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December 10th, 2016
Emjay's adventures of transformation: SuperChode to Alpha
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Emjay

Emjay

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Hey,

So after taking Alex' bootcamp last week its time for me to start journaling my adventures, victories and lessons as I know it will dramtically enhance my learning experience and enable me to continue to imrpove my game and life in general.

The past is not important anymore, I have learned from it and it serves as motivation to improve my life in many areas including relationships, fitness, fatherhood, career, finances,  and involvement in my community. I think I tend come down too hard on myself at times so I also need to acknowledge to myself that I have made massive changes and improvemenents to date and that has been brought about by a strong desire and committtment to change coupled with action and changing many of the little things I do every day to difuse old habits and instill new more constructive habits. I know I still have a lot of work to do in all areas, some moreso than others but they are all intertwined into getting my shit together and enabling me to be honest with myself and display consistant congruence, in my opinion a key component to good natural game.

Alex's directives to work on post bootcamp for me included: Being honest with myself and sharing that with others, adding physicality to an existing positive demenour, getting in shape, less Mr nice guy and internalising that confidance comes from devalidating both positive and negative limiting beliefs.

Other areas I know I need to work at include self-discipline to continue to build upon momentum and push myself out of my comfort zone on a regular basis, continue to work on changing my mindset from one of neediness to one of entitlement,  be myself and enjoy the moment as I can analyse things later and to celebrate and build upon victories no matter how small.

Ok so here is a rundown of week 1 post bootcamp.

Monday - Take it all in, take a stocktake of where I am at in general, where I want to be and creating a plan of action to bridge the gaps. I know for me this step is crucial "Vision without action is a daydream. Action without vision is a nightmare." - Japanese Proverb. I sign up for a weight training program recommended by Alex, purchase books on the recommended reading list and organise a couple of dates for  Wed and Sat.

Tuesday - There are a couple of girls I met seperately on coffee dates for the first time over the past 2 or so weeks but from our conversations it seems to me that they are wanting to form exlusive type relationships, that is something I am not into at present after just coming out of a long-term one. So I ring them up and tell them where I am at, what I want and that I want their friendship as a relationship will not work unlesss they are willing to accept me for who I am. Some key things here: They appreciated me being upfront and honest and not leading them on, I will be able to build good friendships with them, they both have large social circles I can tap into and importantly, it reinforced in my mind the benefits of clarity and being assertive, being honest with myself and doing what I want. I really enjoyed the feeling I had after those conversations and spent some time taking it in.

Wednesday - Second date with a girl i met a few weeks ago. Had fun at a pub with a golf driving range and enjoyed a nice kiss at end. Later I texted her with some teasing thrown in (never really done much of that before) and challenging her on being a nerdy good girl. The response was along the lines of she can be very naughty at times and that is for me to discover next time at dinner at her place.

A few key victories and learnings here: I had fun, lead most of the evening even with the little stuff and even though I didn't escalate it at the pub then I feel that I was congruent and comfortable and it showed. If I tried to escalate there I think I would have come across as too needy and blown it as with where I am still at I am not 100% comfortable gettin physical in public. In my mind at a nightclub with random encounters I can push myself harder and work on getting more physical more quickly. I overcame some barriers and did some playful teasing and the results were good. In my mind, my major victory for the night was when she basically said it is on for next time I remember not getting ahead of myself and thinking of the outcome rather (as I had in the past and even on BC) and creating outcome expactancy which would screw with my mind and show.  I vividly remember having a laugh and feeling the entitelement mentality yet I also knew that I still had a lot of work to do on the process that leads to the outcome.

Friday - Arranged with a BC attendee to catch up later that night and go out and have fun. Had an awesome day teasing a good female friend on the phone back and forth and getting great responses (wasn't sexual but it was fun and further proof in my mind that it certainly makes you stand out). When I got home I had some bad news which really screwed with my state. I made the decision that I had to go out but I needed to imrpove my state before I did so I did a few things from repartoire of things that imrpove my state and went out. Waiting at pub for a bit and can't get through onto my mate, so I know something serious has come up. So rather than give up for the night and go home I decide to go for a stroll solo and see what happens. I head down one of the main streets and it turns out the Fringe Festival is already started so there are quite a few people around enojoying the relaxed atmosphere. I decide to warm up by chatting to the stall owners selling their clothes, art, jewellery etc and it goes well, I get warm responses and I am feeling good. I then come accros one stall worker and we have a great chat with laughs etc and after 10 mins or so I wish her well and leave. A few minutes later a vision from BC came to my mind. It was Alex yelling "WTF, why did you eject? Get back in there!". So I turn right back and go chat with her some more and number close and get facebook. 

I rember telling myself that there was no reason to bail without at least number closing but I was pleased that I did show some self discipline and went back. It was gettnig late and at that point I was feeling great and decided to head back to my car via the dining precint where there were lots of tables on the footpath. I vividly recall that because I was feeling great, I was walking tall, and upright with confidance. What I noticed as I was walking was what I had observed happenning with people looking at Alex on BC. That was people would interupt what they were doing to look, often smile at me and even those walking would move out my way when they saw me coming. It was as if they could sense the energy of someone who at that moment had their shit together and just didn't give a fuck and they made way for him. I know this may sound a bit out there but for me it was a great experience. It didn't go to my head and make me think I am better than anyone else, it just reinforced to me that a self-assured man who is confidant is a natural leader and that is naturally attractive.

Key victories and learnings here: Shit can happen and plans change, deal with it but don't bail out and use it as an excuse and allow fear to take control. Even though I didn't push myself hard and approach heaps of sets, I was happy with the process I followed and I had a great time. I gained further experience of the benefits of warming up and getting in state, and I caught myself taking the easy way out and ejecting for no reason so I am glad I went back. A key learning was to experience first hand the energy or "presence" I felt and the effect it had on others. I have experienced it sporadically over the past few weeks but tonight it was an "ahah" moment where it really sank in. It gave me further motivation to get my shit together so I can feel like that most of the time and show total congruence.

