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DaggerNL

DaggerNL

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Join Date: 08/03/2009 | Posts: 221

Turboorav wrote:
I haven't kissed any girl for 4 months now..
I think it's important to put yourself in a position where kisses etc may happen, by taking risks. Same goes for me.

Friday March 12th 2010: Approaching with another boot camp alumni.

I got a pm from ninja wanting to meet up. I was pretty excited to go out with another guy who took a boot camp. I was also supposed to meet up with feet, but I couldn't reach him by phone. So I met up with ninja and we talked a bit about our experiences. Then we went outside and started approaching. It was good to talk about and see another guy approach. It felt like boot camp when he tells me to approach a certain set. I approached a really hot blonde who I went direct with by telling my intention and looking seductively in the eyes. It didn't work. I kept looking deep into her eyes for some time. I got more comfortable doing that with a 9.

Later ninja approached an Argentinean two set. One was really hot, the other mediocre. I later came in, but ninja already told me he wants the hot one. I learned some winging favours. The person who opens the set gets to choose. So I occupy the other girl. I salsa danced with my
girl when I asked if they could. It’s pretty funny to do this in the middle of the outgoing venues. Ninja kiss closed the girl. Nice. We ejected to approach some more.

Sometimes when I don't know what to say I ask for directions or if there are good places to go out. Pretty indirect, but I want to get back in the habit of approaching again. Later I approached by being direct immediately, which was fun. Some of them were solid 9s.

Most of my approaches were thanks to ninja for telling me to approach them. I talked with this cute blonde who I went direct with. She got a possible boyfriend, but I managed to exchange numbers to hang out sometime.

Ninja had me approach some girl sitting down by doing a spin and sit on her seat. So I approached her, went direct, introduce myself. She’s receptive and introduces herself. I grab her hand and told her to get up, did the spin and tried to sit on her chair. Haha she freaks before I sat down and turned me down. I don’t usually do these things, but it’s good to try new stuff.

I had to hold my laughter inside when Ninja talked with a transvestite. I was sure it was a man. After that approach we had a discussion about whether she was a man or not. Pretty funny, he thought it was a woman. I didn't. Maybe I'm wrong and it's just a very tall ugly girl with a strong muscular body and jaw lines.

I went direct on some other girls, got a bit physical through kisses on the cheek and hugs. Tried to kiss close after two cheek kisses, but it didn't work.

We approached from 23 till 4:30. I approached 15-20 sets I think. Ninja is really good. I learned a lot from him. I'm very logical driven, instead of approaching with emotional pikes etc. I hate it when you get back to your old frame. Glad we approached a lot. Makes me remember how it was to keep approaching and push those sets just like boot camp. I'm ready for more approaches.
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ninja650~

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Join Date: 05/19/2009 | Posts: 8

Dude, last night was awesome!!  I realized I've come a LONG way with pick up.. I also realized tonight how much I rely on quality wings.  My solo game sucks.  

Oh, and btw that girl was NOT a transvestite!  She had hips, and breasts... but yeah, defintely a bit on the manish side.  For the record though, I wasn't hitting on her..  :P

Anyway next time I'm in Europe, we definitely need to hit the town again.
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DaggerNL

DaggerNL

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Join Date: 08/03/2009 | Posts: 221

Yeah man, it was great! Yeah I also notice that I only approach girls who are on their own when I'm being direct with intent. Except for last night when you get in a momentum that you approach so much that you don't even care about the outcome and just go straight for the target and be direct.

Now that I think about it, she wasn't a transvestite. Hahahah I laughed inside thinking she was a man, but she really was a woman. I'm bad. Haha I should've used the transvestites opinion opener on him/her. That would be funny.

