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July 28th, 2017
Living Success To The MAX From My Core!~
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#41
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anything for you Adam shades

- broke up with a girl I was seeing 1.5 months (my first and longest relationship actually) because I just love being single. I'm actually quite rusty now when I go out to clubs and parties, I know I'm the shit and so I don't even try anymore haha - I just go in and assume they're down right away (which isn't bad) and in doing that I don't do any of the core game principles like build attraction first, comfort, seduce. I'm just rushing through everything and not trying (which once again isn't bad, i'm just a bit uncalibrated atm due to lack of practice last few months). Not to worry, it'll be all good soon!
- launched a new info-product business yesterday: Learn how to DJ in 2 weeks beginner training video course. If anyone wants a free copy (RRP $47), PM me with your email addy and i'll create a free membership for you
- training hard to get into VFL level football

The biggest realization/mind shift I've had over the last few weeks is I don't feel the need to talk about picking up girls or analyzing how I went. I realized women are just a normal part of life and not something I need to study anymore. Like right now women are the same to me as drinking water, eating food, going to uni, working, etc... it's just another part of life. It's important, but it's no big deal, it's just another aspect.

After realizing this, I feel like there's no point writing up FR's and learning new tactics/strategies/mindsets to attract women. I'm enough. Alex helped me realize this by saying you're at a point where you've got to stop being a student of life and be a player of life. This is finally hitting home a few months later and I've been applying this attitude to all areas of my life including business. This PLAYER OF LIFE attitude is really one of the most profound and life changing attitudes I've ever received from anyone! Thank you Alex.

In saying that, although i'm not getting threesomes and getting laid every week by models I don't need game anymore. After a bit over 2 years i'm at a stage where i'm ready to leave the community as a student. I don't know everything and i'm not the best at everything there is to picking up girls, BUT I DON'T NEED TO BE! Wouldn't it be so much better to be the best about something you're passionate about such as YOUR SPORT, YOUR FAVOURITE HOBBY, YOUR BUSINESS, etc. It's like why would I dedicate myself to being passionate and becoming the worlds best person at drinking water - sure I could be but who gives a shit?
WARNING TO NEWBIES: When first getting into the game it's extremely important to dedicate yourself to going out x number of nights, pushing your comfort zone and all being immersed in the community. When you're ready to leave the community, you'll know - which I do now.

So what am I gonna do now? I'm going to continue pushing my comfort zone, smash through plateaus and just enjoy the ride!




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After just missing out on a SNL last night with a HB9 here are some things I can improve on for next time:

- take higher risks
- be more dominant
- have more intent


Good points from Alex's SOR article:
Core confidence, unreactiveness, offering value and being assertive
are all behaviours that inspire attraction in women. Not because of the behaviours themselves, but because they are the markers that you’re an alpha male – and thus, desirable to be with.
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I was looking through pics on my phone and thought this was pretty funny...

RE: I woke up one morning to the sound of my bed collapsing and sleepy me thinking wtf is going on...
The background story is the night before this happened I had a girl sleep over - and it must've rocked the bed to it's final rest.


And to the smart arses: no - she was not behemuth u fucks haha!! tounge
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2nd pic
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#45
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hahah,

thats the definition of "quality problems" :)
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ahhaah nah wasn't her unfortunately. That blonde one was 99% guaranteed but got away at the last moment. Ok here's the FR:

THE ST.JAMES TICK OF APPROVAL BLONDE THAT GOT AWAY - PISSED OFF TIMEZ angry

It was one of my best friends bday and we had a small party with his cloest friends at his house - 4 guys, 3 girls. B'day boy had a gf who was there, and so did another guy. So really it was 2 guys, 2 girls - 1 girl was hot, the other not so much! (Borat style).
Even though I've never the blonde one before, I somehow managed to talk over the phone a few times earlier that day leading upto the party. HOW did i do this incredible feat? I called bday boy and she picked up! Anyway she saved my number (without my permission!) and called me later that day asking about presents and drinks. So yeah, before I even got to the party I knew she was keen! And bday boy told me earlier that day she is DTF as she is very emotional atm (I didn't pursue finding out why, but a few weeks later found out she had recently broke up with her bf).

So back to the story, I get to bday boys house with a slab of Asahi and almost right away, we all start having shots and beers. Everyone's laughing having a good time. I put on the 'your my girlfriend for tonight' frame and am getting lots of kino with blondie - hugs, picking her up, clawing hard, etc. I could've easily kissed her and hooked up with her upstairs, but I know the night is still young so I let the tension build. After about 2 hours we head to a strip club to celebrate bday boys 20th! Strippers ask if I want a dance, but I can't help but laugh at the thought of paying for a lapdance when I'm going to get laid later tonight with an even hotter girl for free!