Saturday - Coffee date with a chick I met online. A little akward at times with not much chemistry but she is really interesting and we will probably stay in touch as friends.

Sat night and Sunday - With my daughter so enjoying being a dad.

Sunday night - Arrange dinner date with chick I went out with this Wed. Arrange a 1st coffee date later in the week with another chick I met online a few weeks back.

SUMMARY

Some great experiences, several small but important victories that are building momentum and helping to reinforce learning experiences from BC. I realise that with where my life is at right now, I need to find a balance between infield practice, following up on all opportunties but there also needs to be a big focus on getting my shit together in other areas of my life so that my game naturally imrpoves. For me balance is the key to sustainable growth. Good times have only just begun! teeth

Emjay
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Rundown of week 2 post BC

Tuesday - Where I volunteer is a good mix of young and old, male and female. Over the past few months I have noticed that as I have become more self-confidant and able to just be myself, the natural leader in me has started to come out. What I have noticed post BC is that it has gone to a new level and people are noticing. I am having fun, being sociable, funny, teasing the girls and at the same time people are noticing and I am just being myself, it is awesome! It's further reinforcement to me of the link between an alpha male, a natural leader and a naturally attractive man.

Wednesday - Girl I had a date with last week asked me over for dinner. A good learning opportunity here as I haven't done this with a new chick in over 8 years. I remember making the decision to have fun, be myself, have no expectations of her but only of myself and the main one was to at some point take control, escalate and get physical.... an area that I need to push myself in. I also knew that I was going to be exposed to shit tests and possible resistance so it would be a good opportunity to see how I deal with it.

So shit test no 1. The guard dogs. She warns me her 2 dogs are going to be screening me when I get there.... no problem, I love dogs myself and I look forward to seeing their reaction and as I believed, they fuckn loved me! haha NOTE: Major learning!! : The dogs loved me because I was so sure in my mind that they would and it showed in my behaviour and actions. This to me is a key factor of the entitlement mentality.... I just have to transfer my ability with animals over to females. Hmmm that reads very wrong but it makes sense in my head!

Have a nice dinner, kick back on the couch and I remember feeling really great and just enjoying the moment. I challenge her on a few things then ask her to show me her books in her study and after a while end up looking at some books in her room on her bed. At the time I remember just going with the flow, having fun and not trying to over-analyse anything. We have a great chat for quite a while and I remember engaging in push and pull that even led a playful pillow fight! Now in hindsight I am aware that there were many signals here and opportunities for me to escalate that at the time I either didn't see or didn't go with. I know that it wasn't out of fear or hesitation, I think it was that I was having so much fun and being in the moment that I was just enjoying myself and getting to know here better and I wasn't even thinking about anything sexual. So after a while I go get a drink and we are back in the kitchen and it hits me, I need to do something to escalate, she is not going to do it but wants it, and I need to focus on pushing myself otherwise I will just chode out and go home as it was gettin very late. So I just go over to her grab her by the waist say "I want to tell you a secret..... oh fuck it" and go for the kiss. It was what she was waiting for and she was into it.

Ok next part we go to the couch and what is this..... 2 dogs guarding her.... I remember thinking to myself... "cockblocked by dogs.... wtf? this wasn't in any rsd articles I read!" At this point she gets logical and treats it as an experiment. Obviously I know I need to do something and I remember Alex's words: "Change her mood, not her mind" so I start chatting about her favourite movies and music and asking how they make her feel etc and it works and heavy makeout is back on. Next shit test is she busts my balls about a necklace I am wearing but I am left stunned and lost for words. Usually I can handle ball busting with witt and at the very least laugh it off but I am like a stunned mullet and I know I am losing it... I cannot remember what I did but I continued kissing but focusing on the next and things kept progressing again until I reached the point where she was clear, that's how far it was going to go as she had to be up in 4 hours. It is quite possible that my feelings associated with not handling that shit test as well as I would have expected showed and she felt it leading to the end of the road but again it was good learning! At that time I was happy, had an awesome evening and decided to head off and internalise the victories and lessons as I knew there would be another opportunity to take things to another level later on if I wanted it.

Key learning: Further reinforcemnet that being true to myself and having fun shows even though I had so much fun that I missed some obvious signals. I was exposed to new shit tests and learned better ways to handle them. I also know that if I acted upon the earlier signals then I know things would have escalated further but I was happy that I did make the move to escalate and it was reciprocated immediately. A great night with key victories and lessons that have followed on from momentum gained by previous events. Things are certainly improving significantly in many areas. teeth

Thursday - A situation that is directly related to my inner game is I am dealing with a messy seperation / divorce and have been a real chode about it in the past. After BC I have grabbed the bull by its horns and stepping up and dealing with it with much more assertveness and it feels fucking great! It is a major event in my life right now that needs to be sorted as it is one of the main reasons why I have been incongruent and/or in poor state from time to time. On the plus side I am now experiencing the light at the end of the tunnel and I am now free to pursue and enjoy the company of women everywhere! teeth

Friday - Coffee date with a chick I met online. She is really nice, great personality and we have a great chat and build a pretty solid connection over an hour or so. Both of us not looking for relationships so I will have to work on this over the next week and she if she is down for a fuckbuddy or just friends. Naturally I will have a think about what I want, make a decision then take action. thumbs up

Friday night - Out on the town with Maka and Mr Rip Alex's Adelaide BC crew. Fringe festival opening night. Awesome night, city was packed with thousands of party goers.... will post a wrap-up from my perspective later.... I gotta date.

