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To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story
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Raeven~

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RSD Bootcamp London

February 5th - 7th 2010
Instructor: Ozzie

Alright guys, this is a repost at Ozzies request! You have issues with it take it up with him...

Fear
“Amber colored glasses”
It is in the human nature to be liked, because of this people will try to avoid situations that will make them look “bad”.
The “Amber colored glasses” is a metaphor and can be compared with to wearing “Pink colored glasses”. Only instead of being oblivious you will see threats everywhere, whatever you do will feel like you’re on TV. Your mind will tell you to run away and avoid the stress situation.
The major realization you can have is people actually don’t care. By putting yourself in stress situations and staying in them your mind will get used to it, causing for less fear and enabling yourself to be you.

The “fear” model
The below (simplified) model is how fear works. The 2 things feeding fear are a negative self image and having unrealistic expectations. The truth is that people don’t expect a brilliant conversation. For about 99% of the population actually having a stranger walk up to them and starting a conversation is already impressive enough.
The key is to cut the growth of our fears before we go into avoidance.



























Fighting fear
By putting yourself in uncomfortable situations and staying in those situations you will get used to it and build comfort.
The 2 ways to learn to deal with fear (as it is not possible to be completely destroyed):

Gather evidence through exposure
Challenge your fear
           o Am I 100% sure that …. ?
           o Is it 100% true that …. ?

Logically fear makes no sense, at least not the fears that are most common, being disliked and being afraid to be ridiculed. When placing these fears in perspective they become more manageable (comparing to logical fear, like drowning… slowly ).
Although fear will never go completely away or cannot be crushed completely it can become manageable. The key here is to control your fear and let if fuel your desire instead of being controlled by it.

Ozzie:
Many students tell me “Alright, I get what you are saying but I still don’t want to look like an idiot”. I understand what causes guys to tell me these things. They think people will judge them when they approach them. They think TV cameras are on and their social mistakes will be broadcasted all over the 6 o’clock news. They figure others pay close attention to what they do. Contrary to popular opinion social mistakes, even worst case scenarios, rarely lead to catastrophes. Irrational thinking creates the worst mental loops preventing guys from taking any action.

To give you a better picture of what happens to you I give you the example of the speed typists. An ace typist pays little or no attention to the movement of his/her fingers because it slows them down and leads to errors. An expert typist does a fast job because he/she focuses on typing entire words not letters.

A combination of self-consciousness and jitters decreases performance. You are more likely to make mistakes. So when you pay too much unnecessary attention to details in a conversation you slow the communication down. You become ineffective at it.



Exposure model


















Through expose you learn to manage fear. Every time you expose yourself to your fear you will learn that it is actually not that bad. Exposure learns you that you are in control by showing the consequences of your actions.

Opening

Friendly Game
To open anybody that you have no connection to (cold approaches) is an frightening thing to do for most people. Yet it is not all that bad as people have low expectations. By keeping the conversation going for about 2 minutes people will open up and overcome the initial shock they experience from having a “stranger” walk up to them and start talking.

THERE IS NO NEED TO IMPRESS!
Physical game

Principles:
1. Always assume attraction
2. Cut space
3. Do it quickly!

Physical game “moves”

1. The claw
2. Pick up the girl and walk away
3. Pick up the girl and spin around
4. High five
5. Hold hands
6. Dancing
7. Spin and pull (dance move where you spin the girl and then pull her in close to you
8. …

The key to remember is that you need to go physical as soon as possible! The longer you wait the weirder it gets and the more you will be looking for signs. Under one minute is recommended, best is to do it from the start. When starting to do this it will feel weird and awkward, this is initial resistance from yourself because you’re not used to it. Keep doing it, it will become natural and will feel more congruent, therefore people will start to respond differently than the first times you do it. Don’t give up .

“State”:

Your confidence should come from the challenge, never your performance. If you keep challenging yourself you will grow and gain confidence. If you attach confidence to your performance it will crumble the moment it looks like it is going badly.

