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Day 45/100: Friday November 6th 2009: Fun for free

I went to the orthodontist today, he said that May 2010 is absolutely do-able that my braces can be removed. Nice, maybe if I'm ready, I can go for my 1st TG exam.

After work at 10 PM I went straight to the leidseplein in Amsterdam to go out. I approached some girls. What’s funny is that you can speak English and after a while it appears they’re Dutch. I saw some English pub tour guides dudes directing everyone to different pubs. So I went along and approached a 3-set. They were going inside a bar, but you had to have a orange wristband to get it. Standing behind the girls I acted if I was with the group. So I got a coin for drinks and went with them inside. Inside they pour some liquor in your mouth. Actually, these girls were pretty dull. Standing next to the bar, not dancing. After a bit of talking, we made some pictures. One girl had to go to the toilet. I walked along, stood in front of her and said she looked gorgeous. She: Thank you. I: You know why, because you have a nice smile. Then I tried to kiss close, but she backed away. She said she’d be right back.

I go talk to the other two, girl comes back from the bathroom and she lets a friend see a text message. All I read was I think he…. Clearly it was about me. Not that I cared, I ejected after that, because it was going nowhere. After that I approached two other girls, then I left to take the train. I had to run, my feet hurt as hell. They would work on the railtrack in the morning, which means that I would be home around 9 AM if I stayed in Amsterdam. No way, I’ll go out somewhere else.

While I was walking towards the station a girl accidentally hit me with her umbrella. She said she was sorry. It was no big deal. Then I walk back and said she had to make up for it and we gave each other a hug. I never get tired of hugging. smile

So I went back to my town and walked towards the clubs. I saw a friend from kung fu with two of his friends, so I approached him. They were going out, so I joined them. The club was fun. I’ve never been there before. There were so many hot girls, I didn’t know there were so many in my town. Inside I approached a girl and said something about dancing. She was dancing with her friend. We grinded a bit, I grabbed her hips. Next thing you know, she says you had your time. I moved on.

I saw this hot blonde girl wearing a hot outfit so I complimented her on it. We talk a bit, I showed some salsa moves. I should’ve taken some pictures with her. Funny, a friend encouraged me to go hunt. It was so crowded, you keep getting so close to the girls, it felt like a grind party.

Even though I danced and got into the vibe, I was sometimes still reacting to the environment. I wonder how people get into such a state, company of friends? Alcohol? Knowing they’re going to get laid tonight? It’s not easy to not react to beauty and be completely indifferent.
It may be baby steps, but I am trying to close. The best part is that it is fun to go out in my hometown and not only in Amsterdam. And I didn’t even pay for anything, entrance was free. After going out I walked for only 10 minutes and I was home at 4 AM. Better than 9 AM hehe. teeth
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Day 46/100: Saturday November 7th 2009: Poker Night

Today we had dinner at my niece’s home where we played poker afterwards. We made it pretty late today. I lost some money, but it was certainly fun. I was actually planning to go out tonight, but this was fun too.

Day 47/100: Sunday November 8th 2009: Visiting my parents

Iwent to my parents for dinner and chilled there. I noticed that I finished The Way of the Superior Man a few weeks ago, but I haven’t continued the RSD book club list. I’m going to continue with it. It’s a good way for self development. I wanted to buy the fountainhead and a new earth, but I can also just rent it at the library. It’s time to learn to spend my money wisely.