Fuck life is good! teeth

Emjay
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Week 2 Post BC Cont - FR Fringe Festival Opening Night

Friday night - Fringe festival opening night. About 80,000 gather for a parade then some head down to the east end were roads are closed off and there are various concerts etc. Good atmosphere and vibe, thousands of people out of all ages and types.

Meet up with Maka and Mr Rip and have a quick chat, our first outing together post BC. We walk down to the east end, the place has a good vibe and we are feeling pretty good. Get down to where the concert is and i notice a lot of youngsters around dressed up to look older. I try to get in state but after 15 or so mins I notice that I am seriously spun out by the number of youngsters around. confused We decide to head to the nearest club which is at capacity with a short que. After a few mins I notice two very attractive females a couple of metres away and observe them looking our way and talking about us and I make solid eye contact with one and smile. We are then let into the club and they are stopped as it is at capacity. I tell Maka as we head upstairs that we gotta talk to those two tonight when they get in. So we head upstairs and each go our seperate ways and open up sets to warm up. I walk around a bit and run into a mate, have a quick chat then grab a wedge of lime and rub it into my eyes to get into a better state, it fuckn works!! haha. I head out to the balcony and am very pleased to see that Maka and Mr Rip have opened the 2 girls from the line and have sat them down at a table.

I walk right past and keep moving on and get a drink and make some random banter with people. A few mins later I go out to the balcony, Mr Rip and Maka instantly yell out and call me over to the table. I sit down and am introduced to the girls. At this point I remember observing that the table had a really good vibe, and everything from the way Mr Rip and Maka were sitting, talking and the way they introduced it was cool, calm and collected. It seemed things naturally just flowed and the chicks obviously felt quite comfortable. At this point I remember not analysing things too much but I was conscious of the rule of whoever opens the set owns the set so in my mindset I was coming from the angle of a friendly outgoing guy and knew that all 3 of us together would be giving each other social proof. We had a few experiences of winging each other on BC but are all keen to get more of an idea on the protocols and main aspects of winging. Have found an article on the forums but definitely wanting to learn more about the art of winging! Obviously it will also come with in field experience.

After a bit of small talk with one girl she informs me she has a boyfriend. I don't know if Maka had already established that because he had noticed some talent nearby and went to open. At this point I notice I made the decision that I will stay in set as Mr Rip is still chatting with his girl and the one I am talking with is the one I had good eye contact with in the line. I decide that at the very least this girl could become a friend and no doubt would have a large social circle of attractive ladies that I could tap into. After ending a long-term relationship I am all for expanding my social circle as well as dating chicks.

Things are going well, there is a good vibe, I am getting to know her better with some standard conversation starters which are received well, but I also throw in some really random shit which she likes and responds well. Here comes my first test. AMOG enters and I notice that this will be my first real experience of this sort and I feal a little fear but it is short lived and replaced by enthusiasm that I am really going to learn something here about how I deal with it. Turns out she knows him and receives him warmly and he immediately moves in between us and proceeds to chat. At this point I smiled at him and he introduced himself and at the same time I remained cool calm and collected. After a quick chat he leaves so I continue building a solid connection with the girl. It was a good experience for me because before BC I am confidant that I would have choded out and thought I couldn't compete and it would have showed, well not anymore!

The two girls wanted to go dance and asked me to go. I didn't want to as dancing aint my thing and told them that so they went off to dance. I had this feeling like I knew they would be back after and again I think it showed. Maka was in a set of his own and Mr Rip went to get a drink leaving me at the table by myself and I just sat back taking in the sights with a smile on my face. In about 30 seconds 3 ladies approached the table and asked if they could join me. To me this reinforced the notion of social proof as I think they may have observed us at the table having a good time before. Mr Rip returns and engages the ladies. A few minutes later and the two girls return from dancing and are a little taken aback to see 3 new chicks at the table. I calmly get 2 new chairs and bring them around to sit with me and resume our converstation as if nothing happened. Things were going well and at this point got the number of both girls ( as friends ).  At this point the table consited now of two groups, the other 3 chicks and some guys trying to pick them up ( a few drunk tools ) and our group

Next re-enters AMOG from before and he wants the chick I am with to go dance. He goes off to dance and a little later both chicks go to have a dance. Again I recall feeling great and was confidant they would come back and it showed. After 5 or 10 mins, the girls returned. Then whilst Mr Rip was elsewhere one of the tools started engaging with the girl Mr Rip was into. Obviously this required action but also this dude had a real negative vibe about him so I was concerned for the vibe of our group. Maka had come back so I asked him to move around and engage with Mr Rip's girl to blow the guy out and it worked. So the night continued and good vibing was happening. I also had my camera so got some good shots with the girls with all of us which boosted spirits further.

From my perspective I was building a great connection and there certainly was chemistry between us. I was escalating but very gently. At one point I was feeling so relaxed and confidant that I just pointed to the two chicks like a conductor and said "kiss" and they did! Not a full make-out but it was friggn awesome! haha teeth

The girls wanted to go check out the festival so we decided to say our goodbyes, again there was definitely chemistry in the hug and kiss goodbye between us. I was going to follow her up for a day 2 and work on seeing where things can go.... but I am willing to take a more long-term approach with this girl, she will no doubt have an awesome social circle of single girls I can tap into and she will be good social proof.

At this point Maka, myself and Mr Rip regroup and discuss Mr Rip's situation which I will let him write about in his own time, suffice to say it involved an invitation to pull with a different chick but she was a little dodgy and we determined there was a good chance he will end up either drugged, his house ransacked and / or repurcussions from bikers......  what chu talking about interesting options! haha

We headed back to Mr Rip's place and debriefed for a couple of hours, sharing stories, ideas and reinforcing learnings from both the night and BC. We also discussed actions going forward and more ideas about winging each other. Learning is so much more beneficial when there are others sharing their experiences using the RSD knowledge!

