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TwoTyme

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Join Date: 01/08/2009 | Posts: 540

I gotta agree with your final statement... This shit really is as hard/easy as you make it out to be
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DaggerNL

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Join Date: 08/03/2009 | Posts: 221

@Twotyme. Yeah now that we know this, how are we going to use this to our advantage. The only thing I can think of is to always take action, no matter what.

Day 60/100: Saturday November 21th 2009: Get the closer mentality

I went to bed at 10:30 and got up at 4 PM. In the evening I went out again in Amsterdam, called a friend, but he couldn´t go. So I went alone again. I was watching Ozzie´s section of Transformations again. First I approached two girls walking towards the station by saying the outgoing venues is the other way. She misinterpreted it as a question and starts explaining how to get there. I get approached by four girls from Liverpool asking where the Leidseplein is. Since I was going there too, they joined me. I talk with one of them as we walk towards the venues. When we were there we parted our ways.

At the Leidseplein I see two girls, so I approached them asking if there’s a party at Paradiso. They were going to a place called ´The Escape´ or they could go to `Jimmy Woo´. We talk a bit and then I asked if I could join them. They were fine with it as long as I knew where Jimmy Woo is. It was nearby, so we stood in line. They were discussing if we should go to Jimmy Woo or just go to ´The Escape`, because when we looked at the people, they didn’t look like young people of our age. Eventually we couldn’t get in, because the girls were too young, 21+ to go inside. Oh well we decided to go to `The Escape`. This is the first time I’m going there. I forgot to get physical right off the bat with the dark blonde (DB, target). This already feels like friends hanging out.

Inside Escape we went upstairs, I saw some friends who I used to train with at Kung Fu. After that we walked to the dance floor. The girls walked in front of me. I saw a lot of guys reacting to the girls. Suddenly two guys approached them. DB was receptive and gets into one of them. They asked them to join to get some drinks. They went along, I chodedly followed. A woman walks up to the old dude (friend of the AMOG) and slaps him in the face and walks off. WTF, apparently that was his girlfriend. Maybe it’s because he’s went along with the girls. He asked me if I was DB´s boyfriend, if so they would leave. I didn’t acknowledge it, but I did want them to leave, so I sub-communicated it. He talks to his friend, then they exchanged numbers and left. Guess this guy did something I should’ve done: Close. I asked her if they’re going to meet up. She said no, and then she said she wants to be the rest of the night with her friend. So this was going nowhere. I left

This felt familiar, oh yeah, day 9 of the 30 day challenge, august 29th. I got emotionally affected again. I sat down somewhere, letting it all in. I was comparing this feeling with yesterday when I didn’t approach. Like Ozzie said, don’t become outcome oriented. After a while I used the best remedy for this feeling, I went to the dance floor to dance, this time without the tequila. Again like yesterday I felt fantastic. Closing my eyes and dance to the beat, love it.
There were two guys in front of me approaching two girls. They were pushing and pushing the interaction, by dancing. You could clearly see they wanted to get away from them by their body language. It was fun to watch other guys approaching girls.

I left an hour earlier, so I could catch the bus home. A girl asked me if Bus 353 comes here. She had to go to Amsterdam Central, so I send her to take the tram. The guy next to me said I did the right thing. Half a minute later I saw Bus 353 on the other side haha, Oops.
On my way home I was switching to another bus where I talked with two girls who also went out in Amsterdam. Luckily one of them offered me a ride home on her bike, because it was raining and she was going past my house.

Today I had the friends mentality, not the closer mentality. I didn’t vomit enough as I should’ve had. Still I give myself props for cold approaching and hanging out with them. smile
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TOOBAD

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I'm reading Mastery right now by George Leonard - I really need to drill the contents of that book into my core - If you haven't checked it out give it a go - All about the Plateau!
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I have that book, but I am following the order of the RSD book club. Right now I'm reading "The Fountainhead". Since this is a big book, I should spent more time reading it. I don't want to take a year to finish the list hehe.smile
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Day 61/100: Sunday November 22nd 2009: Creating New memories

I went home to my parents for dinner. We looked at old photos when we were younger. It was fun watching them. Now I realised it doesn’t have to stop there. I could’ve made more pictures while going out and stuff. Next time I’ll try to make more pics. It’s more fun to see the pictures rather than only remember the experience.

Day 62/100: Monday November 23rd 2009: Keep improving yourself

I notice that I have days where I haven’t done anything. So I’ve decided that I should do some activities or excersises to improve myself. At least an hour a day. What I definitely want to improve is my voice tonality. This is one of the most important things I need to improve. I heard it during that communication training on november 11th. It does sound monotonous. Practicing this will really benefit me when I go out. To be honest, I haven’t really done approaches while breaking rapport, not consciously.

Day 63/100: Tuesday November 24th 2009: Sexual Tension

I’m going to actively create sexual tension. I think it’s a must for attracting women. Seriously, all my successes were based on this single feeling. Normally I react in a non interested way, because I don’t want a girl to think I’m interested. The limiting belief is, if I show I’m interested, the girl already knows I want her, which isn’t a challenge anymore. But if I don’t act nothing will happen. This is my goal: Create ‘Sexual Tension’ with the girls I approach. There’s no salsa lesson this week, because we couldn’t use the room where we normally dance. After work I picked up my Calvin Klein gift sets at my parents and read ‘The Fountainhead’ the rest of the evening.

