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Distant Light "Socialite & Spiritual Monk"
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Distant Light

Distant Light

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Join Date: 08/22/2006 | Posts: 2390

"Every step animated by gumption, directed by goals, and repeated through dogged perservarance is key"

It's this MBT mental note that has kept me going despite the freezing cold that I've been going through day in and day out. Hopefully, CC bought the extra battery for me so I can actually go out 4pm with no fear of battery problems in the night. Turns out tonight (sunday) is a after party for a fashion magzine and tomorrow I just got a text from mix partner to go to a fashion show event at 10pm at the venue where I was at saturday for the after party.

Sorta like what one club owner used to say about his summer club in the hamptons "Every night is a miracle" because intellectually I can't even think about how I'm able to keep going or even go about all this, I just keep taking things one step at a time and just let it unfold. Friday, I either must pull an all nighter or out and not go out sicne I must be up around 10am the next day. (Thinking about staying up from 3pm friday and sleeping at 6-7am sunday) At this point I really don't want to miss many days, ideally I want to be out everyday without any "high risk" results.
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Distant Light

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FR: Unproductive Night At "Celeb Venue"
Only actual problem is me getting out of my own way, despite the pickings being very slim I still didn't work things to my best ability. Reason I even ended up getting a number was because CC really liked this one chick who was very energetic. I basically said "Ah, you like, ok I'll meet her and get her number just so we can get her out again." An like that in less than 3mins I have her number. Majority of the night was spent solidifying relationships with the two promoter dudes that are generally at this venue. Most of the women weren't tall at all...

Something interesting happened today as I chatted briefly with this one dude, turns out it's...



"George St Pierre" , itwas such a normal interaction as I had no clue who he was even when he introduced himself. I only realized it was him when looking at promoter's twitter and seeing a picture. This further shows me that the only thing stopping me is ME as it seems like if I just BE and focusing on slowly changing certain ways of being, I'd eventually end up living the life that I'm moving towards. Spurs and Knicks players were also present but I don't have a clue who is who since I don't keep up with sports at all.

I also spoke to this chick from italy who gave me a fake number, I texted my name and instantly got a text back "???". The whole interaction was forced, it was like a 1min interaction hahaha. Eventually I just decided to go home since there weren't many women worth meeting. Keep in mind I say that BUT there were actually a handful of tall cuties who fit the brand. The only problem is that they either were no longer there or were gettoing pulled, when I arrive I need to be working the venue asap. Even if I only met the only 10 tall women in the venue, over time it would add up. It's better than not meeting no one...

Tomorrow is supposedly a big fashion event so will see what's what...CC didn't buy the battery as far as I know so I'll just buy one when I have the money.
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Distant Light

Distant Light

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FR: No More "Homo Erotic Mating Dance"
It's gone too far, it is no longer coming from a place of self-amusement, it's coming from a place of me having fun alone. Tonight there were flickers of me actually interacting with the other person but overall no one needed to be in the room, just let the music play and I would've just dance dance dance until I died. The music was AMAZING...

This event I knew would have a HIGH RATIO OF WOMEN which is why I tried inviting RSD dudes. Basically mix's partner told me to bring guy's, anyone who knows me knows I don't really hang with guy's so there wasn't no one to bring. As for the women who were going to show up, things went downhill fast as my russians left to go to a members only venue due to not wanting to wait for me in the cold. The other women were taking forever until it was too late.

The night for me truly consisted of me overhyped about how good the music was. Majority of the time I was just entertaining mix's russian chick and this other girl I brought. It's hilarious because I can not manage interacting with them both, by time CC arrived she seen me with russian and just left in less than 2mins. Turns out she went to go try an hookup with some guy which didn't go down...

These medicore chicks were all over me, these other 2 energetic chicks were waiting for me to approach, lots of chicks were looking at me BUT I didn't really start meeting any women at the start since I was just having fun dancing like a dumbass. Eventually, I snapped out of it and started meeting women WHILE DANCING. I #close this norwegian chick, 2 chicks basically bring me their friend to flirt with. However, my dancing is very closed off, I'm not really dancing with them I'm just enjoying myself for myself. In the past this whole dancing thing was just self-amusement to mess with women which I knew always resulted in making out in less than a min or 2.