In summary, a great night out, I had so much fun and gained experience in dealing with some new tests and I think I handled it pretty well. I also gained more confidance in engaging in deep eye contact with chicks I am interested in. Before BC I honestly did not have the balls to consider myself worthy of talking with chicks like this and now my reality is much more imrpoved that I am very comfortable looking them deep in the eye and far better at thinking that I am worthy and entiteled to their attraction.  I also experienced having chicks approach me which reinforced the idea of social proof in my mind but also that it is fine to sit by yourself as long as you are comfortable with that because it will show. The momentum keeps building...... good times ahead!

Update - Called chick and have set up a coffee date for the weekend so will see how that goes. My angle is to try and build frienship and determine for myself accuracy of boyfriend. As stated previously she will have a big circle of single girls I can tap into so I feel its worth playing this smart.

Emjay
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Week 2 Post BC Cont - Almost LR!

Saturday - After last night out at the Fringe festival opening I am feeling exhausted and feel like chilling tonight. Hook up with chick I had dinner with last week and went around to her place to chill out and watch dvd's. She had a busy day and was noticably very tired. Again I recall having no expectations but did want to build on the momentum of our last meeting and get physical.

Enjoyed relaxing, I remember feeling great and we shared many laughs. After a while I notice she is falling asleep. I cannot recall exactly what happened but I think I did slightly tease her and she responded by kissing. Anyway makeout commenced, she perks up and its on. Bedroom time and good times are had, fooling around for quite a while. We rest and have a pretty awesome chat, very open, honest about what we both want, like, enjoy etc. It was friggin awesome to have so much clarity but it was also extremely eye opening!!! This chick was very liberal and very open to almost anything. We also discussed that with where we both are at, it is definitely not a relationship and likely to be friends with benefits. wink She also told me she wants me to take total control! what chu talking about For me and where I have been this was a surprise but I think this is going to be the best thing to happen to me so far since bootcamp, an opportunity to put positive dominance into practice on a regular basis. To me it is like I have a blank canvas each time to do what I want and both have fun in the process..... sweet!! teeth She wants me to take control like right now so I do and more good times are had..... angel

Key learnings:
- Good things came from me taking action, could have easily chilled by myself but created a situation whereby things flowed
- I appreciate being upfront, open and honest as I think thats when I am most congruent and obviously it shows. We talked about so much dirty shit like we were talking about business and it really made things very comfortable
- Girls want a guy to lead and take control. I know this but my reality from my own past has been distorted so it is gradually being corrected. Having access to a chick on these kind of terms I think is the best thing that can happen to me
- I need to step up and take charge and control of the situation otherwise I will waste this opportunity to learn and grow.

The changes I have noticed and the experiences I am having after BC are friggin awesome!!! Momentum continues to build......

Emjay
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Week 3 Post BC

Not too much action here mid week. Working long hours and have been focusing on getting other areas of my life in order which should certainly imrpove my game further.

Friday FR - Fringe continues. New lessons and victories. AMOGS and Cockblocking

Arranged to hook up with Mr Rip to head out for Friday night and see what adventures are to be had. Earlier in the evening I got a text from the chick I met last friday night  saying that her and her friend were heading into town. Also my friend with benefits texted asking what I am to tonight as she was having a night in. I notice since bootcamp that I often have a number of options to consider which I think is awesome and both is a result of and a contributor to an abundance mentality.

Meet Mr Rip and head down to the fringe to check it out. Huge line up already so bugger that, we head to the same club as last week. Turns out chick and her friend from last friday are there so we engage, I spot a cool table open up on the balcony and seize it so we are sitting down and having a good time talking shit and getting to know them better. They are having a girls night out tonight and plan on having quite a few drinks. After a while girls go to get themselves drinks and Mr Rip and I chat about how it is going. From his perspective he is not feeling it with his girl but gives me very good feedback. The girl I am with has a boyfriend but Mr Rip is telling me that she is really into me and her friend is giving her approval too. I know things are going well, I am feeling great, random shit is just flowing from my mouth and they are really enjoying themselves, they also give me great feedback from last week and the text messages I sent them. It is great to get the perspective of a third person who is socially aware of what is going on because although I could sense things were flowing well, I didn't really realise her friend was giving signals of her approval. Plus Mr Rip was also giving me encouragement to get more physical, an area I am having to work hard on, especially as I already have the mindset that this chick is gonna be an awesome friend and her social circle will certainly be worth tapping into. So I know at some point tonight I am going to be challenged on how physical I can get whilst still being true to myself, being congruent and not saboutaging my game. I know I am going to learn valuable lessons tonight, I can feel it!! wink The plan is for me to escalate but slowly. I think where I am at right now with this chick that is the best way forward with me. I know other nights I gotta go out, push myself and just get physical right away, blow out many times but be wiser and have a more widened reality from the experience. Maka from BC makes a brief appearance with a mate and quickly disappears to engage a set.

Things are going well, we decide to bounce and change venues, something we didnt do last week so decided to implement. We lead them to another venue and bingo another awesome table opens up, so I grab a nice secluded booth.... I am noticing that since bootcamp I am so much more aware of shit going on around me and opportunities present themselves all the time, it is just up to me to seize them.... I know I am not seizing all of them but I am certainly taking advantage of a lot more of them!

