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Can you give me an explanation of this?
No. Specificity for specificity. Give me something and I give you something. A simple gift is trying to think about what I said without my help and demonstrating that you did that.
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They should manufacture rubber dildos and vibrators with a cartridge containing my semen. Trouble is my dick is bigger than the UK.
So you're saying I dont have to prove anything to myself or anybody else.... I don't really know what a sense of certainty is and I don't want to read it and take it in a wrong way.
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No, of course you don't have to prove anything. Proving something to yourself is bad when you don't have the self belief going into it, that's when you're on shaky ground. I try to prove to myself all the time, but it's to myself, and the context is always that I'm challenging myself. Either way, pass or fail, my sense of self and integrity remains entirely unaffected. Trust me dude, I didn't have even half the clue you probably do when I was in high school, I was the most approval seeking pussy ever. This shit happens, especially on such an accessible tool like facebook. And you know what? 6 years later that type of stuff still happens (not a lot but nobody's perfect). I'll give you a quick example that just went down. A girl I was talking to recently knows some mutual friends of mine, we've been texting back and forth (flirty of course), haven't been able to meet up yet (this all was started in the past week and I'm really busy, actually had to cancel on her with an open ended reschedule yesterday). Today she facebook IMs me while I'm at work to ask if I wanna video chat with her later on aim. I was busy so I was kind of short and perhaps slightly stand-offish. I didn't think so but I could see how it might've been perceived that way. Plus, I've never used my webcam before. Long story short, I'm dickin around on fb a little bit ago, I go to check out her profile since I've never really looked at it too much (except the pictures 
). Guess what? I can't see the pics, I can't see the info, and fb asks me if I want to add her...meaning I got removed from her friends list. Such was not the case earlier today. Maybe she got pissed because I didn't tell her what she wanted to hear and thought I was being a dick...maybe it was something else...don't know...whatever. A few years back this would have pissed me off pretty good, as it's obviously a "what the fuck" kinda moment, similar to your girl indirectly trashing you out in the open on fb. Bottom line in either scenario there's no sense in getting into a huge fuss about a past event that you can no longer control. You learn from it and move on. Maybe you can still get into this ladies panties, maybe you can't, either way though you're still a badass who brings massive game anywhere he goes right? Building that sense of certainty takes some time but you'll get there if you hang tough. Remember...100% belief.
). Guess what? I can't see the pics, I can't see the info, and fb asks me if I want to add her...meaning I got removed from her friends list. Such was not the case earlier today. Maybe she got pissed because I didn't tell her what she wanted to hear and thought I was being a dick...maybe it was something else...don't know...whatever. A few years back this would have pissed me off pretty good, as it's obviously a "what the fuck" kinda moment, similar to your girl indirectly trashing you out in the open on fb. Bottom line in either scenario there's no sense in getting into a huge fuss about a past event that you can no longer control. You learn from it and move on. Maybe you can still get into this ladies panties, maybe you can't, either way though you're still a badass who brings massive game anywhere he goes right? Building that sense of certainty takes some time but you'll get there if you hang tough. Remember...100% belief. __________________
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okay......
firstly - all the stuff you read about not giving a shit, and non-reactivity, you've taken it in the wrong context COMPLETELY. it refers to COLD APPROACHING in other words girls you meet and will never ever ever see again, so it doesn't matter what the fuck you say to them. in social circle, it is completely different. do you know what social proof is? its what gets people laid 90% of the time, you should give a fuck what she is saying to her girlfriends, even if it is bullshit, because if they think you're chodey you're sure as hell not going to get laid. social circle is different to cold approach man. with a cold approach you can literally say " i want to fuck you now" and its all chill but with a girl you've known for TWO YEARS that is as far from a cold approach as can be.
secondly - dont be mad at the girl, and call her a "bitch" or whatever. heres a newsflash kid, all women will run from confrontation, and all of them are not direct. its not a reflection on any one girl, its all women, and you know why, because they dont need to be confident to get guys, quite the opposite alot of the time. i mean haha shes 17 right, thats young, shes just a girl, she doesnt know whats going on!
i cant remember who said it but you cant next a girl you havent slept with. so whatever happened its all on you, and you have to deal with it. if you want to play with the big boys, you've got to accept responsibility.
dont confront her, i made that mistake when i was sixteen and it blew up in my face. its fine you're young, youll make mistakes we all do. but heres an important concept if she loves attention and stuff, DONT GIVE IT TO HER.
thats right, dont give her attention. you want to be different from other guys, they're called ORBITERS, dont be an orbiter, orbiters pretend to be nice to girls, when all they want is to sleep with them.
if you want this girl, then you should mindfuck her, instead of going direct. go up to her and act like nothing's happened, as in dont be cold to her, and dont be warm, be indifferent, dont give her any special treatment. flirt with her friends, flirt with everyone else, and instead make fun of her, but in a way that she is smiling too. make her comfortable, dont come across as a creepy guy.
and dude calm down!!!! yeah theres cool stuff on here, but its like daedalus and icarus, you flight too high, your wings are going to burn off. it takes years to master this stuff, and remember alot of it applies to cold approaches. if you can, do that instead of social circle, because there's more girls out there and you seem to have a good attitude, you could do well with cold approaching
Hector
Thanks Hector for the fucking advice. Really brought me into reality. But dude, for HER, she was like a cold approach since I haven't talked to her since last year. It felt so weird just asking for her number but I guess I took flirting with her the wrong way. But how does MINDFUCKING her increase a chance of me getting with her?? I mean I've done it with other girls that liked me but nothing seems to really happen. (BTW, her asian friends want my dick) but she doesn't seem to be interested lol.firstly - all the stuff you read about not giving a shit, and non-reactivity, you've taken it in the wrong context COMPLETELY. it refers to COLD APPROACHING in other words girls you meet and will never ever ever see again, so it doesn't matter what the fuck you say to them. in social circle, it is completely different. do you know what social proof is? its what gets people laid 90% of the time, you should give a fuck what she is saying to her girlfriends, even if it is bullshit, because if they think you're chodey you're sure as hell not going to get laid. social circle is different to cold approach man. with a cold approach you can literally say " i want to fuck you now" and its all chill but with a girl you've known for TWO YEARS that is as far from a cold approach as can be.
