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December 3rd, 2016
The Importance of Reading a Girl's Emotions
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Manwhore

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Tons of you have asked me how I interact with girls in such a cavemannish, forceful and sexually dominant manner.   It's got everything to do with my ability to read emotions, and more importantly, my ability to project a STRONG emotional state that a girl can pick up on and feel inspired to follow.   Many times a girl's emotional state can be disregarded and giving it too much focus will very well be a detriment.  For all you super die-hard ladies men.. this one's for you. 

I actually recently found out many many guys lack this simple ability.  It’s similar to keyword tracking in online marketing. If you don’t have any keyword tracking, you’re driving with a muddy windshield.. you have no idea where you’re going and in what direction you’re going. You're simply moving forward.

Now for a lot of guys who are sensitive to other's emotions, and trying to learn game, it can be a curse.. because they're reactive to a girl's emotions in a negative way. Guys without this ability, or foreign guys who aren't used to reading American girls, just plow with abandon and can get some shit done. So understand picking up this ability might not necessarily be the best thing at first..

This is one of those times focusing on the skillset will help you more than focusing on getting the girl.

This also explains why sexual direct doesn’t work for a lot of guys.. they throw something out there super sexual, the girl reads them, and can tell they’re a fraud. But then this is also not the healthiest realization for a guy learning direct game.

However if you are always centered, witnessing reactions or emotions without being encumbered by them, you're at an extreme advantage. You definitely want to develop this ability if you lack it. Now trying to break it down into steps that can be learned is like trying to understand how waves come from deep oceanic currents. I ping off people several times a second.. it's like sonar, and I can detect minute changes in emotional state from one second to the next. I can tell if a guy gets laid a lot or not, if a girl is socially saavy or not, if she’s ready to be fucked, how I make her feel, if she’s out at the club looking to hook up, or simply there to socialize with her girls etc.

None of this would matter however, if I lacked the "inner game" required to actually DO something with this ability. The underlying principle, is that I observe, and work to INFLUENCE and CHANGE a girl’s emotions to MY purpose. Most of the time its very subtle, the girl trusts me and goes along with it. It's what a girl wants; a man that can lead her emotionally. However if its a difficult situation, and I simply don’t like a girl’s reaction.. I can simply punch through her reaction and force her to see things my way.

Now the problem most guys have is that they might say something, but then not have the balls to observe the reaction- (they look away) or not possess the internal authority needed to decide to change a girl’s emotional state to something else. They’re simply reactive to the girl’s state, so however the girl reacts, that’s the bottom line. Sure sometimes the girl reacts well and they progress, but many times the girl reacts badly- especially with guys developing game, and there’s no attempt to shift the girl’s emotional state. In truth, most of the top guys- I can't think of a single one that doesn't- communicates beforehand, how he expects the girl to respond to what he's saying. This is probably one of the major keys to game actually. When I say something sexual, I'm projecting at the girl how I want her to respond. When Tyler used one of his trademark routines he projected at the girls, using tonality and facial expression to show dominance over them, he showed how he expected them to respond. When Mystery talks to girls he sounds like he's talking to a six-yr old, and so he is projecting that he wants them to respond to him like he's their daddy.

Another point is most guys try to act stoic. They think this is the manly thing to do. However, girls know that’s bullshit. To be stoic usually only means you’re hiding weak emotions. That’s why girls are attracted to guys that show emotions, they know emotions are authentic, so they’re getting a look at a guy’s real core. Stoic (not showing emotions) is easy.. anyone can do that. But with life experience, most girls come to understand that being stoic is usually a front. Putting your emotions on the line and projecting them.. that’s REAL strength.

However here comes the difference between “Dancing Monkey” and Sexworthy. Sexworthy is projection of a certain purpose, or endstate in mind. It can be unspoken, never even explicitly stated to a girl, but she KNOWS you're a sexual guy and if she doesn't signal that she wants it, she'll lose out. Now your typical Hollywood style pua will get a lot of reactions from girls because he’s bouncy and energetic. But they’re not sexual responses. To get a sexual response, you must display a strong sexual state.

Let’s discuss being sexual verbally.. I say something sexual, I'll see the girl look at me to gauge my resolve, and I'll flex my frame/core, almost like flexing my abs when I see a hit coming, she'll see this, or maybe already KNOW it, and she'll have a slight intake of breath, her lips open slightly. I've put her into a sexual state.. and I'll grab her because I know she's mine. I'm like a fucking boa constrictor with a mouse, when I feel that little breath- I know to squeeze tighter. Many many times however, especially with higher-value girls, she will NOT show that she's gauging me, so I'll have to appear completely at ease with what I just said, and act like it's nothing. Best thing to do in this case is to keep talking about whatever random topic you were discussing beforehand. This is beginner to intermediate. Most of the time I’m simply talking and sexual topics come up. I can discuss blowjobs with a girl and not even have a thought to her reaction. She’ll read this and know it’s ok to discuss it with me. This being said, you don’t want to fall into dancing sexual monkey frame. If you’re trying to get sexual with a particular girl, and start talking about sexual stuff.. you need to communicate you’re making a personal sexual connection to her. In your eyes and tonality. Otherwise you’re fun entertainer guy she gets to talk about sex with. A lot of guys think they’ve arrived when they get to speak about sexual stuff freely with a girl. Nope.

