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i always wondered, but is it okay to blink? ive always avoided looking people in the eye, and when i try to im scared to blink for whatever reason.
How could you not blink?What are you just gonna stare and Manson her?
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Sales Manager: You have no previous sales experience, I don't think you can handle rejection.
BonoboTimes: Your right, I don't. However, I've been fucking models since I was 17. I've dealt with being called ugly, stupid, gay, creep, asshole, and a bunch of other shit. Been told to go away, don't talk to me, go fuck yourself, and I'm not interested by over three thousand women and groups of people. I can handle rejection better than anyone on this lot if not city. Not only that, I never leave. I will follow the customer across the fucking street if I have to. I simply do not give a fuck. I close.
Evil Stifler: "My internal cheerleaders are on my team, bro. They're like, GO, GO, GO, GO!"
Eckhart Tolle: "Adam and Eve saw that they were naked, and they became afraid."
TheFADER: "The club is always a place I can count on to get complete peace and quiet while studying my math."
Bonah Jamz 2010~
i always wondered, but is it okay to blink? ive always avoided looking people in the eye, and when i try to im scared to blink for whatever reason.
How could you not blink?What are you just gonna stare and Manson her?
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'A list of things I experienced during this time:
-Looking away on accident, often darting away and back to the eye contact several times
-Becoming extremely anxious, even scared, while forcing myself to hold eye contact, and needing tons of concentration to do it
-Eventually experiencing an intense feeling of calm, with a hint of adrenaline, and learned to enjoy holding eye contact.
-Started to notice very unexpected reactions from people... including attraction, embarassment, indignation, nervousness, friendliness, and respect.'
Woah this is exactly what happened to me!!!
Also this is how i got that napkin number from a stripper (it was at a restaurant not a strip club) while she was on a date
-Looking away on accident, often darting away and back to the eye contact several times
-Becoming extremely anxious, even scared, while forcing myself to hold eye contact, and needing tons of concentration to do it
-Eventually experiencing an intense feeling of calm, with a hint of adrenaline, and learned to enjoy holding eye contact.
-Started to notice very unexpected reactions from people... including attraction, embarassment, indignation, nervousness, friendliness, and respect.'
Woah this is exactly what happened to me!!!
Also this is how i got that napkin number from a stripper (it was at a restaurant not a strip club) while she was on a date
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This also actually reminds me of a "joey" episode
Gina: Come on, you’re good with women. Use your charm.
Joey: Huh, yeah, you’re right. Maybe I’ll win her over with some witty conversation.
Gina: What?
Joey: Nah, I’m just kidding. I’m gonna hit her with my sex ray! (lazer eye contact)
Gina: Come on, you’re good with women. Use your charm.
Joey: Huh, yeah, you’re right. Maybe I’ll win her over with some witty conversation.
Gina: What?
Joey: Nah, I’m just kidding. I’m gonna hit her with my sex ray! (lazer eye contact)
Hey,
I like this thread, but I am not sure about the holding eye contact everytime thing. When I am with a friend for example I dont look them in the eye until they break eye contact every single time, I think its a bit weird. I never look down though, if I break eye contact I move my eyes to the side a bit more slowly, and turn my head as well.
Thoughts?
All the Best.
I like this thread, but I am not sure about the holding eye contact everytime thing. When I am with a friend for example I dont look them in the eye until they break eye contact every single time, I think its a bit weird. I never look down though, if I break eye contact I move my eyes to the side a bit more slowly, and turn my head as well.
Thoughts?
All the Best.
Some science behind these observations:
An excerpt from a business book I own.
A Boston center conducted a study to learn the precise effect of exaggerated eye contact. The researches asked opposite-sex individuals to have a two minute casual conversation. They tricked half their subjects into maintinaing intense eye contact by directing them to count the number of time their partner blinked. They gave the other half of the subjects no specific directions at all. When they questioned the subjects afterwards, the unsuspecting blinkers reported significantly higher feelings of respect and fondness for their colleagues who, unbeknownst to them, had simply been counting their blinks by a factor of 9 to 1 blah blah blah
In addition to awakening feelings of respect and affection, maintaining strong eye contact gives you the impression of being an intelligent and abstract thinker. Because abstract thinkers integrate incoming data more easily than concerte thinkers, they can continue looking into someone's eyes even during the silences. Their thought processes are not distracted by peering into their partner's eyes. blah blah blah
Profoundly gazing into the eyes of the opposite sex has a biological base. When you look intently at someone, it increases their heartbeat and shoots an adrenalinelike substance gushing through their veins. This is the same physical reaction people have when they start to fall in love.
An excerpt from a business book I own.
A Boston center conducted a study to learn the precise effect of exaggerated eye contact. The researches asked opposite-sex individuals to have a two minute casual conversation. They tricked half their subjects into maintinaing intense eye contact by directing them to count the number of time their partner blinked. They gave the other half of the subjects no specific directions at all. When they questioned the subjects afterwards, the unsuspecting blinkers reported significantly higher feelings of respect and fondness for their colleagues who, unbeknownst to them, had simply been counting their blinks by a factor of 9 to 1 blah blah blah
In addition to awakening feelings of respect and affection, maintaining strong eye contact gives you the impression of being an intelligent and abstract thinker. Because abstract thinkers integrate incoming data more easily than concerte thinkers, they can continue looking into someone's eyes even during the silences. Their thought processes are not distracted by peering into their partner's eyes. blah blah blah
Profoundly gazing into the eyes of the opposite sex has a biological base. When you look intently at someone, it increases their heartbeat and shoots an adrenalinelike substance gushing through their veins. This is the same physical reaction people have when they start to fall in love.
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Purposeful Eye Contact. That way you're never creepy. This includes guys and girls. Assertive and Purposeful.
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Purposeful Eye Contact. That way you're never creepy. This includes guys and girls. Assertive and Purposeful.
Elaborate on this Alex. Makes sense but a little more clarification would definitely be appreciated. There is definitely a creepiness factor to be avoided and I think I understand what you're saying. Great post to Suspect and Robotb0ner as well.
You can't hold eye contact with a person and have your head somewhere else. When a person is talking passionately about something, shut up, look them in the eyes, and watch them. Be in the moment. Pay attention to them so intently, that you literally can't be thinking about anything else.
This is the most important part in my opinion. Presence is what's behind this technique. Constant full eye contact goes hand-in-hand with present moment awareness.
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