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Koolaid' Field Report Thread
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Koolaid

Koolaid

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Join Date: 03/02/2007 | Posts: 2245

My background (24 years of age):
-trying to get a girlfriend since age 14 through social circle
-had a very hard time making friends until around 21-22
-one two week girlfriend at age 22. got dumped because I was needy
-lost virginity to unattractive girl at age 22 through cold-approach
-spent 1 year not going out and playing World of Warcraft when I was 23-24 years of age
-mostly acting passive/submissive in social situations for most of my life
-been going out every week since Sept, 2009 doing cold-approach

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Hmmm well it's been awhile. I went to this San Fran lair meeting. The people there were pretty nice, someone called Vince Kelvin was doing a seminar but I was late so I missed most of it. We went out to a couple bars and stuff after. I opened a couple of sets but ran out of things to say and no hooking. Every set I approached their level of fun/energy was a lot higher than mine so I just knew what would happen already.... maybe a self-fulfilling prophecy. I'm pretty shy now too even among the other guys. I feel pretty bad about the whole night even right now but I'll try not to dwell on it and focus on the positive... at least I went out and opened which is more than I've done for like half a year.

Self-tips:
1. Too much nervous smiling. Didn't even realize I was doing this till ppl told me.
2. Too much hesitating between seeing a set and then opening
3. Running out of things to say because not in state
4. Low energy / not enjoying myself socially hmm I forgot how to do this stuff now
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Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471

Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223

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#1
Doge~

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Hey Kool-aid, so awesome to see you back out there again.  San Francisco is a great place maybe you'll run into Jeffy out there. ;)

In any case don't worry so much when your out there, try not to go into game mode, just remember always to just HAVE FUN.  Enjoy yourself and offer value, this is very important.

Bring that good energy and positive vibe into the interaction.  It'll help a lot with any anxiety you might have.

If your not approaching, just don't think about it, it just makes you go into your head more.  Just forget about it for 10 minutes and try again later.  The most non-hesitant approaches I ever do are when I'm not even thinking about gaming and I see a girl and just open... BOOM.

Also, don't worry so much about state either.  I use to think about it a lot and it made me very state dependent.  If your out of state it's no big deal.  Besides, when your a cool guy, girls like you anyway regardless of state.

Good luck out there man, I look forward to reading your progress.
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Koolaid

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Went to a San Fran Lair member's party whose nickname was Mr.Awesome. It was pretty nice, haven't been to a house party in awhile. Everyone was really friendly, but still I couldn't talk to them too well. At least I wasn't the most quiet person there though. I've gotta come up with a better story about how I know lair people because I said he was a family friend and it really didn't fly lol.

There were a couple girls there and I talked to them a little bit which is more than I've had a chance to in months so thanks Awesome! The girls were friendly but not interested at all which makes sense because I think I didn't really make an impression or stand out.

I never felt really comfortable there at the party, but I didn't really expect to anyway... hopefully it wasn't a self-fulfilling prophecy. I think I am starting to talk more though which is a good sign and eventually I can be more comfortable and enjoy this stuff more.

I think I already know I gotta go through a whole lot of practice and experience before some improvements can be made, just gotta stick to it.

I'm not sure if I was smiling too much. I tried to keep track of it but eventually forgot.
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http://www.rsdnation.com/node/138865

Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471

Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223

Field report thread.
http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
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#3
Brad

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He's back.  He's back.  Oh yeah!!!

Sounds like you aren't having fun and analyzing things a lot.  That's cool as long as it isn't while you are out.  Have fun and then arm chair analyze after the fact.

Good luck dude...
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#4
Koolaid

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Haha yeah I'm back. I did have fun at some points and was bored / uncomfortable at other points. I didn't analyze much in field it was mostly when I came home. Can't believe you're an instructor now.
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http://www.rsdnation.com/node/138865

Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471

Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223

Field report thread.
http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
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#5
Koolaid

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Well....

At least I went out today. Probably opened/joined like 3-5 sets. No social hook point ever reached. Two sets I was in longer than 5 minutes just chatting. Most of my time I spent talking to guys... but at least I was being social. I met some dudes who were out of town and drank/hung out with them a bit and opened a couple sets with them.

Other than that not much I can say. I definitely didn't push myself hard enough. There were a couple opportunities I should've opened a set or stayed in but I didn't or ejected out of fear. Crappy night pretty much.
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http://www.rsdnation.com/node/138865

Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471

Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223

Field report thread.
http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
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#6
Doge~

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Any night that you gained reference experiences is not a crappy night.  It doesn't matter if you did 20 sets or 5.  Pickup is a learning process and an unwiring process.  It takes time and you're gonna be in it for the long haul.  Simply take action.