Day 48/100: Monday November 9th 2009: Late again

I woke up at 9:10, realising that I had to be at work at 10. Whoops. So I got there late and worked late again. It wouldn’t matter, because at 12AM a game store would open for modern warfare 2. It’s only a couple of minutes from my house. There were a lot of people waiting in line. I cut somewhere in the middle before opening. That saved me an half an hour hehe.
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Day 49/100: Tuesday November 10th 2009: Approaching in the train

I took the train to work in the morning. There was a curly haired Moroccan looking blonde sitting somewhere. I didn’t want to sit right there right after she sat there, because it would feel like I’m sitting there just for her. So I walk further, but there’s no good seat for me to sit, so I go back and sit diagonally across the girl. What a hot mature looking girl. While reading my newspaper I could tell she looked bored. I said that I wanted to know something, if she likes to dance. She doesn’t. That actually started the whole conversation to other topics, school, work, going out, salsa etc. It’s a good thing I can vomit. Her vomiting skills are crap. She’s quarter Belgian, Surinamese, Lebanese and I think Indic, a lot of everything. I wondered what she thought about me approaching her in the train. It’s quite normal for her, maybe because she gets approached a lot.

Near the end of the trip I asked if she wanted to go out some time. She doesn’t go out, because she’s too busy with school. Then I asked to hang out, even if she did not say no, her answers were sub-communicating: I’m not interested. At my stop I went out and said goodbye.
This is easy, if you don’t become outcome dependant, really don’t give think or care about how the interaction goes, there’s nothing, NOTHING to be afraid of. It does make a difference in what state you’re in. Sometimes you do care, sometimes you don’t. Some girls make themselves look so hot, that they’re perceived as unreachable. This chick wasn’t. I learned that I could use any conversation topic with women. Now I’m really interested in what kind of things I can actually start a conversation with.

In the evening after work I went to the free first salsa class of the new course. I started with beginners 1, since it’s free. There were a lot of girls there. I practiced some basics again for warm-up. After that I danced with a girl called Joey. Never heard of a girl named Joey. Behind me I saw her twin sister. Her name is Chandler. No I’m just kidding, don’t know her name. After that I danced with a pretty hot brunette who’s going to take the intermediate class. There are a lot of hot girls here.

Beginners 1 class was fun, next up: first lesson of beginners 2 class. I danced with a farely hot blond who couldn’t salsa dance, but picked up very quickly. This is the best part, every week I can follow the beginners 1 and 2 class while I only have to pay for beginners 2. That way I can practice for two hours. At the end of the class I registered and talked with the hot teacher. She’s called daphne by the way. We danced a bit. There is one cool move called “The Body Roll”. Push out your chest, to the stumach, hips and knees like a roll. It can also be done the other way.

I should be careful not to try anything with her. She’s gorgeous, but also my dance teacher. I’m fine with what we have now, unless she makes a move. Fun day, unfortunately I’m not going to the secret salsa party, it’s all the way in Rotterdam on Sunday Night. I slept at my brother’s house, because I have a communication training for work tomorrow near his house.
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Day 50/100: Wednesday November 11th 2009: Role-play

I woke up early for the communication training. There were seven guys and one girl taking it. First we had one minute to convince the rest how to have a good conversation on the phone with a customer. You would be taped and we watched it back for feedback. I got them laughing, because I used some humour and told something like: You could sit there procrastinating or you could pick up the phone and have the most amazing, astonishing telephone conversation of your life. 

Later in the second half an actress came where we did some role-plays. I had to write out a scene where I had a hard time dealing with a customer. So I wrote that a customer didn’t have internet for 3 months and whined and bitched about her issues. This was audio recorded. For some reason I on purpose made some humour. Maybe trying to impress, but it was a whole lot of fun. She is such a good actress. I stayed calm and helped her out. I learned a lot from the positive things and the feedback I was getting. Being calm despite her lashing me and trying to help. Especially the feedback was helpful. My voice seems to be monotonous some time. I could hear this when listening back to it. This can be related to my everyday life. I already knew that, but it was good to hear it from others. Hmm this could also be a good feedback when I approach girls. Sometimes it’s difficult to be exited when there’s no particular thing to be exited about. So I only talk with passion when there's actually something fun to talk about.