Yeah we should definitely meet up again when you're back. Good luck in Atlanta smile

Saturday March 13th 2010: Just chilling

I met up with Ninja again, Feet joined as well. While we're walking towards the Leidseplein, Feet approached a twoset. We later joined the set, talking about some cool places to go out to. Since they are both speaking dutch, it was easier for me to talk with them. Feet asked them to join us. They agreed, so we met up later at "The Bulldog". I was talking with the asian girl. Apparently she's in the same class as my niece. We all had fun talking. The party really got started when Feet, the dutch girl (A) and I drank a tequila shot. I took A downstairs for some salsa dancing. Back upstairs we drank some more and took some pictures. Haha the asian girl (J) wanted me to help her get Feet drunk. So Feet, this was the reason why I challenged you to drink your beer in one sip haha. He would only do it if I did it with my wodka lime. I asked the bartender how much alcohol was in it to drink it in one sip. She said 40%, it's not really wise, but just do it. Haha, she's cool, but I'm not doing that, neither did A.

Anyway, we left to go somewhere more quit, so we left to some bar and chilled there another hour. Feet is good with his vomiting skills. Ninja left earlier. The rest of us got hungry, so we ate pizza at a steakhouse. After that it was after 4 am, so I had to leave to catch my bus at the Leidseplein. I got A's number to hang out. Feet left with the girls towards the station.

It's fun to just chill and vibe instead of always trying to hook up when you meet new girls. smile
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feet

feet

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Join Date: 09/21/2006 | Posts: 331

Hey dude, that was a fun night... :) would have enjoyed it more if one of those girls touched my groin muscles but nonetheless, good times

U going out tonight?
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DaggerNL

DaggerNL

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Join Date: 08/03/2009 | Posts: 221

It was fun. I still have that girls number, so maybe she'll touch mine in the near future. tounge 

Unfortunately I can only go out in the weekend, because of work. So I'm not going out. It's cool to meet other RSD guys and see how they do things. Good luck tonight thumbs up 
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Brad

Brad

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Join Date: 08/28/2007 | Posts: 3014

Nice to see you hitting it hard dude!!!  You are totally unreactive to the blowout and all the rejections and I love how you are constantly going for the close and being direct.

Try pumping up the dominance!!!  Like fucking be that man.  Unapologetic!  No saying sorry for grabbing boobies!  Breaking rapport tonality.  That is where it is at.

More than anything, make sure that when you are using compliments and going direct that you say it with intent!  Like you are yelling at a dog with a smile on your face.

This with your work ethic should go far...

Cheers,
Brad
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DaggerNL

DaggerNL

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Yeah I should really work on those points. I’m just not used to doing it. I get unreactive to blowouts, because I’ve got lots of them. Eventually you’ll become indifferent to it. What I do hate is the following: Knowing that blowouts / rejections isn’t that bad or hurtful, but you still feel approach anxiety, because you are socially conditioned: Wanting to do your best, caring what others might think of you, social status, avoiding physical / emotional pain, trying to do it perfectly. Even though I don’t actively think about it, subconsciously I’ve done it years by not taking action. It’s a good thing I made that decision last year and up till now approached more than in my whole life.

The stupid thing is that before approaches I sometimes still get anxiety, but then when you do something funny, spontaneous or even stupid, I may get rejected. I laugh really hard at some of the shit I pulled. That's self amusement. I am constantly finding new ways to get into a high. A feeling that makes me feel alive. Everyone has different ways to build their state up. Mine is kind of weird. I yell: FUCK YEAH! , smile evilly and start doing some kung fu moves. This makes me feel fantastic.

Now that I think about it, I am wondering how unreactive I can be by focussing on it and do some crazy stuff. I’ll work on those points, thanks for the advice.

Thursday March 18th 2010: Next

Went to Amsterdam, finally there's sunshine here. At Amsterdam central I approaches a girl, went direct by saying she's gorgeous and that I wanted to meet her. Boyfriend, next.

Saw this hot blonde 9 walking, approached her going direct again. We introduced each other. Haha we were talking about approaching which is always fun. Before her friend came to have lunch with her I went for a meet up close. She isn't interested. Oh well. Haha I couldn't stop
smiling. This is fun. Approached another blonde. Boyfriend.

Nah this doesn't really hurt. The only word that pops into my head is: NEXT. The feeling of having AA and not doing anything is worse than taking action and get blown off.

