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haha yep! Heard you been killing it the last few weeks mate 

LR 2: FEELS LIKE I'M CHEATING

This one feels a bit like I'm cheating because I met up with the same girl again. Here's how it went down:

- she wanted to hang out with me so we got some lunch together
- we met up again later at 8.30pm when I picked her up from her place
- drove her to my wingman Josh's house (who is a fucking legend for organizing this night so I could use his place - can't use mine cos of folks)
- we had some pre-drinks with Josh and his mate
- hit up the local nightclub where I hooked up with my girl for most of the time (I was a little bored actually haha)
- got a taxi back to Josh's, started making out and the rest is history...
- after we were done, we heard Josh come back with 2 girls - needless to say he had a good night too...

Now that I've finally been getting laid (somewhat consistently) I've had a bit of an attitude shift. Now when I speak to girls, I'm coming from a more abundance place and am not nervous about fucking them because I know it's natural. Getting an SNL, or an f-close on the 2nd or 3rd date is no big deal. It's just normal.

EVEN AFTER 4 YEARS OF BEING ACTIVELY IMMERSED IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT, LOOK AT ALL THIS LIMITING AND BS BELIEFS I'VE UNCOVERED TODAY

So I'm doing an exercise from internet marketer Frank Kern who said BELIEFS are the absolute most FOUNDATION of EVERYTHING - and you need to change your limiting beliefs into empowering beliefs to be successful. I've heard this before many times but I knew that it was time to do a spring clean so here I'll post it here. I'll post the follow up empowering beliefs in a few hours. Some of these things aren't exactly beliefs if you want to be precise, but I was just doing a braindump and here's what I can up with.

The real reason i'm posting this on RSD is because I want my thread to reach 1000 views already!

HEALTH
- My immune system is weaker than normal peoples
- I have to eat junk food sometimes because it’s just so good and I can’t live without it
- I cant jump straight out of bed in the morning and go do something because I’m just so tired and I need rest
- Doing exercise everyday is bad because I’m going to waste lot’s of time and water taking showers everyday
- I can’t follow a healthy diet because my mum won’t buy what I need
- I can’t have 6 small meals a day because it takes too much time to prepare, carry around and then consume

BUSINESS/MONEY
- I’ve been doing Internet marketing for 3 years now and still am not a millionaire whereas many others (especially young people interested in business and PD) have reached it many times over by now and are better than me.
- I must make my sales funnel perfect before I release my product because then I’ll miss out on potential sales and will have to spend more time adding in those extras later anyway
- I can’t finish an info product completely because if it’s not successful then that means I’ve failed again and I’ve exhausted all my options.
- If I can’t make a successful information product especially after all the knowledge and experience I have, then there’s no hope left for me after that.
- I must make an information product because they’re cool, easy to manage and that’s what I’ve been learning how to make for years.
- If I become successful then people will think of me as just an Internet marketer – they’ll say anyone can do that it’s not like he’s an elite athlete or famous actor or musician.
- If I have multiple niche products to make money people won’t think I’m genuine and the best at either one if they find out
- Most people in society think businessmen are sneaky, stingy, greedy and don’t give back as much value as they receive – and I don’t want anyone to think that about me.
- I don’t have time to run a successful business because uni takes up too much time
- I can’t run a successful business because I want to go out, have fun and socialize with my friends but I know that I need to be working if I want to succeed.
- Having a successful business means having no social life and missing out on the best years of my life whilst I’m young
- If I have a successful business I won’t be able to hang out with my current social circle of friends because we’re not on the same level – so I’m scared of losing my friends because and I don’t know if I can make new successful friends that I will become as close with



UNI
- I need to study 24/7 like I did in VCE to get HD’s
- The content they teach is bs and doesn’t apply to real life
- The people that go to uni and want a job when they graduate are idiots because they are stuck in social conditioning
- Doing uni work holds me back from reaching business success
- I don’t have any really close friends from uni that I hang out with outside of uni because I didn’t meet them earlier during orientation and hit it off right away
- The lecturers are losers and don’t have street smarts so everything they say is pointless
- I’m only going to uni to get a degree which is just to say I have a degree in marketing. I see no actual useful purpose for learning the content which will get my that degree. It’s like its just superficial with nothing important on the inside.
- I’m a bad student because I failed one subject last semester
- I’m a bad uni student because I don’t try and don’t care about my mark
- I won’t get a good job in marketing anyway because my grades are shit and no excellent employer would want me
- getting a uni degree won’t get me a Porsche 911 Turbo or bring me happiness
- going to uni is a waste of my time that could be used living and is in conflict about my belief to live to the max
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FAMILY
- my parents are not successful and have a scarcity mindset and negative beliefs so everything they say that’s against my beliefs is wrong
- I can’t tell my parents everything and be completely honest otherwise they will get angry with me or start panicking because what I believe is so against their strongest beliefs.
- I can’t speak up and make decisions because my dad is the man of the house and his word is final
- I don’t speak much at the dinner table because my parents are boring and not funny and make lame jokes when they try to be.
- I don’t speak much at the dinner table because I’m afraid what I say won’t be interesting or funny enough and people won’t respond positively to me and will think I’m a doofus


