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December 9th, 2016
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Powerhouse

Powerhouse

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 2 nights ago there was a party for the campus coffee house at my fraternity. Most of the night is irrelevant. Here's the story of the last segment.

I see a hottie outside on her phone. I hear her calling for a cab. 
I say, "Hey! You need a ride?"
She doesn't really hear what I say, and keeps talking on the phone. I frolic about in front of her and play with my mullet.

She laughs. I'm in.
I tell her she's cute and introduce myself. We talk for a minute or 2 and I say, "Don't worry bout the cab I'll give you a ride home."
She's like "uhhh ok"
We start walking towards my place... "Where's your car?"
"At my house"
"Okay"
As we're walking her friends look over at her, she looks back. I pre-empt any friend bullshit by putting on a funny voice and saying "Go away creepy man...." 
We both laugh.
She tells her friends not to worry, to just take the cab she called.

We continue walking back to my place arm in arm, I ask her if she wants to come in and smoke. She says no.
She says she must really trust me, she wouldn't just get in the car with some guy she just met. We hold hands and lock fingers. 
She says she's drunk, not blacked out, but doing okay.
She says we have to stop at her place first, then go to one of her friends. 
We get to her place..."okay I have to get something out of my car then we'll go to my friends"

"Wait, I'm really thirsty. Let's go inside and grab a glass of water and we'll be right on our way."
"Um okay"

We go inside she gets me a glass of water. Fluff. 
I tell her I feel like I'm waiting for an interview, standing around in a foyer drinking a glass of water.
I tell her to give me a tour.

She opens her door. I push her in. 
Fade to black.

I get back to the party and chat up some of my boys. One of 'em asks me if I found a contingency plan since my mexican girl flaked. I told him I just completed the contingency.

"Nice bro! What's her name"
".....uhhhhh...."
"you forgot her name? fucking priceless! SOMEONE GET THIS MAN SOME SCOTCH"

Okay here's what I learned:

Before I wouldn't have said anything about the friends, probably just tried to leave faster instead of addressing them like a joke.
Before I would get really thrown off about shit like her not coming in to smoke with me. This would leave me in my head, stumbling, to where I'd miss the future chances.
I wouldn't invite myself in for a glass of water.
In short I wouldn't lead.
Lead and get laid.
I even made a background for my phone so I'm constantly reminded to lead.

LEAD MOTHERFUCKERS LEAD.
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Powerhouse

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 i wasn't coming from a faggot frame like, "hi i think you're cute, please validate my existence". If I would've walked up and said a bunch of shit like "oh man look at the paint on the walls and check out my dog etcetc" she would've just said, "oh nice meeting you! my cab is here" 

efficiency is the name of the game...
Why give her 1000 words when all she wants is a mouthful? shades
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Riffz

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Join Date: 09/27/2009 | Posts: 89

 Good stuff man, perfect demonstration of how straightforward this stuff can really be. No need to worry about shit like interest levels or complements when you're leading.
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Koolaid

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Haha wow this is epic. A mullet and you used the "go away creepy man" thing. 
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Peace N Love wrote:

Powerhouse wrote:
 2 nights ago there was a party for the campus coffee house at my fraternity. Most of the night is irrelevant. Here's the story of the last segment.

I see a hottie outside on her phone. I hear her calling for a cab. 
I say, "Hey! You need a ride?"
She doesn't really hear what I say, and keeps talking on the phone. I frolic about in front of her and play with my mullet.

She laughs. I'm in.
I tell her she's cute and introduce myself. We talk for a minute or 2 and I say, "Don't worry bout the cab I'll give you a ride home."
She's like "uhhh ok"
We start walking towards my place... "Where's your car?"
"At my house"
"Okay"
As we're walking her friends look over at her, she looks back. I pre-empt any friend bullshit by putting on a funny voice and saying "Go away creepy man...." 
We both laugh.
She tells her friends not to worry, to just take the cab she called.

We continue walking back to my place arm in arm, I ask her if she wants to come in and smoke. She says no.
She says she must really trust me, she wouldn't just get in the car with some guy she just met. We hold hands and lock fingers. 
She says she's drunk, not blacked out, but doing okay.
She says we have to stop at her place first, then go to one of her friends. 
We get to her place..."okay I have to get something out of my car then we'll go to my friends"

"Wait, I'm really thirsty. Let's go inside and grab a glass of water and we'll be right on our way."
"Um okay"

We go inside she gets me a glass of water. Fluff. 
I tell her I feel like I'm waiting for an interview, standing around in a foyer drinking a glass of water.
I tell her to give me a tour.

She opens her door. I push her in. 
Fade to black.

I get back to the party and chat up some of my boys. One of 'em asks me if I found a contingency plan since my mexican girl flaked. I told him I just completed the contingency.

"Nice bro! What's her name"
".....uhhhhh...."
"you forgot her name? fucking priceless! SOMEONE GET THIS MAN SOME SCOTCH"

Okay here's what I learned:

Before I wouldn't have said anything about the friends, probably just tried to leave faster instead of addressing them like a joke.
Before I would get really thrown off about shit like her not coming in to smoke with me. This would leave me in my head, stumbling, to where I'd miss the future chances.
I wouldn't invite myself in for a glass of water.
In short I wouldn't lead.
Lead and get laid.
I even made a background for my phone so I'm constantly reminded to lead.

LEAD MOTHERFUCKERS LEAD.
how didn't she lose interest after the compliment?
Don't trust the typical PUA bullshit on this one, most girls love compliments... when I was in orlando I opened nines and tens with compliment openers, although it does work more consistently with 6's and 7's.
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Peace N Love wrote:

how didn't she lose interest after the compliment?
Because he doesn't say it from a place of negativity.

ZoomGWTFLOL
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Powerhouse

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LOL I don't even remember if I heard it from RSD, i just blurted it out and it made me do the lulz. The mullet started out as laziness, now I actually have to use hair care products to maintain it. What I took from that little snippet is the whole proactive vs. reactive social strategy Tyler talks about. By not waiting for the objection to come from the friends, stating the objection myself and making it sound silly, I was able to neutralize a problem before it ever came up.
Koolaid wrote:
Haha wow this is epic. A mullet and you used the "go away creepy man" thing. 
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#7

sjoasja

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 Dude .. thanks for posting ! Interest developments.. something I too , need to do more .. lead lead lead. 
Just a question thou.. Did you just start sexing it up after you went in her room? Or still need to plow ? 
I always have the feeling , she'll give me hell before i'll get anywhere near her vajjeeyjeey and i will slooowly have to escalate.
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Powerhouse

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 Well I did the arm-in-arm thing as we walked to my car, fingerlocking while we talk driving to her house. She knew I wasn't just a "friendly guy". She basically opened the door to her room, I put my hand on her back to push her in while following her, push her on the bed and close the door. 
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sjoasja

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yea true .. She already knew whats up.. I guess it's still a false belief of my own, that a girl will freak out if i'm busting out the pistols haha.  
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Join Date: 07/14/2010 | Posts: 183

bump... I gotta remember this.. LEAD MOTHERFUCKERS LEAD.
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