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TOOBAD

TOOBAD

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It looks like your taking a decent amount of consistent action again mate - good on ya!

I'll be following ya!

I like the fact you realised that being direct and sexual isn't hard - In fact it's hard not to fucking be when you're a man haha!

Keep up the good work :) :) :)
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DaggerNL

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@ Maverick, I don't know them. It's just a video I found online. Really great tho



TOOBAD wrote:
It looks like your taking a decent amount of consistent action again mate - good on ya!

I'll be following ya!

I like the fact you realised that being direct and sexual isn't hard - In fact it's hard not to fucking be when you're a man haha!

Keep up the good work :) :) :)
Thanks man, I appreciate it, I feel like a weight of pressure has been lifted off me now I know that being direct is a normal thing to do. When I first thought about doing it again a couple of weeks ago, I was really scared, but it was fun and I got a real high out of it. And women are just flattered when you approach them and be direct, you're making their day. To reframe it, I'm just spreading the joy hahaha. teeth

Thursday January 14th 2010: Man of Action

At the station I went direct on a blonde. We talk a bit about going out. She wouldn’t meet up, because she just knew me a minute haha. I’m going for the close fast.

At home I was looking through my stuff and I saw my Boot Camp notebook. As I read it I was both excited and disappointed. Excited for all the material I can work on that Brad taught me. And all of it was just being direct, which I’m a fan of now. Disappointed that I didn’t figure it out sooner. I already learned and applied this, but at some point I just forgot how effective it was.

Our negative thoughts can get the better of us, but a man who takes action always prevails.
- A fat ass who eats ice cream on every meal versus the sportive man with buns of steel.
- The chode who thinks about what to say versus the lord who lays women every day.
- The guy who stays at home with no woman in sight versus the MAN who meets girls on the dancefloor every night.
- A chump who sleeps in bed alone in the dark versus the king taking women from behind who loves to bark.
- A guy who’s home alone and loves to watch science fiction versus the casanova who sticks it inside gals and feels every friction.
This is just self amusement, but it has some truth in it.

My thoughts have also changed. Where the mindset of an indirect approach was: What should I talk about? What if she rejects me?
Now my mind is set straight to being direct: Hot girl walks by, RAS hot girl, approach and say what’s really on your mind. At times like these I think: Why do I ever have trouble with this. The real problem are your thoughts and how you feel at the moment. It’s a big step doing something you’re normally wouldn’t do, getting out of your comfort zone. Props for everyone who tries it. I can’t remember getting out of my comfort zone and feel bad about doing it. At least not something that still affects me today. The sentence about it's better to overescalating than underescalating really is true.

I've got some material about being direct in my notebook which I want to try out. Hehe the benefits of taking the bootcamp are still in effect.
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Brad

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Good shit man!  Glad you are still taking action!  Direct is where it is at!
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DaggerNL

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Brad- wrote:
Good shit man!  Glad you are still taking action!  Direct is where it is at!
Thanks Brad, I'm glad too. Sometimes it's hard, but the journey, the  memories and writing a journal makes this experience last forever. I feel alive and in the moment when i'm gaming. This is like a diary. I'm thinking of registering for the next teleconference with you, but I need to sum up the questions, what I can improve and my sticking points.  BTW I stole your sentence, since I couldn't come up with a title haha. teeth

Friday January 15th 2010: Direct is where it is at!


I worked till 10 pm. At home I didn’t feel like going out alone, since it’s been a couple of weeks. Then I read my notes about direct game again, played some uplifting music and started dancing to get in the mood. Woohoo, suddenly I just couldn’t wait to go out haha. I left pretty late, around 1:30 am.