In the evening I went with my brother and his girlfriend to see the movie “2012”. This is a great movie, everyone should watch it. It never got boring during the 2,5 hour.
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Day 51/100: Thursday November 12th 2009: Free tickets

I walked through the mall where this little hot girl approached me to donate for charity. She puts a lot of effort by walking with me all the way to the station trying to convince me. Eventually I didn’t do it. I know this chick from somewhere, can’t remember. She also recognized me. It’s frustrating. Now I want to know from where.

Right before I was going to take the bus, a friend called that he had tickets for a basketball game with Dennis Rodman playing in my town. It would start at 8:30 pm and my brother was done at 9. Then we would also have to drive there and get it. So I didn’t go and just went to kung fu class. At the end of the class I suggested to do actual realistic attack training in the future. My teacher's concerned about the rest of the group, because most of them are not at a high level and it could make them quit. It’s very dangerous and I could really get hurt, but I want to stand my ground if I’m ever going to fight someone. I can’t help it, I want to get stronger. My blood boils when I think about it. It's crazy, but I fucking love this shit. It's a good thing I chose kung fu class over the basketball game. My fighting spirit has raised. It’s time to man the fuck up and start training daily again. thumbs up 
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Day 52/100: Friday November 13th 2009: Tired

Got up late again haha. This is happening too often. I remember the girl from yesterday now. I approached her and her hot blonde friend who was wearing a mini skirt with an opinion opener, during my 100 approach challenge. Haha maybe I’ll see her at the same spot. I send a text message to the girl from the GOA party for a meet. She didn't respond, don't think she's going to. I didn’t go out, because I was tired and didn’t feel like going out.

Day 53/100: Saturday November 14th 2009: I'm loving it

I went to the mall to buy some stuff. Then I walked past the library to borrow the dutch translation of “The Fountainhead”. Haha what a thick book, 750 pages. In the evening three friends came by my house to chill. After going to and eating at KFC, a friend and I stayed to go out.

We went to the same place as the day after my boot camp. It took some time before I get into the mood, but when I got it, MAN I FELT GREAT. Good music with dancing is the best feeling. Going out always makes your weekend worth while, because you get to feel that optimal experience, the flow state. I'm loving it! thumbs up

There were these two girls and a guy dancing. We didn’t talk, but sub-communicated with our dance moves. After lots of dancing me and my friend went upstairs resting at a couch. While we were laying on the couch, there were these two girls in front of us looking down at the dance floor. We were enjoying the view, better than TV. Michael Jackson’s Billie Jean was playing. I couldn’t sit still, so I got up and stood next to the girls. I asked the hot girl if she knew any Michael Jackson moves. It appeard they were the girls we were dancing with, but without the guy. She showed one move when she grabs her crotch, I mean and the other hand in the air. Then I showed mine where I put my left hand down snapping my fingers and thrusting my hips back and forth. After that I did a 360 spin, grabbed my crotch and yelled HOOOO! shades She laughed. We talked and danced a bit. She doesn't have a boyfriend and is staying at her friends house. I didn’t vomit enough and looked down to the dancefloor, they left.

Downstairs I talk to two girls I’ve seen before at my old high school. We talk a bit, then I moved on. I was dancing the rest of the night. When we got out I didn’t have cash to give the bouncer a tip. He let it slip this time. It wouldn’t be cool if I got banned from that club haha.

In my pocket I have this little paper where it has 3 mindset to remember: 1: Be direct, 2: Close and 3: Have Fun. Only did number 3, which is the most important. I had fun tonight. teeth

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Day 54/100: Sunday November 15th 2009: Start exercising

I bought the new wii fit plus to make a habit of exercising. So I jogged the total of 30 minutes in front of my tv. It may look weird, but my cardio sure is improving. In the evening my friend from yesterday came by the house with another friend.

