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December 8th, 2016
Writing Your Gains Down: The Key to Success
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Slojodan

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Hey guys,

As a lot of you know, there's a lot of spirituality incorporated into what I write about.  There's talk of the Law of Attraction, energy healing, and universal woo-woo Tolle on shrooms stuff.  I constantly make an effort to not commit to any particular dogma.  I reevaluate my belief system regularly and do my best to pick a "I don't know; I'm ok with either" rather than a "I know how that works."

One day, I was in a bit of a slump in all areas, and frustrated.  What if my entire worldview was a lie?  What if I'd fallen into simple selective attention and reticular activation system phenomena, and missed the greater picture of what was going on? 

Since self-delusion is always a real possibility in any endeavor, I decided to make a failsafe plan that I knew would not change depending on what belief system I held.  I made a tight list of actions and behaviors that I have 100% proven to make a significant positive difference in life.  Anything suspect in tthe slightest was out.  Visualization was out.  Many releasing practices were out.  Even EFT didn't make the list.  Bear in mind, I still use EFT every day, and believe it has tremendous benefits.  However, it did not make the 100% Proven list of tactics that are as true to me as the Law of Gravity.

Top of the list:  Writing Your Gains Down.

This means that every day, without fail, you write down every good thing that happened to you that day.  It doesn't matter how small.

If you got a bonus at work, write it down.

If you got laid, a kiss close, or a number, write it down.

If you had the balls to talk to a girl you almost walked away from, write it down.

If you made it to the gym, when it had been a while, write it down.

If at Starbucks, your Barista gave you just the right amount of whip on your mocha, write it down.

There are two big things you have to keep in mind when doing this.  

HUGE RULE #1:   No gain is too small.  You're making this list just for yourself, so it's no issue if everyone else you know would say it doesn't count.  If you got the perfect parking spot next to Shop-Rite, most of your friends would likely say "so fucking what?"  It doesn't matter; write it down anyway.  The more little gains you write down, the bigger they will be in the days and weeks to follow.

HUGE RULE #2:   Count gains that happen to everyone.  If you student loan rate goes down, count it as a gain.  It doesn't matter if everyone else in the USA had their interest rate go down with you.  Treat it as if it was personally given to you alone.  Saving $30 bucks a month is great no matter who else gets the prize.  If your football team wins, count it as a gain.  If it's a beautiful day when you're out for a hike, (or even a beautiful day, period), count it as a gain.   I even count gains that happen to my good friends, as if they happened to me.

When I'm really on a roll, I'll have 30 gains reported for the day.  Some people prefer a written journal, but I like using a livejournal/blogger/webjournal account.  Just make sure it's set to private so only you can read it.  It's very easy to sign on real quick at night and type a list of your gains, before going to sleep.  In order that I don't forget, sometimes I carry a tiny pocket-size notebook with me to quickly write down something I might forget.

How does this work?  I don't know, and I don't care.  All I know is that when I look at my Gains Journal, I see the most lays, BJ's, random free gifts, and unexpected money clustered during the times where I was writing the most gains down.  This isn't a "why" post, it's a "how."   Just do it.

--Dan

P.S. - Once you begin writing your gains down and getting successes, watch for the temptation to "skip" the process as might not think you need it anymore.  You'll find that if you get more success than you feel comfortable with, you'll start taking out the very things that helped you get there, just so you won't go too far past your comfort zone.  
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violalee

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Heh, I was actually just going to PM you about writing down gains, then I saw this post. I'll use that as gain #1 shades
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Neil

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Nice stuff. It's better to stay positive rather than negative.
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Radikal

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Hey I think you discovered what looking for the good in any situation is. What I've found over the years is that no matter how fucked up a situation is you can always find something good about it. Spiritual teachers say begin your day with expressing gratitude. It's the same thing, focusing on the good stuff in life. After some time it becomes a habit (just like negativity, criticism), so you don't have to do it consciously.

A lot of guys use positivity just as a technique to handle shit tests and girl related stuff, not as a way of life.
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 Thanks dan for the insight.  Another thing that I like in conjunction with this is doing a "positivity challenge" I think jeffy mentioned it at some point in jeffy show or elsewhere that he did a 7 day positivity challenge where he must stay positive about everything for 7 days.  If you had a negative thought that surfaced and remained in your present mind for more than 2 minutes you had to restart the challenge.  Would be interesting to try that after doing this for awhile.

I think jeffy said he screwed it up once or twice before getting it. It's amazing what petty B.S. surfaces in our present mind and pollutes it.  Like "AAAhhh this freaking line" or "man I'm bummed about this" or whatever.

Great insight.  Love it.

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Bumping this as it seems like a really good, practical way to see the positive in every situation and it ties in with the pull to feel as if you've made progress towards the end goal in mind every day.

I've just started doing this the last 2 days but recalling things from memory I've done throughout the day gives me that "yeah!!" feeling and makes me want to push myself to do more gainful things tomorrow.

Definately implementing this as a habit from now.
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Deft

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Why?, fuck the past, listen to the lyrics

Ozzy is preachin nigga!
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Lowdash

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Hey man,

Could you explain the rationale for this? I am curious.

I do something similar, but i call it: "Gifts from the universe" so anything that is given to me unexpectedly, ill write down. I get a free cookie at subway, i write it down. I unexpectedly get $5, i write it down. Someone helps me out, i write it down. The rationale with it, is based on gratitude. I can focus on the mini gifts in my life, so they increase, and continue.

Is this based on a similar idea? 


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Slojodan

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Sounds like the same thing.  All I know is it works. 

Lowdash69 wrote:
Hey man,

Could you explain the rationale for this? I am curious.

I do something similar, but i call it: "Gifts from the universe" so anything that is given to me unexpectedly, ill write down. I get a free cookie at subway, i write it down. I unexpectedly get $5, i write it down. Someone helps me out, i write it down. The rationale with it, is based on gratitude. I can focus on the mini gifts in my life, so they increase, and continue.

Is this based on a similar idea? 


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Lowdash

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Slojodan wrote:
Sounds like the same thing.  All I know is it works. 

I am a "woo woo" guy

Sometimes i have days of doubt, when im not sure if the "woo woo" stuff even works 

The way i see it, doing stuff like this makes me feel good, and it creates a "feel good" feedback loop, which brings in more. There could be some energy/karmic reasons too, but not really sure.


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Slojodan

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From an atheist universe standpoint, it could simply be that your RAS turns to the good things, and helps you then spot opportunities to get more good things, send out a better vibe to people to get better treatment, and then makes you more motivated to act on what will help you.

It could simply mean the universe switches to give luck in your favor.  All the gurus, spiritual or atheist, say gratitude is a huge deal in success.  Could be anything.
Lowdash69 wrote:

Slojodan wrote:
Sounds like the same thing.  All I know is it works. 

I am a "woo woo" guy

Sometimes i have days of doubt, when im not sure if the "woo woo" stuff even works 

The way i see it, doing stuff like this makes me feel good, and it creates a "feel good" feedback loop, which brings in more. There could be some energy/karmic reasons too, but not really sure.


Cheers
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If you'd like to know how I got to this mindframe, read my post:  How to Choose an Inner Game Program
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