While I was standing in the row at Anno, I heard people behind me talking about a tequila sunrise. Never heard of it before, so I asked what it was. Apparently a mix of margharita and tequila where you get drunk really fast. Inside Anno I just walked past the people to get into the mood. I went upstairs. It took time to get into the mood. Actually that first approach makes all the tension go away. While I looked down to the dancefloor I see a blonde girl on the other side doing the same. Cool she’s alone, walked to the other side and approached her: Hi I saw you standing over here and I wanted to meet you. She doesn’t respond. Some dude next to us keeps looking at me. Her friend comes over. I kept pushing the interaction. Girl: I’m not interested. I: You think I want something? She: I don’t know, but I’m not interested. I wish her a good night and moved on.
I remember the first rejection I had when a girl said the same thing a few months ago. Back then it really hurt. Now I felt rejected for one second, but I just let it for what it is. Feelings are temporary. It only gets fucked up when you start analyzing why. So this first approach got me loosened up to keep at it. smile

Downstairs some older guy who’s drunk asked me to come over. He offered my a tequila shot. There was no salt and lemon, so I wanted to ask the bartender for it. As I was waiting I see this girl standing next to me waiting in line. I approach her saying her hair looks nice. We introduce ourselves, talk about the venue and stuff. The bartender gives me my salt and lemon and we drank one up. Oe, that feels good. After that he offered another one. First I didn’t want one, but he insisted. Sure why not, you’re paying hahaha. Oh yeah, now I’m feeling it baby. thumbs up

A girl wants to walk to my left, I go to the left to block her. She goes to the right, I do the same, fun shit. Another girl walks my way. I approach her if I could ask something. I just saw you these two seconds and I wanted to meet you. You want to go out some time. (we’re already in the disco haha) She said no and walks off. I see my MM friends, we chilled a bit. He introduced me to a guy who read the book. We went upstairs. The dude told me that you need social proof before you can talk to the hot girls. I was like WTF, no you don’t. Just approach a girl when you want to. At this point I see the blonde from the first approach still standing at the same spot where I approached her. I said he should watch the blueprint decoded, since he wants to go natural. While we’re talking he suddenly approaches a girl, it was the blonde girl. He puts his left hand on her right cheek. She got angry, slaps his hand away and starts pointing and yelling at him. After she left he was pretty down. I couldn’t stop laughing. Don’t do that shit. confused

I see this hot girl sitting at the couch, so I sit at the couch not far from her. Asked her if she comes her often. She’s from somewhere else, here with a friend. We talk a bit, good vibe and she’s receptive. I put one hands on her leg and one on her bag trying to close. I said there’s a spark between us. She: You think there’s a spark between us? I: I know there is. She: Well there isn’t, then she stands up and dances with her friend. Later she sat down again, but I didn’t talk to her anymore.

Downstairs I walk with a friend and we see these two blondes. He did his magic thing again with the straw, moving it. After that he left a moment. I talked to the blondes by introducing myself to both of them. The girls looked like twins, so I asked. They aint twins. I pushed their heads next to eachother and compared them. Their eyes look the same. One had blue, the other had green eyes. The friend came back and isolated one and I the other. She wasn’t in a dance mood. I try to close her while getting physical, but it didn’t work. She goes to her friend and starts dancing with her, we left. I find it funny, he was winging even though we didn’t talk about doing it. Never done that before, pretty cool. He saw this black girl he was interested in, talked with her. She got his number. Later he said he had difficulties dealing with the AMOG who was with her.

I see the tequila man again, thanked him for the drinks and shook his hands. He kept holding it, said something like I love you all, pulled me and kissed me in the neck. WTF. omg I wasn’t angry, but it was just weird. Even when you’re totally drunk, which he was. So I ejected fast.

It’s 4 AM. After I got my jacket I see this girl standing at the wall. She looks beautiful, infectious smile. She looks at me, we smile at each other. Approached her saying she has a nice smile. I try to kiss her, she turns her head. Got her cheek. She doesn’t want me to think she’s easy. I: Oh you’re afraid of feeling like a slut. I won’t think that, give hug and try again. Didn’t work. She was pretty big when I looked at her body, not that I minded when we stared at each other.