There was also this one chick who was dancing non-stop blowing out EVERYONE who attempted to interact with her. It's amazing I even tapped her an she brushed my hand off, it was then she realized my intention had nothing to do with me really wanting to meet her I was just going to laugh at how she is blowing off dudes. Next thing I know I'm on phone she's dancing an physically touching me. I knew something was up beforehand because her and her friend kept dancing infront of me exclusively.

In the end, I just observed other's hooking up with chicks and pulling. Until eventually end of night it was just me and the options of like 5 chicks which were all wishy washy. One almost became the chick I'd pull BUT in reality she truly wasn't a chick I should've even thought about pulling despite her being tall. At the end of the day I basically need to reconfigure my whole way of being and focus back on just having pure fun both socially and sexually.

Since I can't go out for the next few days and since friday I can't go out, I'm going to go back to drawing board experimenting with just whoring it old school style and just inviting all those women I've been whoring it with. I'm going to ban any dancing for abit just so I can get back into being fucking deadly. I know during the daytime I revert to that rather energetic/aloof being who just screens.
 
P.S...I know "homo erotic mating dance" is one of the problems because back when I first used to do it the intention was different and almost always resulted in making out. This is why I used to do it sparingly, however my intentions of doing it now is different and at times you can say its influenced by FEAR at times due to me not wanting to expreess myself and instead closing myself off by doing this. When I'm with chicks nowadays I be looking at the sky as opposed to the woman.
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The Legend of JT

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RIP to the "Homo Erotic Mating Dance"

 

:*(
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Distant Light

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The Legend of JT wrote:
To the "Homo Erotic Mating Dance"

 

:*(

Hahaha PERFECT!!! Shit had to go...
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Distant Light

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Progress Report: Shifting Gears "The Full Experience"

It hasn't even been 3 weeks yet an I feel like my life went from 0 to 60...

This is my first actual downtime due to family shit I need to attend, its perfect timing since I need to buy another cell phone battery in order to go out 12hrs a day without worrying about cell phone issues. I still can't believe for 2-3 days straight I was giving women the wrong number, almost all of them were polish or russian.

Right now, I'm all about consistency and implementing processes to stablize my reality because as I posted a few days back "Laziness and fear of incompetence will lead to high risk results". Monday, was a perfect example as I expected 6-15 people to come out and in the end only 2 showed and 4 others ended up leaving due to reaching the meetup spot earlier than was told. (Thinking back I should've called, but that didn't even cross my mind) If I had been doing things like clockwork I'd have met tons of new women in the past three weeks.

Another lesson I learned is to play my own game and focus on my own personal growth. Looking at these dudes who have connections, bring lots of hot women, and fool around with the hottest women is a waste of time and counterproductive. After realizing that one of the guy's I considered "Good With Women" stated that he's too shy to cold approach in the daytime made me understand that I need to focus on my own processes. When observing other's I make too many AMAZING assumptions which actually overrates the person while I underrate everything I do...

I basically went from 0 social life to getting a phone, going to after-after parties, possible drunk sex, meeting a handful of tall women and ufc fighter george st pierre introducing himself to me. An I still think I'm lazy and haven't progressed much. In my mind, it's still lots of work to be done to even begin...

With that said I've decided to go the route I used to go before I even thought about this lifestyle...



Creating the escort service of just planting a shitload of seeds, letting the "Reality Show" play out and just letting the chips fall where they may. Reason I'm losing my edge is because I've lacked that intention to flirt as I feared women won't come out again. However, that's just a random BELIEF/ASSUMPTION that has no actual experience to back it up.

What I do have experience of is flirting with shitloads of women, whoring it and everything from the party fun to the flirting fun being the reason why they come out again. Heck, CC is the perfect example of a chick I've messed with and is hooked to being around me whether she gets to mess with me or not. The women who come out are generally the ones who I've flirted with atleast abit. I noticed this during daytime recently when I approached this gorgeous chick and she was into me until she found out my true intention was to just get her out.