Challenges:
1. Open the hottest girls ASAP
2. Try to get rejected by the hottest girl in the club
3. Open boy/girl making out
4. Open with embarrassing things

By challenging yourself other things will look easy and you will be more confident. (reference Leicester station, black girl). By being more confident you will be more charming and authentic.
Open with things you don’t want to talk about will make you realize that it is no big deal. This will also build congruency. Whatever you do don’t lie. Don’t mention things unless they are relevant. Do not impress.

What to do when you’re getting blown out to much..
When you get blown out to much you will start developing inner resistance which will result in more blow outs. If this is happening take a step back and do “friendly” sets until you get that confidence level up again where you can start doing “pick-up”.

Key notes


ONLY BY CHALLENGING YOURSELF WILL YOU GROW!

NEVER ASSUME A SET IS CLOSED. YOU NEVER KNOW WHERE IT CAN LEAD TO...

BE PERSISTANT. DON’T LET HER LEAVE UNTIL SHE TELLS YOU TO FUCK OFF OR THREATENS TO CALL THE BOUNCERS.

IF YOU DON’T PLAN YOU ARE PLANNING FAILURE.


Ozzie:
Fearlessness will make you proficient in social situations. Once you get rid of nervousness everything falls into place. You feel like you have no boundaries. You can do anything. Many students tell me on my live infield programs, “I don’t have the social skills”. But you do! No need to make a Tony Robbins type of performance and wow the room. Nobody expects that from you.
Besides, bear in mind fear stifles your natural ability to communicate. Excessive anxiety interferes with verbal skills, the very competencies you already have. In today’s world working any type of job proves ten times more complicated and challenging than starting an interaction with other fellow humans.
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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 nice post! love how you summary is put together :) good job :)
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Awesome models.. Remebering all the stupid shit I did to make my self uncomfortable and stuff I still do. 
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Hey guys,

Tx for the props. I guess this is why Ozzie wanted me to post it :)

It's true that he makes you do alot of stupid shit along the way but I kind of stopped thinking of it on saturday. The stupid shit is what made me feel good! With all the things you read and do, that weekend with Ozzie gave me the biggest realisation in my life that there is only one thing to do. Put yourself out there. Forget about everything else. It's kind of scary and cool at the same time. But it's a high you're unable to describe. Natural and relaxing, it sticks to you.
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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Thanks a lot for posting this in such details :).
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dude this is an awesome report, I'm going to save this to my computer
 
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2 Weeks in from the bootcamp and I can feel everything falling into place more and more. I know there is still a lifetime of learning ahead of me, but man, I'm fucking enjoying the path!
Fuckbuddies established and haven't spent a night alone since friday. The best thing is that a couple of months back this would have not fit into my reality. Coming to Dublin started a huge change, the bootcamp calibrated me and totally opened my mind.
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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LR: How can you take my breath away?

Hit some bars last night, opening, getting physical real quick. Good vibes all over the place! Charm deluxe baby :D

And then I spot her... HBBrazil, my ex flatmate... I go over and hug her. Start talking and the space between us nearly unexistant.

She tells me she just got off from work and is heading home after her pint is finished. Talk some more and I go with her for "Drinks and a movie". She wants to show her new place ;)
I keep her close, hold her hand, vibe alot with her.

5 Minutes after the movie starts I grab her chin, turn it to me and go for the kiss, turns into a makeout real easy ;). I break off and continue watching "Pan's Labyrinth", movie of choice for tonight xD. This goes on a couple of times in the first 40 minutes of the movie. Then her housemates barge in full force into the livingroom turning on all lights, bitches! I introduce myself and ignore them. She's crawling real close to me and we start making out for a long long time. Movie ends and I got her real horny, we makeout, she moving under me like a little worm. Tell her to take of my shirt and continue making out. Pierced nipples!
I tell her she's my first and she giggles. Later on she moans "How can you take my breath away like this?", we move to her room...

Fade to black...

Wake up in the morning basking in the sunlight with a hot Brazilian girl curled up next to me. I wake her up and we go at it again.

I get dressed, she shows me the door, basking in sunlight I hug her, slam her against the wall and makeout.

me: Thanks for the great night...
her: See you soon...

