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December 5th, 2016
Holy shit incredible read... fear of women from the day you were BORN?
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Mizu

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Yo guys, so long story short.. I'm fucked up. When a cute girl looks at me I'll twitch and see darkness and for a split second feel fear / then get nervous like WTF why did I just do that. I've been doing this for the longest time and when a girl tries to get close to me I like find it hard to breathe and get super micromanaging / stifled etc... anyways this has kept me so depressed for a while, I mean I got out of it an nailed 11 chicks being only 19 so I'm not a TOTAL and I can OWN the room when I 'm drunk / get in state whatever...

but the thing is I realllyyy started diving down on these deep subconscious fear issues doing medititation (holosync) and a lot of "observe the pain body" type stuff.

So anyways, this happens all the time... a straight up hot girl looks at me, I begin to feel sexual, BANG! a split second of blackness I twitch my hands up to like 'protect myself' and the girl is like WTF... and then I feel nervous weird and my breathinggets constricted. its so goddam embarassing I even had to quit my job cuz it kept happening with the bar girls.... I rarely can feel horny for girls and I've been numb to them honestly.... like a total 10 walks by and I just feel fucking weird and THIS happens when she looks at me / if I begin to feel sexual towards her....

so for like 6 months I've been trying to get to the bottom of this, the answer has been right in front of my fucking face the whole time!!!!!

I keep having a dream that has this same theme... so anyways here it goes. I'm sitting at a dinner table with random people, usually there's always one girl there that I'm super attracted to, like she's hot. and she starts getting into some sort of sexual seductive state. like, slightlty parts her legs (skirt) open and looks at me sexily and seductively... then I start getting nervous and this deep masculine part of me goes WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU UGGHH GET TURNED ON like aggression, then I turn into a beast/demon and I go to fucking CLAW AT her or RAVAGE her, I feel this masculine aggression forceful nature, then, I'm like SUCKED into myself it feels like... but everything turns black and there's this pressure all around me and I CANT BREATHE. AT ALL. it's PITCH BLACK and I'm SO SCARED in a PANIC like WAKE UP WAKE UP WAKE UP GET OUT OF HERE IM GONNA DIE!!! IM GONNA DIE!!! IM GONNA DIE!!!!!!!!!!! then bam. I wake up panting for air.  it happened one night with this one girl I was with when she slept over she said I was helplessly whimpering in my sleep.... like this shit keep happening, I feel paralyzed and trapped and ALWAYS like I'm gonna die and I can't breathe in this dark void. it's ME trapped in this dark pressure void of doom and no escape.

Then it fucking hit me like a bomb. I immediately called up my mom, "Hey mom.. this is gonna sound weird but when I was born were there any complications?"  She started to sound really sad and said "yeah, when you were first born since they gave me too much of X drug I couldnt feel my vagina so I couldnt push and you were stuck suffocating, the doctor had to pull you out with tongs. you came out dark blue."
you were crying and screaming so scared I didnt get to hold you they took you away from me to clean you up and I got to hold you 15 minutes later."

UUUMMMMMMMMMMM.......

So, uh, let's see. common dream themes. darkness = womb, stuck. panic. cant breathe...scared of dying....   it all makes sense. this is my ROOT fear of women. psychologists say an infants first mpressions of the opposite sex are from birth... some guys dont get any affection so they are needy there whole lives.. well me? I was in FUCKING TERROR when I felt the warmth of a womans flesh for the first time.

guys, my grand question to the community is, how the fuck do I get rid of this? If you know of any hypnosis, NLP, fear releasing thing.. oh God please let me know. And THANK YOU UNIVERSE FOR THE AWARENESS I FINALLY NOW KNOW WHY. Knowing is half the battle lol and like the doctors famous quote "a correct prognosis is half the cure"

dreams truly are "God singing to you in your sleep"

Please help. Mizu out. Oh and BTW this light shed some light on some of your cats issues with babes. Does a tree become afraid to grow an orange? Do bees get approach anxiety when they're about to land on a flower? Do dogs get erectyle disfunction? WE ARE ANIMALS, naturals get laid like rocktars because they go with the flow of the universe. Game is already inside of us. as Jeffy says WE ARE BORN TO DO THIS.. well except me lol.