The girls are nice and tipsy at this point and very playful, we are having a great time, playing air hockey with ice cubes which turns into an ice cube fight and I lob some down their tops. Mr Rip wants to open other sets so he bounces back and forth leaving me to engage with our two friends. Things are certainly getting more playful and sexual tension is rising. I am challenging them on being good girls and they both say they can be naughty. Next her friend observes that the girl I am with is very sexual tonight. I take that as my cue to instigate some fun and continue from last week. I remember last week my chick's friend told me my chick had never allowed her to kiss her on the lips and that night I had managed to get them to kiss on the cheek and got a photo. So I bring out the camera and get some great photos. I then order them to kiss on the lips and they do! thumbs up Photo! The girls enjoy it..... They then take turns to lick each other's face and again I get photos...... more photos of nice and sexy poses.... wink I say to them that is hot and I am gettin excited. The girls are sitting next to each other opposite me and the one I like says "really, lemme see" and goes to peek under the table what chu talking about. At this point I just blurt out something along the lines of "hey c'mon now" and she goes back up with a sheepish look. I didn't think much of it at the time but looking back I think I missed a good opportunity. I didn't think of my response, it just came and I know it came from the view point of playing hard to get in a playful manner.... but I think what that situation called for was some sort of challenge or invitation because I could tell she was excited. I think she took it as being told off and things at this point may have reverted a step backwards to the friends zone. One thing I did notice as did Mr Rip, was that her friend's approval of me was really growing strongly and we were also building a great connection. When the girls were getting drinks we had another chat about the situation and he again reiterated his connection with his chick was limited and he was opening other sets. He also told me they are really into me and to keep escalating. Whilst they are gone we arrange ourselves on opposite sides so the girls have to sit with either of us so I can then get a little more physical and see what happens.

Things going well, there is some hand holding, touching legs, kisses on cheeks, occassionally on neck and at the same time fun times and lots of laughter.... I cant remember what happened but after a while when Mr Rip was in another set, my chick jumps back over to be next to her girlfriend. Things still seem great and I am getting more pics and we are having fun and I know nothing bad happened so I don't over-analyse it. No real tests from other dudes, just a few guys chatting to the girls whilst at the bar. I am pretty relaxed with that stuff yet am vigilent and watching for serious threats that require action. We decide to bounce to another venue to spike the energy abit.

Whist walking to the next venue I need to move my car soon as the car park closes at 1.30am. At this point I arrange to take the girls home to one of their places as they are gonna go home together ( I don't drink so always drive. Only catch is I only have a two seater so the girls were going to have to sit on each other's laps which they were cool with....wink ) Sometimes this may work for me, others against me, I will have to see how it goes. At the next venue the girls continue to get drunk and dance whilst Mr Rip keeps an eye on things whilst I go park my car in a 24hr car park. When I come back we continue to have a good time, the connection is solid but I have not escalated any further. I didn't think about it at the time, but looking back I think in my head I was at a crossroads... do I go for broke, try and escalate and risk the chance of losing the friendship or do I continue doing what I am doing, building upon the great connection I am forming, have fun and see what victories and lessons I have. Obviously if successfull the former will give me experiences like nothing I have had before and I will have some awesome new reference points but I think subconsiously I choose the latter, i recognise it is the safer option, but I also recognise that where I am right now it offers me the highest possiblity of displaying consistant congruence, therefore my inner game is pretty tight. In time my physical escalation will significantly improve as I have more experiences with my friend with benefits from my last post, but I digress....

We bounce back to the original venue and this is where for me things get real interesting. Mr Rip has gone to engage another set.  The atmosphere of the clubs has changed, its just after 2 am and there are some hot girls and alot of guys, quite a few of them appearing to be AMOGS. I get a feel there is alot of testosterone in the air, there a few agitated guys starting a little bit of fisticuffs and others prowling in groups hungry for some pussy. I am very aware that this is where I am going to be tested and it is possible that I am going to be tested by both chodes and AMOGS trying to steal the girls from me and I go home wondering wtf! But the important thing here is I know it is a possiblity but I decide I am not going to let it become the reality. I am going to have to have good game, deal with shit and basically display alpha male tendancies to deal with the shit that will come. I know that I will come out of this much wiser but I will take the girls home tonight.

So after a few mins the girls are dancing and I am watching closeby just chilling and enjoying my own company as I prefer not to dance as I don't enjoy it. A guy enters and engages with my chick's friend and she seems interested in him. I just go over give her a big hug and nice kiss on the cheek and continue walking through and eventually return to my spot. At the time I didn't think about it, I just did it but I think it was from the point of view just to let him know she had a friend around keeping an eye on things. I think I was in the process of determining whether he could be a friend or foe and either help my game or hinder it. Point to note at this point I did not have any specific outcome in mind other than I was going to have fun, deal with shit, see what happens but make sure I take those two girls back to their place together.

Mr Rip returns but gets a phone call from Maka so goes to hook up with him. Me the 2 girls and the new guy sit at a table and I am talking with my chick and he is talking with her friend. My chick seems happy that her friend has met this guy... I think to myself "hmmm she is giving her approval to her friend..... if he has game he could be going home with her tonight...." This could change things. I know that the night has taken a turn and a new challenge for me has presented. The girls go to get a drink so I use this as an opporuntity to chat with this dude, see what his plans are and generally get a feel for his vibe and whether he could help me or hinder me in escalating things to another level with the girls.

Turns out he is from overseas, a backpaker touring the country, he is in town for a month, staying in a caravan park, his mates have moved on to another pub and he has stayed behind so its obvious he is out to pull. So I recognise him as someone who has game and converse with him as a fun sociable guy but still trying to suss him out further. My chick's friend returns minus my chick and she doesnt know where she is. I don't panic but I know I need to act because she will have guys all over her as she is easily one of the hottest in the club. She is at the bar talking with a dude and he has just bought her a drink. I am cool with that, in fact I even suggested that when the girls asked me to buy them drinks and I said no and if they want drinks go get guys to buy em for them. I know that invites risk but I reckon I can deal with it. Anyway, I go up to my chick stand next to her, the guy is cool and doesn't think anything of buying her a drink and doesn't expect anything of her so I lead her away back to the table.

