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October 22nd, 2014
I feel like I'm wasting my college years...
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digitalbuddha

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Join Date: 10/06/2009 | Posts: 34

Before going to college I had all these visions of how easy it would be to get laid and meet girls.  After getting to college last year I realized the environment I'm in doesn't affect anything, it's up to ME to make something happen.  Unfortunately this realization (like most I have) didn't actually motivate me to go out and do anything about it.  I'm now a sophomore, almost done with my 3rd semester.  I'm basically still a virgin (I fucked a fat chick while I was really wasted during my 1st semester), and haven't had even so much as a prospect of a girl to hook up with in the past 8-9 months.

I read Conquer Your Campus before going back to school this semester.  It's a really good book with a lot of really good advice for college game.  It basically tells you how you need to build a life at school that people want to be a part of, and be the one everyone is hitting up on weekends for something to do.  However this semester I feel like I've lost a part of myself.  I live with two other guys, my two best friends at school.  Together, the three of us and our other good friend built that social circle conquer your campus was talking about.  We've got a solid group of girls that we party with 2-4 nights every week.  There's two of them who are kind of the core of the group who are really attractive, and a third who looks ok but has never even hooked up with a guy (NOT getting involved with that).  The rest of the girls are kind of orbiters of the group, but come party with us cause we throw good parties in our room and bring them to solid parties elsewhere.

One of my roomates started fucking one of the hot ones about a month ago.  The other hot one has had a boyfriend since high school, but my other roomate hooked up with her anyway.  She kinda freaked out and told her boyfriend about it, but that's kind of irrelevant.  My point is, I basically live vicariously through my roomates.  It really sucks.  I'm always a big hit at our parties and shit cuase I'm always getting drunk and having fun with everyone else, but I'm not sexual at all!  I'm just that fun guy.  I fucking hate it.  I've hooked up with one girl in the past 9 months, and I seriously cannot even remember the last time I was rejected.  I think it's been over a year since a girl even rejected me.  I have not even put myself in a situation that a girl CAN reject me.  I thought that living with guys who actually have some game would make me better, but it has not worked for me at all.  I just get way inside my head and they basically end up AMOGing me because I'm too much of a pussy to do anything about it.

So basically, my college life is pretty fucked up.  Nothing in my living situation right now is helping me get laid at all.  College is supposed to be one of the easiest places to meet women and get laid, and I'm really fucking it up.  So I turn to you for help RSD.  As you can tell I've got a pretty fucked up belief system that needs changing, as well as some practical advice on how I can break out of this funk and start meeting women and becoming my OWN man, seperate from my friends.
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sirex

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Join Date: 04/11/2009 | Posts: 705

Do you really want to be the guy that everyone is bugging about what to do this weekend? Do you really think thats so great and awesome? Seems like youre sad that you aren't getting the attention you want. Then when you start getting it, youre going to not want it, or unless youre an attention whor and love that shit and its what you aspire to become- a tucker max of sorts. That really sounds like what youre problem is though, it sounds like youre sad that youre not a copy cat of the stereotypical college guy that parties hard and gets laid like a champ because Wait a second, thast what MOVIES and TV tell us.

So youre unhappy youre not living up to the Television hype. Woopdy doo. Why dont you form youre own identity instead of crying about an identity you cant seem to copy? Do you know how annoying it is to have your phone ringing from people you barely know, or care about? Its annoying as shit. You become the person that fills other peoples voids that have nothing better to do, always looking for the party and for you to bring in it. fuck that shit.

I dont know what your degree is in, from the sounds of it, probably some B.A., probably why youre not happy, because its probably to easy and doesn't keep you very occupied. Id work on getting your grades high as fuck and going to masters school though and finishing up with this part of your life. Im not saying dont have fun in college, but sounds like you think that if you dont party hard like in the movies, youre going to die a lonely, unfullfilled man.. Give me a break. Do what you want. If you really want to party every night and be that dude, do it until it burns you out. Its not hard to do, you have a few "cool friends already " doesn't seem to be to hard to live it up in that regards.

