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September 21st, 2017
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#11

subx

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interesting post.  i have known about all the things you describe... but i still dont' feel like a million bucks... i have meditated and felt a great calmness.... but i am still stuck in "the code" so to speak...  so what do you do differently that makes you feel great all the time?   
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#12
BuddhasGotGame

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Hey thanks for the feedback.

subx you recognize that you are stuck in the code and that is a HUGE first step.  This whole thing is a locktight catch 22 thats hard to break into.  You do not feel IT right now, so you assume IT is something you will get in the future.  But the fucked up thing is IT is always the current moment even as you sit here now.  That's why they call it waking up to the current moment instead of becoming enlightened.  You can really do it any time, all you have to do is open your eyes.  I think my next post will be a step by step recipe on how to be super sayan state right now, break the code right now, wake up to glory of your life, and stop that auto-pilot nonsense that everyone is stuck in.  But I can foresee some issues with this.  People will read it and not do it.  They will not find time to meditate everyday, they will not read the books I recommend, they will not get into the best physical shape of their lives.  I didn't really understand what Tyler meant when he said you need to reach a rock bottom low before becoming good.  But it's clear as day to me now.  If I had not reached rock bottom low I wouldn't have done all the things I'm describing.  I wouldn't have the level of commitment to my fitness or to exercising my mind.  So I guess until you reach rock bottom go out there and get blown out 500 times and get stuck in the downward noobie paradox spiral until you are willing to do WHATEVER it takes to get this shit handled.  Man this reply is turning into a full blown post.  Hold on let me throw a youtube video on this and add it to the collection...

Really when you say you want girls right now, that's not what you REALLY want.  I was reading a thread yesterday about 'being a pick up artist isn't that great' or something.  Tyler brought up the point that Canada doesn't seem that great... but if you lived in the poorest areas of Africa, Canada looks pretty fucking awesome.  Huge point to be made here.  You do not really want the girls, you do not really want the 25 million dollars, you do not really want the mPUA title... What you really want is the feeling that stuff gives you.  That euphoric feeling of validation.  When I sleep with a girl now, I feel the same the next day.  Before I felt 100x better because I had validated my worth to women, I couldn't help but tell everyone I slept with a hot girl.  So what you percieve as wanting women right now...  Is actually you wanting the euphoric feeling of validation.  That last paragraph was huge, really can't emphasize it enough.  So this enlightment shit I'm talking about is basically giving yourself complete 100% validation without begging others to give it to you.

Britney syndrome is a great example which I will also steal from Tyler.  If you did good on the SATs this is for you:
     You:Women::Britney:Number One Recording Artist
Britney thought all she needed to be happy was to become a number one recording artist THEN she can be happy.  She worked her ass off her whole life trying to reach this.  In her mind she was 110% sure reaching this level of fame would make her happy for the rest of her life.  She finally gets there and guess what...  She isn't very happy.  As a result she ends up going completely batshit isnane because if that can't make her happy then nothing can!  You are looking at the mPUA title like the number one recording artist title.  You really don't want that, what you really want is the feeling of validation associated with it.

I really think RSD needs to do a better job of describing 'Giving Value' its such a huge concept and they say it 1000 times but what the fuck does it mean? I'll try and explain how I understand it.  When a girl sleeps with you, in a way she is giving you value.  You went from 30% validated to 60% validated after sleeping with her.  Maybe 65% if you were able to sneak it in her butt or get her to swallow.  In more subtle instances you meet some friends out and you are at about 40%...  Then one of your friends says they like your shirt in a very genuine way +3%...  Then a girl walks by you and smiles +2%...  Then you tell a joke and people laugh +5%...  Then you use a canned pick up line and you get a good response +8%.... climbing... climbing...  OK NOW I AM IN STATE PEOPLE HAVE VALIDATED ME ENOUGH TO MAKE ME FEEL HAPPY!  Fuck man... are you paying attention.  Just go out at 100% all the time you don't need other people giving you validation, give it to yourself.  Don't beg other for it, you already have it man.

