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I guess I just find it really difficult to know if they really like me or if they're just being friendly.
I would hate to make a move only to find that I'd completely misunderstood the situation. I have a huge fear of this so I've never took the risk.
I would hate to make a move only to find that I'd completely misunderstood the situation. I have a huge fear of this so I've never took the risk.
"Does the guy always have to make the first move?"
yes
yes
I guess I just find it really difficult to know if they really like me or if they're just being friendly.
I would hate to make a move only to find that I'd completely misunderstood the situation. I have a huge fear of this so I've never took the risk.
there nothing wrong with taking action and fucking up, dont ever think about rejection as a bad thing, rejection doesnt exist only missed opportunities for you or for her.... I would hate to make a move only to find that I'd completely misunderstood the situation. I have a huge fear of this so I've never took the risk.
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It is incongruent of you not to want be the one to open.
Now, I didn't say, it is uncongruent of you to fear opening chicks.
That is healthy, but if you check in with yourself you probably find you'd also find it awesome if you were to conquer that fear.
So stop the passive waiting shit, it puts all the control outside of your hands. You have to wait for someone else to get you what you want.
Go take it yourself, it's worth it.
Also, don't relate to opening as: I can only open chicks if they like me.
You open chicks because you're social and you like to get to know them, to see if you like them.
You don't 'hit' on a girl by opening her, it's not a fucking wedding proposal, you're just checking in if you like her or not.
Now, I didn't say, it is uncongruent of you to fear opening chicks.
That is healthy, but if you check in with yourself you probably find you'd also find it awesome if you were to conquer that fear.
So stop the passive waiting shit, it puts all the control outside of your hands. You have to wait for someone else to get you what you want.
Go take it yourself, it's worth it.
Also, don't relate to opening as: I can only open chicks if they like me.
You open chicks because you're social and you like to get to know them, to see if you like them.
You don't 'hit' on a girl by opening her, it's not a fucking wedding proposal, you're just checking in if you like her or not.
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The man leads, the woman follows.
Embrace it. ;)
I know its freakin' scary, the idea that you might lose her.
Thats what it means to have balls, imagine going for it, I can tell you it feels awesome regardless of the outcome.
A lot of the emptiness inside comes from not leading, not being action minded, no positive dominance as Alex calls it.
Be happy and lead, it works better that way. :D
Embrace it. ;)
I know its freakin' scary, the idea that you might lose her.
Thats what it means to have balls, imagine going for it, I can tell you it feels awesome regardless of the outcome.
A lot of the emptiness inside comes from not leading, not being action minded, no positive dominance as Alex calls it.
Be happy and lead, it works better that way. :D
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you don't have to... but you have no control over whether she approaches you but you can control if you approach her. so just focus on what you can control.
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I guess I just find it really difficult to know if they really like me or if they're just being friendly.
I would hate to make a move only to find that I'd completely misunderstood the situation. I have a huge fear of this so I've never took the risk.
I would hate to make a move only to find that I'd completely misunderstood the situation. I have a huge fear of this so I've never took the risk.
one way to think about it, is a man that takes action and the girl he wants. is a man she things can handel her, and is not affraid of her, and not affraid to be the man she needs him to be in life.
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Recently my buddy got approached by a girl and a hour later they had sex. You dont always have to make the first move, but dont let that be your guide.
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There are risks and costs to action. But they are far less than the long range risks of comfortable inaction. - John F. Kennedy
Yes, you're the MAN. You're supposed to make the first move. Stop the BS of "being scared if they don't like you". That's irrelevant. The only thing that matters is what you want. Besides, you're doing her a favor by hitting on her.
have you not watched RSD Foundations?
all your answers are there... & when you've handled that & get hungry again, get blueprint & maybe transformations
it will change your life amigo
you'll be cracking conversations w/ hotties to see if they're cool & realize you're talking to ford models & playboy bunnies, or you'll bang a chick b/c you realize she has green eyes & freckles & you've never been with one of those before.
All the best
C
all your answers are there... & when you've handled that & get hungry again, get blueprint & maybe transformations
it will change your life amigo
you'll be cracking conversations w/ hotties to see if they're cool & realize you're talking to ford models & playboy bunnies, or you'll bang a chick b/c you realize she has green eyes & freckles & you've never been with one of those before.
All the best
C
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InSovietRussia
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Join Date: 09/27/2009 | Posts: 7
I'm 20 and have never 'approached' a girl in my life, my last and only relationship was in October 2005 and it was her who approached me, not the other way round. That lasted about 5 weeks and didn't really go anywhere (non-sexual) because I was probably too immature at the time.
Since then, I've kind of been waiting for the same thing to happen again. I've met girls who possibly liked me, but because I wasn't completely sure I held back and waited for them to make the first move, which never happened. It's been 4 years!
Is it rare for a girl to openly declare her interest in a guy? Should I be more forward if I think a girl might like me?