People go to college to learn. If youre going there to get laid and be like the playboy from the last TV show, or movie about college, you should re-evaluate youre life because youre there for the wrong reason.
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digitalbuddha

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Sirex I think you really misinterpereted what I said.  I was kind of over-generalizing the book.  I'm not looking to be the guy that a bunch of random people to call to figure out where the party is at, I'm just a virgin trying to get laid and not have to worry to death everyday that my dick is dry.  Being the center of attention wasn't really the point of the post...nor do I really care about being the center of attention.  Like I said, I DO get lots of attention while I'm partying, my problem lies in being sexual and having basic confidence to do what I want.

M8knMoves thanks for clarifying some shit for me.  I know I kind of already know what I need to do, but the problem kind of lies one degree beyond just knowing it, I need to actually DO It.  But it's hard for me to actually do things, I'm the type of person who will read about this shit for 3 years and not actually do anything about it.  I need a plan of action.  Whenever I even think about "asking for the sale", I get super nervous and just start saying chode stuff.  I don't act like a guy who's been fucked before, or who's gonna fuck that night, I just end up acting like a chode.

Also, I need some advice on meeting girls both during the day and at night when I'm partying.  During my 3 semesters I've probably only met about 3-4 girls from class, which is pretty pathetic.  Class should be a good place to meet chicks and be flirty.  I have horrible AA in class, and whenever I do eventually open when having AA I totally bomb cuase I just sat there thinking about my horrible approach anxiety for 10 minutes (such a vicious circle lol).  As far as night game goes, I SHOULD be doing WAY better than I am.  I've got like 2-3 hot girls with me everytime I'm out partying.  I'm pretty tight with these chicks, we chill all the time.  They could wing the shit out of me if I actually knew what I was doing.
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sabster

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 this conquer your campus book is good in that it explains that college is like a social circle, but this thing basically just reinforces it the whole time not really giving practical advice. ya u have to be the 20% man. just be confident, just do it. o ya meet girls at parties and at the coffee shop and use this line. 

jargon jargon. 

anyway, it sounds like you have a good core group of friends. so my advice to you would be to go meet girls at parties, which it sounds like you do go to parties. then you invite these girls to come pre game with you next time before you go out. or ask them to hangout sometime. or just like this book says, go up to some random chick and be like, how's it going. just be friendly.. i noticed if i talk to girls in the day, they are super interested in talking. my campus is like everyone is walking in a daze.

one time when i was crazy pick up mode in the beginning of the year, i went up to this chick and was like wow you are so cute omg whats your name. i had NO cold approach skills during the day when i did this, i was freaking out during this convo, but she was all like, omg your all confident this is such a freshmen move bla bla bla. it actually went good, it was a flake, but it was because i could only talk ot her for like 30 seconds, so if i stayed in longer, i couldve gotten number, but i was freaking out.

but yea, my advice to you would just be try daygame. im trying at it hard, but i always stop myself, its what im trying to work on too. but when i get the balls to do it, it works. and this book is bullshit when it says, urrr wait until the end of class to talk to a girl. that is structured bullshit, just talk to a girl whenever, ive had way good convos with girls in the beginning, then kept talking to them after. way good. 

anyway, i'd say your in a good position right now just because you have that social circle all ready. i'd just say invite extra people along, and you'll grow and start becoming the "leader of men" by inviting people. dude girls are sick of hanging out with the same guys, if you gotta cool group of friends, they'd be way down. and you'd look way cool.

anyway, let us know how it goes, im curious, im kinda in the same boat, trying to rebuild a more permanent social circle like you have. game on bro
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digitalbuddha

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Thanks Sabster thats some good stuff.