Now imagine you go out at 100% from the start.  Everyone can smell that shit in the air, it fucking reeks of confidence.  They are looking for you to give them the +3% complements.  They are looking at you to give them the +2% smiles.  They are looking at you to give the +5% laughs.  You are the value giver, not the value begger!

BOOM MINDS ARE MELTING ALL AROUND THE WORLD.

I love you guys.  Really let me know what you are having a hard time grasping I'm here for you guys now.

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#13
Deft

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Profound shitz my nigga.
You seem like a down to earth spiritual guy, thats hard to find.

Buddhasgotgame feels +4       :)
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#14

MorningWood

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Couple questions..

- How do you "express" yourself and vibe. What is your definition of expressing yourself and giving value?

- How do you know you're fully meditating?

- How do you personally pull girls with your little buddha not-looking-for-validation-whatsoever chill state.. wouldn't you stop going out and not even think about girls again? I can stand around all day and pretend to not give a shit about women, but theyre not exactly going to jump on my dick for me. You still have to do the work pretty much.
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#15
Deft

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Its weird, the last 2 weeks ive been in full being present and connecting to the "big mind".
Its funny the weird concidences ive been having, like blow your mind amazing, Im more and more starting to belive in this whole idea of the vibrations one emanates.
Cool shit.
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#17
BuddhasGotGame

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Thanks for the responses.  Got some good questions here.

- How do you "express" yourself and vibe. What is your definition of expressing yourself and giving value?
This is where you hear the term 'self amusement.'  When I go out I am doing things that I find funny and not caring if anyone else finds it funny.  I'm just having a good time being carefree.  You have to be careful on how you interpret this 'giving value' thing.  You should not read this then go out complementing everyone on their shirt hoping this 'value giving' will get you a good response from others.  Because then that good response is them giving you the value, you are actually begging for it if your complement is not genuine.  What I said is really confusing but read it a few times and try to make sense of it.

- How do you know you're fully meditating?
There's tons of good books on this that will explain it far better than I can.  The Power of Now and Mindfulness in Plain English.  Check them out.

- How do you personally pull girls with your little buddha not-looking-for-validation-whatsoever chill state.. wouldn't you stop going out and not even think about girls again? I can stand around all day and pretend to not give a shit about women, but theyre not exactly going to jump on my dick for me. You still have to do the work pretty much.
"I can stand around all day and PRETEND to not give a shit about women"  ok first of all I DO give a shit about other people.  I want them to be happy and have a good time, but I don't care what they think about me on an emotional level.  It sounds like you think I'm talking about coming off as a wife beater.  Also, you cannot PRETEND to not let it effect you emotionally, you have to really not let it effect you emotionally.  In order to do this you have to not seek validation in their responses to your actions.

One last note about vibe.  I actually think I can write a whole post on vibe...  But I used to think vibe was just some invisible thing that you feel from someone else.  Now I can see it.  I can see when someone is not going into their head trying to come up with something "cool to say."  I can see them like you can see the gang of teenage girls (see Fashion Overload post).
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#18

subx

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so your way to 100% internally validated before going out is to be in the moment? 
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#19
BuddhasGotGame

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Subx you are close my friend.  You are asking the right questions.

Let me further define "being in the moment."  It is not saying "left foot... right foot... left foot.... right foot" every time I take a step.  When you talk to a girl are you worried she won't respond well?  Are you worried you are not cool enough to talk to her?  Worry is tying emotion to the future based on your definition of self from the past.  When I say "be in the moment" people ask questions like: "but then you won't remember to pick your kids up from school"  "but then you won't achieve any goals"  "but then you will put your hand in a fire" ....   They don't realize the micro future/past and how it effects you.  They are thinking too large.  If you understand that worry arises from fear of a future outcome based on your definition of self from the past.  You will also understand that being able to walk up to a girl without worry is going to go over pretty well.  In fact, one might call one without worry in social interations self confident.
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#20
BuddhasGotGame

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Deft wrote:


Buddhasgotgame feels +4       :)
Hahaha thanks for the validation points, now the internet has allowed me to be happy!  =]
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