So now it's back to that chaotic whoring where I bounce around messing with tons of chicks, lots of making out, fingering, sex and just pure sexually liberated fun. I won't be so business-like an instead just use ME as the brand since many women love my philosophy to life. I've got CC an her friend's coming out an basically openly meeting guys. As I type this I realize EVERY chick who's come out with me all flirted with me even alittle. For example, asian chick I madeout with when I met her, she came out and her friend was also DTF, anyone she brings will love me. XS and I don't even know if we had actual intercourse, we hang and have a blast, its so much fun an sexually tense that CC thought I left with XS to hookup again due to how we were interacting in the club. (I had her pinned on the platform as I straddled her, if I was naked my dick would be on her face)

It all fits well with the whole "Reality Show" concept of just bringing out all the women at the sametime and letting things play out. As far as "Text For Sex" goes I had started doing it again today to get back in the swing of things. I did it to this russian chick and I'm reminded at how easily things are. If I had actually gone out I would've most likely got laid.

NOTE: Generally, I'd NEVER do all this gay ass essay-like texting but abit of the back and forth started due to me realizing I woudln't be able to just get her out since she's always with this promoter dude. Eventually, I feel into old patterns amusing myself abit going back and forth, it's gay though. An as you read the texts like that you can see the change...

"Working today? I'll be in area with my boy...Need di bosco in my life at xyz bakery"
"Come yes I'll be here"
"I'll text you when I'm in area that way your not sitting like an army wife waiting for me ;)"
"Din don mcfly...I'm working...And barely I wait for someone"
"I know your already by the window cheek on the glass waiting for my arrival...Army wife waiting for her DIN DON MCFLY to come home hahahaha"
"What time you get off work? My ass took forever to meet friends so now about to hit xyz bakery for some di bosco around 730-8...come by"

"No, I have to leave right now...I have to go buy some stuff for the store. Sorry mcfly...You lost again"
"hahaha I'm sorry army wife mcfly didn't make it home today...Maybe another day"
"Yes...Definitely another day...Whenever you'll stop by...ahaha..."

***I've noticed women ALWAYS eventually steal my "..." and use it more and more in there text***

"Army wife what you up to tonight? I'm gonna be at a fashion event 10pm tonight at xyz...Hit me up if you can hang abit"
(Next Day) "Hey mcfly...Sorry generally don't answer for valentine day...I keep the phone away from me...too much love can me...anyway, hope you succeed pretty well last night...Hard job to make random people happy when they're looking for a partner..."
"Yea I couldn't satisfy them all...I'm only 1 man ;) That's why mcfly kept his army wife waiting at her store as she waits for him to open the door"
"Din don...Din don...Concierge is next door"

***I interpreted that as her sarcastic humor since "din don" and "mcfly" comes from her smart ass comment where she tried correcting me that we never hung out before. Which was true we only met for like 3-4mins hahaha. (Exact text "Sorry MC fly, din don...we never hung out together...")***

"You ever been body slammed...? Cause I bout to stop by an suplex you in a pile of cookies..."
"Ahahahaha...What do you mean"

***Stopped all the gay ass texting and went "Text For Sex" mode, this occured right when I made the decision to go back to creating the "Full Experience"***

"Sure, sounds good...What time were you thinking?"
"Din don...Are you answering to someone else or you are assuming something?
"Assuming...time?"
"Time what? I'm here till 8..."

I never texted back cause I didn't go out today BUT it's that simple, just present the opportunity and things will unfold. Regardless what she said, I would've simply texted something similar as if she's implying that we meet to potentially hook up.

So anywho, it's time to go back to whoring it up hahaha and seeing how that works since it's more congruent than being very social without any form of flirting. It's just ME now to be very flirtatiou, I like being that way with all women for the sake of fun.

P.S...As I think about it even mix's russian girls I always flirted with which is why they liked me. On V-Day I remember her leaning her head on me like if she wanted me to pull, mix said I could go for it BUT I was still caught up with the belief of "If I fool around she won't come out" which looking at past experiences is the OPPOSITE. If I fool around she'll come out more in hopes of getting the FULL ACCESS. I also did abit of kissing her neck and neck nibbling which I forgot to mention about in my V-Day post. At the sametime it's so common for me to do such things that it didn't really stand out.