I'm walking home thinking "I'm the coolest motherfucker on the planet xD".
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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LR: omg omg omg

So I went out for food and took the Luas to HBDutchie's place. All cool, having a nice glass of wine leading the interaction and making out, her housemate comes home... Now this is the kind of girl that will dress up like a just to fuck with guys minds as she is the most fricking christian nonsense spouting girl imaginable. Basically no go at girlies house. I tell her to grab her coat and go to my place. Boom!

Few makeouts on the Luas and a couple of wall slams along the way we end up in my bed and stay there for a couple of hours ;).

Afterwards we meet up with a couple of friends and hit the bars in Dublin. I'm opening sets left and right and the most common question I got was "Why are you tired?". I chuckled at this question and always responded with "To much working out this weekend :)". Lol. Always kino, always assume attraction, get your drinks for free (how the fuck do I do this? Seriously, these girls are buying me drinks to keep me with them xD).

Now HBDutchie was doing her thing when HBPayPal comes tap on my shoulder and asks me to go rescue HBDutchie, she was caught in a group of old chodes xD. Happens alot to younger girls in Dublin, especially in bars.

I swoop in, put my hand on HBDutchie's hip and pull her close.

Me: Hey guys what's up?
ChodeBarber: Hi, do I know you?
me: Nah, but I know this girl and you guys look kind of cute...
ChodeBarber + ChodePrettyEyes: Huh?
me: Ooooh yeah, I should have warned you, I swing both ways!
ChodeBarber + ChodePrettyEyes: Really?
*HBDutchie bites my neck*
ChodeBarber: Would you do him? (point at friend)
me: Well, maybe if he was 20 years younger ;) he has cute eyes (Didn't even look at them)
*HBDutchie squeezes my ass*
ChodePrettyEyes: Aren't gay guys supposed to be all hung up about the way they look? (My shirt was wrinkled like hell, my collar fucked up and my hair a mess thanks to Dancefloor grinding with Dutchie. She almost fucked me on the spot )
me: Well yeah.
ChodePrettyEyes: So what happend to you?!
me: Didn't feel like ironing...
*HBDutchie is really enjoying this as I'm doing eveything with total confidence and BR /NR tonality*
ChodeBarber: Hey I'm a barber and you're hair is totally fucked up, how can you be gay
me: Guys, I swing both ways and it looks like this after sex...
*I pull HBDutchie in for a small makeout infront of them*
ChodeBarber: Are you guys having sex?
Me + HBDutchie: Yes
Chodebarber: boyfriend/girlfriend??
me + HBDutchie: Nope...
ChodeBarber: Then why do...
*HBDutchie interupts him*
HBDutchie: Because knows what the fuck he's doing in bed.

At this point their mouths fall open and I extract HBDutchi for a smoke :D. This is more or less of what was being said, funniest conversation in my life as I'm 100% straight and yet still tricked them easily xD.

We go back to the table to find it occupied with 2 cougars. Start talking and one of them asks if we're dating... HBDutchie responds with a casual "No just fucking" on which she is pulled a couple of steps away to talk with the cougar. I'm chatting up the second on as they come back and the other cougar wants to get my number (wth?). HBDutchie whispers in my ear that she asked if I was any good... They talked about what me and her did in the afternoon and it got her extremely horny (2 AM). I look into her eyes, makout , say my goodbyes and head off to my appartment.

xD Fun times ensured with this girl! We're fuckbuddies from tonight and she got turned on by my aproaches, the "rescue op", grinding and cougar talk xD. She just left after another good fuck and I'm out of condoms and out of energy. Damn, if only every weekend could be like this right now xD.
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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HBDutchie is now my fb and we've been at it sunday and monday aswell. I needed to take a step back to stop going into "cherish" mode or let it go to my head. In fact I know this success I got was not suspected and I should tread carefully :). Still, it shows that I got what it takes and eventhough I'm scratching the surface, I'm definatily down the right path! Now to keep going and go for same day make outs and pulls xD
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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More then a month since I looked at this thread! THe path is still strong and I'm amazed at the results and progress I'm still making. My field report thread has more actions. I should actually post the reports here as well but I'm not sure crossposting would be appreciated :). Well, and admin will just have to stop me xD
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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