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December 9th, 2016
Meditation Made Easy
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Slojodan

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Hey guys,

Several RSDN members have asked about how to meditate, so I'll lay it out quick right here, then probably link to it in my signature.

Beginning meditation is easy.  Here are the basic instructions:

1.  Find a comfortable place to sit.  It can be a chair, a pillow on the floor, the floor itself, or a couch.  Just make sure your back is straight.  So a chair or couch is fine if you keep your back straight, but no slouching.

2.  Turn off all distracting sounds in your house or apartment, such as music, computers that are noisy, etc.  Close windows if that helps.

3.  Set light to slightly dim, so you can still find your way around but won't be able to notice the light when you have your eyes closed.

4.  Set your cell phone silent (not vibrate) for all calls and texts.

5. Set your cell phone alarm to vibrate in 20 minutes.  If your phone can't be silent for calls while still having an alarm, just turn your phone off and set another alarm in the house.  Better to have a less invasive alarm like a vibration, or soft music than a loud ring.

6. Sit in your quiet spot and take three deep breaths.

7. Continue sitting and do not get up no matter how bored, restless, or agitated you are.  If you are thinking nonstop for the whole 20 minutes that's fine.  If you fall asleep, sit on the floor instead so you have to manually keep your back straight.  It's your ego trying to tell you it's impossible for you to finish.  Don't let it trick you.  It gets quieter each time.  If a thought comes up, honor it silently, but don't engage it.  Don't have an inner dialogue, just let the thought speak, and then let it go.  Don't suppress or resist thoughts, but don't engage them either.  This gets easier and easier the more you do this.

Do this 20 minutes a day, every day, without fail.  If you miss a day, of course you haven't lost your benefits, but the more days in a row you do it, the better momentum you get.  Once you can do it as I say, feel free to change it up to your own style if it suits you better.  Be honest with yourself.  Also, it's fine to start with 5 minutes a day, then 10, then 15, then 20.

Question:  "Dan, I'm too busy minded to meditate.  I can't sit still."

Anaswer:  That's like saying you're too fat to go to the gym, and get tired on the treadmill.  Suck it up and sit there for the 20 minutes.

Honestly, meditation is the baseline for everything else I post about here.  If you can't sit still in a room for twenty minutes, you probably won't be able to apply anything else I say either.  Even if you are doing EFT, Sedona Method, and Release Technique for hours a day, if you are not meditating, you are only getting a small percentage of the benfits.

Sometimes I think I've come far enough to rely on Sedona without using meditation.  After a week, it's obvious that I was wrong, once I see all thought baggage accumulating, and negative thoughts popping back up.   As much as I talk about Sedona Method like it's the holy grail, it fails for most people, as they don't take it seriously.  It's the same with any diet, or pickup strategy..  At my Sedona Method meetings in San Diego, there are several people releasing since 2004 or even 1992, with very little to show for it.  These are people who aren't meditating regularly, and aren't really challenging themselves in their inner work.  I've told them what I do differently, and they always have an excuse.

Imagine your mind is a land of soil.  With inner game work, you clear the garbage underneath.  However, this is only possible if you are on top of the soil to begin with.  If you have a constant inner dialogue of thoughts, it's as if you have huge rocks all over your soil, so it can't even be seen.  With all this covering up your subconsious, you can, at best, move some rocks around, and occaionally pull a bad weed out, but will lose out on most of your growth opportunities. 

Seriously, if you have inner game issues, expect no results if you're not meditating regularly
..  The harder it is for you to sit still for 20 minutes, the more you need it.  

--Dan
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To all, thanks for reading.

If you'd like to know how I got to this mindframe, read my post:  How to Choose an Inner Game Program
If you're curious on how to meditate:  Meditation Made Easy
Recommends Release Technique, Sedona Method, and EFT
Please read the Meditation thread before PMing me with a question.  Thank you.
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Shazam!

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I like this.  Though I haven't been consistant lately, I find that meditation does pretty much seem to help even if I'm not having the "best" sessions, whatever that means.  Even the ones where I sit there, scattered and mind racing and struggling for all of those 20 minutes seem to set a calmer pace and a clearer mind for the rest of my day after that.  
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Slojodan

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Shazam,

100% agreed.  Twenty minutes of your mind racing 99 miles an hour while you meditate still makes your day so much easier than if you'd just given up.

Eventually meditation becomes like a good diet or exercise where if you don't do it for a bit you start feeling weird and get back to it.  As Wayne Dyer says, when you get really mentally healthy, you can't imagine life without meditation.  
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To all, thanks for reading.

If you'd like to know how I got to this mindframe, read my post:  How to Choose an Inner Game Program
If you're curious on how to meditate:  Meditation Made Easy
Recommends Release Technique, Sedona Method, and EFT
Please read the Meditation thread before PMing me with a question.  Thank you.
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This is excellent.
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bawc

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solid, thanks
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sabster

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Thanks. Meditating has been in the back of my head to start doing but I never got around to looking it up. This a great beginner's look at it. I will begin to do this.. inner game is something that I feel I can always improve.
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Dick Gallo

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Good stuff, but WTF is teh Kia Sedona Method?
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I just did this.. I kept thinking for probably the first 15 min lol. But I felt very relaxed after doing this now.. not as tense as before. Verrry Nice.. I Liike! Will be doing this everyday now. Yay.
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Dick Gallo

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Fuck yeah.

I'm meditating every day. It's so easy to do, and I've heard nothing but positive shit.
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Sales Manager: You have no previous sales experience, I don't think you can handle rejection.
BonoboTimes: Your right, I don't. However, I've been fucking models since I was 17. I've dealt with being called ugly, stupid, gay, creep, asshole, and a bunch of other shit. Been told to go away, don't talk to me, go fuck yourself, and I'm not interested by over three thousand women and groups of people. I can handle rejection better than anyone on this lot if not city. Not only that, I never leave. I will follow the customer across the fucking street if I have to. I simply do not give a fuck. I close.

Evil Stifler: "My internal cheerleaders are on my team, bro. They're like, GO, GO, GO, GO!"

Eckhart Tolle: "Adam and Eve saw that they were naked, and they became afraid."

TheFADER: "The club is always a place I can count on to get complete peace and quiet while studying my math."

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sabster wrote:
I just did this.. I kept thinking for probably the first 15 min lol. But I felt very relaxed after doing this now.. not as tense as before. Verrry Nice.. I Liike! Will be doing this everyday now. Yay.
yeah i just tried this out earlier too.  felt great after 15 minutes.  i think the problem most people have with starting out doing meditation is they feel like they need to be overly spiritual, and start eating vegan, etc etc.
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Slojodan

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Yeah Bawc, you hit the nail on the head.

There's an aversion to being "that guy" who meditates and eats wheatgrass,  and talks about his chakras.  You don't need to be spiritual to meditate.

In fact, I leave the door open as much as possible for this all to be in-your-head phenomena that just happens to have real powerful results.  Problems keep going away, navigated through Comic Con traffic effortlessly today, and things are just easier in general.  I'll keep going down the rabbit hole until things stop getting massively better.


bawc wrote:

yeah i just tried this out earlier too.  felt great after 15 minutes.  i think the problem most people have with starting out doing meditation is they feel like they need to be overly spiritual, and start eating vegan, etc etc.
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To all, thanks for reading.

If you'd like to know how I got to this mindframe, read my post:  How to Choose an Inner Game Program
If you're curious on how to meditate:  Meditation Made Easy
Recommends Release Technique, Sedona Method, and EFT
Please read the Meditation thread before PMing me with a question.  Thank you.
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