There is a minor misunderstanding between the two chicks, they are both drunk and there are some emotional moments but it is quickly sorted, however I do notice a few things. The sexual tension between myself and my chick has eased back a fair bit. I know I was maintaining physicality, hand holding, hugs, kisses and I introduced some palm reading which she really enjoyed, however I think the brief tension with her friend was a problem as well as I now realised that I no longer had her friends approval for her to be physical as she was preoccupied with kissing this new guy. I realised this is going to be a problem as she started becoming logical and talking about how much she loves her boyfriend, she would love me to meet him, we are going to be great friends and even that she had her period what chu talking about hmmmm that was a mega-shit test all rolled into one that I had never experienced before and I gotta admit kinda threw me abit. I tried to change her mood not her mind and it was working abit but I was losing it.... I think I was overwhelmed by the shit test and I was pretty fatigued as it was 3 am and I felt a little foggy in the head. Looking back I think this is where I should have tried something like challenging her on whether she likes to take risks ( I know she is an adrenaline junkie ) and try and escalate through kissing the neck. What I actually do is the opposite and ask her if she is a loyal friend, of course to which she responds that she is. I realise that this worked against me and without thinking to much into it, think it was my subconcious trying to bring me back to the comfort zone of just being friends. Anyway the club is about to close so the girls go for one last dance. My chick's friend and her man are getting physical and my chick gets up on the stage dancing with a few other girls. I relax, standing nearby watching just taking it all in. What i do notice is that my chick has impressed the girls and they are signalling to me that she is awesome. This is the first time I have ever had this experience and realise that this is social proof in action. Brilliant stuff! wink

The club closes, and the girls are pretty drunk. I lead my chick out with her friend and her guy in toe still needing more time to determine how I am going to handle this. I say lets get a bite to eat so we go to the convienience store, get food and head to a quite alley to eat. Its here that I determine this guy is a threat, my chick's friend digs him and is likely to want to take him home. My chick is gonna go home with her no matter what so if I dont cockblock him and blow him out then my night ends pretty soon. Another thing that bothers me is he said to me "you understand me right" when he hadn't talked to me for a few minutes. So I took that as trying to get my approval that he wants to pull her tonight. As we walk towards my car park I say to the girls I am going to drive you both home and for my chick's friend to get his number and they can hook up another day. I could tell she was kinda torn between falling for him and respecting my wishes as I know I was cool and calm but firm in my delivery. We got to the car park and the dude was visably irritated and at this point he started getting desperate putting pressure on the girl and trying to tool both myself and my chick for being like her father and sister. The girl asked for 5 minutes so I respected that and chatted with my chick whilst keeping an eye on the situation. During this time the dude was getting desperate and was tooling me more. This crossed the line and I called him on his shit, told him in no uncertain terms that he wasn't going to get what he wants and I am taking the girls home. I am about 193 cm tall (6ft 3in) and 115kg (about 250 pounds) and have a pretty awesome "crazy guy that is gonna fuck you up look" that I can turn on when needed and it has always difused any situation I have faced in the past. He realised he was beat and retreated sulkingly off to no doubt try his luck elsewhere.

We head to the car where my chicks friend bursts into tears, as she was creeped out by him and thanks me for being there to look after her. Meanwhile my chick vomits and lies down on the ground..... hmm things are getting messy here! confused So I send her friend on a mission to get water and when she returns she is very pleased with herself. My chick is recovering and in the meantime I am with her friend and giving her a brief rundown on how I had to step in when I saw her guy become desperate and creepy. So the girls have recovered a little and we head off to their house. We have a great time in the car with lots of laughs, crazy banter and the like but I think this is where in my head I reach a conclusion that nothing further is going to happen because they are way too drunk  and her friend shares the house with her brother. I just want to get them home safely and I was satisfied that I handled some new challenges and fulfilled my decision to take both girls home. I have just one more little thing to practice when I get to their house and that is inviting myself in rather than just dropping them off. So I calmy invite myself in to use the bathroom and I am in. My chick heads straight to bed so I wish her goodnight with a big kiss and hug and do the same with her friend after the bathroom. I headed off knowing that I had just experienced some valuable victories and lessons and my momentum takes another healthy step forward. thumbs up

The next day both chicks text thanking me for a great night and that we will catch up soon. I realise that I have probably been placed in the friends box but I know they think I am an awesome guy and I think that will manifest itself and allow many more opportunities in the future.... its just up to me to take advantage of them. Carpe Diem.

SUMMARY

There were some things I think I did really well tonight and some things where I could definitely improve.

- I gained further reinforcement that when I am in state and being congruent, I am a fun and sociable guy and chicks can have a great night out in my company.
- I created sexual chemistry and was able to get the chicks to kiss, lick each others faces and be fairly sexual. I am becoming more comfortable with this now. Taking photos works well for me. Plus they go on facebook adding further social proof.
- I was able to take my physicality to a new level and push some of my own comfort zones but I know I need to do alot more in this area as right now I know that I am not an overly physical guy. I am improving but this will take time. I have to push myself, have some more experiences and create new reference points. The sticking point here is in my mind these two could be great friends, great social proof and also introduce me to many more single girls, the more strategic option. The chick I like having a boyfriend also is playing on my mind a little. So I know I played it safe with these two but I do believe that the long term strategic intent was much stronger than any fear of losing their friendship by over escalating although I acknoweldge that fear was there.
- Kept spiking the emotions by bouncing to different venues
- Experienced first hand how the friend's approval work's and needs to not only be maintained but needs to be taken advantage of as it can disappear quickly.
- I know that when I am in state I can pretty much get away with anything especially when it is coming from my own self-amusement. I have to associate that with being physical and if I over escalate just be myself and back it off a bit to create another opportunity later.
- I got further experience at observing AMOG behaviour and my first experience at blowing out a dude who was interfering with my plans.
- I did not have my "club emjay" setup yet so therefore missed an opportunity to extract to my house. I am currently working on this and know that it will be a boost to my game as it gives me more options and greater congruence.
- Made a decision to take the girls home together and followed through with it and dealing with the challenges at the end of the night calmy but assertively.
- Further learned that you really have to take advantage and seize moments as they arise because you never know what will happen and how the night can end up.

