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October 21st, 2017
You Don't Want Sex!
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#21
Holland

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If that's the case a simple 'no' would've been sufficient after my first post ;)
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#22
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Holland wrote:
If that's the case a simple 'no' would've been sufficient after my first post ;)
I'm not trying to pick on ya, im just trying to help... i guess im wordy - lol
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#23
Holland

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I appreciate it.
What I mean is that at first when you start to become more authentic and have fun, your mind has a tendency to make it special as you're not used to it.
And when you make it special that you hooked up with a girl, it's going to create a barrier the next time you're out.
I wondered if there was a way to make this process shorter, but I guess some of it is inevitable as your mind has to get accustomed to a new aspect of your reality.
But I guess the best practice for it is exposure, so that I gather reference experiences that this is normal and not a big deal, even though the majority of chodes out there, including a part of myself still believes that it makes a guy more cool if he and a girl hook up.
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Showcase

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Holland wrote:
I appreciate it.
What I mean is that at first when you start to become more authentic and have fun, your mind has a tendency to make it special as you're not used to it.
And when you make it special that you hooked up with a girl, it's going to create a barrier the next time you're out.
I wondered if there was a way to make this process shorter, but I guess some of it is inevitable as your mind has to get accustomed to a new aspect of your reality.
But I guess the best practice for it is exposure, so that I gather reference experiences that this is normal and not a big deal, even though the majority of chodes out there, including a part of myself still believes that it makes a guy more cool if he and a girl hook up.

Kewl, i think i get it more now...

I'm excited about my life - like i have passion for my life, im young, im a nightclub promoter, im kinda living the dream, minneapolis boy  now living in vegas, been here about 2-3months, I LOVE nightclubs, i love dancing, im very extroverted and i lover cracking jokes and flirting with chix - like thats where im at.

I got a few key things going for me - its my job to get girls phone numbers, i gotta meet about 1000 of them a week to make ends meet - so theres no one special girl problem i gotta rectify - i just cut it and move on - one situation blows up - i go to the next and i build momentum that night

tyler talked about social momentum at the summit - he thinks u need to build it all over again from scratch everyday - and i'd agree for the most part

but i also think that if your authentic and being you and love your life and are living your passion - that radiates out and thats why your happy regardless of what that particular girl does

plus i just dont feel that 'special' after hookign up at this point - so maybe thats just where ur at, lol, just get laid more and it wont be so special GENIUS - i should be a coach hahahha
im such a creep - ok hope it helps mang
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#25

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Hey,

Yeah that is awesome Showcase... Good stuff about being selective.

About the ego... Just read Tolle, but seriously the ego is all about the outcome. It hates the moment and looks at it as a means to an end. So actually thinking about sex while talking to a girl is all based on the ego. She will sense this. You can still get laid, but shit... It is so much easier when you just sit there and vibe without any thoughts.

All the Best.
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Showcase

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GuitarZan wrote:
Hey,

Yeah that is awesome Showcase... Good stuff about being selective.

About the ego... Just read Tolle, but seriously the ego is all about the outcome. It hates the moment and looks at it as a means to an end. So actually thinking about sex while talking to a girl is all based on the ego. She will sense this. You can still get laid, but shit... It is so much easier when you just sit there and vibe without any thoughts.

All the Best.
Whenever you read Toile i thought you were supposed to think... less - but either way - just Be Yourself like this song

Be Yourself lyrics - Aurdioslave

Someone falls to pieces, sleeping all alone
Someone kills the pain, spinning in the silence
To finally drift away

Someone gets excited
In a chapel yard and catches a bouquet
Another lays a dozen, white roses on a grave

Yeah and to be yourself is all that you can do
Hey, to be yourself is all that you can do

Someone finds salvation in everyone, another only pain
Someone tries to hide himself, down inside himself he prays
Someone swears his true love until the end of time
Another runs away, separate or united, healthy or insane

And to be yourself is all that you can do, yeah
(All that you can do)
To be yourself is all that you can do
(All that you can do)

To be yourself is all that you can do
(All that you can do)
Hey, be yourself is all that you can do

Even when you've paid enough
Been pulled apart or been held up
Every single memory of the good or bad
Faces of luck

Don't lose any sleep tonight
I'm sure everything will end up alright
You may win or lose

But to be yourself is all that you can do, yeah
To be yourself is all that you can do

Oh, to be yourself is all that you can do
(All that you can do)
Hey, to be yourself is all that you can do
(All that you can do)

To be yourself is all that you can
Be yourself is all that you can
Be yourself is all that you can do
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#27
Papa

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When I first got into pickup, I just wanted to pickup girls, have a fun field report, and gain more notches because I love diversity. Nowadays, I just want really high quality sex and have a great girlfriend.
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#28
Deft

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I think Deft is a sex addict.

Awesome Audioslave lyrics brother,
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#30
King of Sparta

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 100%. Great post!

Guys who try to define themselves by getting laid embark on a shallow path which eventually leads in destruction (of self and ego, in my case).

After coming to terms with what I want, the act of sex hasn't even been on my mind, whereas before it was the driving force. Girls are even MORE down now.

Strange, how things work out like that teeth
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