A common day 2 problem

Posted July 30th, 2009 at 10:27 AM

#1

Respected Member

Join Date: 07/28/2008 | Posts: 763

Pyramid wrote:

If i do what i feel like id prolly just walk away cause i think its a cunt move to do that, but then again.. i wanna finish off what i have started, and also it would be coming off as really reactive

Any suggestions would be awesome

You didn't get the "reactiveness" concept at all. Here you wrote: "I think it's a cunt move to do" <- if this is what you genuinelly think then walking away would be exactly an act on your own intentions. Dude you gotta respect yourself, even though you have to say NO to a hot woman. If she's acting like a brat and you tolerate this shit by giving your power away, she will continue to act like this and will have no respect for you. If you don't respect yourself, noone's going to.

Why am I telling you this? I had this thing also, I've been walking with a girl and she were acting like that too .. like calling her friends constantly and stuff, while with me .. like I'm not really there .. what I did is I took her phone and put it in my pocket .. no words, ofcourse she tried to take it back .. but no go .. sure I gave it back to her after a while, because I was tired of her whining about it all the time, but before I did that I had to explain, that this kind of behaviour is not polite and that if she will continue to do that then the date will be over.

Actually .. long story short, she continued behaving herself like a brat without me calling her on that .. so I had to cut it right there .. I turnded my back on her and left with no explanations. This crap is unacceptable for me. So I never saw her again and not going to.

Did I get the girl? - NO.
Did I do the right thing? - YES.

If I would tolerate this kind of behaviour from her I would feel myself like a cunt .. because I have standards.

So ask yourself .. are you ready to chop off your balls and give it to her on a silver plate just to get laid?

If you don't like something .. step the fuck up and say that.

-V-

__________________

Helsinki / Finland - UNITE!

My FR Journal Thread
(any feedback is very appreciated)

Background: 25yo
Favourite club: Tiger

Login or register to post.

Posted July 30th, 2009 at 11:24 AM

#2

TableDance

Trusted Member

Join Date: 07/08/2009 | Posts: 1988

ValentineS +1

Login or register to post.

Posted July 30th, 2009 at 11:33 AM

#3

Pyramid

Junior Member

Join Date: 07/28/2009 | Posts: 6

ValentineS wrote:

You didn't get the "reactiveness" concept at all. Here you wrote: "I think it's a cunt move to do" <- if this is what you genuinelly think then walking away would be exactly an act on your own intentions. Dude you gotta respect yourself, even though you have to say NO to a hot woman. If she's acting like a brat and you tolerate this shit by giving your power away, she will continue to act like this and will have no respect for you. If you don't respect yourself, noone's going to.

your totally right man :) i have not come to the point where i genuinelly dont care, and ur also right with the fact that i feel like a cunt because i didnt pound her for it. BUT i know that i would feel like a cunt if i walked away too... cause it aint over til you give up, but letting go of a girl because shes behaving like a prick could be right too... but then u have to ask urself: how much do you want this? cause that will determine how much effort your willing to put in.

anyways thanks alot mate. this really helped ;]

Login or register to post.

Posted July 30th, 2009 at 11:55 AM

#4

ValentineS

Respected Member

Join Date: 07/28/2008 | Posts: 763

I can see your point .. sure, you don't have to walk away every time a woman makes something stupid. But you gotta call her on that always, like "Hey, that's not cool, stop it" .. just like when your buddy makes some stupid move, you just say: "Dude .. that's not cool .. zipp it", with a totally neutral tone. If she continues acting like a brat and takes you as a joke, you can show her that you were darn serious, by telling her: "Hey, I'm serious, stop it!" .. with more strict and breaking rapport tone. If she will not get it then, usually for me, it's done.

He he, I remember one girl tried to kinda playfully hit me with a whip .. but then she kinda got annoying, so I asked her to stop .. she didn't .. I asked her like 2 times more .. she didn't .. so I caught her hand and told her in all my strictness: "STOP THAT SHIT!" .. lol .. she got SCARED dude :)) I then had to give her a hug even and tell her that it's all fine :) She's my friend now and never treated me like a joke since that day ever. Only if I want her to do so.

-V-

__________________

Helsinki / Finland - UNITE!

My FR Journal Thread
(any feedback is very appreciated)

Background: 25yo
Favourite club: Tiger

Login or register to post.

Posted July 30th, 2009 at 12:20 PM

#5

Pyramid

Junior Member

Join Date: 07/28/2009 | Posts: 6

ValentineS wrote:

I can see your point .. sure, you don't have to walk away every time a woman makes something stupid. But you gotta call her on that always, like "Hey, that's not cool, stop it" .. just like when your buddy makes some stupid move, you just say: "Dude .. that's not cool .. zipp it", with a totally neutral tone. If she continues acting like a brat and takes you as a joke, you can show her that you were darn serious, by telling her: "Hey, I'm serious, stop it!" .. with more strict and breaking rapport tone. If she will not get it then, usually for me, it's done.

He he, I remember one girl tried to kinda playfully hit me with a whip .. but then she kinda got annoying, so I asked her to stop .. she didn't .. I asked her like 2 times more .. she didn't .. so I caught her hand and told her in all my strictness: "STOP THAT SHIT!" .. lol .. she got SCARED dude :)) I then had to give her a hug even and tell her that it's all fine :) She's my friend now and never treated me like a joke since that day ever. Only if I want her to do so.

-V-

haha there u go man :D thats awesome

Login or register to post.

Posted July 30th, 2009 at 2:47 PM

#6