P.S.S...Saturday I shall resume adventures...Hopefully when I order the battery for the cell phone I can get fast shipment so I'm not waiting like an army wife haha.
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Distant Light

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UPDATE: I'm a lazy "Douche"
About to order a huge cell phone battery for those 12hr "Scouting" shifts...

I've been playing around with the whole "Text For Sex" concept and I've decided to create a group in my contacts of "Text For Sex" chicks. Essentially they are chicks who don't go to clubs and chicks I can't bring to the club due to not fitting the "Brand". So this means all the cute hardcore hipsters, businesswomen, dorm room chicks and homely types. Being out today I noticed LOTS of fairly attractive women who were attractive in a DIFFERENT way and I figured if I don't see chicks who fit my "Brand" I might as well just chat a few of those chicks up and have them strictly text me if they want to get fucked. Every so often I'll probably invite them to come do something in the daytime.

Reason I mention this is because I now remember how easy this all is, I'm kicking back into high gear....

Basically russian sent me a long ass essay that took up 3 texts about her plans. I stated that I might roll with her an that she should hit me up later, this for some reason PISSED HER OFF as I now realized were dealing with two people who have this "I live my life an people come into my life" sorta mentality. She sent me another long ass essay that took up 3 texts stating that we should forget about meeting up an that's why she goes out alone so she can meet people whenever she wants on her own time. Then says "I might hate you right away so no way that I will spend time"...

The whole thing was hilarious because I didn't even respond  an next thing I know her tone changed as she said sorry for being excessive an how she's just fearful of planning with someone since she's too "Weird". Her english is abit choppy so hard to understand some of her writing. Basically she was saying "I'm sorry come meet me at my job or at xyz club". I then sent her a text asking what time she'd be at the club. ext text was her trying to dominate again saying I should come over to her job to meet some of her friend's as they play around with some chick. I tell her I'm too far an she then tells me what time she'll be at the club.

The Verdict

I'm too lazy an don't want to wait around just to have sex...

I basically went home like a fucking douchebag an at 2am she texts "xyz club? Are you in?" The main point I wanted to bring up is how powerful just getting straight to the point is because now she is hooked knowing that she has a possibilty to have sex. She just isn't used to a guy being this way so she's being abit wishy washy trying to maintain her "Controlling" lifestyle and being the one who chases. All she can think about is the possibility of getting dick...

How do I know? Lots of stuff she says is implied as "I don't usually like xyz but I'll let it slide this time" as she complained about me soon turning 22 and the fact that she actually has no clue who I am. We met for 2-3 mins total, way back in dec. However, I'm not chasing in anyway an I'm just letting things sync up without forcing it. Yes, I could've waited until 1am to meet her an just lead things to sex BUT at this point in my life I don't even care anymore, when its convenient for me then I'll run with it.

Right now I just want to get cell phone battery and new jeans so I can start going out for long hours on end building this life...

EDIT - Another Example
This shit is more powerful than I thought, just got text from another girl...

"You still at xyz club you crazy pioneer?"

"xyz Club? I not partying again until saturday...My adventures today were to provide abit of escort service ;) but I flaked like a douche...""
"Lol, loser douche! Come gimme some escort service! Ahahaha!!"

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UPDATE: Proof Is In The Pudding
So basically I already have no personal life despite only at 40% output...

2 chicks in this group can get pulled by me...
"Heyyy we wanna have some wild adventures tonight. What are you up to?"

Russian
"Mcfly...Come on...We need to make money in order to rule this city...Come out tonight...22 years old...This is a joke...Lately I deal just with trouble..."

CC
"Woohoo!!! Can't wait til your back! Xo"

Why we ever used to chase women in the past is beyond me, I have yet to plant a vast amount of seeds and already I can't even take a day off. I didn't even hit up any chicks yet and I already have potential pulls tonight. I'm really starting to love this way of being, it's just easy and effortless. Cell phone battery ships soon :o

Also now that I'm living I'm back to be very MANLY hahaha as in, I'm getting shit done and making less excuses. Its as if I gave myself permission to now own and take responsibility for my life. About to go get ready right now, it's amazing knowing russian chick because she has access to ALL the hottest night venues which if I roll with her atleast 1x a week on weekend I can meet TONS OF HOTTIES. She also owns her own companies so she's established...

