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Focus. There's a rhythm to the night.
Approaches = success. Tonight I succeeded.
I succeeded at revealing myself as a postive attitude, a fun personality, and zest for life.
The initial stage of the night consisted of me going through shit. I walked around every corner of the city for two hours.
Right at the tail end, girl in the street snaps a comment to me, and I'm right on it. Bam, in for kiss -- no go.
I make walking around the city fun by having a mini-- 'Legends of the Hidden Temple' -- aaahhhhh, watch out for temple guards!! Get to the club before time runs out!! (two hour rule)
In the club I am literally CHILL. Not in state, but chill. 
I see girl I'd like... ask myself how i'd approach this situation if it where my second time living-- (see the present moment as past, how can you choose to take responsibility for the future-- what do you want to see in your life-- GO GET IT! credit: Viktor Frankl).
Ok, so it's approach-- approach-- approach.... Feeling entitlement mindset --- I AM the prize... Give her time to see I am the real deal....
Still not in state... pushing myself... no chasing... I promised no drinking until state. Take action. More approaches. REJECTIONS HARD. GUYS PUSHING ME. FOCUS ON THE GIRL. I am sober.. this is necessary to keep my RAS focused, and not be a fucking douche... like KNOW when it's fucking done... abundance...
It is my choice in the circumstance -- in the moment: no affection, getting blown out, etc -- to choose my attitutude. And in this case -- BE POSITIVE. At the root, negativity does not serve me, in any way... That goes for getting pissed when getting (tooled) by guys (Think: Tyler's Denny's manager example...) POSITIVITY wins. Keep the positive attitude through ALL THE BULLSHIT. 
When I see the hot chicks whom I KNOW getting pulled by random dudes -- CHOOSE POSITIVITY.

Anyway, go to another club. Good grounds, lots of chicks. Kinda ADD, all dancefloor. But, I DO get mouthpiece running.. BLAH BLAH BLAH.... It DOES NOT MATTER. Blow that shit out, explode with vomit of nonsense words--- stay foolish, not necessarily going to get me to pull these chick --- (even if I tried ;p) BUT allows me to focus on ME.... I am the source of arousal.
The video game metaphor came to mind (YOU ARE PACMAN for the girl -- she doesn't give a fuck, and won't remember you... you are her temporary stimulation...) BE PRESENT -- ASSERT YOURSELF.
Still not in state wow, after all this........ lol, what do I DO... KEEP GOING.
I gave myself a time-out, cuz I was getting too excited..... and BAM, by then it was time to get the bus....
FINALLY --- I let go out the outcome..... phew....... such a relief............ RELAXING, EXPRESSION, SELF-AMUSEMENT... must have taken at least 10/15 sets.......  (and the mind perception -- "I'm going home")
(I go in hard on some dude cuz i thought it was friend i know... turns out it was random dude. DAMN, i went balls deep-- full expression of self--- and NOTHING HAPPENED... actually the dude left after a while.... LESSON: it's ok to go HARD---- as long as i'm BEING MYSELF---- no character wink)
On the bus, some dude offers share a beer as we talk... YES, I partake..... 
Expression, offer value (hint: Presence, BEING ME-- getting out of my own way, relaxed)......
Talk to this dude and chick... we end up chilling over coffee for more than an hour after bus... iphone games, looking at photos, talking -- BEING NORMAL, no CONVEYING VALUE, NOT EVEN TRYING NOT TO TRY.... Get it !!!??

The chick adds herself on skype from my phone. THAT is smooth. No effort.. COOL PEOPLE CONNECT WITH COOL PEOPLE.
Done. Stay chill, no anxiety..
Tomorrow WEEKEND!!!
Tonight took a two hour walk alone in the cold to take my mind off bullshit low consciousness thought AND about 15 approaches, getting blown out and GOING BACK... to finally, PAINSTAKINGLY get there...... RELAX.