Balls definitely seem to be the biggest issue here for me.  If I'm gonna approach I'm gonna have to sack up.  My approach anxiety on campus is pretty ridiculous, I freeze up hardcore.  Rejections really get to me, which is why I kind of hide in my shell and never put myself in these sexual situations.  I feel like if I keep posting on the forums though that will be more of a motivator to actually make something of myself and not just sit here thinking about how much of a pussy I am :-p

As far as night-game goes, I really need work on my dancefloor game.  Most parties at my school kind of revolve around the dancefloor, and I always end up looking awkward when I show up with my friends and they brought girls to dance with, and I gotta choose between dancing with their ug friends or just standing there.  I usually just end up bailing and smoking cigs outside.  I feel like smoking cigs outside is actually a really good place to meet chicks, but I'm always all flustered from the awkwardness of the dancefloor.  Should I just be dancing with random girls while I'm in there?  I'm not really a very good dancer, which doesn't help my self esteem at these parties lol.  Plus I fucking hate that top 40 bullshit music.
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HPRJ

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Join Date: 09/27/2009 | Posts: 459

 join a fraternity if its an option. makes things ALOT easier. 

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/135273

read that topic, it might help you out a little bit.
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digitalbuddha

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HPRJ wrote:
 join a fraternity if its an option. makes things ALOT easier. 

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/135273

read that topic, it might help you out a little bit.
I actually pledged my first semester.  It was one of the most miserable experiences of my life.  I have never regretted anything more.  I don't need that bullshit, I have a good social circle already that I don't have to pay $1000 a year for.
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HPRJ

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 touche. but anyways, that field report still may help.
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digitalbuddha

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Yeah dude I just read through your shit, it's really good stuff.  Although I'm not in a fraternity, sometimes my social circle feels that way.  There's really just 4 of us (me, my two roomates, and our best buddy who crashes in our room pretty much every night haha) but we've got a very strong group mentality.  I was mentioning earlier in this thread how I'd actually like to break away from that sometimes because the group mentality kind of sacrifices part of who I am as an individual.  Nevertheless, I do know how you feel having some guys who always have your back, and also guys who aren't gonna be complete chodes around chicks you bring over (although sometimes I feel like this would make me look better lol).

Are there any activites you do with your brothers where you meet girls on campus?  I've been telling my buddies we should get more involved on campus, even if it is with something kind of lame.  Outside of partying we really don't meet many people, and even then it's always us and our girls so were kind of closed off to others.
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Do NOT join a fraternatity.  Remember college is still about your education.  And your likelyhood of having a good education is drastically reduced if you join a frat.  A much better idea is to have a large part of your social circle be from frats.  All the benefits without any of the commitments.

I personally think you're too much inside your head.  I suggest you shut up and just do it.

You have a goal.  You know how to get there.  So just do it.  You're having a hard time pulling the trigger.  You just gotta start approaching.

BE STUPID.  STOP THINKING.




So at the next party when you see a hot girl just start walking towards her.  Do not do start thinking.  You can start thinking about it after you've had sex with her.  But until that time, just GO.

I honestly think none of what we tell you is gonna help you.  Hate to break it to you man but you're the only one who can overcome this.  No amount of NLP or self help or eckhart tolle or tyler durden or whatever is gonna make you pull the trigger.  Ultimately the decision is with you. 

You've got to choose:  Red Pill (You will possibly go through one of the most terrifying experiences of your life for a greater goal.  Even though there is a possibility of not achieving the goal) or Blue Pill (You will continue to be miserable but it will be a sure thing you will be miserable.  No unknowns.)

Everytime I or any other guy goes in field and picks up a girl we all have to make that decision.

Make your decision and follow through.  No regrets and no stalling.  Time is precious.
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HPRJ

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 alot of frat hating on this board lol! for the record, it has been statistically proven that greeks have a higher overall GPA then non greeks. 

dude, there's been many atimes where i have pussied out on an approach. i ALWAYS end up regretting it. i can deal with rejection alot better then regretting something.

trust yourself and your facilities, and just fucking do it. its college, who the fuck cares

stay strong, progress will come
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