Peace out.
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Oh and sometimes when a total 10 was gigivng me IOIs standing in proximityn ear me I would start feeling like I was about to cry like a scared helpless kid lost in a mall... WTF... hahaha wow, now I know why,
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but the recurring DREAM and dude, believe me, it's not that at all. Like, I was with this one girl and she straight up was moaning "fuck me" in my ear, and I couldnt even get it to work! I wasnt even nervous. something is up forsure.

and again dudes, its not like I see a hot girl and then think "oh gee gosh golly I sure do hope I dont get scared... oh uhoh look my breath is getting constricted.. oh dangit gosh golly goodness now my vision is blurring.."   no. It's like "oh look a - BAM!!!!!!!!!    it just unconsciously triggers, so, uh, there must be something in my subconscious mind. I mean I feel you about the whole value thing, and yiu're right. but its a self perpetuating loop.. " I twitch and cant breathe even on the phone with chicks.. so I'm friggin weird so I have bo value " = LV behaviors... self perpetuating loop. so kill the flinch reaction, kill the LV thoughts = BAM, alpha male. yeah? yeah?

hope so. and thanks fader.
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Wow dude, that's pretty messed up. I wish I could offer you some help here. 11 girls by 19, so you're not some newb who's simply scared of girls. There's something at work here, maybe it's the birth thing, maybe it isn't. But it can't hurt to explore that route. I don't have much knowledge in this area, but I'm sure if you do some research there must be some kind of therapy/hypnosis/NLP /Ritualistic Voodoo Chant to help with your situation. Good Luck.
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Did you just call your own thread an "incredible read"? 
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u should try eft it claims to be the shit on getting rid of early childhood shit like that, message shankar and ask him
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forrrsuuurrreee thanks brahs. and yes I did.
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¿How did you get with 11 girls if you feel so bad when around them?

¿Is just something that happens sometimes?
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Check out Neurofeedback. There's some credible studies out there on it positively improving  PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).  Meditation is effective but it will take years - DECADES.  Don't waste your time with NLP, EFT, Hypnosis  - ineffective.  (Only ONE person in that EFT thread reported any real success - the OP).  In the meantime LIVE YOUR  VALUES AND KEEP TAKING ACTION.  The minute you put your life on hold because of your emotions/ issues, is the minute you stop living.
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Mizu

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akro_bat wrote:

¿How did you get with 11 girls if you feel so bad when around them?

¿Is just something that happens sometimes?
Exactly dude. Like, I'm so bipolar with women its retarded. Like Tyler says imagine a total 10 hot sexy girl and you turn around and BAM! she's fat and weighs like 300 pounds and has a mustache...this is what girls have to deal with because they are attracted to guys behavior traits, NOT looks.

Like sometimes I'll go in state and be the fuckin' KING. Like I can pull hard, own the whole party, get everyone laughing, nooo worries everything is kickass and great and omg ZERO approach anxiety girls are beautiful and I just jwant ot ravage them... then sometimes (more recently now) I'll just be uber chode above and get inside my head and be super nervous.
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Why hello.  I'm a neuroscientist.

The infant brain cannot form the synaptic connections needed to make conscious or subconscious memories.  That shit doesn't come until you're like three.  So no, whatever happened when you were being birthed has no effect on your current situation.  That's the scientifically sound biology based answer.


For the more theoretical stuff, sounds like you're dealing with some sort of feedback loop.  This is seen a lot in people who have panic or anxiety attacks.  As anyone here who has had a problem with panic/anxiety attacks in the past can testify, most of the stress comes from the stress you feel from experiencing stress.  Get it?  Its kind of like how a little kid will sit there with blood gushing down his knees and be totally fine until he actually looks at the cut.  Then he starts freaking right the fuck out.

If you're going to get help from this, don't get it from some Fruedian psychoanalyst.  Get some Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which will teach you how to ACTUALLY overcome these little panic attacks instead of delving into your "subconscious" to find the theoretical "root" of your problem.
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