Oh yeah, I registered for the 1st Technician Grade exam in june 2010. Only three people can participate in it, so I can't register later. I like this longterm goal. It's good for my health and mentality to have that purpose. Same goes for approaching. I actively want to approach again, the urge, wanting to do more to get better. This whole thing is both exciting and scary at the same time. It feels weird. Changing isn't easy, that's for sure.
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You should commit to X days a week to go out and pick-up if you want to get better - have a structured approached ;)
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@ TOOBAD. I can only go Friday and Saturdaynight. Sure I can go out to Amsterdam on workdays to approach like I usually do, as long as I'm home at a reasonable time to go to bed. So it's 2 times a week. The approaching works if you have a specific goal. Like be direct. I did it a couple of times, works great. smile

@Captcha.  Nice 36 days. Yeah we could go out. This friday I work till 10 PM in Amsterdam and then I head out to the outgoing venues. I don't have much to spent right now, but there are enough bars to hang out where you don't have to pay for entrance. Somewhere to go out every day of the week. At the Leidseplein there's a lot of places to go to. During my boot camp we went out on Tuesday and Wednesday. Or you could also go to the Rembrandtplein. Check out this website http://www.djguide.nl/maand.p
Here's where I always look for cool places to go to. Let me know by PM or this thread if you want to meet up this weekend. I'm down. wink
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Cool, looking forward to it. And good on your challenge thumbs up

Day 64/100: Wednesday November 25th 2009: Baby steps


In the train I saw a friend who passed the 1st TG two years ago. I asked him some questions about it. It’s very challenging for my stamina, musles and the things I have to know. He suggested for me to do the bodyweight 500. It's pretty hardcore from what I’ve seen on youtube.

After work I went to Amsterdam to start approaching again. 1. Approached a girl asking for directions (warm-up). 2. Another directions opener, but after she explained it all I said: You know, you have very beautiful eyes. She: Thank you, bye. It didn’t feel good nor bad, just normal. As I walk through the mall I felt at ease. It brings me back to my 100 approach challenge. What was cool is the fact that I didn’t think about anything when I approach, but that changed quickly. After a while of not approaching you get too comfortable not doing it. There should be a time limit or something between approaches. 3. Saw a girl from work who said hi. 4. A girl walked past towards me, I said: Hey Tessa, how are you? Ok this was overreactingly acting like she’s a friend. She didn’t understand me. Oh well.

In the station there was this hot blonde 9 walking very fast. I walked after her. While I was walking after her, I suddenly had a flashback to my boot camp where I did the same. She was so far off, I gave up and stopped walking. My intention was to be direct. No biggie. My goal is basicly to be direct and say what’s on my mind. It will eventually feel comfortable and natural.

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Day 65/100: Thursday November 26th 2009: Difficult training

After work I trained in the evening. I had a hard time with my stamina, but I stuck with it. Saturday we’ll be having dinner at a restaurant with people of the Kung Fu class. It sounds fun, I’m there.

Day 66/100: Friday November 27th 2009: Reference Experience

I went out with a friend in my hometown. First we went to this place called ‘Men at Work’. This place is small and very crowded. So we went upstairs to a room with some people. I walked towards the end. A girl was looking down at the people downstairs. She turned, looked at me and smiled. Then she turned back. What did I do? Nothing. I wanted to approach, but didn’t know what to say. Anyways my friend and I chilled for a bit. Some girl taps my shoulder asking us if we’d leave the room, because it was a private party and we didn’t have a wrist band.

Downstairs we danced a bit, there are a lot of hot girls here. It was so crowded, my friend wanted to leave. After we left we went to another place called ‘Anno’. It was much better there. More room, couches to chill and better music. While dancing I mostly just close my eyes, so I can focus on the music and movements. This feeling is so addictive, it makes me want to go out for the rest of my life.
While I was walking, there was another girl looking at me. Walking towards her maintaining eye contact I stood very close in front of her. Then I walked again. Thinking about it logically, why did I do that? This is getting rediculously irritating. Like dude, where’s the changing experience you’re suppose to make. Then I thought about the warmup sets. Approached one girl with the ‘you look bored’ opener.

I underestimate myself, because I can do so much better. I want to take risks and fuck up a few times, just to take action. But somehow it just won’t happen. While dancing I don’t react, but with non-verbal communication I do. The limiting belief of: first she needs to show IOI, then you can relax and go for the approach/close. I need help. I want to be like I was after the boot camp. Tommorow I want to make a difference. I need to do more warm-up sets. Even if it’s ten or twenty. As long as it takes to get into that talkative state.

I don’t want to sound negative, but this has been going on for too long. At least I want some major change to happen during this 100 days challenge. A lay or a kiss close fuels your state back into the game. Reference experience -> Cool. Less Ref exp –> Uncool. Damn, I want it, need it, gotta have it.
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Day 67/100: Saturday November 28th 2009: Eating at the restaurant

In the mirror I practiced my facial expressions. This helps so much, because you can practice and see yourself how you behave. I went to the mall to buy some food. There I approached some women asking for directions. Even though I knew where it was, I went there anyways. There was a grand opening at the electronics store with cheap stuff every hour, so I bought a new harddrive. Man what a chaos in there, a line of 20 metres long.
In the evening at 6 PM I ate at a restaurant with most people from the kung fu class. It’s a good thing I didn’t eat anything before hand. I ate a lot. At the end I even had to unbutton my pants. I’m turning into a fatty haha. We had a lot of fun. Time really flies when you’re having fun, because it was already 10:30 pm.

After most people left, there were six of us left. We went upstairs to the lounge to chill some more. I told a lot of fun stories, kept vomiting. Downstairs we heard someone slamming something against the window, angry drunk dude. Around 12am we left. That drunk dude stole my friends jacket. Luckily a worker lend him his jacket, cause he’s going to come by to train with us next week. I didn’t go out after that. I’ve had enough fun for the night.
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