***NOTES from the night:
Thursday nov 17.
Going out. Letting food digest-- for hour half before decisons...
Going to chill in bar or walk around .. Feel a bit uncertainty (drinking)-- moral compass -- holding out, but feels like bursting valve.
Forgot condom -- freedom from outcome. Make boredom, comfort, relaxation the goal.
Commence the one hour 58 rule.
Decision time 10 minutes ago. I've been on grand tour of all the bar in lausanne, so far. Comfortable, relaxed. Need to pee soon. Ate some peanuts. Happy. Got over the "I need a drink" like 50 minutes. Walking happy now
Yep, good.
No care.. Even go out -- why... Ok.. Just relax. Smile
0207 hugs look at try to kiss in street.
Legends of the hidden temple -cross paths
0251 positive. I choose my mind -- any circumstace-- reveals a positive man.
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 When things are serendipitous, they make sense.
Tonight (Friday) I kept within the limit for booze, had an AMAZING dinner, and did approaches.
I pushed myself.
I went back, even when I was scared, even when there was any other kind of thought telling me I couldn't do it.
It's a long period of growth. The best approach I did tonight was direct, focused, and very grounded.
I dealt with a lot of bullshit --- FEAR, a guy in my face telling me he'd fuck me up physically. At first I ran. Scared. And then I went back -- focused on the girl.
The girls really don't care. What pissed me off was that I AM A GOOD GUY... I just was not stepping HARD enough..... 
Gotta blow that shit out of the water. The dude became docile.... I think I helped him close her. I hope he'd have done the same for me.
:::EATING SAUERKRAUT:::
So the night consisted of being in social environments. Getting over the fact of social pressure (people looking at my shit... or people seeing the shit I do)..... AND REACHING FULL-EXPRESSION....
Unapologetic is the best.
Anywho-- I followed the process and fell in love with some girls, who broke my heart. I took responsibility for my attitutde through all the bullshit --- realizing I CAN BE HAPPY, no matter what... THAT IS within my control.
Pretty well happy the whole night, not letting shit piss me off 
Relaxing into nothing (anti-stimulation)
A girl who's ok and lives near me , found me in the club and said she had a ride for me... it was a shot i could have taken, but didn't in favour of going out more (FRIDAY)... I am happy with the extra references I earned.... (+ didnt want to wait in the club for her -- cuz I wasnt sure it was a DONE deal... anyway) WE PLANNED FOR DINNER TOMORROW, and I said "I am coming to your house"... what she wants..... we'll see, 6:30pm.

After the two hour rule ended, I DID ONE APPROACH, and no pressure let shit flow from there... which it did, nicely.... 

*LESSONS
I realized that cool guys don't tool physically, and the importance of investigating for a wider picture... something to think about as a reason for no booze...
Another one is a girl said "don't blame shit on me" that's a good one to remember: TAKE RESPONSIBILITY...!
Good. I stepped it with hot chicks.... keep going, and let the natural momentum (of entitlement) flow. Natural instincts allow the intent to arise.
Choosing happiness through every circumstance.
also, eye contact is important.

Notes during the night:
Install habits, then play. Autopilot: Go!
November 18, 2011.
1137 two hour rule
Chillin in [high] end venue.. Retard
From dinner 3 wine. 55 mins in one wiskey.. Relax into nothing (anti-stimulated)
Found chair-- hour. Chilling with drink . Intend meditation style relaxaton
6:30 dinner w/ chick 2moro. (tonight: "we have ride for you" -- I go out on MY terms)
-- extracold beer cuz I like it. But -- free from outcome. Hahahaha nope, it's closed.
[distinguish] Thought from reality. The map is not the territory, they say
Timer rang. I did ONE approach.
Got a drink. Chill chill-- be normal. Allow good to enter reality, naturally. Smile. Chill.
Dance, relax, groove: inconspicuous
Fuck circumstance-- I be happy.
When in the most fucking state, how do I tool. Guys. Hint: not physically. hahahahaha
0330 incentive. Whoa! THAT'S what the average approach will look like. Super hot finnish, cooled out chick. Direct + normal.
Never could I have dreamed of doing that 5 years ago
Stepping up hard. In face direct. Lead, + normal.
-- push that envelope. This is how I learn. Be ok. No violence. The doesn't give a fuck.
Establish with her.
"don't blame shit on me"
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Notes from the night pretty well descriptive of process (the focus is more on what I DIDN'T DO -- like jeffy's "dont say stupid shit" -- then anything I DID... It's a process of RELAXATION and LETTING GO):
Went to dinner and actually acted normal. Didn't try to hookup with her. Focused and relaxing -- in the sense of not even spiking, or trying. Watching moments unfold. No trying. Bus to town at 2153.
Will go for beer in town. No needy-- being out + single is enough. Just see-- momentum built from previous days. Intent is hot girls, but I don't give a fuck-- no trying for outcome. Detached.
Ok-- I go to where the beer is cheaper first, cuz happy hour. Ok-- i bring my cool (stay chilled out)-- corner for an hour with beer nonsense (universe) ok for me. I can't wait to start 2 hour rule. Hehehehe, chill.
So excited I ordered my pint before starting 2 hour rule. Tonight I'm doing a 1 hour 58. Beer drink.
Play the game-- this human life. C'mon integrate :p
Thought: "oh! I want her." Reaction: --oh, hmm.. That interesting :p non-craving awareness of thought. Amusing-- ie, non-craving; happy.

"intention - an anticipated outcome that is intended or that guides your planned actions"

1115 poop in the high end venue. Nice clean bathroom. One day people will poop at my place too :)
The extracold beer DOES NOT WORK. hahahah keep going. Adventure-- no idea what to expect next... Walking.

Cool open space rock bar. Belgian beer with honey -- kinda rock and roll envirnment. Hot girls here. I'm in 2 hour rule -- it's not even midnight, no pressure. I feel it just her standing next to me. Relax and focus "in" self.