Her and CC as my closest partner in crimes would be sick because CC is very attractive and russian has the connections, when we roll up it will always be a 2 to 1 ratio so were almost guaranteed entry. (I have a very hipsterish wannabe club kid douche look so I tend to be one of the many ideal GUY looks)

I predict by ending of March I'm going to be complaining about the amount of women hitting me up for sex and I should be making money consistently around then. This can only go up, one step at a time...
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FR: How did I even make it this far!?!?!?!
I'm so confused about this whole process, I no longer understand how I even managed to become who I am. To be frank, I SUCK with women...

Don't get me wrong I'm a fascinating man, women are attracted to me but I clearly suck with women because I don't even do anything. Today, I met Russian at her store which I was about skeptical as I realized she's actually ITALIAN and is very outgoing. For some reason, I'm attracted to her, she ends up heading home to go out later and wanted me to text her later in the night so we could basically have sex.

Aussie comes out tonight, lots of BS at the door because one of her friends isn't attractive at all. Inside club I'm having a blast partying an the girl's next to me are eyeing the shit out of me. I play with them and end up #closing one of the girls in that group. I also end up putting my face right infront of one of the chicks an just fucking with her as if I'm going to makeout. She wanted me to makeout with her but I don't...

Go back to Aussie, an I'm basically flirting hard kissing her neck and tits, did I mention her breast are amazing. Her 3rd friend is also nice, were drunk, they want to bounce to next club so we leave. They tell me to come out for sake bombs tomorrow and they're going to party again. Turns out last week I partied so hard with them that ALL 5 of them didn't know how they got home hahahaha.

At next venue, they leave cause aussie is passing out, I chode by dancefloor watching OTHER DUDES makeout and attempt to pull chicks. I don't give a fuck, state that I suck and just enjoy chillin...

For whatever reason I don't socialize with people still, its as if I'm still closed off. I honestly don't know how to just drop all the BS, I guess I'm so used to it now that it's hard to break out of that comfortable state of being. CC also showed up at first venue but instantly disappeared, and by that time I had already left. This was the first timer I ever only spent about an hour in a club.

There were these other chicks grabbing my hair but weren't hot enough to #close...

Only lesson learned is to just meet chicks who meet the brand exclusively so I don't have to worry about door problems. This is the first time I've ever experienced door problems because I generally NEVER bring out unattractive women. This chick isn't the ugliest chick in the world, but she's just very short.
 
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Hmm, btw I actually wouldn't call this a SP man.  Unless you're doing it because you're afraid to do your own shit.  (almost surely not the case...)

I really used to think I was like the only guy in denver who had any cold approach game.  I actually now see guys make shit happen.  (Like I saw a dude that looked basically like me, and I dunno how he didn't fuck this hot blonde that night, but...she had blown me out earlier.  Talk about super fuckin useful to see heh.)  And while it seems "gay" to watch others, really, you can get shit from observing other dudes game.  Not most guys, cuz most suck, but I'm sure the guys you look at, are worth looking at at least a little bit haha.  I can learn everything myself, or I can look at someone else who may or may not be doing better and try out whatever I see from him.  And sometimes its just dumb little reminders of what I already know.  "Damn, that guy looks chill as fuck, and he's stopping girls.  Why did I think I needed to scream to get their attention, and why ain't that working for me?"  But maybe since you're always around other dudes who don't suck, you don't need it as much as I feel like it helps me.  

But yeah, sometimes it doesn't help at all haha.  If I ever compare mine to Brian's game...totally fuckin different shit.  

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Distant Light wrote:

1.  Stop Observing - I watch other's way too much now as mix joked I stalk this promoter dude because I was pointing out some big breast chick he had at his table. Ironically enough I did the samething on sunday. Overall though, I spend lots of time watching other's interact with women and then start making all sorts of comparisons. I remember back in 08, I didn't remember anything in a club besides me just making shit happen.

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