Unfortunately it was here that everything started to go downhill. The place was pretty dead and the strippers weren't great and everyones state was dropping - it was much more fun at the house. I've started hanging around the guys more and my girl is nowhere to be seen. When I do see her around the club, the massive tension and fun we had back at the house is pretty much gone. I guess 1 reason for this is she's now had a bit too much to drink and is almost dozing off to sleep on the couch. We didn't drink THAT much, but supposedly she hadn't drunk alcohol for months and had a pretty low tolerance it seemed.  It's now 1am or so and everyones getting pretty tired so we start to head back to the bday boys house. I was certain we were going to have an afterparty and would have begun escalating hard there and taken blondie to the spare bedroom.

BUT when we arrived at the house in 2 seperate cars (2 guys in our group weren't drinking) where me and blondie were in different cars, bday boy and his gf got out and gave off the vibe like they were tired and wanted some alone time so to my disappointment, we drove off back home. In the car I texted some last ditch txt to blondie who was in the other car in front of us, but I wasn't assertive enough in deciding what to do now and nothing happened. It sucked that both drivers are the worst wingmen in the fucking world and just wanted to go home rather than helping a bro out. This is what I hate about my current friends - they don't get pickup and are too quick to give up when the going gets tough - and they don't want to help wing me if there's nothing in it for them.

eg. Just a few nights ago on Saturday, I wasn't gonna go out because I'm studying for exams atm, but somehow I got convinced to come out. Good thing I did because me and my other 2 mates found ourselves at crown casino at 3am where I met a HB9 on a weekend getaway from Perth! DING-DING-DING we have a winner! As soon as I saw her I knew it was on. She tested me, but this was the girl for me and I smashed through her tests and she was massively attracted to me. Within 5 minutes she left her 1 friend with my friends at the blackjack table whilst we went on a 20 minute adventure around the casino. I could've pulled to her hotel easily, but once again my friends were being gay and weren't willing to wing me by keeping the ugly girl occupied. Why do hot girls go out with fat friends arrhhrhrh!!!
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THE FR THAT HAD TO BE TOLD... NEVER GIVE UP IT'S A NUMBERS GAME


I've been so busy running my business and living life that I haven't had much time for RSD recently, but I just had to share last nights events because I think it will help a lot of people here. For those looking for cliff notes, the point of this FR is that keep approaching regardless of your state because eventually something will click - even if you got blown out 4 times in a row, go again because the 5th one may be perfect.

In my case, I was in 6 sets (5 minutes+ each - not just open/no?/ok bye) but didn't get far until the 7th which was the winner.

The night started of with me downing 4 double blacks for predrinks at a mates house with the boys, then we went to bar 1. Got a Corona there and just chilled with the boys. Then we went to club 2 where Mobin Master (DJ who wrote show me love) was meant to play tonight. It was a relatively small clubs compared to others, but still more than big enough and brough quality girls. A few minutes after coming in I saw an outstanding turbo HB9.5 in a 2 set with her friend. So I walked up to them and asked something like 'So is mobin master a girl or a guy' they answered and then I didn't really know what else to say and they were just like 'uhh ok..' and resumed talking to each other. It felt kinda awkward for a few seconds as I was standing there by myself for like 20 seconds until I opened them again, but I ejected quickly afterwards. I did a warmup set on one of the hottest girls of Fitzroy street (one of Melbourne's best areas for good clubs and bars that brings in 1000's of people).

My mate told me 'follow my lead' and before I knew it we were in set with 2 average girls. I was killing it and my girl was laughing like crazy and liking my heavy kino so soon and I guess it's because I truly didn't give a fuck in this set. I need to be like this in ALL sets. After 10 minutes we bailed on them.

I was lined up in the bar and saw another turbo HB9 in front of me (Damn what a night all the hotties were here tonight.. Yes!!) I opened her with something about girls buying guys drinks and she was giggling at first, but after a minute she became more and more angry after she said 'i'm out of the game' and I responded by telling her game stuff like 'that's impossible you're stroking your hair you clearly wanna fuck me' hahaha. She walked away - probably because she was pissed of her bf was here and she couldn't get with me tounge