The biggest leap guys will make, is when they learn to project a strong sexually dominant state, that they’re super relaxed and unapologetic about.

BIG POINT: Many times a girl’s sexual communication or body language, is simply stating that she’s SURRENDERED. She hasn’t communicated anything sexual at all, she’s simply surrendered to your frame. This is how MOST girls are. This is how they communicate on a sexual level. As one of the most dominant and bad ass girls I’ve ever known told me “I don’t care how strong or dominant you think a chick is, to a girl, sex is SURRENDER. She’s opening up her body to be penetrated. There’s no dominance there. She’s surrendered herself.”

Damn.

That’s why guys that don’t understand, accuse me of sometimes. They saw no sexual “yes” from the girl, simply saw me escalate on her without “verbal consent” (lol), and assumed it was some form of force. No, the girl was in full compliance, but in the society we live in.. girls most of the time simply cannot give consent. Or they’re deemed sluts. Incredibly stupid as I believe girls are MUCH more sexual than guys. I know I don’t moan and scream when I’m fucking. Tyler probably does ; ). Alex?


A guy in the San Diego lair showed footage of a set he entered at a bar. As he walked into the set and began to talk, one of the girls slighty bowed her head and began subtly bouncing up and down. Boom.. sexual state. The dude didn't recognize it and so didn't act on it. This will happen from time to time, you come in hard, speak with the right subcommunication, and the girl communicates you've unlocked her. When a guy enters a girl's space that meshes with her idea of being a guy she'll have sex with, she enters what I call the "fresh girly zone", her eyes will be wider, she'll be super responsive to what he's saying, even perspire a bit more. And potentially be very physically active- like slightly dance in place (like the girl in the vid). That’s rare however. To me that’s like her putting a big neon sign over her head that says “Fuck my MOUTH”. I'd say the #1 thing to look out for is how closely a girl is paying attention to you. If a girl's locked onto you.. it's on. If you're in an interaction, but not giving much to it, and the girl is talking to you and leaning forward, has excitement(emotion) to what she's telling you.. escalate. Self-amusement is also extremely similar to this. The guy is self-amusing, talking out of his ass in a self-rhythmic manner and displaying that he's amused with himself. The girl is simply watching a guy who's unreactive to her, not giving her much at all, yet having a great time. She'll just get sucked right in.  It's like watching a really good movie and wanting to be part of it.   I watched Brad in field a few times and he's got this to the hilt.

Emotions are a big thing in social dynamics. They are GENUINE and girls are biologically hardwired to react to them. This is why we use humor to mask sexual escalation. Humor, or intense emotion, masks logical thought patterns like ASD. Because when emotions are involved, logic is simply not needed. Its also why even if a girl's angry with us, it's a good thing.

I had a girl meet me for a champagne brunch several months back. I'd met her a couple nights before at a club, hadn't even kissed her. She got super lost trying to find her way through the beach streets and got very stressed out, to the point of crying. I thought it was funny and didn't help her much over the phone, even ignoring her calls. By the time I got to her, she was an emotional mess. I quickly pulled my dick out and had her stroking it, ripping open her shirt so I could squeeze her breasts and suck on them.  Fucking awesome. I know many of you will think I'm a bastard for this.. but seriously I was simply responding on a biological level. And gawdamit her tits were fucking amazing.

I wish I could show a picture of the girl's face. To me it’s like a beacon call. Usually I simply respond, and at this point I'm wired to respond without thinking, and can enter that state easily from most other states, even super logical ones. The fucked up thing is I can't think of a single movie scene where you can see a girl enter sexual state, or entering a surrendered state. It's almost like a secret they don't want getting out, plus most of these girls are in too much of a logical state of mind (they’re acting) to actually enter such a highly emotional and vulnerable state. If anyone can think of one let me know. I'll try to think of maybe a porn scene I've seen. Angelina Jolie is a great role model for how a GUY should act when displaying sexual prowess. That half-smile and those glaring eyes. That's fuckworthy. Too bad it's a girl. Katie Holmes in The Gift enters a sexual state, but she's very dominant about it and its not quite what I'm looking for. In fact now that I think about it, there are COUNTLESS movie examples of girls displaying the dominant sexual communication that guys should be employing. It’s almost like they’re trying to teach us something…

You can always spot the girls that love to suck cock because they have their mouths open a bit wider than everyone else, and they just have it open at random moments. Not just this tho- they have a way of looking at people like they're appraising them- or if you're a chode- judging them. ANY girl that looks like she's appraising people, or looking around for something, whether you see it as a negative thing or a good thing, is wanting dick.