Glad to see you back out there.  If you get a chance, watch The Blueprint if you haven't yet, the most lifechanging program I've ever seen personally.  If I decide to take a BC with Jeffy next year, I'm definitely gonna pay you a visit.
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#7
Koolaid

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Yeah, upon reflection it wasn't even that bad of a night. Oh ya I watched it already, maybe I should give it another viewing. U should definitely come visit.
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Jeffy Bootcamp Alumnus Oct 30-Nov 1, 2009
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/138865

Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471

Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223

Field report thread.
http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
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#8
Koolaid

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Wow fuck... well at least I went out.

I opened over 5 sets maybe 10. About 3 hooked strongly.

1. There was this older woman about 30 something but decent looking. I couldn't handle her friend, so they kept leaving. She even bought me a drink and danced with me a bit, but I couldn't escalate. I tried to go for a makeout once or twice and failed. I asked her how good of a kisser she was, but after doing that and leaning in she didn't go for it.

2. There was this promoter girl. I was choding around had nothing to do. Promoter girl was pretty hot, asking me to sign up for some e-mail list. I offered to help her get other ppl to sign up. Maybe this was chode, maybe not, but I had nothing else to do. So after I did this she was extremely friend for the rest of the night. Wrote her name on my arm, wrote her name on a piece of paper so I could add her to facebook. But fuck I was chode and didn't ask for her number. As a result, I can't even make out her hand writing so I have no idea who to add on facebook. I shoulda just asked for the number wtf.

3. There was this half decent white-girl. She seemed pretty receptive to me, returned my kino and everything. Medium amount of kino she was ok with. I went for the make-out by asking her how good of a kisser are you. Maybe I should've just gone for it without verbally saying anything. Anyway, she brings up the boyfriend who she really likes. I felt kinda bad and I couldn't do much but chat after.

So it's weird but I never got blown out or anything. The failed hooks were just running out of things to say usually. I think I drank too much though to cover up AA, I gotta stop.
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http://www.rsdnation.com/node/138865

Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471

Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223

Field report thread.
http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
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#9
Koolaid

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I went to this pool party my apartment complex was throwing. It was a really crappy party lol, all old people or little kids. I ended up talking to old ladies most of the time and got number closed by an old lady lol. Oh well, maybe 3 sets worth mentioning. I saw a few other sets I wanted to open but I just choded out. The people were pretty friendly there.

1. The old lady knew this young girl who looked decent. She was pretty friendly to me but I ran out of things to say. I had to just do rapport questions because my mind was blank.

2. There were these two girls. kinda chubby but whatever I'm opening. I talked to them and they were fairly receptive. I ran out of things to say again lol.

3. There was one really hot girl. I think I looked at her too much and opened too late. I had to open her family friends or something, because she was in a group of like 4 ppl. The thing is she wasn't white and they were, so they were family friends or something. I talked to them for a bit and then I started talking to this girl. She was pretty friendly talking back, but not very interested from her body language. She was facing away from me for quite a long time while talking. Maybe I should've made her turn around? I was just talking, forced to use rapport/interview questions when I ran out of things to say. Her family friends/aunt were pretty friendly to me. In the end she had to go and I tried to a number close but no dice lol. There was some very light kino, like holding her hand when I asked her to show me a tattoo on her fingers and maybe a tap on the shoulder.

Well, I guess it wasn't too bad. I'm holding sets longer at least even though I run out of stuff to say. I am drinking too much though, it was like 3 dollar drinks there I gotta cut it down. Lol the old ladies were saying I smiled a lot, goddamn I keep forgetting I'm doing that. Hmm, also there was this little girl who was lost and I helped her find this employee who then helped her find her mother.
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Jeffy Bootcamp Alumnus Oct 30-Nov 1, 2009
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/138865

Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471

Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223

Field report thread.
http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
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#10
Brad

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How physical are you getting before the makeout attempt?  The smoother the escalation, the easier and more natural it is to go for the kiss.

And yeah, screw any verbal stuff to get the makeout.  Just go for it.  CHeck out my vid in my signature if you haven't yet to see, how it just flows from the physicality.

Also, did you read this?  http://www.rsdnation.com/brad/blog/do-you-have-problems-where-you-run-ou...

Haha, shameless self promotion...
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