After that I was sitting on the couches in the corner of the club with my friends we were just chilling and having a good time. Then I saw the HB9.5 from the first set in a much larger set now and I kept getting pulled in to look at her and wanted to approach but kept pulling myself back. Eventually after a few minutes I sat next to her and said something like 'damn I wanna have fun with my mates but I had to come meet you because there's just something about you... you're not like the other girls' (And it was true - I was not spitting out a line this was almost my dream girl I wrote out in detail after doing Tim's Flawless Natural). Needless to say she was pretty wrapped with my honesty and congruence and offered some of her cosmo drink to me (which is obviously a good sign). I mini isolated her from her group and talked 1 on 1. Somewhere during the convo I heard the word boyfriend so I stopped her and said wait was that guy your boyfriend? and she was like 'no no no he's just this...' so I thought since she's denying a boyfriend so much she clearly doesn't have one and is dtf. After about 30-45 minutes of solid chat (mostly rapport) her friend pulled her away to get a drink. She said wait here i'll brb. But I walked off for a few minutes and then went to the bar to get a drink of my own. She just got her drink at the bar as I rocked up and whilst I was waiting for a drink, she said 'Hey I gtg outside for a bit my boyfriend is here' and walked outside.
WHAT THE FUCK. THIS IS BS. angry I was confused at first, but then furious. I thought this was on for sure...
My mates had gone off to the next venue so I decided to leave this place that had now picked up and was full of lots of hotties. I had the fury in me and was ready to fight if a guy started me. As I walked through the dance floor with this attitude moving people out of my way I got smiles from all the girls I walked by. They were already interested in me for some reason but I just couldn't be fucked after spending so much time and energy on the set just before. This attitude got me much further than walking through the dancefloor smiling as I usually do. Girls love the fury.
I walked out of this place past the HB9.5 and her bf and didn't turn back; NEXT VENUE.

I chilled out with 1 of my mates but my energy had dropped after so much mental investment on the girl before and I just couldnt be fucked approaching. After 30 minutes of downtime and punching a table, I said 'fuck it' let's do this. So I caveman'd 2 girls walking by getting them in a GENTLE! headlock and talked random crap about the hat I borrowed of my friend. They were laughing but had to get back to their boyfriends. NEXT!

I can't be fucked writing anymore but basically I opened up a few more sets which went ok but nothing eventuated. I had fury flowing through me for over 4 hours (normally it's just short bursts but this was the most consistent spell of it). Now by having fury it's not like I was starting people or being a rude jerk I just didn't give a fuck and had something driving me giving me strength. It was now 3am and me and my mate had pretty much called it quits on picking up and were just looking for a ride home. We were outside a club and saw a hot group of girls with another HB9 (damn what a night!) and went upto them. I had less fury and was more in state, just looking for some people to split a taxi with. Anyway something just clicked with me and this HB9 and we naturally isolated 1 metre away from her 2 friends and just started talking. Her friends were cool with it and my friend didn't even have to wing me. Lot's of rapport, lots of kino. After getting to know this girl turned out she was very cool and was qualifying herself to me like she does athletics, did a triathlon recently, doesn't do drugs like 90% of all the other girls here (arhhh I hate that), and basically all round cool chick - and hot! After 10-15 minutes of our little chat I told her I had to go and she's like 'maybe we'll see each other here next week' but I said 'nah fuck that lets get a coffee or something in the next few days give me your number'. She happily did and said she'll be working in a cafe soon so she can get me free coffee, you beauty!

Btw through out the convo she kept saying she's going to her friends apartment tonight that's not far from here so I know if I wanted to, I probably could've fucked her that night. Honestly I was too tired having gone for a run on the beach at 9am that morning (btw that is an amazing way to start the day!).
I know this number is solid because it wasn't even like 1 of us was gaming each other more, it was pretty much equal (49% me vs. 51% her if you want to put a number on it) but we simply both liked each other and that made it easy.

LIFE LESSON FROM THIS: Pick up is a numbers game. Regardless how many girls you talk to or get blown out, keep opening without any specific outcome in mind. Just be 100% in the moment and everything will take care of itself.
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#48

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siiick..
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#49
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solid plan mate its on.

And you're right, I have been working hard and it's time for an update:

NO ONE IS ABOVE THE PROCESS

For the last few months I've been thinking 'oh yeah i'm the shit I don't need game... I AM GAME.' etc, etc. And as a result, I don't give a fuck about my results and I don't try because I know I can get any girl I want. HOWEVER - this mentality actually led me to having ZERO success over the last few months! Sure I'm feeling good about myself, but the bottom line is I'm not getting my dick wet.

Alex's famous line 'NO ONE IS ABOVE THE PROCESS' only just recently clicked and I get it. My interpretation of that line means you need to have outer game. You can feel good and confident inside, but if you don't say or do the right thing then you can't get success (& yes, I am keeping in mind the principle whatever you do or say is right because you're saying it'.

I can really see the light at the end of the tunnel and I know I am just an inch away from cracking the code to the game.

PS: Just watched 'the butterfly effect', awesome movie! Definitely in my top 3 along with fight club and american beauty.
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game is messy

consistency is a futile goal to have in regards to game. in fact, you should have no explicit goals in regard to game except to get married and start a family one day

that is all.
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