There’s more, feel free to ask questions or post up observations.
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Eye contact.

That's the "technique" for reading emotions

But it's also the most revealing.

You read her, and she reads you.

So much communication can happen in an instant, that your logical brain hasn't even gotten the message yet. It goes straight into your subconcious, and creates an instinct within you - a desire, a sense of certainty, an uniterpreted feeling. Depending on how relaxed and in-the-moment you are, it very well may translate directly into action. It will feel like spontaneity. Your logical mind kept out of the loop, not even knowing what's going on or how you ended up with this girl cornered against the wall and her wanting so much more .... WOOSH.

Not just looking, seeing.
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double post
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great stuff man...

thsnk for sharing...shades
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I like this article. Thanks Manwhore

I have always been told since I was young that I had a 'womans intuition' ha ha, because I can read people very easily and tell what emotions they are feeling most of the time. The thing I lacked though was the ability to express my emotions properly, because I was always living in reaction to others and what I was observing.

Now I am able to express my emotions more freely without fear of judgement, I have learnt I can affect the emotions people are feeling very easily whether they be good or bad. i can actually get someone to feel the emotion I want to them to feel.....because the majoraty of people are living in reaction just like I was. 

So what was my weakness is now my strength. Funny how that works.

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Shittt my sex is on fire. Manwhore stilll rockin it. 
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AÎM HÎGH wrote:
i can actually get someone to feel the emotion I want to them to feel.....because the majoraty of people are living in reaction just like I was. 

I have this look or something that I use.. It is basically a command to smile and it hasn't failed once. I use it sometimes when I feel like it. No words needed, just a certain look. I also have the serious face, which means I'm not kidding. I used to fuck around a bit with it and say some bullshit and people would buy it, because I had the serious look. With some people and depending on the situation, it takes a while for the look to kick in. I tell you man, it's fucking weird. I somehow stumbled upon these from the emotional principle, I'm first, others follow.

Other than that, I like Manwhore's post. Staying centered and still seeing the reaction does need quite some practise. I'm probably of the type who is more sensitive to other people's emotions and has more trouble being centered than vice versa. I can feel my focus shifting quite alot at times from me to them and back, if anybody has any idea what I mean.
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You guys have some great personal insights on this subject. 

Yes I know the smile command and serious face too haha.  Aim High I think most people with this sense of other people start out reactive.  It's leadership development and trust in your own faculties that turns it in the right direction.  
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explain plz
GreyMatter wrote:



AÎM HÎGH wrote:
i can actually get someone to feel the emotion I want to them to feel.....because the majoraty of people are living in reaction just like I was. 

I have this look or something that I use.. 
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IvánPérez

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I think the movie Meet Joe Black has a few of what you are trying to communicate or it can be that I'm love with Forliani's lips and look.

I remember how my last girlfriend was in sexual state whenever I was around, which made her chase (and HARD). With all the other girls I've been with I was too busy or drunk to notice so nevermind. I remember one or two more, and also some that I talked to but was not attracted to. When the 'breath' as you call it (something difficult to explain) doesn't appear the girl surrendering is a good signal. Is something I'm experiencing now that I'm more chill with my game (dominating only when is needing and just laying back the rest of the time). She being attentive, quiet and nervous, staring at things (not necesarily your dick LOL), having a gaze in her eyes that indicates emotional investment, etc. are good indicators that you and her can make a sexual deep connection if you want. She is for more than ego and expects of you leading it the right way.

Good thread, coming at the right time. As I gain more experience from the field with this laid back thing I'll post something else here. Insights or questions, whateva.

Cheers.
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- When I'm out: it's me-time. I focus on expressing myself and doing what's fun for me, I don't care about girls. Self-absorbedness.
- 'It's all good, it's going to be fine, I am enough'. No worries or concerns. Let the dynamics work for me.
- Nobody is going to pull girls home for me. Self-image will stop you, take action regardless.
- Focus on finding a girl DTF vs. trying to game/arouse/whatever girl after girl.

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Hey manwhore, this is one of your best articles! Should be front page.

My question: I am pretty emotional and I can sense the feelings and thoughts of someone from 100 MILES away. What can I do in order to be affected less by the reaction of the girl or other people? Since I know RSD it has improved by not caring ehat others think but still it's overwhelming sometimes.

Thanks!
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