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How do you guys go out every night?
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Gorawdog

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Join Date: 09/09/2009 | Posts: 264

I work a 40 hour a week day job. 8am - 6pm mon - fri with every other friday off. How the hell are you guys able to go out everynight?

Are you bartenders, unemployed, live at  home with mommy and daddy, college students?

I'm at a point where I would like to game everyday but I just don't see how it's possible paying the bills. I would consider a career change if I could make enough cash to game every day.
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Occam

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My opinion is that going out everynight is bullshit and not really all that useful.  Sure some guys get either obsessed or just really really focused on this area of their life, and they work on this area of their life to the exclusion of almost everything else.  In the end these guys tend to get very good, but I suspect they get good despite going out every night and not because they went out every night.

When learning anything your brain needs down time to recharge and synthesize what you've learned.  Also in order to be your most attractive, you need to feel good and be healthy.  Going out nightly is generally not good for your health.    If you're out every night, you probably aren't living a balanced life.... and maybe more of a value taker than giver.

I say all this just to make the point that going out every night isn't some sort of requirement.  Go ahead and do it if you can't resist it and are really that into it... but don't think there is some absolute magic to doing this.  
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Hamlet

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It's tough when you're working, no doubt. Lack of sleep is often an issue. Either learn to take naps (I suck at it personally) or just go out to bars and come home early.

Honestly though, I think it's a mistake to assume that going out every night is necessary. It's not how many times a week you go out that matters, it's how hard you push yourself when you do go out. I currently go out 3 times a week but I'm learning lots because I'm ALWAYS pushing. I've done 30-day challenges in the past where I've been out 7 nights  a week but only done a few obligatory sets 2 or 3 of those nights. Honestly, chatting to 1 or 2 chicks without any sexual intent isn't gonna move your game along. That's just trying to tick a box.

3-4 nights a week and pushing HARD is probably optimal in the long run. Of course, you can always throw more intense periods into the mix, e.g. during holidays.
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Hazard

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My secret formula?

1. Work less and earn more money
2. Spend less but buy more.

This song is in my head....



Anyways.

1. Work less, earn more money: Find ways of earning passive money, niche jobs or jobs that just simply pay a lot.

TIME IS NOT EQUAL TO MONEY. Not on a 1-on-1 basis, anyways.

Read "The 4-hour Workweek" by Timothy Ferris




2. Spend less, but buy more.
Go to cheaper venues, get cheaper drinks(Water), buy food in bulk(cheaper) etc etc etc.

Don't spend less money in the absolute term, but spend less money relative to each product.

Same amount of money, more adventures.



And yes. I am a College Student, living with mum and dad without a job.




By the way, guys. I think he's asking about "How do we pay all this stuff", not if his life is healthy or that he should take extra naps
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superseiyan

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Jonny Future wrote:
I work a 40 hour a week day job. 8am - 6pm mon - fri with every other friday off. How the hell are you guys able to go out everynight?

Are you bartenders, unemployed, live at  home with mommy and daddy, college students?

I'm at a point where I would like to game everyday but I just don't see how it's possible paying the bills. I would consider a career change if I could make enough cash to game every day.


Going Out != ONLY clubbing and bars

Going Out!= must get home after midnight

Taking an evening language class, going to the gym and chatting people you meet there regularly IMO are examples of going out. Pretty much anything in which you are out of the house for an hour or two away from the couch/remote/bag of chips and you interact with people.
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Gorawdog

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I'm referring to going to clubs and bars.....but I realize now I need to implement Saturday and Sunday daygaming to make up for lost time during the week.

I train BJJ hardcore, like 5 nights a week. I have come to the conclusion that I can't game every night and still train BJJ....I think this is a primary problem.

I need to focus on Thursday, Fri, and Sat nights in order to get good.

But shit, if you could do this everday. you would have to get better.
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 Going out every night is not too healthy, if you don’t give your body and brain enough time to materialise what happened in the previous night you won’t be learning at your full potential, think about this:

If your game sucks, and you go out 7 nights a week, you will only be repeating "sucks game" 7 nights a week, you will not give enough time for your brain to process what worked and what didn’t because you will be repeating the stuff that didn’t work immediately the next day. You will be getting better of course, but not at top speed!

Its like the gym, if you go 7 days a week, you will get bigger and stronger over say 6 months, but if you gave your body at least a whole days rest, eg: workout Monday rest Tuesday workout Wednesday, you will get greater results faster 2x as fast, because you have allowed your body to heal and learn from your previous workout.

Also, if you get accustomed to going out every night you might build an avoidance because you will almost be riding on the state you build the previous night, and then if you skip a week because of illness, when its time to go back you have no state from the previous day, you have shitty feeling of being ill for a week, and when you go back in the field its goanna be a shock to suddenly start going every night because you’ve just had a week with no game no good state!

But if you give yourself nights rest between outings you learn to build yourself into a good mood from scratch, you will be accustomed to going out even if you skipped a day or a week, so it will not be a big deal.


Also when you go out you need goals, what are you trying to achieve, approach 10 sets a night, try pull at least 2 girls home etc...

Otherwise you will just be going out aimlessly and your game will suffer, you will not be learning!

I personaly go out only Friday and Saturday nights, as I am too busy in other areas of my life at the moment, and I only hit massive super high energy hot girl abundant clubs (its almost like heaven and hell in one), I whish I could go out an extra day, but unfortunately right now I cannot! But when I go out I have certain goals, that I try to achieve, and learn from, and my game just gets better and better!

I also find when I have skipped a weekend of going (which sucks), that means a solid 11 days of no game, I perform 50% better than when I have gone out 5 weekends in a row, I'm guessing my body and brain have had 11 days to rest, reset, kick out the crap that didn't work and reinforce the stuff that did, and when I go back I surprise myself!


but again Goals are king!


What do you want!

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Gorawdog

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I'm thinking a firm commitment of 3 nights a week would be solid based on what others are saying.
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BAWLS

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I have a business. Did this answer the question? I don't have a 9-5 job. I can work 20hrs a day or 1hr a week. Someday in the future, no work at all except show up in board meetings every quarter. But for now, I can already go out everynight if I choose to.

A job in sales (mk8nmoves i think has one) is a good alternative to business. You can work your own hours and get paid commission, not per hour.

A job in the venue itself if all else fails.




Jonny Future wrote:
I work a 40 hour a week day job. 8am - 6pm mon - fri with every other friday off. How the hell are you guys able to go out everynight?

Are you bartenders, unemployed, live at  home with mommy and daddy, college students?

I'm at a point where I would like to game everyday but I just don't see how it's possible paying the bills. I would consider a career change if I could make enough cash to game every day.

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Dr.Dish

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i work full time and train boxing 6 days a week.

my answer is only to go out thurs - sat. 

usually on sunday i am fully exhausted.
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myNAMEisSAULROTH

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Join Date: 10/07/2009 | Posts: 14

Heres my take... I wanted this BAD. I wanted to get this shit down, learn the ins and outs, etc. RSD became my main priority at the exclusion of everything else in my life. I started going out between 6 and 7 days a week for almost 3 years.
Just a little extreme. When the excessive partying started to catch up with me I came to my senses. I had a broken fridge in my living room turned sideways. Wrote 'the fridge of glory' on it and started promoting it. The only thing women were told about the fridge of glory was ''you can't have sex on it'. This was one of the small things that made it more than worth it. If my wings had accounts on rsdn they'd cosign on that.
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