FRIENDS
- my main friends are holding me back from achieving success in all areas of my life because they are mediocre in their own life. I’m the one that’s constantly at the top and pushing them up, but their constant presence pulls me back down to their level and I can’t succeed.




PEOPLE
- most people are stupid
- people who don’t live by the principles shown in the blueprint annoy me because they are uncool and not at my coolness level
- people don’t like me
- people are always judging me
- I can’t let myself be vulnerable to letting my personality flow freely because people will cut me down and tease me
- I need to always have the upper hand in social interactions and be careful with what I say or else people will jump on that opportunity to tease me and they’ll realize I’m actually not cool
- People who want advice or help from me are value takers and it annoys me to be around them
- If everyone was happy and successful then if I was too, it wouldn’t be a big deal and I wouldn’t be happy because I wasn’t significant.

GIRLS
- I only want to be friends with hot girls because I don’t want to be associated with ugly, fat or un-cool girls
- I need to build attraction in a girl before she can like me
- I need to be extra cool when I’m around a girl I like because she won’t like the real me

SPORT
- I’ll never be a professional football player because I started playing too late
- I’ll never be a pro football player because I haven’t been immersing myself with coaches in technique, mindset, conditioning and nutrition to be the best that I can be.
- I’ve decided to become a professional AFL player at 20 years old and that is too late because others have been training at that intensity since they were at least 12 years old.
- I didn’t go to a private school so I haven’t had as much football experience as people who did and got to train heaps.
- I still don’t have a system set in place that will help me achieve this goal
- The chance I can still succeed in becoming an AFL player is less than 1%
- Having a business and DJ gigs will prevent me from focusing 100% energies into football
- I don’t train as hard as I should be atm so I’m not serious about this and won’t achieve this goal.
- Being an AFL player is bad in that I can’t travel whenever I want, I have to eat very strictly and there won’t be much variety in my life.

MYSELF
- I don’t have a chiseled face like Australia guys do so girls won’t be that into me
- I don’t have a large range of good clothing so I’m never dressed as well as other guys and don’t have a good style at times so I feel ugly and sloppy.

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I feel a lot better getting that off my chest and becoming aware of some of my previously unconscious beliefs that were buried deep in the subconscious

good idea - I'll do it within the next 3 months after this semester at uni is over.

All my life I've been dragging along a heavy ass mental block that I'm not cool enough. This originated from not being very popular at school and getting teased very hard in my final years of highschool.

Today I sat down and dug deep into my subconscious to find the root beliefs that was the cause of this not cool enough feeling and here's what I uncovered...

Copy/paste of my original non-judgemental brain dump:
When I talk to cool guys they think ‘oh this guy’s a douche’ ‘he’s a loser whatever he says is irrelevant’ ‘I’m better than this guy and he’s trying to teach me?!’ ‘oh no not him again’ ‘oh fuck not this guy’ ‘he makes me feel yucky’ ‘he’s just weird I don’t know what it is about him’ ‘he makes me feel uncomfortable’ ‘I can’t just be chill around him’ ‘I feel like he’s judging me’ ‘he’s trying to take value from me’ ‘he’s needy’ ‘he wants something from me’ ‘he doesn’t offer value to the world by sharing his cool self by expressing’ ‘he’s stuck in his ego and doesn’t want to break that shell’ ‘he’s scared he won’t fit in with me’ ‘he wants my life so he can be me’ ‘he’s not happy with himself’ ‘he doesn’t think he’s good enough’ ‘I bet he doesn’t have a girlfriend’ ‘he’s not funny’ ‘he makes me bored’ ‘he brings me down’ ‘he resonates negative energy’ ‘he’s not fun to hangout with’ ‘he cares what other people think of him’ ‘he’s not exciting’ ‘he’s too bland’ ‘he’s always smiling he must be hiding something’ ‘he’s not being his true core self’ ‘he stutters’ ‘he’s not confident’ ‘he doesn’t believe in himself’ ‘he tries too hard rather than just being chill and happy where you are’ ‘he doesn’t inspire any strong emotions in me’ ‘he’s just talking and trying to lay stuff onto me rather than LISTENING to me and seeing what I want and then giving it to me’ ‘he’s too focused on what he can get out of me rather than what he can give me’ ‘he doesn’t care about me he’s just looking out for himself’ ‘he thinks I’m somehow magically better than him and wants to be me’