Day 55/100: Monday November 16th 2009: Howard Roarke

In the train I read the first chapter of “The Fountainhead”. Immediately you get sucked into the life of a man who remains unreactive and stays true to his principles, whether or not people approve of what he does. This is a fascinating story which I will continue to read. smile

Day 56/100: Tuesday November 17th 2009: Roll & smell

I overslept again, worked till 8 PM to make up for the lost time. Maybe it’s for the better, because there weren’t enough girls at the beginners 1 class. During the beginners 2 class I danced with a couple of girls. Two girls came in later, because her friend had to eat. I danced with one of them. She’s pretty cute. We danced the rest of the class. While I making some moves, I had to do the body roll. This is where I’m bended forward and get up doing the roll. She touches me from the chest to the stomach every time I roll. This is kind of hot and sexy. tounge Yeah, she wants me. The teacher didn’t even tell the girls to do that. He did tell them to do the hip roll over and over again, hehe, gotta love my teacher. When the class ended, I paid for the course. The girls also registered. I suggested that we should be steady dance partners, she agreed.

At home I unpacked my new wakeup light alarm. When the alarm goes off a light shines in your eyes, so my eyes can adjust for being awake. Now let’s hope it works. We’ll see in the morning. I just bought the new Calvin Klein ckin2u Him Gift Set for Men online for 30 euros a piece. Eau de toilette, deodorant and body wash. It’s so cheap I bought 2. This has saved me maybe 100 euros. The perfume of a woman always attracts me. I think if you smell good, a lot of the attraction has been taken care of. Hope they will send it soon.

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 Was reading back in your thread, and had to laugh real hard at the GOA party day. That day so totally rocked, dude. thumbs up

Getting in State just by looking at our picture and reliving those moments.

Priceless... :)
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That sure was a fun night, I'll never forget it. smile

Day 57/100: Wednesday November 18th 2009: Play


That wakeup lamp works, I got to work on time. I played Modern Warfare 2 the whole evening. It’s very fun and addictive.

Day 58/100: Thursday November 19th 2009: Anxiety

I felt an anxiety during kung fu class today. This is something I’ve had quite a long time. When I think about the moment of what I’m doing and be so fucking conscious to the environment and where I’m at, I get this hot feeling in my heart and it turns into scaresity. I don’t like it when I’m too conscious that I have a reality meltdown. This has nothing to do with approach anxiety.

Day 59/100: Friday November 20th 2009: Just do it

I went to my parents for a haircut. After that I went home, got dressed and ready to go out. It’s been a while since I’ve gone out alone in Amsterdam. I was pretty excited. In the beginning I approached a couple asking for directions as warm-ups. There was a party at Paradiso, so I went in. It took a long time before I got into state. Even when I had it, I still didn’t approach.

There were two very wrong limiting beliefs I had. 1. Maybe I do need to drink alcohol to approach. 2. You’re not having fun if you don’t approach. I didn’t drink the whole evening. What I did do is dance, a lot. That made me feel so good. Especially after thinking about limiting belief nr 2. If I don’t feel like it, it doesn’t mean I can’t have fun, so I danced my ass off and had fun, good music btw. In the hallway I talked to some blonde about the party and me going out alone. This is the first time I didn’t hook up with a set in Paradiso.

The thing is, if you go out and don’t think about approaching, you just go out. Since I’ve taken a boot camp and writing a field report, it feels like you have some kind of mission to fulfill. Hahaha the answer is actually quite simple.



Like damn, there’s nothing special about this, it’s that simple. Just do it. Those stupid thought patterns are blocking me. A good example of just doing it was when I approached a girl at the stores during my 100 approach challenge and realised during the conversation how hot she is. So if I knew it earlier I may get stifled and in my head so I wouldn’t approach.

I want the crazy, fun old me back who goes in hard and pulls. It was so easy, all I did was one thing, not think about the situation. Don't think anything. Tyler already said it in "The Blueprint Decoded". It’s good that I went out, because I always learn or experience something new. Today I’ve learned the following: Succes with women is as simple/hard as you want it to be. thumbs up
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