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Does weed have the opposite effect on you? (Nervousness, quiet, self concious)
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jacob85

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Join Date: 11/07/2009 | Posts: 34

Everyone always tells me "oh smoke weed to forget about your problems and help you relax."

For me it does the opposite,

I'm usually a friendly and expressive person,

On weed I'm the opposite. I get quiet, uncomfortable, awkward, etc.

Like yesterday a certain girl was busting my balls about some trivial shit (some fat friend of hers I hooked up in high school, over 4 years ago),

I got all awkward and uncomfortable and everyone instantly thought that I was seriously tripping about it,

Whereas sober I'd just brush it off or drunk I'd just say "shut up b*tch",

I can hardly stand to be around my friends not to mention strangers.

If I'm alone, I'll start thinking about problems in my life and just in general feeling hopeless when I'm completely stable these days when I'm sober (I've come a long way.)

Like I'll go to bed thinking that it'd be easier for me just to kill myself than deal with all of the bullshit in my life, but always wake being: "Wow, I was really tripping last night."

So much for a drug that's supposed to make you chill out and relax.

Unfortunately, even these days, so many people smoke weed and is a great excuse to hang out with someone,

I hope there's a way to cure my ailment and live with the herb as one, not as separate.

Problem?
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tkat

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Join Date: 02/25/2007 | Posts: 252

Well, the thing is, it's really not a party drug, even though a lot of people use it as one. I've found (and it's especially true with more psychoactive drugs like Mushrooms) that if you have skeletons in your closet that you're trying to hide from, smoking weed or doing other psychedelics will bring that stuff to the surface and force you to deal with it.

The best way to deal with it is to do something about these things that come up, if you can. If you can't do anything about it at the moment, just accept it, thank yourself for recognizing the truth for what it was, and commit yourself to taking action on it later.

Weed enhances your perceptions and senses, and as part of that, your sense of self and self-consciousness is also enhanced, which leads to the "Stuck in my head" effect that a lot of people get with weed. This self-consciousness that happens is similar to Approach Anxiety. Just accept it, don't allow it to overwhelm you, just speak your mind and say whatever you want to say. It'll be hard at first, you might not be able to think of anything to say. Just relax and be yourself.


Public Speaking is one of the most common "fears" that people have. I used to be terrified of public speaking in high school when I was a chode. I was always shy and quiet, I didn't feel like my opinions were valuable. Since taking a public speaking class and getting used to presenting speeches, I don't have a problem with it anymore, I really enjoy it actually. I still get some anxiety just before I'm about to present, but i know that I've got the situation handled, I've got a good speech to present, I've presented speeches before and done great, and I can do it again.

Anyway, getting back to the matter at hand... I've smoked up just before presenting speeches to my Public Speaking class last semester. It made me more self-conscious and sometimes it made me so in my head that I wanted to turn around and go home instead of going to class. Every time though, I said "NO! This is just some bullshit, I'll get through this. I'm just gonna go in there and present an awesome speech. It'll only take about 5 minutes anyway, then I'll be done with it and I can sit down and relax". That's what I did, and I did damn good on them too.

You just gotta make a switch in your mind that controls your self-consciousness. You just close your eyes and say, "Alright, I'm going to go out now, party hard, and have a great time. I'm not gonna worry AT ALL about what anyone thinks of me." then just imagine flipping that switch off in your mind, the one that sends you all those thoughts about being self-conscious, worrying about what other people think about you. Now the switch is off, you don't give a shit about anyones opinion of you, and you can have an amazing time
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kidazia

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Join Date: 09/04/2009 | Posts: 236

It really depends.  Ive felt like that before after smoking, but usually its because I smoked too much which gives me paranoia = self conscious.  I don't smoke anymore but ive spit some of my best game while I was high, but not too high.  Also, most of the weed out there are indica which is more of a downer/body high.  Sativas are more of an upper and helps you get shit done and you can communicate just fine.
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EnVee

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Join Date: 01/15/2009 | Posts: 277

It's really interesting you ask this, I find myself in the EXACT same position. Not so much the "depression"/existential thoughts, but more so in my head, and thinking to myself like "Wow, dude, your kind of a loser for learning how to PICK UP CHICKS! Like, who else does this shit and actually learns about this stuff? Guys should just know this." Especially when interacting, I get really into my head and think like "They know your in your head and not good enough for them." I know full well when sober it's not like this at all and that most guys are chodes and I'm enough, but I still think like that when high. I've stopped puffin' altogether during social timez, and gave it another shot a while ago. Completely stiffled and a complete douchebagius maximus. I think I just have to come to terms with smoking alone/with only a couple close friends, which is unfortunate. Still, when I'm alone, it's not pleasent thinking those thoughts to myself. However, when smoking + drinking, thats different, and it's like having some sort of super power; still working for that constant non-drug induced state.
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horaholic