After analyzing the brain dump I've uncovered the bs beliefs that were causing this:
‘he doesn’t offer value to the world by sharing his cool self by expressing’
‘he’s scared he won’t fit in with me’
‘he cares what other people think of him’
‘he’s not being his true core self’
‘he doesn’t believe in himself’
‘he tries too hard rather than just being chill and happy where you are’
‘he’s just talking and trying to lay stuff onto me rather than LISTENING to me and seeing what I want and then giving it to me’
‘he doesn’t care about me he’s just looking out for himself’
‘he thinks I’m somehow magically better than him and wants to be me’

Turning these bs beliefs into positive affirmations/beliefs would then be:
Express yourself from your core self of self esteem rather than trying to impress from ego (Alex's~ expression not impression)
Even when acting through my own intentions and expressing myself freely, I'm able to fit in and be freinds with people from all walks of life.
I don't give a fuck what anyone thinks of me (Tim!!)
I trust that I can do anything at an excellent level
I am the greatest! But humble about it.
I am a player of life and am happy where I am right now. I believe in and follow through on constant and never ending improvement, but I am good enough as I am right NOW.
I listen to people deeply and respond (not react) to that.
I stay deeply present when listening to people rather than selfishly thinking what I'm gonna say as soon as they finish talking.
I truly care about people and their situation.
Not to say I won't do anything about it, but I accept my flaws fully and accept myself 100% - I am happy being me.
No one is perfect and everyone has problems and challenges going on in their life. I can have role models and people I aspire to be like, but deep down we're all the same and there's not much difference between us.

Ahhhh I feel so light knowing I just destroyed a huge mental block I've been carrying all my life...

thnx Gunn for checking out my reports glad you liked them!

So I've been doing this 'belief digger' exercise more and more frequently the last few weeks and it's really effective. For example last night I was at a marketing ball hosted by my uni - it's undoubtebly the biggest and best social event of the year. At the start of the night I befriended one guy a year above me and then he introduced me to all his mates and we were just chilling having fun. This isn't a big deal, but these guys were older than me and I saw them before at previous parties but was a little bit intimidated by them because they were cooler than me and never talked to them. But after uncovering my limiting beliefs about this stuff in the post above, everything went fine and it will be fine for the rest of my life! Even though I've known about beliefs and stuff for about 4 years, it's only NOW that I see the important of them. They are the absolute foundation of everything, you must get your beliefs right before applying any sort of tactic or technique for any area of life - and that includes pick up as you very well know.

Even now I still have resistence whilst doing this exercise because it requires you to think very hard and can be very mentally and emotionally draining. I do it though because I've found that after doing this and uncovering unconscious beliefs, I feel like everything is clearer and I am more aligned with my goals AND I'm going at a faster pace because I've dropped the mental baggage. Here's an example I just did in regards to business and the fact that I only spend very little time doing things that bring results. Like I can spend a whole day working but at the end when I look over it, I barely got anything done. So here it is:

Negative belief/problem I have: I only do high value business activities in short bursts and then don’t do them for a long time
I feel like I made some progress so I can rest
Doing stuff that brings me closer to my goal is scary because I’m may have a fear of success
I’m pushing my comfort zone and I’m not used to it so my mind is trying to bring me back to who I was
I get distracted easily and am not strict with when and for how long I will work for
It’s emotionally and mentally draining because I have to think hard
I can’t just sit back and not care because what I’m doing is going to affect how other people think about me
I’m affecting other people’s lives
My friends and family will think differently of me in a way I may not be comfortable with when they see who I’ve become and what success brings me
I have all the time in the world to do this

EMPOWERING BELIEFS
I work with a sense of urgency and get things done fast
I love the feeling of feeling of completing high value tasks and making progress
I thrive on breaking through my comfort zone and getting to the next level because that’s what living is about!
I work in 60-60-30 blocks of time and during that time I remove all distractions and focus only on high value tasks
I love situations where I have to think hard and make important decisions because I get an opportunity to sharpen my brain
I am who I am and I can’t escape it. I don’t give a fuck what anyone thinks of me except myself.
I’m glad to listen to advice from people more advanced AND less advanced than me because everyone has a unique perspective that can bring about something of immense value – but ultimately I make the final decision on whether I will do something or not rather than being told what to do by someone else.