I learned so much about myself and my game on this night plus I had a fantastic night with two pretty awesome girls. There is no-way I would have thought this was possible before bootcamp. Things are steadily improving for me..... who knows where this is going to go but I am gonna have fun finding out. Until then its more victories and lessons.... good times! teeth

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Week 4 Post BC

A minor observation this morning and a small victory albeit a very important one. On the way to work this morning I am in pretty heavy traffic and notice a really nice looking girl (HB 8.5) about 18-22 years in a car with who I assume was her mother. I am doing my thing enjoying my music etc and I catch her in the corner of my eye. Her lane has stopped and as I slowly drive past I make contact with her and in my mind send her some vibes saying " I wanna fuck you good and proper! ". A minute or two later my lane comes to a standstill and her lane gains momentum, as her mother drives past the girl looks at me all excited and is waving excitedly at me! haha teeth I can only laugh to myself and assume that she must have picked up something in my eye contact cause I was looking like shit in some daggy work clothes, with at least 4 day growth (Currently work on construction sites) and I have never experienced a girl wave at me from a car before ( I know I had never seen her before ). I make a decision to try and quickly get her number if I happen to pass her again but unfortuately it was to no avail despite my best efforts to weave in and out of traffic ninja style they were long gone.....

Oh well it was a new experience for me and now if I am stuck in traffic with a chick next to me, why not wind down the window and try my statement / question opener with a quick number close.... can only lead to further victories and lessons my friends!
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Good stuff man, I didn't know about that AMOG but looks like you unblocked the cockblockerteeth..
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Yeah I learned a fair bit that night and there were many new tests so its all good. My initial impressions were that he was an AMOG as he was pretty smooth, sure of himself and got physical really quickly and it was working. His french accent had her all smitten I am sure! But when he started getting desperate and tooling me that is where he fucked up. He would have been far better served trying to befriend me and gain my approval rather than trying to tool me and trying to change the chick's mind not her mood.

I saw first hand how getting physical quickly can work especially when the club is about to close. I also appreciate how if you fuck about and hesitate to seize the opportunities that either present or you create then you run the risk of an AMOG stealing your thunder.

"Everyone admires the bold; no one honours the timid." - Robert Greene, 48 Laws of Power. I am working on internalising this as I see it in action everyday.

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Time for me to come back and contribute more to the forums and further my education. Although I have been away from the forums for many months I have been working away at doing what I need to do to become the man I want to be.

Since my last post in March 2010

I have been through a pretty lengthy and messy divorce and only last week emerged out of it with my house, my balls intact and my sanity and now I have a new found sense of freedom. I certainly don't dwell on it but I have to acknowledge that it has fucked with my state from time to time and I have used it as an excuse not to push my game to the next level. That being said though, if I had not done bootcamp I believe I would have been out on my arse with nothing because I would not have had the guts, skills or knowledge to stand up for myself and succesfully deal with the shit that my ex and her army of femonasties had in store for me.

What I chose to focus on during this period was continuing my transformation towards becoming a natural leader and also improving my social skills, and the results from my perspective have been fuckin amazing. In both my work and volunteering roles I have become a leader that people listen to, respect and follow and it certainly is empowering and has boosted my confidence. Many doors and opportunities have opened for me in these areas following my bootcamp.

Socially things have dramatically improved as well. I have a great social circle that is expanding each week I go out and now feel pretty comfortable with being a socially cool guy that people enjoy being around and introducing to others. 2 of the chicks I met out in the field in my earlier posts are now my best friends and we regularly go out, party and see where the night takes us....

Basically I have made massive inroads into becoming the man I want to become and have built a pretty solid foundation in many areas but still have some areas that I now need to focus on an develop further.

Things that are going well

Freedom of expression. Since BC with Alex I now feel so free to express my true self. Before BC i was pretty reserved and often held back out of fear of being judged or labelled as crazy. I am pretty out there but now I just flow with it because I know that I am a good guy and come from a good frame...... and it fuckin works because I now am feeling congruent. I also know I am unique and cherish it rather than resent it.

Unapologetic. I used to be saying fuckin sorry to every man woman and dog but since BC have rarely said it or even felt the need to say it. Basically I do what I what, when I want and others fit in around it and it works because I know I am coming from a good place. I also have learned to push boundaries a bit and see what I can get away with and yeah it works...... but I know I have to push further and harder to create new reference points.

Select who I want to spend my time with. Spending time with my Daughter is a major focus in my life. I value my time highly so don't waste it on poor prospects or people that develop a habit of either flaking or wasting my time. One of the chicks I hooked up with turned out to have some emotional issues and tried using manupulation on me. Everyone has issues of some sort but there is some behaviours that I now can recognise and will not tolerate no matter how good the vagina is.

Presence. I now have greater self confidance and it shows in my body language and I now have pretty solid tonality without needing to think about it. I certainly believe it is one of those things that people do notice.

Social proof. After getting to know me well over the past several months, many of my female friends are now starting to introduce me to their friends and the ball keeps rolling forward. They are like a salesforce working for you. A powerful concept.

No unrealistic expectations. Basically the only thing I focus on when I go out primarily is to have fun, be open to / create random encounters and see what happens.

Use situations to engage in conversation. Whenever I interact with someone I make a genuine attempt to strike up conversation and it certainly helps with my skills and confidence.

Ready for the next shift. I think its tied in with the psychology of my divorce, but the last few weeks has been like a weight is lifted off my shoulders and I am having so much fun. I think it must be showing because I have engaged several more chicks in recent weeks and am working on getting to know a few of them better and more intimately. Something drew me back to the forums and the vast resources on the site and I feel ready to step it up.