We left to Men At Work which is open till 5 AM. Approached a girl by introducing myself. She waves and says hi. I: This is the part where you introduce yourself. She: You see me and I look around. She walks away.

5 AM: We left to another club which is open till 6, but I found it boring since there were few girls and they were all occupied. Around 5:30 the party was over.

Direct game truly is the shit. If you have the chance to approach a girl, do it and be direct. This is the approach anxiety terminator haha. Okay warmups are important too. It depends on your state. Today I was being direct, got physical and took right action. It was a fun night. teeth
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Archibald Cunningham

Archibald Cunningham

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Inspirational. Keep going, my friend.

Archibald Cunningham.
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DaggerNL

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Thanks man

Saturday January 16th 2010: Approach Anxiety can still happen

I wasn’t really in the mood to go out, but I went anyway. I went out to Anno again. Sometimes I just walk through the venue. Most of the night I was just standing against the wall, so I didn’t approach anyone. Hehe approach anxiety can still occur. When I compare this with last night I think it’s because yesterday I had two friends to hang with and drank tequila’s. What I am happy about is that I put less importance in the outcome when I go home. No good/bad night thinking. Whatever happens happens. Plus even if I didn’t approach, I still went out. I find my “see hot girl, approach hot girl” mindset better. I put too much importance in the first approach. Think: warmup sets. Next time I’ll start getting social immediately to everyone and build it up. teeth
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Monday January 18th 2010: Reference feedback from a woman

Went to the supermarket. I saw a couple of girls that I could approach. There was this pretty blonde standing near the exit. I stand outside looking around, it’s cold outside. She’s still at the same spot, so I approach her:

Hey I’m cold and I wanted to use you as a warmup set. She didn’t know how to respond, so I asked if she speaks Dutch. She does. We talk a bit about going out, then we introduce ourselves. I say she’s gorgeous and asked her to go out sometime.
She: I can’t, I have a boyfriend.
I: From Monday till Thursday?
She: Haha, and Friday, Saturday and Sunday.
I: Oh a full time boyfriend, do they exist?
She: Yeah, but you have to search real good, haha.
I kinda stole this from Cobra Commander Phil: So you actually want to go out with me, but you have a boyfriend.
She: Haha, yeah.
I wanted to know her experience being approached by men.
She: Yeah, I think you have guts to just walk up to me and ask me out. She gets approached a lot, but only gets asked out like two times a week. (Haha confirmation that direct approaches rule)
She: Like just go up to someone, say she’s gorgeous and that you would like to go out with her, like you did.

During the conversation I gaze into her big blue eyes, it’s fun. After about 10 minutes talking she got a phone call from her friend and had to leave. She wanted to shake hands. I find giving handshakes too formal, so I gave her a hug.

Note to self: Don’t forget to get phone numbers and actually call.

I’m kind of interested in reading and increasing sexual energy. Lately I’ve been so much aware of this, also from the reactions of girls. Eye contact baby! This was the difference between last Friday and Saturday. Mostly I just want to vibe, but if I really feel that sexual energy, it will portray me as sexworthy. What you feel, she feels, right? teeth
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Tuesday January 19th 2010: Show the world

I went to salsa class in the evening. Talked a bit with the hot blonde. She’s not going to the next class because she’s moving to another city. Too bad. Luckily miss body roll came back after two class that she has missed out on. We dance, I fucking love our moments together. Hope she’ll join the next class. I just need to number close her next week, but I first need to know her age, because she looks young. There is this salsa move called show the world. It’s a routine you’re doing with your dance partner. The girl teacher was showing what the girls should do. Spread the legs, do some styling with the arm and then she arched her butt and shook it from left to the right.
I have a nag for blurting shit out, so I say: Is that another “show the world” move? smileembarrassed Haha some girls looked shocked, others laughed. One girl bursted into tears laughing out loud.

