THE FORUMS

Hey guys - I'm still in the process of transferring my FRs & LRs since bootcamp from scrappy, loosely written word docs into proper reports. Anyway, since this just happened last night, I have it fresh in my mind and want to put it into words to draw the lessons out of it. 

So, I decide to start the night while still at my flat, all by myself, by doing some voice exercises. I'm getting ready, taking a shower, and all the while I'm speaking from my diaphragm and letting out unstifled, manly roars. This not only helps me to make sure my voice will be on for the night, but allows me to push the social self down a little bit (my neighbors probably heard me, and if you're reading...sorry ;) ). A deeply resonating voice communicates so much guys. I used to think I was loud, and I was, but I was not resonating properly. If you live alone and don't speak for a long time, you're voice isn't just going to be resonating at the right frequency and pitch that it needs to for a dominant tone. I do these deep resonating roars every 5-10 minutes to make sure my voice is on and I'm unstifled a bit. I went on to do this in the club as well - so effective I highly recommend it. 

Anyway, before heading to the club with friends, I decide to go to some local bars and just be social by myself and get the social pressure on me. Like Ozzie told me, it's like any athlete warming up or stretching before working out - it's what all the pros do and especially instructors at RSD. So, on the way to the bars, I'm chatting with the taxi driver to keep myself social and keep my voice on. A dominant voice is such an attractive trait to not only women, but other people in general. It communicates a lot about who you are. This simple thing, I've found, can alter any social interaction in your favor. 

So, I get to the first bar and it's pretty much empty, except for a group of girls on a bachelorette party. I go and open but it's just not hitting - I had poor eye contact and was a bit reaction seeking. That's OK - it's the first social interaction of the night and I'm just trying to push down my social self and get that core, higher self. To men, it helps me to think about The Blueprint in which Tyler says that you have to force your brain to "give you the manual" for being a sexworthy guy. Basically, I'm trying to access that imprint, that core, non-reactive seeking, non-outcome dependent self. Before going out, I wrote down a little diagram for all my interactions - it involved me with a magnetism emitting from me (could be called masculine polarity / state / that sexworthy imprint) and the girl, with an energy field between the two saying "How can I make this fun." Also, I have made big X's over the words "avoidance behaviors" (like not approaching, or saying I'll do the next one this set isn't for me) and outcome dependence. Especially when you warm up and are trying to get into state, every set is just there for the purposes of being social and getting social pressure on you so you can go to the club in the right state with your sexworthy imprint visible for all to see.

Anyway, I move to the next bar and it's pretty packed. I approach a guy / girl 2 set and just vibe. All good, I'm non-reaction seeking and just vibing. Next, I approach a 2 set of girls and it's a great interaction - this 2 set becomes a 4 set and basically I have my pick of the girls after 10-15 minutes, total interaction lasted about half an hour. I didn't really like any of them but was enjoying socially vibing with them - remember, be process oriented and not outcome oriented and attraction is automatic.

This bar is staling a bit so I decide to move venues again. I am at the bar ordering a sparkling water and am about to open this 2 set of girls next to me when they get approached by a bunch of chodes - seeing this, I realized how horrendously bad most guys are at approaching girls. It's just miserable - so reaction seeking, so outcome dependent, just giving all of their power away to the girls, I cringe just watching this. Therefore, I was just being my true self and opened the hotter one saying "You know, I feel bad for you guys. I have a sister, I know what it's like when these kinds of guys approach you." She gets a huge smile, and boom, we start talking and its great. This set was really long, and it was basically perfect in terms of the game. When you're unstifled and have pushed your social self down such that you are truly in state, your brain allows you to run perfect sets like this. I didn't want the number since I'm banging hotter girls than this one and couldn't be bothered to do a day 2 with her, but they leave to meet some friends and that's that. I do one more set before going to the club..some MILF hottie who is touching my face and very physical with me because I'm so in state that she feels the masculine energy. That feeling, when the nimbus is raging, is just the fucking shit I live for.

So, I'm in a great state and get to the club. I'm so in state that I just look at a group of girls and I see attraction sky rocket and they say hi. I pull them to sit down with me, it's an 8 set, and my friends are choding themselves out. They weren't super hot, so I decide to let them go and get hotter girls. This isn't warm up anymore, got to go big or go home now and be that guy who just fucking pulls hot ass.

My next set is actually a warm approach as my friend knew these 3 girls. I'm so in state that I see two of them massively attracted off the bat. I sit down with the cutest one and start clawing and getting physical, she's giving me the fuck me eyes. I probably could have made out with her - and this was a bit of a sticking point last night although, in the end, I fixed it - was that of not escalating hard enough. It was really on with this girl, but it was very early in the club and I needed to rhythm the interaction for the rest of the night. Her eyes were actually tearing up as she said she was so tired and had just flown in from Sydney or something. Anyway, when she is leaving, there is this massively sexually tense look between us as though we should kiss. I leave it for some reason and that's that. Pretty cute girl, great interaction, but I got to escalate hard.