Think of the coolest thing possible (person who you respect-- lifestyle perspective)--- strive towards :::becoming::: that. --- something along the lines of "I am awesome"--- keep growing! :D

Framing myself in situations where I am the 'high value dude'. Happiness, love, and bringing value--- (being)

Remember: three forms of meaning (viktor frankl) -- 1) "thankful" creation; an accomplished positive action. 2) people met / loved; experiences lived 3) choosing (happiness) attitude (dignity) dispite an unmitigable (externally imposed) suffering

Next mission: look for a GOOD place to eat--- within 30 mins. No white flour or sugar. Walk around-- have fun!
:)
FAIL. Penalty: pay cover. Get peanuts.

Relaxing into environment. Circumstances change. Stay unreactive to the positive. Like boredom, boring. Key word: RELAX.

Aim: super models, true. Relax
0200 peanuts and another beer (just had big water previous)

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At this we decide to leave bar  (group of people whom I know that i'd integrated with-- theres one hot girl and im getting comfortable talking to her,, but not the pull) ---- i do a fun approaches, mostly dancefloor but general fun, social. 
the last approach i do, direct, renders a "no thanks"... and I say, "at least slap me" (playfully) she does, and then kisses me on the cheek. that's when I click ON.
"Slap = natural kiss"

We're going to a club just down the street. theres a big line and i playfully flirt with this girl. it's on. And bam. it's just LEAD LEAD LEAD, walk the dog.
Im cool with her friends. VERY NICE MOMENT looking in the eyes, seeing REAL PEOPLE.

I go with her (take her) to another bar. there are some drunk dude and this is the point where we lock in -- I am with her, and she is with me.

Then suggest she takes bus with me, no go. More time needed. We sit, we talk, we walk around, we flirt, we play.

We go in front of Mcdonalds and I throw tomatoes at her.
We go to public wifi, and I cement the Man-woman dynamic by hooking up facebook.

I am persistent in my asking us to go home together.
She steals my hat. that annoys me, but I can't show it.
I buy a bus ticket for my home and we have 15 mins before the bus.  I was ready and will to lose all if need be and go home. She says I can come to her place, and BAM-- radar on go find taxi mode.

I eat cookies she made, at her place. 
We drink wine and play the Sims (the whole night, had been talking/thinking about digital consciousness)

SOME LMR: "why are u here?" me: " you're not seperate from life. Relax."
Then a fuck up -- cuz my cock went out of nowhere like WHOA, and it scared her she asked me to stop, and when I did she was already afraid. I do understand-- I am a guy she just met. she needs TRUST... and my BEING GENTLE... big lessons.
*Being gentle. Trust was the key for her.
I have good intentions. I'm not like other guys. I stand up and take what I want. I choose happiness.
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 No access to notes from last night cuz theyre on a non-interneted iPhone.. But I wanted to update the thread anyway.. So I'm here !
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Last night was - a Wednesday - in Malaga Spain. I had NO IDEA that this little "town" had such a crazy nightlife. Tons of hot girls, tons of bars, clubs, (cheap drinks), and friendly people. I went out alone, that's the victory first of all, as I widened my experience of what's possible. I walked around, went to Irish pub, then this super chic, cool bar, with LOTS of hot girls. Eventually I did approach all the hotties. I integrated into this cool group, and found myself coming to a fearless, understanding, and honest headspace.
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At first I wasn't even able to feel I COULD approach. By the end I found myself thinking about, and dealing with other "issues" like pull logistics, and eye contact, body language, looking in the girl's eyes to actually SEE the girl, and having a NORMAL conversation with super hot chick. 
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A night out of approaching is a night of success. Keep going, and having fun!I'll be on a boat for the next 2 weeks. Peace
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 Signed up for Tyler's DC bootcamp.
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 went out last night. was pioneering a concept called chodidation. something like trying to get validation from chode to get yourself into self-amused non giving a fuck headspace.
i approached the hotties. and did do approaches, even if i "didn't feel like it"....
saw friend pull and we left bar early. 
was mostly nice night to going out with him, and I'm glad to have more + references of meeting chicks.
Focus on: non-needy, playful, fun, sexual, bringing value, being a person, attunement to her subjective emotional reality, no self-seeking in other people's opinion.
Also, being happy and choosing attitude un-correlated to circumstancal "society" group think of good/bad.
Feeling good by being who i am and living in alignment with my own set standards.
Best approach: self-amused man-woman, squared up in her face, physically playful, standing CLOSE and weight on back of heels. Having fun with it, natural.
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 Donald Trump doesn't give a fuck what anyone thinks:
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 I'm in DC. I went out in DC, and I can't conclude anything but awesome.
I went out . I was with a friend. I had a make out. I led some random dudes I'd never met to a kebab place .. I had drinks . I talked to girls.  I got frustrated at not pulling.i stayed until closing time. I wanted to own. I turned out weird . Sometimes.i kept my cool. And I went for it.

Nothingto say.
Probably drank too much. I really want this. Time to own. I REALLY want this
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