, i tend to befriend bottle buyers alot. For those who dont know the value in that, i could literally go anywhere by using connections to book a table.

Saturday = Feeling like shit
My stubborn self refuse to stay home since its always better gaining experience. I'm in no condition to go out...
- Have some motion sickness like feeling
- Talking makes me feel like passing out
- Jacket has throwup, jeans fucked and so i must wear a rather OUT THERE style.

I'm out though, with the intention of chillin, i just wanted to be out. However, there is NEVER a night where I'm not getting approached. I got approached 6 times...
- This russian chick opens me wanting to have a picture with me. Funny enough there all over me, I am very nonchalant though because I stll feel sick. The friend had her ass all pressed up on me.

- This tall chick, mix tells me to pull. (I later find out he told me that because she thought i was cute) She opened me by asking if i know where she can get drugs. Its ironic though because her friend asked me earlier an told her i didn't have any, so this was just her excuse to meet me. I'm 100% listener mode, its as if she's using word association to keep convo going being transitions are smooh and related hahaha. I start flirting an she is really into it, tells me she lives in BK. However, things went downhill since her friend as super drunk.

- This chick approaches me asking if I AM GAY hahaha. I laugh, tell her no, i dont even play around with her verbally. Next thing I know she says "I love black cock" I am very nonchalant saying "cool" and all of a sudden her ass is all on my dick and she similar to the tall chick is flirting hardcore.

- Another tall chick, looks at me for a few seconds an just says hi and wondering if I ever met her before. A 2nd chick did something similar which i started flirting for abit but let her go.

- Tall chick comes out of nowhere an starts dancing with me. She is full on ready to makeout and everything. Her friend tries to pull her away saying "STOP, I wanna dance with him". However, friend makes up some excuse as to why they need to go elsewhere.

Overall, was interesting since I am truly just being me now. I understand who I am. Like I know what is likely to happen now due to the consistency of MAJORITY of my interactions.

Me being me is very consistent now, as I hung out with mix at the diner I was checking out the russian reception chick who for some reason had a nice ass that day. It was so normal for me to joke back an forth, after today (sunday) the lessons I learned, I now see how simple the processes of life are.

PATTERNS
- Once I start flirting most women play along an it is ME who makes the decision to take things too far an end up passionately making out. Regardless if I take things too far or not majority of the women I fool with I am touching there hair, tits and ass. My way of being phyiscal is very elegant/classy so I am allowed to do whatever.

- Nowadays when I approach, my intentions are so clear that women either get sucked in immediately or within a few seconds adapt and act accordingly. I rarely meet chicks who are indifferent or flat out don't want anything to do with me. If that was the case, I now know 100% its there issue not mines. I now interact with both men and women since my intention for being out is to help others have fun.

- I'm always all over the place an as a result I've learned its a great way to connect people to each other. It didn't occur to me on friday a very attractive asian chick was interacting with me. Mix liked her, an would've loved to meet her. When I think about it, half the time I am in mixed groups and its rare to find me approaching women who are alone or a 2set. Lots of win/win situations can go on if I connect people.

- The more people I meet is the crazier the night will get. The nights I do not talk to people tend to be low key, people approaching me and I chat. However, nights I actually meet new people its like chaotic full of flirting and fun moments. People love when I am being this way, an ironic enough that is my DEFAULT state of being. However, I must admit there is fear/ego surppressing it to some degree each day. If there were no fears/ego I would be meeting new people 24/7 and having even crazier experiences. What those fears are I have no clue since its subtle. Maybe its the unknown, failure, incompetence, I never really took time to think about such things since my nights are generally better than average and consistent.

P.S...I get time to recover as it hit me sunday, that fall head first into the concrete while drunk has now set in its pain. My neck hurts and different parts of my body. High survival skills though so I should be good.

P.S.S...I think this weekend was a huge lesson because now I got access to NPMR again. (Other realities) I had about 6 different sessions, 2 that were very vivid lucid dreams which I LEARNED LESSONS. When your growing access is more easy an all my work is starting to pay off.
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