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Raeven~

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Well,

After much lurking on these forums and website I finally joined up. Did even more then that, booked a bootcamp for February 5th in London! Yeah! Respect to me!

Now for a little background:

My name is Marc, a good name! I'm 25 and just like 99% of the world I've been trough my share of crap. I got divorced at the age of 23 after 1,5 years of marriage. Why is this
significant to me? Simply put, it changed me. It changed me because up untill then I believed in true love, one girl for your life and the whole victorian love setting. And I still do,
in some way, but less intense. it doesn't control my life anymore. So I've been working hard, trying to break out of my shell and deal with my issues the last 2 years. Aproaching
strangers, then girls (meh, fuck aproach anxiaty!)... Making friends wherever I go!

And last Septembre, I got an offer I just could not refuse... Dublin, working for Microsoft on my favorite product: Exchange! Yeah! I gladly accepted and moved here last December.
So far out of my comfort zone I could not even believe it. But for the better! In the last 2 years I've gotten over my aproach anxiaty, dealt with my personal issues, have started to
accept and act as the Alpha male. Being who I needed to be. Scrap that, being who I want to be! I believe I make my own faith. I am not in control of what happens to me but I am in
control of how I handle it.

Since I've been here I've had more fun than the entire timespan predating my marriage. But I've hit a plateau. I know where my problem lies, I don't seem able to close. I don't care
at the moment, but afterwards I feel bad I didn't take the shot. Cause I could have pulled it off! It's me afterall!

Now to facilitate evolving a bit further and having my crap pointed out I finally decided to take a bootcamp, I've been thinking on it for far to long and I'm stepping up. Ozzie, get ready
to put London on fire!

And up untill then, Dublin is still the place where I'll aproach, crash and yes, sometimes fly...

edit: changed title to better reflect me xD
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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Hmm It's quiet, to quiet!

Was supposed to meet up with an south-american girl on friday to go do some salse, texted me today that she won't be going there with her friends this weekend... But she will next weekend. Tried to pull by texting her she could just go with me. Might have screwed that one...

Trying to get a french girl in the mood for a massage xD. Will probably blow up in my face, but I basically don't care. Trying to escalate is fun, lack experience tho...

Any RSD'ers present in Dublin? Shout out! We'll get a pint...
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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Friday! Party Night!

Since most of my friends are bugging out to go bowling (wth!) Guess it'll be a solo night...

* HBFrenchie wasn't receptive to the massage thingie, texted her to go out tonight she got back to me that her dad was coning to visit and I should get back to her next week. Great, the door is   still open!

* HBEcuador hasn't gotten back to me.. Ah well

* HBBrazil (and also my flatmate ;0) This one was weird to me. A week ago she told me she was moving out of the appartment. She found a place where she does not have to share a bed (she shares with a korean girl to cut the costs). After that she's been texting alot with me and I'm pushing the physical contact. last night I was still up when she got home watching a movie. I told her to come into my room, she hugged me, changed to sleeping attire and I pulled her in bed to watch with me! She cuddled with me for the entire movie, my arm around her the entire time. Don't feel comfortable escalating this further just yet as I told her that I don't want to start something with a flatmate due to possible drama. Today she texted me that she wants me to massage her back, I simply replied "I'll start off there ;)".

Work in progress:
It seems my issues with escalating physical contact have to do with some inert fear of "Drama", I don't want to deal with that if it happens and I guess my mind tries to keep me out of it. So tonights working point is to push myself out of this and escalate physical contact. I get phonenumbers easy and haven't had any fake ones yet so that's a good sign. For now I want to deal with this fear or at least start dealing with it as a k-close or even an f-close are rare for me. That's the weird shit. I've had loads of threesomes thanks to bi-sexual female friends that would go out with me. I'd aproach and pull them in, if she like her she would escalate on her and involve me. Guess I've been to dependent on that.

Sticking points:
* I'm a great guy
* I can aproach and keep them intrested
* Need to work on closing physically and escalating the contact.
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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*Doh*

HbFrenchie did not blow up in my face but HBEcuador did... Dang, ah well, doesn't really matter, plenty of other girls out there and she's leaving in July anyway xD.

As for how the night went... Well I had a collegue telling me she was going to a social thingy from my employer so I tagged along. Sin is now my official winggirl! w00t props!

Entered an empty club at 20 xD. Did I rush for this? sjeez...