At the end of the class I asked if miss body roll will subscribe for the next course. She doesn’t know yet. I have by the way.
This week I want to know what I can work on for improvement. I am getting better at staying positive by trying to accept that whatever happens, happens. Not every day will go well. Sometimes I have AA and don’t approach at all and sometimes I’m tha bomb and just flow. That’s that. The best thing is that I can/need to accept that interactions can get awkward. Other people looking at you, silence, possible rejection. These are things that prevents people from taking action. I want to break that shell by taking baby steps. Slowly expand that comfort zone. I’m already doing it, but now I’m conscious of it haha. Do more things I’m not used to and also want to do. Eventually make it normal. I have no idea what exactly, but at the end of 2010 I want to look back and say: I’ve done a lot this year. Maybe I should travel some more. Get out of the walking days.

One thing I can improve is my health. Since I live on my own I eat unhealthy and sleep very late. And I’m not talking about going it. I’m using this iphone app that records my sleep pattern and tells my how much hours I’ve slept and the average total time I’ve slept. Now it’s an average of 6,15 hours over 9 nights. A few nights back it was 5 something so I’m improving. It should be 8 hahah. The combination of a good amount of sleep, eating and working out is really important to feel good. It certainly affects my state. Oh that reminds me, got to go to bed. Later.
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Saturday January 23rd 2010: First time winging

I had these 3 goals for the night: 1. Vomit, 2. Lead, 3. Get Physical

I went out with a friend who also participated the RSD free seminar. This was the first time we were going out together. We first went to the powerzone, but because there was a weatherstorm, it was almost empty. Luckily it was free so we went to the Melkweg at the Leidseplein. In there another friend joined. Drank one tequila (which I didn’t have to pay) and the party got started. In the beginning of the night there weren’t really girls we were interested in. A bit of an alternative group. Later we go to the other side and I first started the night by approaching a two-set. Hey I saw you standing here and I wanted to get to know you. She’s receptive, I claw her. My friend occupies the other girl. As we were talking I doubleclaw her. She knew a bit of salsa so we danced, did some spins. I push our cheeks against each other and tried to kiss her from there. She turned, got the cheek. They left, went to another room. A friend told me to go after her, since she was into me.

As I go after them I see them in the other room. With their backs turned I pull them on the shoulders so they faced me. You’re not getting away that easily. She told me she had a boyfriend, next month almost a year. So I still have a month to conquer you. I keep using the comeback: a boyfriend from Monday till Thursday, but not Friday till Sunday. It’s always amusing and I just don’t want to let that sentence “I have a boyfriend” end the conversation.
Eventually I put my arms around their neck, like we’re having a group meeting for a football game and straight up tell how positive the vibe between us were. This is pretty funny. It didn’t work out, boyfriend, so I ejected.

I saw a blonde girl and a fatty. Approached the blonde, after that I introduce myself to fatty and went back to the blonde. I feel more comfortable being direct. She has a boyfriend, yes fulltime. I got a little physical with her. By the way I approached another two set, hot girls, I said that I wanted to ask something. As they were staring at me with this neutral look I got conscious about what to say, so I just asked some question about how many rooms this place had to dance, two actually. Vomiting isn’t easy when there’s not much feedback coming from the other person. I saw three blondes walking my way, approached them, said I’m searching for three blondes, do you know where to find them? One said, yeah down the hall. Her hair was a bit dark blondish, wasn’t sure, so I examined it by touching it.

My friend and I both walked together and as one of us approached a girl, the other would wing by approaching the other girl. This is fun. I can see the benefits. As my friend was walking in front of me, I see a two set, so I approach them. I forgot to touch him to let him know to look back at me, so he kept moving without knowing I was approaching a set. I ask them something about this club, it was her first time too. Introduce myself to the obstacle and went back to the target. I said I saw you, wanted to meet you, being direct. She has a boyfriend bla bla. I kept vomiting. While we were talking I could see her friend being bored and looked around. Funny thing is that they sometimes do nothing and other times they intervene the interaction. I stood close to the blonde, Katy Perry’s song I kissed a girl was played. I yell I KISSED A GIRL AND I LIKED IT, then I tried to kiss her. Didn’t work, got the cheek.