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Join Date: 01/18/2009 | Posts: 329

I get that too. Thats why I quit smoking (for the most part) many years ago. Sometimes if  Im drunk, I'll take olne hit, and feel good. If im sober, and i take even one hit, I get totally inside myself. I feel like I see everything bad about myself from everyone elses eyes. It may be shit i need to improve upon myself, but if I take a hit of weed, im already in party mode or whatever, and its not the time to deal with it. It is mostly deep issues in my head. It sucks, cuz if I smoke weed, it greatly impoves my musicianship, but as soon as I put my guitar down, Im in negative world.
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EnVee

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Join Date: 01/15/2009 | Posts: 277

horaholic wrote:
I get that too. Thats why I quit smoking (for the most part) many years ago. Sometimes if  Im drunk, I'll take olne hit, and feel good. If im sober, and i take even one hit, I get totally inside myself. I feel like I see everything bad about myself from everyone elses eyes. It may be shit i need to improve upon myself, but if I take a hit of weed, im already in party mode or whatever, and its not the time to deal with it. It is mostly deep issues in my head. It sucks, cuz if I smoke weed, it greatly impoves my musicianship, but as soon as I put my guitar down, Im in negative world.

I feel ya on every level, yo.
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beckstar

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Join Date: 08/06/2008 | Posts: 328

oh boys, i would stop smoking weed, or it get  more and more worth... in my expirience it was this way....
i ended up in the hospital, thinking about if i´m gay or not cause of not going to sarge, and absolutly psychod out..
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WireySpindell

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Join Date: 01/12/2009 | Posts: 688

Yeah. Honestly, just stop smoking it. What good is it serving you?
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goforit14

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Join Date: 05/15/2009 | Posts: 53

wat up Jacob85 , im with you in this one. haha i get the same effect happen to me. specially when going outside with strangers. weed just makes me paranoid out in public, makes me self consious. just like 2 do it in the house.I will try sitting down and writting all the self limiting beleifs that raise up. Do you guys find out deep things about yourselfs  while on weed ? anyway cant remeber what which program it was on but the speaker mentions we have good emotions inside we just have to cut the bullshit and let those good emotions surface
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DJAKAP

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Join Date: 12/19/2007 | Posts: 441

 Weed definitely had this negative effect on me.  But ultimately it was a good thing.  It helped me uncover a lot of latent insecurities that I have had and brought them to the surface.  That made things very uncomfortable for a long time.  But it showed me the truth about how I felt about myself.  And by doing that I could accept that #1 and #2 take responsibility for pushing through those barriers.  I don't smoke weed anymore.  I don't like its hazy effect on my life.  But I will say that the discomfort was ultimately a good thing because it opened my awareness to serious limiting beliefs I had and I have now recognized them and can recognize them as they arise.
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#10

hardboiled

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Join Date: 12/29/2009 | Posts: 8

You should ask why you feel uncomfortable and akward because the problems you feel when you are high are probably still there when your mind is clear. 
ask why?:Do you find he girl busting your chops attractive? Were you peer pressured into smoking more than you wanted to? Do you wish you were somewhere else? Did you waste your day beforehand?

To paraphrase Joe Rogan: "weed doesn't make you fat and lazy... you're fat and you're lazy"
If something is bothering you, its gonna come up when you smoke for sure. But now you know whats really bothering you and what should be fixed. I don't think you should rely on drawing state on drugs, but I don't think  these problems should be dismissed and blamed on weed.

Even though I was charismatic when my mind was clear, I was akward and uncomfortable when on weed because I couldn't engage in conversation; my charisma was a front to try and impress people. Certainly this was bothering me, but I used this knowledge to help me learn to accept myself wether I was talkative or silent

I hope this helps you get over negative thoughts when you're on weed
most importantly...
jacob85 wrote:

Like I'll go to bed thinking that it'd be easier for me just to kill myself than deal with all of the bullshit in my life, but always wake being: "Wow, I was really tripping last night."
I don't know if this was a figurative statement, but if you really think about suicide even a little when you smoke weed you should quit for now
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