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Tips for Life and fucking Chicks (poorly written)
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Zebra

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Join Date: 06/01/2007 | Posts: 274

I have allot of discussions with my friends about pick up, self actualization and success in general. It’s the sort of shit that guys talk about over coffee… what chicks we are fucking, how we are making money, loving problems, being masters of our domains.

I have noticed a trend in a lot of guys including myself when it comes to pick up. Learning how to become successful with girls is a wonderful hobby/ skill to engage in, and with any activity worth its time it often becomes a gateway into the relm of spirituality. I’m convinced that all pro athletes, artists, true entrepreneurs see their triad as more then just something they do. It becomes a source of Zen. Pick up more so then others I would boast because they whole game of pickup is one of inner change.

The pitfall here is that sometimes guys don’t separate their spirituality from their doing (active performance of the activity). Fuck man, I don’t know, maybe guys do, but it seems to me there’s a lot of dudes reading Tolle thinking its going to better their game. My experience…. It wont.

Make you a better more adjusted person…. Hell yes

Get your dick wet…… hell no.

I sometimes hear/give myself the excuse…. Im not living my values…. Or im not in the now….. I feel to needy as a valid reason to not try to pick up the chicks.

Shit PLEASE, I see fucking losers lay chicks that don’t know the first thing about living in alignment with their values/the cosmos.

Picking up chicks is about learning how to hunt. How do you know you want that girl when you see her? You feel it in your body…. Same way you feel when you see a big succulent kebab after a long night of walking around in a cramped room talking to people you don’t give a shit about!!! You just feel hungry…. For the kebab and the girl!!

It has nothing to do with your values or voodoo spirituality. Its about a forest dwelling cave monkey (you) learning how to go pick up a sharp stick and impale an antelope! That’s it, that’s what I’m doing every night I go out…. I try to figure out how to hunt. All the spiritual development, the beliefs, mentalities, centeredness, coolness, presence that have sprung forth into my life have been a byproduct of my monkey mind trying to evolve.

Evolve or DIE muthafucker!

The awesome part is that if a monkey fails to learn how to kill its pray its going to die of starvation. Therefore its scared shitless of failing. Failure equals death for it. I still think this way from time to time…. Expect for me its called approach anxiety.

Funny how even when I know that not getting the outcome has absolutely no reflection on anything relevant in my life, I still end up in a corner crying for my mommy on some nights.

Spirituality (does not) = success with women !

Acceptance of yourself, and all your perceived shitty lil shortcomings I think is the key. Accept that anything you think doesn’t make you worthy of fucking here and she will to.

ARGH dam it so simple on paper, yet applying to life is Mastery of life itself!

Fuck=)
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Lazybones

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Brutal, but honest.

Good stuff.

Consider posting it on the main forum.

Though I believe that living in alignment with my own values does improve my success. I won't fail because I didn't go to the gym today.

However I will feel less entitled to that deluxe blonde.
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Zebra

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Living with in alighment with your values makes it easier to accept yourself i think. Thast why its important to deal with that shit, but at the bottom of that is acceptance.

Thx bro, i post these lil articles on the field report part cause they are more for personal reflections. I write them up as tips as im not really looking to debate them with people, so i keep them in here, if people stumble in all the more fun!
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Zebra

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Got approached by a stripper tonight.

I was on a walk tonight clearing some things in my head and spirit, when out of the darkness I get approached by a petit young woman, very pretty. Turns out she is a stripper for the local gentlemen’s club. A promoter and a stripper, this girl is a entrepreneur.

I remember the last time I was approached by promoters for this club I turned them away in all heist. I kicked myself later cause I realized that I had judged these girls on socially conceived values without even thinking for myself. Judging people by others values is a sure fire way to be a fucking chode.

Anyway we started chatting a bit and the conversation was pretty good. I Started going into my game mode (witch I have now realized is an unconscious rehash of things I have learned from past experiences, and considering I have not slept with probably even 5% of the girls I have approached, working from this frame of mind is probably not the most productive in moving things forward).

We parted and shit was good, it was a fun lil conversation, I wished I would have pushed it as she was cute and I was feeling particularly on at the moment but oh well.

I realized that the instant that by going into my special unconscious game mode, I had tried to pull out the side of me witch I thought she would like. It’s the part of me I have molded into what i think women want (of course this is a fucking garantied fail).

This stripper has guys probably falling for her all the time. Has guys making her “special” in their heads all the time, she is a professional temptress. Its what she specializes in. It hit me like a fucking frate train. If I wanted to fuck a chick that is hot, has her pick of guys, and probably gets offered sex like candy every day, I would have to be the guy that dosnt make her special.

And fuck it, im not talking about negging her, or showing active disinterest, or some fucking technique! Im talking about when I interact with her that my inner shit is as a calm as a pond in the wee hours of the morning! Like not a fucking ripple.

Im going to admit something very personal for me here to all my community brothers…….*deep breath* Techniques and routines have NEVER fucking worked for me. Nopp, they just haven’t. If someone asked my tomorrow after 3 years of hanging around these forums, watching the DVDs and all this shit, if there are techniques that work…… I would have to laugh in their face and tell them to go get a shrink.

