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May 29th, 2017
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Gibson

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Join Date: 03/30/2010 | Posts: 295

How does one define themself?  We're told to be ourselves and let our true selves shine through without allowing social conditioning to murky the water. 
BUT what defines who one is?  I'm told it's not what you do, it's not what you believe, it's not what you like and it's not what you think.

With all that said, what else is there? 

Going by traditional thinking;
I am a compassionate person
I am an intelligent person
I am a funny person
I am a humble person
I am a spiritual person
I am a domain administrator
I am a chef
I am a huge anime dork
I am a gamer
I am a musician
I am a drag racer
I am a raver
I am a hockey player
I am movie enthusiast.
I am a multilinguist(we do it with our tongues, lol)
I love anime conventions
I love Vivaldi
I love Dune
I love Paradise Lost

But none of those say WHO I am...  
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Symphony

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 Vivaldi is pretty awesome. My favourite:



I used to think about this a LOT. Like, I thought I needed to find this exact definition of myself. Uhhh... I didn't find it. I'm not really looking for it now. Like, whateverr.r.... it's not really important. Actually I think NOT being able to define yourself actually gives you more flexability. Because you're not thinking "oh that isn't me, I can't possibly do that"

I'm sure someone with more experience has a better answer though.
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Gibson

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Symphony wrote:
 Vivaldi is pretty awesome. My favourite:



I used to think about this a LOT. Like, I thought I needed to find this exact definition of myself. Uhhh... I didn't find it. I'm not really looking for it now. Like, whateverr.r.... it's not really important. Actually I think NOT being able to define yourself actually gives you more flexability. Because you're not thinking "oh that isn't me, I can't possibly do that"

I'm sure someone with more experience has a better answer though.
Good stuff thumbs up

I'm not really looking for a definition in order to contrain myself within boundaries.  I fancy myself as a chameleon.  I'm best out on a desert rock, but I can immediately change myself and be able to fit in a myriad of surroundings.  I can go to church, then go to a Lamb of God concert.  I can attend a seminar with coffee in the morning, go fishing with beer in the afternoon and attend an opera, movie, bar or rave that night...  I've only found one subculture that I really *sink* into and that's probably the anime/gamer/j-pop subculture.  Even then, my views on some things differ greatly than the majority. 

I guess nobody ever fully fits in everywhere...  I kind of like it that way.  If I were fully ingrained into the sports subculture, I'd have to sacrifice some of my time spent reading or watching movies.  I think like is a buffet and you should be able to sample everything.  If you gorge yourself too much on one thing you lose out.  Granted, a jack of all trades is a master of none, but I'm OK with that I think. 
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haiqu

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An over-thinker.
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flawed_un-natural

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You're the thing that experiences your life.
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Gibson

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Nice read Jay, thanks.

The one theme I didn't like about that read was that it assumes all man have an inner drive to be masculine and dominant.

I'm not a big masculine kind of guy.  I'm not a meat-and-potatoes, football playing, grunting, fighting kind of guy...

I can be dominant, but only when I need to be.  

Also, one other thing I thought of.  It's possible to be attractive to a larger quantity of women, but it's impossible to be attractive to *all* women, you know?  I mean, compatibility is multi-dimensional.  Sure, you can be attractive, but there's more to it than that.  I can also tell you that a large chunk of the people I hang out with, the girls contained within tend to go for the quiet/civilized goofball type.  Say, they go more for the Dr. Horrible type than the Captain Hammer type.
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You are the silence within yourself, the silent observer of the mind.
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Whorelord~

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Dude, check out the chimp. He's just chilling through the course.
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Gibson

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Discipline wrote:
You are the silence within yourself, the silent observer of the mind.
Care to elaborate?
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Gibson

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Whorelord~ wrote:
Dude, check out the chimp. He's just chilling through the course.


That's pretty cool, but not sure how it pertains...

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Gibson wrote:



Discipline wrote:
You are the silence within yourself, the silent observer of the mind.
Care to elaborate?
You are many things, if you look at the identities the mind makes for you according to logic. You are a peasant, a student, a male, a casanova, a bookreader, a civilian, perhaps a sportsplayer or a musician etc.
But when you go deeper (beyond the logic of the mind) you are, "the thing that experiences your live" or the observer of your live. Because you can't control your thoughts and mind, you could say that you observe your own mind as well.

Read: Eckhart Tolle.

Greetings
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