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December 10th, 2016
My current mindset keys and reading list: a work in progress.
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Shazam!

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Join Date: 10/01/2008 | Posts: 1294

My sig is HONKING HUGE at the time I write this.  It's not really getting any smaller, though I think it's just about capped out in size now.  Still, it's big.  Bigger than about 80 percent of my actual posts.  So I'm reconciling it into a thread.  I'm also giving them version numbers because I'm a dork.  Here's my current iteration of my mindset keys.

V. 2.1

-JUST DO IT. Extremely key. The biggest key of all. Don't look for more reasons to do it if you want to do it, just do it. If you're talking something more logical than approaching a hottie, then this assumes you've already done your planning and liked the concept of doing it. In fact, regarding approaching a hottie (your 10), though you might not really 'plan it out' as much, you've already decided (or your cock/core/whatever has) that you wanna do her, or at the very least approach her if you're a more screening type person, so don't try to give yourself an excuse or wait on the senate hearing before doing it. Just do it.  Make a practice of doing the things you want BECAUSE you want to do them, not because it has a 'high approval rating from the polls' or you even think it might.  If you want to do something, that's reason enough.  So just do it. 

- Be in the moment.
This is less of a 'mindset' thing, and more of an action I'm integrating by remembering to do it and doing it frequently.  "Just do it" applies here, too.  There are many purported benefits I could list here.  But I'm just going to do it and see for myself, no excuse needed.

-Put your amusement and intentions before anybody else's, and before anything else aside from practical issues. Meaning logical ones.  Make yourself responsible for your happiness and nobody else's. In that vein...
-Focus as exclusively as possible on the things you can control.  Explanation in the url.
-Drop the impression-managing. This includes trying to preserve your image of yourself. Most people fake to manage others' impression of them. But more to the point, they try to managing their impression of THEMSELVES, as if by labeling themselves they know themselves. They do this because is grants them some certainty, and they limit their actions to fulfill their definition. Screw that. Keep doing 1 and 2, and this will handle itself.
-Think for yourself (when you decide to), then learn to be okay with people disagreeing with you. This is a logical step further in the direction these directions will take you... that of core confidence. You weigh things in your own mind, towards your own purposes. If others disagree, you hear what they have to say, but you do not take it personally. You look at the statement, but you don't "need" to agree to alleviate any tension, or disagree to 'show them' or for any other impractical reason. This is because your certainty is not based on what others think of you and your views. You act always on your own judgement, and you never flag when people question your judgement. The most you will do is evaluate theirs to see if you can improve yours in some way (and often you can't, but you look anyway), but you never look to others to tell you how to think.
.. that's all for now.

-Recommended Reading List: Mastery, Atlas Shrugged, Power of Now, Nine Ball, Fountainhead, A New Earth, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Mindfulness in Plain English (this one is for an investigative type of meditation... highly recommended). Always think for yourself. These are supplements to your learning, not dogmas. Shed your biases, logically understand them, reconcile paradoxes, apply them.
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CuriousUno

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Not to take away from your post, but why are reading lists so predictable, lol; I'd always expec Tolle's books, Mastery, Ayn Rand, Covey or some other permutation of a self-help writer. "Always think for yourself." huh? 
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Shazam!

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CuriousUno wrote:
Not to take away from your post, but why are reading lists so predictable, lol; I'd always expec Tolle's books, Mastery, Ayn Rand, Covey or some other permutation of a self-help writer. "Always think for yourself." huh? 
They're predictable 'cause they work.

The phrase was "Think for yourself", not "reinvent the wheel". 

Give it a try, observe the results, weigh the stuff you can't try (basically, speculation and pure theory, which pops up from time to time... the 'why') in your mind logically, refine it or rephrase it in a way that helps you better understand it.
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