After about 10 minutes of aproaching the few people that were there Sin entered the club... With 6 other good looking Nordic girls xD. This shit is to easy!
Started joking around with everybody, a  couple I still knew from the corporate xmass party... I'm more centered and balanced then I was a month ago so
they were alot more receptive. Got free drink vouchers (and thanks to Paul, who I was joking around with in the beginning of the evening, I got about 14 extra
drink vouchers xD, so far for not getting drunk!. Bought a couplee of drinks for Sin and another girl in the group, can't consume 18 pints of alcohol. I'd die xD)

Me and Sin took to the dancefloor straight away and I opened a french 3 set. 1 guy 2 girls... Pulled in the 7 and grinded away with her on the dancefloor. 
5 minutes later her friend was leaving so she went outside to wave her off. Didn't come back.

club opened for the public later on (I was in the VIP area xD) so loads of girls come on in, I try to open every set but most of the girls seem intimidated by the flock
of female coworkers that dance with me. loads of grinding going on with the ones that do come and I got sandwiched by 4 girls a couple of times. Dang! Sexy
shit rigght there man! End up taking a couple of phonenumbers.

Go outside for a smoke, Sin joins me. See a cute 2 set...

Me: Oy! Why aren't you girls over here?
Me: This is where the party is!
HB7: Too busy down in the club...
HB6: *funny look*
Me: I'f you're nice you can sit with me, I'm in the VIP area!
HB7: For real?
Sin: What ya mean for real? This is Reaven!
Hb7: *eyes sparkle, I can see she wants to come, looks at hb6*
hb6: No thanks we're good *she drags 7 along with her...

Sonnofabitch! That suucked case hb7 was into me... And wearing a damned short skirt with killer legs xD

Night ended, walked home alone :s saw a nice girl walking up to me, anted to open but didn't. Chodyness. Alcohol brings it out me thinks...

Positive:
+ Aproached loads of sets
+ Got a few numbers
+ Had LOADS and LOADS of fun
+ Grinded with a cougar :p
+ Never had less then 2 girls around me to dance with.

Negative:
- Still not escalating enough
- Still not balanced enough
- Still have lingering issues that hold me back.

Basically I have to forget about the drama that can come frome these situations and move on. 13 Days untill bootcamp. 1 More weekend to try and
get progress on my own. After BC, it's definately ownage time!
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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Daygame on saturday!

Got up to get some coffee in McDo. Aproached a 2 set (polish, 7 & 8). Went good, I opened with "Hey you girls look kinda cute...". 
The 7 was caught ofguard and totally loved it, the 8 was trying to play hard to get. Her body language betrayed her intrest tho xD.
Went well, was well engaged in the set when Sin called me to tell me she would arrive in 10 minutes. As I still had to go to the store
I walked away without closing. Damn. Ah well, made me feel good anyway to be the one of value in the interaction.

Went to the store, AfroAmerican girl saw me when I came in and aproached me. Started flirting around a bit. Went well, we actually
started talking about going out. Had to run, didn't close. Shit. 

Positive:
+ I opened xD
+ Sparked intrest
+ Was able to see the intrest
+ Was the one with the stronger frame and higher value

Negative:
- Didn't close
- Didn't close
- Didn't close
- Didn't close
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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Feel like shit writing this, even though I had 32 fucking great evenings. I've been pushing my comfort zone so much the last couple of months that I'm having a bit of a mentle breakdown right now... I'll get over it, if anybody can relate to what I'm going trough, leave a comment, it'll be well apreciated!

Thursday:

Got invited over for a drink by a collegue. Met up with them in a small cafe inside Dublin, awesome place, called "cafe en-seine". Came in and introduced myself, same shit I always do nowadays. Taking lead in the conversation, HBDutchie (solid 8) starts playfully hitting me and touching my knee. *Ping*! I know she's into me. I go out for a smoke and pull her with me, we hig and kiss. Go back in and woo the group a bit more. The other girls aren't my cio of thea so  I open 2 girls behind me who just got their food server. Playfull interacting for about 20 minutes, they feed me some of their food to taste, awesome! HBDutchie seems to be lost so she pulls me out of the talk! Both girls react  a bit weird on this move. Nights goes on more or less like this untill I get HBDutchie's cellphone pushed under my nose as she wants my number and get invited to come to her place the day after.