Saturday March 20th 2010: Uncomfortable

So I went out alone in Amsterdam. Thought I'd go to the escape. Had to pay a lot, so i'm going to push shit hard to make the payment worthwhile. 4 euro for two clothes. Haha not
funny. Let's fucking do this.

I got in around 12. I'm out around 4am It was pretty early. There weren’t many people, but that changed fast. I was fucking stifled, so I started dancing, a lot.

Approached a blonde sitting somewhere. I asked her if she spoke Dutch. No, english. Told her she's cute. She told me she's with her girlfriends. I: it would be nicer if you're with me right. She: no. Ejected.
Okay First set is out of the way. Okay now I'm choding too much. Time to take my tequila shot.

Saw a girl alone. Approached her by introducing myself. We talked a bit, but she wasn't really into the conversation so I ejected. Should've stayed.

Approached a girl sitting somewhere by introducing myself. She speaks English and is not interested.

Approached a girl downstairs. Introduced myself. She said her boyfriend is over there. I confronted her about why she said that, like I wanted her or something. (fuck yeah). We talk a bit. Funny girl. The boyfriend came in later. I befriend him and we just talk chill. Irish people are sometimes hard to understand because of their accent.

Saw a hot German blonde girl standing alone, asking why she's standing alone. Waiting for her boyfriend. Introduce myself, then she got dragged away by her boyfriend.

Danced a lot. approached some girl talking about this guy on stage who danced really weird.

After this I got stifled again and just stood against the wall. Stupid social conditioning. I see every girl in a set. At least I went out. I almost stayed at home due to bad weather.

I need to make the uncomfortable comfortable by doing this consistently. Just like going direct. In the beginning it was really uncomfortable to do a direct approach. Now it’s not so bad.
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feet

feet

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Join Date: 09/21/2006 | Posts: 331

Yup. Better than 99% of most people who wouldn't go out alone. Btw, glad to see you got tequila. I really feel like some right now. Had a heineken tho, memories of amsterdam lol
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feet

feet

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Yup. Better than 99% of most people who wouldn't go out alone. Btw, glad to see you got tequila. I really feel like some right now. Had a heineken tho, memories of amsterdam lol
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DaggerNL

DaggerNL

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Join Date: 08/03/2009 | Posts: 221

Yeah I really do understand why they don't do it. It's not always that fun going out alone. But it all comes down to what you make out of your night by the actions you take. Yeah tequila is great. shades

Tuesday March 23rd 2010: Flyer Boy

Walking through the city of Amsterdam I felt a surge of sexual power through my whole body. A lot of times I feel scared, but this feeling really felt great, constantly having the bedroom eyes look and getting a hard on. I like this masculine feeling, so I will try to create this feeling more often. The closest description to this feeling is: smoothboy combined with horniness haha.

I went to salsa class. This was the last class of the course, but I already registered for the next one. The course has shifted from Tuesdays to Wednesdays. That's because they've hired a different venue next door where we can finally have parties every week and can practice. Since the party is free and everyone is welcome, there were a lot of flyers to be handed out. We took some and approached people out on the street.

A friend and I agreed of course to only approach hot girls. At the station he just handed out the flyers, but I just came in talking spontaneously about it. I love salsa and you should join me next week etc. One was particularly funny. We saw the back of a blonde which looked hot. Friend told me to approach her. So I ran after her, approached her. Mm she's not hot at all, but I just did my thing and gave her hug. I did another one later and gave a genuine compliment about her eyes. Haha my friend litterally pulled me at my backpack when I approached a girl and she wasn't hot. That was funny.

Later we were surrounded and stopped by the employees of the station, because you need a permit to hand out flyers here, so we quit. I still have some to do it another day. Anyway, the reason I posted this is because it is a good indirect way to approach people when you don't feel like approaching and being direct immediately. I liked doing the role-play of the salsa flyer boy. Plus I love talking about something I'm passionate about. I'll practice talking loud / strong voice tonality and leading. I think when you get a little taste of leading the interaction, you'll just want more and eventually start dominating them all.
Men = Leaders, Women = submissive.
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