Back to the stripper and fucking her and other overly sexed women. I would have to be the guy that doesn’t go away thinking about her day in and day out. The kind of guy that calls her to see whast shes doing, if she wants to meet up, and not give a fuck what she answers. She plays lil games, I escalate PERIOD. Thats what guys who fuck girls do… they escalate. Not being phased when she gives me her lil reasons why she cant meet, me fuck me etc is all part of being the guy that gets laid.

Its fucking harsh, but growing up (stepping up) to the fact that women arnt Disney princesses is a key thing in getting it in. Women don’t want to fuck guys that idealize them. If they did strippers would fucked every loser guy that came into the strip joint.

Shit

Lets see how this all clicks in the real world.

SUM IT UP: Chicks don’t want sit on your lil inner trone /pedestal/wall of neediness. The guys who don’t treat girls specially internally, but just escalate things get to fuck. Girls want a guy who will give it to them without turning into a weeping vagina.
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Gunn

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routines never worked for me except maybe opening the obstacles first

 "She plays lil games, I escalate PERIOD. Thats what guys who fuck girls do… they escalate. Not being phased when she gives me her lil reasons why she cant meet, me fuck me etc is all part of being the guy that gets laid."


thats what im doin now
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ValentineS

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 I digg your shit .. HARDEN THE FUCK UP, that's what it is.
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Zebra

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 The process might look something like this. Atleast I have noticed in my experience

1. Expecting to be Rejected and caring about it. This is manifested in nervusness, reluctance, and inability to act.

2. Expecting to be rejected and being indifferent to it. I notice this happens when I really come into my own, when I really start experimenting. I can take action but I not getting much in the form in the success I set out to achieve.

3. Random results from the experimentation

4. Results start appearing more consistently and a pattern, a new habit, and a new belief starts to emerge. This is where the confidence kicks in.

5. Starting to expect not being rejected, but still actively having to work to get results. This is when you see things (like the girl) and you know you can get her, but you still have to push yourself to approach, call, move things forward. I drop the ball allot in this stage cause I get cocky and lazy.

6. Internalizing the behavior where its unconsciously become part of your life. You don’t do any more, you just are.
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Very well explained.
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Job

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Good stuff Mannen!

Heavy thoughts! I laughed when I read this post today, 'cause I started to re-listen "the power of Now" yesterday.

/J-dawg
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Zebra

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 Hit me a few days ago that I have always identified with being the underdog. It appealed to me. The feeling that I have the struggle for what’s mine because I was given a bad stack of cards was my life view.

In school I was a “slow” learner. I was a C grade student. Whenever I put in the slightest effort and got a better grade it was an epic victory for the struggle of me against what ever unknown phantom there was out there.

I did martial arts, wanted to fight against the people that wanted to stand against me.

Other sports…. Didn’t even bother because the possibility of failure in front of other people was to high.

The soundtrack of my life has been epic cinematic songs. The warrior preparing for battle, or the fallen hero struggling against the odds.

“I have to learn game, women weren’t given to me”. Every victory is a small, bloody, painstaking grab at the mountain I’m climbing!

What the fuck man

This was my excuse in the horrific event that I would fail at what ever it is that I was doing. Its not my fault! The odds are against me!… I fucking loved it. I fucking indulged in it.

Its hard to understand how a persona can take so much pleasure from making excuses. How my view on life didn’t seem bizarre to me. How I couldn’t understand that everything I had was a fucking gift given to me for absolutely no other reason then for me not have to struggle, for me to enjoy. I imagine it might be something like smoking.

Man we truly have been cast out of heaven. Garden of Eden isn’t a place, it’s a fucking mindset…. And It looks like me, maybe a large part of humanity has been exiled into a fucking barren battle for nothing. A fools battle.

Sad music appealed to me immensely.

Ok so what about this? Well by feeling like I was taking on the world it made me feel important. It made me feel like the hero of my own movie. I think that’s why I loved it…. Or rather why I was in love with the idea.

The further I go in life (im 22 right now) the more my lie gets reflected at me. I can only fool myself under proper circumstances. But every now and then a person comes along, or you find yourself in a place where all of a sudden your just exposed for the bleeding vagina you are. Sucks when that person is a friend of yours…..

Sometimes people ask themselves if life would have been better for them if they didn’t go down the path of self actualization, self help, learning game etc. This might be true mate, but it wouldn’t have been for me (hahaha look im doing it again, poor me!).

Ok well this was a pretty deep realization for me, that I was in love with my sad story. I don’t think allot of people could tell by looking at the life I lead… this was a major blind spot for me. Fuck if I know if im ready to let it go, to become conscious of this stab wound I inflicted on myself. Something Hamlet mentioned that appealed to me was “Once you become conscious of something bad in you its like having a wound. Just cause you know its there doesn’t mean it heals in an instant”

Might mean something for you to… yes you, reading this right now ( I know who you are!)

Cheers
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Zebra is on a writing frenzy, wtf!
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