Friday:

Long, tiring day at work with a something I'm looking forward to! I meet up with Tessa (new flatmate starting today, also collegue at work, close friend by now :) and head of to HBDutchies place. The three of us start drinking some wine when a 2 new people arrive, a guy and HBPaypal ;). We're all getting friendly and HbDutchie, HbPaypal and me talk alot of sexual shit. Hugging, kissing with HbDutchie and fooling around abit with HbPaypal. After 3 bottles we head out into town to hit the local pubs. On our way we pull along a group of US tourists, 2 8's in the group and one 3... Fun times ensured! I'm messing around with 3 girls now and decide to go out for a smoke, HbDutchie and HbPaypal decide to stay inside so I pull out HbUSBlondie with me. We talk and she tells me she has a boyfriend back in Pensylvania. I don't react to this and carry on the conversation. Pull out my phone and tell her I want  her email as I don't care about the phonenumber... She types it in and I pull her in close. "Now give me a kiss", she turns her head away and goes all shy "I have a boyfriend", I react with something I've  never done before (I usually don't wwant to do this shit with girls in relationships but I couldn't help this one) "I don't care". Strangely enough she pulls up to my face and goes "You're a smooth one" and starts making out with me. 5 minutes later we head back to the pub and I'm facing 3 girls again. HbDutchie and HbPaypal go home as they're tired and shortly after the americans head off. I start opening sets and end up  with a 6 set that has 1 girl. 
A nice solid 8 aswell! Good times! I chat her up and the group loves me. Took her phonenumber, nice. Went home ;) Texted all the girls I took the numbers from, got a text back from all :D

Saturday:

Slept in late, HbBrazil finished packing already and is ready to move out. Just waiting for her friends to drive her off to her new appartment. We start talking and she pulls me to her bed. We start cuddling (she is wearing a really low cut top and no bra xD) and I'm touching right about her breast. She takes my hand and tells me I'm pushing my luck. One simple reply (No, pushing my luck would be kissing you) later and we're making out & touching each other. 2 hours later her friends arrive and she leaves. I get a texted from HbDutchie she's coming to town for a bit and she wants to meet up sso we go for a nice cup of coffee. she's feeling really bad but is happy to see me and hold my hand and is all touchy feely the entire time. HbPaypall texts me she wants to go clubbin but needs a "beauty sleep" first so we decide to meet up later. HbDutchie goes home and I take the time to eat and freshen up. After being 2 hours late HbPaypal texts me saying she forgot to put an alarm and overslept, she bails. i'll forgive her, this one time ;)
Me and a friend hit a nightclub and I'm opening sets all over the place. But I need to pump myself everytime, I'm not feeling the vibe tonight. After 9 sets I'm unable to pump myself up anymore and I decide to go home.

All in all this was an awesome weekend. FLirting and closing all over the place but I still feel like shit right now. What happend with these girls this weekend is beyond anything I could dream of. It's an awesome feeling but blew my mind and my reality. I guess thats why I got so affected tonight as my head is just buwwing around. I stepped so far out of my comfortzone that I need to redefine it. HbDutchie is coming over for dinner tomorrow so we'll see what happens.

Next weekend is bootcamp time in London! Really anxitious (or however you spell that) about it since it will take me even further out of my comfort zone. I'm really hoping it will break the barrier that I'm still feeling internally to aproach (small barrier) & to physically escalate (bigger barrier) without clear and present signs that a girls  is into me. Slowly but surely I'm getting there :)
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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Finally it's almost here. Bootcamp!
On a side note, HBDutchie is coming over tomorrow evening to "watch a movie" in an empty appartment ;)
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Finished bootcamp :) Had a bad cough all weekend and it ended up being a 1-on-1 with Ozzie xD. The guy is not even nearly as scary as I read! I'll put a review later and combine my notes for personal use :)

Edit: My cold is really messing with me.
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Madness and Mystery ~ Dublin To hell and back, a bootcamp survival story [=rgb(46, 139, 87)][/][=rgb(139, 0, 0)]"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude." ~~ Sue Patton Thoele[/] “A good plan, violently executed today, is better than a perfect plan next week." ~~General George S. Patton
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Slowly I'm getting better! And I'm actually referring to my cold! lolz...

Wednesday:
Ended up chatting up a French girl after a job interview, got her number, been texting with her today.. She's a bartender somewhere in Dublin... Forgot where! omg can you believe that.

