THE FORUMS

 Tuesday night in Barcelona, Spain. I am quite tired physically (today I've gone to the gym), but have this delusional idea that tonight I can truly express myself to everybody. So I want to interact with females.

My wing (who refuses to learn any pick up theory), wishes me to play with the ps3 and do some internet poker... I tell him that tonight I am going out, no matter what. It's not the first time I go out on my own, so he acknowledges my decision and off I go.

Bus times to Barcelona downtown. Here it is excellent 'cause you can get on one every ten minutes.
The purpose for me today is to emotionally communicate with people; the less words, the better. I first sit in the front, but soon I realise I am quite isolated from the rest of the people in the bus so this can only be deleterial to get me engaged in social mode. Realisation-----> Action: I go to the mid-section and I sit aside a 30 year old looking latina. No words. My mind is flowing constantly in anything it finds interesting. Whenever this stops and I feel I am behaving like a socially conditioned guy, I reset by thinking "What do I want to do?" This way I realize that I want to see how gorgeous my sit partner might be, that I want to seat relaxed, etc... I find out that the latina is actually quite hot (a seven you could say in old system physical rating). Then, a guy who is in the front approaches and tells her that he knows her. She confirms, she says she's the girlfriend of a seemingly distant friend of him. This consciously halts me to interacting with intent with her (that's the only thing I could want at that time), although unconsciously I am feeling that she's finished job now and I sense her tired. Since I am also tired, I don't want to proactively get me on a high energy just to give any value... Unconsciously I realise this would be reacting to her, while I am not even really attracted to her yet.

Final stop. It's just ten meters away from the club entrance. I get in the queue. Nice vibing in the queue without any word. 00:30. Just as I go through the doors two girls are about to leave. Immediately I tell her the second they cannot leave now, that here Spanish people go out much later (here it is usual to go to the club from 2 am to 5 am. However, this a club in the center of the city, so loads of foreign youngsters come at 23:30 and feel discouraged to see an empty yet club. I am aware of this, so I come this early just to interact with this foreign ladies). Anyway, the first girl is going away so the second just is not brave enough to become isolated from her and goes. No problem. I go further into the club and realise what I was expecting: there are only tourists yet. I go to the bar, where there's a mixed set: two girls and a guy. I seat naturally besides one of them. I order a Coke (Coca-Cola in Spain). Good vibing with the bartenders, always me saying as few words as possible (I am tired, so this is perfectly congruent with my mood). I ask one of the bartenders if they need personnel, because my wing is looking for a Summer work yet. They tell me that they are not in need now, but also tell me that my friend could lay the C.V. (curriculum vitae, work and education history. How is it said in the USA??). Fine enough.

Then I look back and see two girls alone seated on a couch (physically two sevens I guess). I approach to the closer one, which by the way I later think is the "bossy" one of the two. I open with (In Spanish) "Hi, I am Javi. Can I get a sit here?". She looks into my eyes and nods in a polite but testing manner. While I am finishing my non-alcoholic drink I ask her if they are locals. She tells me she's portuguese, but is living here. Blah, blah, blah... Some pinging without the two, me relaxed as a fuck. I feel good quiet. She breaks silence and starts asking about me. We find out this commonality: she's working as a nurse while I am finishing my degree in medicine. I ask her friend if she's Portuguese as well and if she's a nurse too. Confirms. I propose health sector party tonight. I ask my girl if she's into salsa. I tell her that I began learning in January and I am still looking for a dancing partner. She refuses me to show her some moves; she says she's tired. I look at her. She's attractive. I get her up with me and begin touching. She hesitates and seats back. I am unapologetic. I like her soft skin. I take a glance at them while standing in front of them. I enjoy what I am seeing. They giggle and ping between them. I like them. When I tell her to go up to me again she refuses. I don't emotionally react, but my attention goes to the dance floor, as I enjoy the music. I tell them I'll see them around. I go downstairs to a second dance floor. While descending I realize I actually lacked intent with the girl (I was not that very attracted to her), so I decide that if they come down I'll reopen and focus on her physicality so to make myself a little horny. The dance floor is quite empty and the dj is warming up it...

Soon I see both girls coming down the stairs. I reopen them and they greet me like an old friend. I escalate physically with my girl and the other "goes to the bathroom". I try to kiss her. She refuses, she giggles. I tell her she's gorgeous. The second girl comes back and there's a smile on her face. I try to kiss my girl again with what I think is a good mixture of woo and intent. She is evading again. Her friend is surprised and giggles but approves me. My girl is trying to evade my eyes as I try to look into hers. I persist. She tells me she cannot leave alone her friend. I ask her friend if she likes anybody in the club, so I'll introduce him to her. She say's she's not seeking at all. I get back to my girl. More refuse. I tell her friend I will introduce her a cool guy. Now I recall Ozzie's technique "bring in the chode". I decide to pick a good looking guy (much better than me by usual social conditioned standards). He's Italian and easy-going. He only asks if the girl is really bad-looking. I tell him to see, he won't be dissapointed. I introduce him and ask the second girl what does she think... She looks satisfied :) Then I realise the Italian guy is beginning to interact too much with my friend, so I tell him in front the four of us that hers is the second one. Everybody seems to follow my lead and agree without saying word.

I get with my girl and try to kiss her again. Granted. Excellent soft, tender, Portuguese lips and kisses. We move to the dance floor, I realise she's not into the music so I lead her to the wall. Making out, physical escalation. She asks me if I have a girlfriend. I tell her not (it's true). She tells me I remind her of an "amigo colorado" (it is fuck buddy in Portugal) she had in Portugal 4 years ago which was as well studying medicine. Apparently we share several qualities, but al least his name was not Javi. I tell her "I am Javi, I am this way". We continue making out. I ask her to go to the bathroom and do it. She tells me that was a "fetish" she and her later boyfriend had. No problem. Now she wants to smoke, so we go upstairs (here I guess I suposed I was just giving value by allowing her to smoke, since I told her I dislike it). Now it is crowded upstairs and we don't know for sure if it's allowed to smoke, so I propose to go out of the club. We got the club stamp on our arms so we can get back into for free and start walking. I tell her we're going on adventure to a place (a love hostel) ten minutes away. She tells me she works tomorrow afternoon and she cannot be till late. She then realises my intention and refuses. At this point I realise I don't want to pay for a love hostel and I am hesitant where to close. She tests my hesitancy going back to the club. I tell it's ok, we'll try to do it in the bathroom. She says nothing but we go back into the club again. I lead her to the bathroom, so we go downstairs and into the ladies bathroom (me with my hand on my belly and my head faced down as if not feeling well...) Sure we get into the ladies bathroom, we confess each other it's our first time doing it in a club bathroom and close.

Afterwards, we go upstairs, and find her friend with the Italian, both doing quite well. I number close my girl and I decide to go home cause I feel tired. She asks me if I am tired and I realise she might want me to stay with her more time, so I hesitate a bit. But she sees that I am sincerely tired so doesn't try keep my company anymore.

As I am coming home in the bus I realise I didn't enjoy sex with her at maximum, since I didn't feel an emotional crush for her. Anyway, overall was very good and I plan to call her tomorrow in order to know this girl better.

(After beginning learning this stuff around 2005 I've gotten laid with three different girls "pulling" them from the club and I've had a fuck buddy which stopped our relationship after what I think she got validated sexing me few times).

Natural style rules for me.