In so many ways, this night felt like a sarge-a-thon. I opened loads of sets and got attraction in a lot of them. Many of them getting very physical, lots of numbers and great interactions. But, it was a very tiresome night as nothing was sticking. All my sets were opening and attraction was happening, but it was such a hectic club and i wasn't getting physical enough to hold the sets in this chaotic environment. I have really been working hard on my sub-communication, masculine polarity, and state that I think I forgot about hard physical escalation and tighter verbal game. Must remember these elements and the fact that masculine polarity and amazing sub-communication aside, you need to hold the set physically and verbally via the old tried and tested "tactics." Now, since I'm learning some new behaviors, I'll have to calibrate it properly. That's fine, it takes time and I'm cool with that.

One set, in particular, really stood out to me during this night, albeit very short.

I see these two cute blondes and open them and they say they are waiting for some friends, but if those friends don't show up they will come and sit with me. Kind of a weird little excuse there, but i let it go. My friends, who are naturals, go up to the girls about 20 minutes later and those girls are into them. Given it was my 2 friends and 2 girls the logistics were good, but they are also very physically dominant and so they held this set. The very cute blonde in this set was all over my friend - and this stood out to me because I noticed that he had amazing masculine polarity, dominance physically, and he held that set whereas before I had tried to hold the set using my "subcommunication & polarity" without much physicality. That was a mistake and I saw the ramifications of my ways right in front of my eyes.

This hit me very hard and got me in my head a bit. Then I thought, I'm losing state and resistance began to set in. I have a personal boundary of not micro-managing so I snap out of it and force my brain to regain access to the manual for sexworthy guy. I keep approaching hard and getting more physical now than before, literally set after set after set until the nimbus is back and I have the manual. I then ran an amazing set with probably the hottest girl in the club. It went amazing until this guy lit up a cigarette and blew smoke in her face and she got so pissed at him she got up and ran away. I tried to go after her but she was pissed and left the club - I immediately jumped into another set to not let it effect me and keep the nimbus going. Basically, after nearly opening any and every hot girl in the club, me and one of my friends decide it's time to change venues.

This change of venues was a great idea - actually chatted this girl I had met about a month ago but lost in the club. Got the number, will be calling her soon. Next, me and my friend notice this group of 3 girls, 1 of them is really cute and my friend starts dancing with her hardcore and I just wing and go for the friend. I'm getting really dominant with the friend, and I'm not exactly sure what my friend did, but the really cute one starts calling him an asshole and comes to dance by me. He doesn't care and grabs some next girl to dance with and I grab her. It's really physical grinding with me and her and, since it's 330 AM, I go for the pull to a restaurant. After loads of resistance, I tell her to invite her friends to join us. She is trying to call them but they're not answering. All the while, I'm grabbing a cab and pulling her to go, assuring her we're going to this late night restaurant (which was actually my plan). She jumps in the cab and as we pull away, I see her friends out of the corner of my eyes through the window and to make sure she doesn't notice, I re-engage her with some interesting, random stories.

As we wait in line for the late night place (it's ALWAYS packed her at 4 AM), there are some guys in line who are speaking polish and my girl, being polish, over hears them. Apparently, they were saying some really nasty things about me and her, I couldn't understand it but she said that we should go get takeaway at mine instead. You don't got to tell me twice! I grab another cab and go back to mine.

After getting to mine, the key was relentless persistence to get the lay. This girl was so negative about everything and shit tested the hell out of me. I mean, basically every shit test you have ever read about in the community was thrown at me as soon as she got to mine. I WAS SHIT TESTED FOR AN HOUR STRAIGHT all the while she was drinking wine and getting more and more attracted as I held my frame, was non-outcome dependent, and kept the mood very light and fun. She kept saying she should go home at which point I began cavemanning her to which I got token resistance. Anyway, I was in LMR for about 45 minutes until I told her that the sun was coming up and I really just want to get some rest, so we should both go to bed. She wanted to borrow some clothes to sleep in and I obliged and waited for her in bed. I started flickering in and out of sleep when I noticed that she had put her dress back on and told me she was going home because she "couldn't sleep in her makeup." I told her the face wash in my bathroom can remove any makeup (totally made this up LOL) and if it doesn't, she can go home.

Well, this worked like a charm and she came to bed with no makeup. From there, I actually fell asleep holding her and she woke me up in the middle of the night, making out with me and got on top of me. From there, it was nothing but pure bliss ;)

LESSONS LEARNED:

1. Proper vocal projection via preparation keeps your voice dominant the rest of the night
2. Push the social self down by doing warm ups 
3. Non-reactiveness & non-outcome dependence are keys
4. Right action in the face of state issues
5. Force your brain to give you the sexworthy guy manual via intense persistence
6. Get more physically dominant and leading
7. Despite working on my masculine polarity and sub-communication, do not lose sight of fundamental pickup tactics