Things I need to work on

2 major things I can indentify are consistency and getting physical.

Consistency. Early on and during periods of intense stress this certainly was a problem and was fustrating as I had high peaks and low troughs and it was messing with me. As I get more experienced the shit I am doing well I am doing well alot more often and am making fewer mistakes..... however I totally realise that I am taking the safer road and could push harder but for me it is working as I am able to take in, reference and process the experiences that I am creating without getting overwhelmed. I know myself and when I get overwhelmed my shit falls apart and I gotta pick up the pieces again. This leads to resiliance. I have learned and recently rediscovered the benefits of healthly lifestyle and it positive effects on mental health and also in building resiliance.

Getting Physical. One major area Alex identified that I need to work on. I think it is linked to my headspace and confidance being effected by the divorce and I have tended to play it safe. There have been instances where I have seen signals and just taken the lead and gone for it and it works. But there have been times when my physicality hasn't been well received and I have reverted to playing it safe and retreating rather than dealing with it. An area I certainly know I need to take action on and will be focusing on now. I just need to link into some of the shit I have learned and am doing well and apply it to this side of my game.

Fuck life is so much fun!!

Emjay
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Ok now for some more victories and lessons.....

A few weeks back I was out with my best mate (a chick who I met out in field.) Kickin at my joint drinking and about 1.30 am head out to a nearby club. Short time later a chick approaches her asking for a cig. Her friend enters and straight away I ask "who are you" she introduces herself and we vibe for a few minutes. Get her number and ask for a day 2, she is keen. At 2.30 the club closes and my mate, myself and the 2 chicks are outside and they are with 2 guys, 1 has a boyfriend and another dude. My mate invites us back to their place and we kick on for a few more hours. Awesome fun and great people, the chick I like falls asleep and I hang out for a few more hours till sunrise then head home.

Some key learnings here is reinforcement of several things including having no expectations. Was having a ball with my best mate, drinking and chatting and I think that good mood continued at the club and it showed.

Having a good looking chick as a best mate provides solid social proof as she thinks I am awesome, but she is also very friendly, loves meeting new people and makes my job of getting numbers etc more effective. I think we gonna make a great team!

Followed up the chick I met over the coming week or so with a few texts and phone calls, all good vibes and reciprocated well and we arrange a day 2.

Day 2 daytime catchup went well, we had a great conversation on so many topics and I mixed it up from logical to random quite well. Was much more comfortable with some physicality during the convo which was good. Followed up later in the day with some humerous texting which was very well received. One thing I find that helps me build pretty solid connections is my active listening and observation skills as I am able to relate my humour to things that relate to each individual women. Catching up again soon and I know that I need to get more physical sooner rather than later or else it is likely to be "good friends". Journey continues.....

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Journey continues.....

Rang the chick I like mid week and she is in a great mood, drunk and going to a concert. We had planned to try and catch up on the weekend and she wanted to see my chick mate again so she suggested we all go to a concert on the weekend. Was something different and fun so we were all down for it. Another thing I am learning is that chicks make decisions based on their mood which changes often! It can work both ways but yeah it pays to be aware of it. The next day she is hungover, feelin sorry and doesn't want to go but says she will. So I give her shit but she handles it well..... something I like about this girl is she can have a laugh at herself and doesn't take shit too seriously.

Ok concert day... she invites myself and my mate over for cocktails beforehand (week before I invented an awesome cocktail and she wants to try it ). I am driving over but drinking so either gonna sleep at her house or in my car. Before going over I was talking with my chick mate about the need to step up my physical game tonight and show this girl how I feel about her and escalate. I didn't exactly know how I was gonna do but decided I need to do something.

Having a great time, all vibing well and we are pretty drunk.... head off to concert. This is where things get a bit blurry due to too much booze but have put it together with some feedback from my mate. I fucked up but a very good learning experience. Ok so we get some happy snaps, are in a good mood, but the music sucks so we chill outside in the beer garden. I can't remember how or why but the chick is sitting on my knee. I think I am doing what I do with every girl (my friends included) in that situation and have my arms around her shoulder and/or rubbing her back. I am very kinosthetic so like touch. Don't know what happens but my chick friend tells me the other chick told her she is very uncomfortable! Wtf??? I know she didn't storm off or anything but this is very blurry in my mind. All I know is that I fucked up in the sense that I let her reaction really get to me and it got inside my head and I allowed myself to my mood and good vibe. Her feelings and reactions etc are her responsibility and it is possible that she has shit in her head from a bad experience but pretty much all my feedback to date is along the lines of "you are awesome and/or I feel so comfortable around you". To get the I feel uncomfortable response totally took me by surprise especially because I didn't think it was me making a move but it appeared to be interpreted that way and I allowed her reaction to make me feel creepy. It is a lesson that I gotta deal with whatever happens in my own way, laugh it off and be responsive not reactive. Plus it reinforced why I don't like drinking that much because I can lose control of my emotions.

I take some time to get my shit together and we all still head back to her place to crash so all is not lost. I am a gradual processor so often things a fair while to sink it so I still really don't know what the fuck happened.

In the morning while my chick friend is still sleeping the chick and I have coffee and watch a russell peters dvd which she loves. Her son is sleeping next door, plus I am still struggling to process it so we don't talk about it (and I don't make any moves) but still have a good morning getting to know her more. We seem to get on really well but I have a hunch that I am in the friends box now but will still keep working at it til either I get physical or have the friends chat.

Later on we are texting and all seems good and she is keen for another catchup. Have mixed feelings on this chick. I know there are many things I like about her but I sense she has a lot of shit on her plate atm so to me there are some danger signs..... Gotta think about this one some more.

Interesting times....

Emjay
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