secondly - dont be mad at the girl, and call her a "bitch" or whatever. heres a newsflash kid, all women will run from confrontation, and all of them are not direct. its not a reflection on any one girl, its all women, and you know why, because they dont need to be confident to get guys, quite the opposite alot of the time. i mean haha shes 17 right, thats young, shes just a girl, she doesnt know whats going on!
i cant remember who said it but you cant next a girl you havent slept with. so whatever happened its all on you, and you have to deal with it. if you want to play with the big boys, you've got to accept responsibility.
dont confront her, i made that mistake when i was sixteen and it blew up in my face. its fine you're young, youll make mistakes we all do. but heres an important concept if she loves attention and stuff, DONT GIVE IT TO HER.
thats right, dont give her attention. you want to be different from other guys, they're called ORBITERS, dont be an orbiter, orbiters pretend to be nice to girls, when all they want is to sleep with them.
if you want this girl, then you should mindfuck her, instead of going direct. go up to her and act like nothing's happened, as in dont be cold to her, and dont be warm, be indifferent, dont give her any special treatment. flirt with her friends, flirt with everyone else, and instead make fun of her, but in a way that she is smiling too. make her comfortable, dont come across as a creepy guy.
and dude calm down!!!! yeah theres cool stuff on here, but its like daedalus and icarus, you flight too high, your wings are going to burn off. it takes years to master this stuff, and remember alot of it applies to cold approaches. if you can, do that instead of social circle, because there's more girls out there and you seem to have a good attitude, you could do well with cold approaching
Hector
OH AND BTW, I HAVE VARIOUS SOCIAL CIRCLES, but this GIRL is MY ASIAN SOCIAL CIRCLE, so on the not giving a fuck part, it's with COLD approaches and SOCIAL CIRCLES and I SERIOUSLY DON'T CARE if she tells her friends or my ASIAN friends of what her friends think of me because HER FRIENDS (WANT MY DICK) and I'm nice to all of them, BUT THEY'RE ALL UGLY and they don't talk to OTHER SOCIAL GROUPS in school. THIS GIRL IS THE ONLY HOT ONE.
why don't you look at it from her point of view? you havent spoken to her in like a year and suddenly you want to fuck her? this is very logical for a MAN, but for women it makes no sense, its just coming across that you are low value. in any interaction with a woman, whether its a 5 minute approach or a five year on and off spout, you always have to give a reason for your interest in a woman. if she doesnt feel like she has EARNED your attention, shes going to assume you're a piece of shit who would just stick it in anyone in laymans terms " desperate".
theres two ways to approach this. there is the RSD way of assuming total dominance, true core belief and going in like the clappers. however you cannot do this over text for goodness sake, you need to be face to face and get ready for alot of shit and shit tests, especially from the hotties, so she knows you are being congruent and arent just pretending to be cool
or there is perhaps the less risky way of just giving her opportunites as to why you are interested. for example i once pulled a girl in a club, took about 20 minutes probably, friend of a friend type thing, ran some good game. didnt see her again, it was a physical thing. met her almost a year later, when we were both more sober and had a long coversation which i actually enjoyed. i took her number and we dated for a while. if i had tried after the first interaction nothing would have happened, because she'd have thought i was like any other guy. but the fact that i only took her number once she qualified herself to me, that she assumed i had alot of value.
i hope this make sense. its not simple stuff and has taken a long time to work out. stop trying to hammer a square peg into a round circle. also whats with this whole asian thing? you mean chinese? are you american? bloody americans.
Hector ( who btw is half chinese)
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Maybe it can that you didn´t escalate right of the bat. After 2 years. Maybe she already looked at you as a friend.
Something simmilar happened to me this week. (it´s the girl no. 4)
www.rsdnation.com/node/152220
So never do this. Friend zone and suddenly you go like: SUPRISE, I HAVE A DICK.
Something simmilar happened to me this week. (it´s the girl no. 4)
www.rsdnation.com/node/152220
So never do this. Friend zone and suddenly you go like: SUPRISE, I HAVE A DICK.
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Maybe it can that you didn´t escalate right of the bat. After 2 years. Maybe she already looked at you as a friend.
Something simmilar happened to me this week. (it´s the girl no. 4)
www.rsdnation.com/node/152220
So never do this. Friend zone and suddenly you go like: SUPRISE, I HAVE A DICK.
Exactly bro... We both made fucking stupid ass mistakes. This girl is in 2 of my classes but all I can do is learn from this and move on. Continue life and just be comfortable around her and don't become a freak. And certainly don't react and make this such a big deal... Lol. Lesson LEARNED. Something simmilar happened to me this week. (it´s the girl no. 4)
www.rsdnation.com/node/152220
So never do this. Friend zone and suddenly you go like: SUPRISE, I HAVE A DICK.
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Mine mistake was quite fun and learned a lot from it.
Look at it positively. You learned something and you have a quite funny memory.
Now everytime i see her i have to laught at myself.
ChinaBoy
Look at it positively. You learned something and you have a quite funny memory.
Now everytime i see her i have to laught at myself.
ChinaBoy
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