Thursday:
Went out out today to a rock/metal place with my flatmate. Funny stuff because as soon as I got in I started talking to a Spanish, got her number, kino'd her... Went for the makeout about 3-4 times. No succes. Argh, my weakpoint... Ozzie can concur  :)
Best of all, my charm is raging in full force! Every girl, yes, every girl I open responds in a positive way, girls are getting drawn in without me even doing anything at my work ( we have an entire second floor of hotties ;)!) even thought I don't want to game workplace chicks... To much drama...

Ended up with her leaving the bar around 11 (closing time for this one) and making me promise I'd call her tomorrow for another drink. I'm going out tomorrow and saturday anyways so it'll be a good warm up! Best of all, I befriended the bartender, regulars and bouncers tonight. muhahahahahaha

This week:
Cold aproaches: 5
Number closes: 2
k closes: 0...

Notes:
+ I'm extremely charming
+ I kino and am getting comfortable doing it
- Need to escalate it more

More importantly:

Goals & Commitments:

Finish my write up (drafting completed on paper, need to transfer it to word)
Start working out again & go for my ideal weight around 80 kilos (7 away at this stage...)
Get extremely confident doing kino
Burn Dublin to the ground (girl-wise)
Go out twice a week (minimum)
Always go for the hottest set first
Go for atleast 4 makeouts this month
Get even better at my job
Get better at playing the guitar
Be super social deluxe!
Learn to cook more dishes

*edit: put in the wrong weekdays... Note to self, don't do report if you're tired as fuck
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small text game report:

me: (mass text) Party night tonight! blablabla

Replies:

HBIrish: Thank you for the invite cant ;ake it tonight sorry. Have a good one ;)

HBSpanish (one I met last night): i, how are ou? Where is the party? Maybe I will go with you ... Kiss
Me: Darling, I only work with yes or no ;). Party is in Dublin centre. Meeting up with friends so tag along.
HBSpanish: ok ;) What time and where?
me: Probably around the spire after then. But I'm meeting with *friendsname* at mu place around 21. Meet me there

Trying to get her to invest a bit with the last one. Didn't ghet and answer yet, she might be in classes right now so I don't care to much about it ;)
HBDutchie is tagging along aswell tonight so with any luck there'll be a good FR up tonight or tomorrow xD
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Ah ah

Funny night! Not really what I expect but still good :)

Night started with HBSpanish and a friend meeting up at my place, I inmediatly started getting physical with her and she was totally into it. We met up with friends at Doyle's (Bar) where I opened about 2 sets. Interaction never really went somewhere bit it was funny to see HBSpanish and HBDutchie getting jealous xD. My flatmate started talking to some "Gap" models and I joined the conversation. By  this time the entire bar got to follow :)

HBDutchie was going home but not before sittign on my lap for 5 minutes and being all over me. We're meetign up somewhere next week. Still need to set date and time. 
We went of to "Copper face Jacks", sleezy nightclub... Met up with another friend (finnish girl) there and when she saw me she literally jumped on top of me. Awesome stuff. Oh yeah, I held HBSpanish hand on the way to the club without the slightest resistance. Even when she told me in the bar that she has a boyfriend in Spain. I don't care ;)

Ended opening a couple of sets in the club, all went good. Best one, eventhough it went nowhere, was on the way out. HB9 walking in front of me loses one of her high heels (These girls have no idea how to walk on them xD), all drunk ofcourse, does not even notice untill she's 2 steps furthers. I pick up her shoe and open " Hi cinderella", kino from the bat and she's extremely receptive. Cut space and move in! Friend start shouting at her what she is doing and she snaps out of it... Damn. Still funny as hell!

Cold aproaches: about 7
k Closes: none
# closes: none
f closes: none

Notes:
+ I had girls nearly fighting over my attention
+ Super charm deluxe!
+ Kino is becoming even more comfortable and I have no pressure
+ I kept the challanging mood going
+ Did not get drunk xD

- Still need to work on escalation
- Still a bit of a barrier in the physical game but it is melting away. Couple of weeks more and I should be able to overcome this

Sidenote:
Mastery & 7 habbits ordered from amazon.

Plan for tonight:
Go to a friends house for dinnen and head into town after that. Not going to ask HBSpanish along even though she was insisting I called her today or she would call me. Boyfriend or not, this girl is crazy over me!
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