While we were talking in the hall a girl walked past us to get in the dance room. She looked at me pretty seductive, so obvious. Not long after that she walks back into the hall to the other room and looks at me again. I couldn’t take it, so I approached her and got real close to her introducing myself. She also introduced herself, but her friend pulled her hand and got away.

Some girls dance in a fun way, so I just join and copy them. Today I danced as those so you think you can dance people. Those hip hop crunk moves or michael jackson moves during the MJ songs, really fun. Two girls kept looking at me dancing. I did the unstifling exercise with one and tried to kiss her after that. Haha, didn’t work like last time. I notice that with almost every approach I touch the girl. Assuming attraction was a big help in doing it. No I didn’t even think about it, it was actually assuming. So I accomplished my goals for tonight.

It’s been a while since I had succes with physical game again. Maybe no actual kiss closes, but a lot of attempts of just doing it and take action. Be direct and get comfortable at touching. The tequila got me unstifled. And approaching with a friend/wing makes it more fun. You’re in this together. He didn’t feel like it was a good night for him, so I wanted us to approach one last time to change it. He approached a two set, I winged and isolate the other girl. The girl could salsa dance but didn’t want to do it at the time. I look to my right and see the other girl alone, friend was already gone. After the interaction he asked me how I stay so long in the set. I said I just talk about anything, vomit. Mostly I just talk about our interaction, me and the girl, which is sexual and interesting for the both of us. At times I did had to think about what to say, vomiting isn’t always easy.

What made tonight easier than other nights was: 1, tequila shot for getting unstifled, having goals for the night to focus on and going out approaching with a friend who also does this stuff. We’re probably going out again next week. Fun night. Being direct and touching felt like a normal thing to do. I’m going to keep doing it, so it will always be normal. shades
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Monday January 25th 2010: Teleconference

Went home after work, wanted to use my time to read the fountainhead, almost done with it. At 12am I had a teleconference with Brad. I bought a new headset specially for the call, but in general it’s just a good headset. There were some questions I wanted to get answered. Plus it was fun to talk with Brad again. I will use the information into practice and see if it helps. What I want to do now is get more reference experience, hit those sets hard and learn from it. But most importantly just having fun and enjoy the progress. I’m still having fun. teeth

Tuesday January 26th 2010: Ready for the next level

At work there were these two girls who came by at work. This one Dutch girl was so good looking. Her presence just oozed sexual energy and she stood there while I was sitting behind my computer. I couldn’t concentrate anymore. Of course I can’t approach her while I’m at work, but never in my entire life have I felt so much sexual energy flowing through my body. God it felt amazing. Suddenly it hit me. This is the feeling I always want to internalize during my interactions. What I feel, she feels. Turn these lusts into gifts. I can’t remember when it started, but I can finally accept myself as a sexworthy guy. Probably when I started being direct again. I don’t want to repress or hide my desires anymore. Reframe: I desire to live with passion. I’m ready for the next level. Reference experience, here I come. thumbs upteeth

At the salsa class a lot of girls didn’t show up, pretty weirds since it’s the last class. Too bad that girl I danced with last week didn’t show up. I was actually looking forward to see her. Hope she will join the next course. After class I talked with one of the guys. I told him about what I’ve been doing and he actually got interested in taking a bootcamp asap. The money didn’t sound like a lot to him. It would certainly be cool if he took a bootcamp and change his life. We talked some more. It’s funny when he told me to approach this girl and I went straight to her being direct. She had a boyfriend, but that’s cool. I wasn’t even aware of it, but he told me I spoke loud and manly (BR). Having a friend by your side and tell you to approach a girl and give feedback can actually work, just like bootcamp.
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