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Relationship Girl Bringing back my Old Insecurities; Need some advice
I had this experience; relationships can be a spotlight on your insecurities. After all, when its easier to be carefree with a girl that you've just met in a club than a girl you've invested 6 months with.
With that in mind, view it as a learning experience. You are how you are, right now. Don't sweat it. Chilling out will fix 90% of your issues; the rest - be patient. You can't be perfect overnight - in fact, you can never be perfect. I think a lot of guys in the community envisage a day when they will be free from all negativity, all jealousy, all loneliness - and THEN they will be 'complete'. Well, no. Most naturals have these issues too...they just don't give a fuck about them.
You're going to grow over time. Be patient with yourself.
Practically: exercise, meditate, sleep well, and have fun with your boys.
With that in mind, view it as a learning experience. You are how you are, right now. Don't sweat it. Chilling out will fix 90% of your issues; the rest - be patient. You can't be perfect overnight - in fact, you can never be perfect. I think a lot of guys in the community envisage a day when they will be free from all negativity, all jealousy, all loneliness - and THEN they will be 'complete'. Well, no. Most naturals have these issues too...they just don't give a fuck about them.
You're going to grow over time. Be patient with yourself.
Practically: exercise, meditate, sleep well, and have fun with your boys.
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My Journal - 2007 til...
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You have no control of the future so it's best to just let go and enjoy the ride.
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Hey guys, just want to report back for others who are looking for advice regarding this.
The problem for me was I was getting too swept up in HER reality and throwing mine away. I got TOO invested and started getting afraid that if things didn't work out, I would have nothing to go back to in my own life. What saved me was keeping contact with MY friends, hobbies, goals while simultaneously expressing how I TRULY feel to this girl and getting her swept into MY reality.
Happy, healthy, sexually charged realtionship ftw!
The problem for me was I was getting too swept up in HER reality and throwing mine away. I got TOO invested and started getting afraid that if things didn't work out, I would have nothing to go back to in my own life. What saved me was keeping contact with MY friends, hobbies, goals while simultaneously expressing how I TRULY feel to this girl and getting her swept into MY reality.
Happy, healthy, sexually charged realtionship ftw!
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As long as you still identify with the body and mind, you are forever doomed to
its limitations and failings. The mind itself is energized by fear and desire; that is
what keeps the thinkingness going at all times no matter what. It's necessary to
let go of identifying with it. For that you must become willing to enter an unending
meditative state, which progressively breaks the identification with the 'self'. This
is the only way out of the rat-race.
-Mystica
its limitations and failings. The mind itself is energized by fear and desire; that is
what keeps the thinkingness going at all times no matter what. It's necessary to
let go of identifying with it. For that you must become willing to enter an unending
meditative state, which progressively breaks the identification with the 'self'. This
is the only way out of the rat-race.
-Mystica
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So simple, yet so paradoxically difficult.
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Euphoria777
Senior Member
Join Date: 06/07/2009 | Posts: 118
-validation seeking
-jealousy
-"loneliness" ?
It's turning into extreme oneitis, but it's just in my thought process right now. I'm not physically SHOWING it… yet.
My values as a man are all out of whack and I'm feeling the nasty clingyness in me. I don't know what to do. I like this girl, but I'm not being my regular self.