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SET 1: So I went out by myself to this really hot club, luckily I met up with a few boys I play footy with but for the most part I was by myself. For the first 30 minutes I was pretty stifled and out of state thinking wtf am I doing here alone?! Then this one chode helped put my state through the roof. I was walking through the club and he was with a HB6. He pointed at me to the girl and said some sly remark to that girl. I didn't think much of it, but then as I walked by the them she ran up to me and asked for my number (clearly a dare). I wasn't interested in this girl, but there's no way this chode is getting her now that he tried to tool me
So I grabbed her hand hard and lead her in the opposite direction without looking back whilst saying aloud me phone number and rambling illogical non-sense to get her far away. She was laughing her ass off and was full into me, unfortunately I wasn't so after a few minutes I sent her off on her way (later that night she asked me for my phone number for real and put it in her phone).
What can I learn from this? Lead hard, be the alpha, be dominant, don't give a fuck what anyone thinks of you, stay outside your head and let the words flow out of you, take risks.
SET 2: I was watching Tim's FLN earlier and did the blueprint exercise of my perfect woman - and there she was! She was a true Victoria's Secret HB10 - gorgeous face, really slender body, nice tits, blonde hair, hot clothes. Just as hot as supermodels like Adriana Lima, Meagan Fox and Miranda Kerr no joke! I'd have to say she was the hottest girl I've ever seen in a club - just amazing. Now I feel like fucking shit for not getting her because she was for me, here's how I started and later how I fucked it up... After finding true state for the first time all night I was feeling pretty good, I saw this HB10 and her HB8 friend at the bar with some chode. So I rolled over and put my hands around them both (don't remember what I said) and they turned around and I could tell they were thinking thank god for saving us from that guy. Then that guy poofed and these girls were telling me that they were on a holiday from Perth! OMG BINGO FUCKING YES FUCKING YES YES!!
After that, I quickly put thoughts of hotel adventure times away and focused on being in the moment and see where that takes me. We were talking and both girls liked me (In my mind I was shocked that a HB10 actually liked me and I was still in set! - bad mindset I know but that's what happened). These girls were really bubbly and looking to party so they ran off to the dance floor and I went too. They took a photo of me with em and then I spun them both around. But after that I was the most chode dancer ever. Not touching them, just bopping my head and bouncing a bit to freaking ONE LOVE DJ's! I didn't feel like I had blown this set, but I left because I don't like dancing and I could always see them later.
Later on I met the other 5 or so girls in their group and all of them except for one very really vibrant and happy to talk with me. Whilst chodes were buying the HB10 drinks all night, just for fun I decided to kino this other one really heavy and was saying stuff like "Ohh you're a fucking cutie get over here" etc and clawing hard. I did this to 2 girls from that group (at different times) and whilst I EASILY could've made out with them, I chose not to because I wanted the HB10. Later on I saw the HB10 with her friends on the dance floor again, I choded in around their circle and tried dancing but it was terrible
I was stifled and they were ignoring me. As a last ditch attempt to step up or go home I said to the HB10 "hey I gotta tell you something in private come here" but she didn't. And fair enough, I now realize in my low stifled state I was trying to take value and move her from the warm end of the pool.
What can I learn from this? Approaching with hard kino right away is fine and gains massive attraction for having the balls to do it, be the alpha male out of the guys, don't give a fuck about what the girl thinks of you and be completely indifferent and go for the kiss then, let her game you.
Question 1: Say you should be congruent and say that you like the girl of the bat eg. "You're gorgeous", or "I just had to meet you who are you". But at the same time you should have the mindset that hot girls are normal in your life and it's no big deal. So what's the deal here?
Question 2: After my chodey antics on the dancefloor, the HB10 definitely wasn't attracted to me anymore and probably thought of me as a weird/creepy guy. Seeing as attraction changes for girls on a second by second basis, what could I have done to get her attracted again even though I now seemed low value in her eyes?
SET 3: I was supposed to meet up with this girl who I number closed a month ago at this club tonight. I invited her out a few nights before, but she said she had work the next morning but would be at this club Thursday (tonight). So at about 11pm after fucking up the HB10 set, I decided to move on and not long later saw this HB9. She was happy to see me and we had a pretty good conversation for about 10-20 minutes [but it would've been better if I was able to spike her emotions more and harder]. Then she said "I'm gonna go find my friends and get a drink" and rather than following her (which I don't know was a good or bad move) I said alright cool and went to find my friends too. About 20 minutes I saw her again sitting down with another girl and a guy in the middle of them. I'm like 'hey come here' but she rejected and it seemed like she told the guy "pretent to be my bf or something" and so he clawed both girls in. I was a bit confused because I thought this girl liked me, but whatever, fuck her! For the rest of the night I just ignored her.
Note: The fact that I wasn't drinking alcohol again may have messed with her reality and social conditioning. If I was drinking, it would've been easy to say "Wet pussy shots let's go!" and get drunk together and make out. This way she was getting drunk, but I was sober so it was a bit weird.
What can I learn? Don't try building rapport, don't say creepy shit like "Give me a buzz or something when you're leaving and if I'm around I'll give you a lift", this is a club so have fun don't just chodey talk on the couch, spike emotions harder, give positive AND negative emotions, play hard to get and make her game me.
SET 4: Full of fury, I went to another room (massive club!) and clawed in a HB9 as she was walking by with her friend. I had intent, I was being illogical and fun. I said "you're my new gf for the next 5 minutes". She was like nah nah, but I kept persisting and she was loving it. Even her friend was watching on in spectator mode and laughing. After a few minutes of this, she said "I actually have a boyfriend sorry!" but whenever I saw her all night I had the most fun with her and was always flirting like "why do you do this to me you're too fucking hot its not my fault" kino, kino, claw, kiss on cheek, etc.
SET 5: Saw another really cute girl HB8 at the bar and did the same thing. She also loved it and was trying to build rapport, but also had a boyfriend! Arh!
What can I learn? Spike emotions by being illogical and self amusing, combine fury with intent to make it even more powerful, kino hard, move the girl around, walk straight upto her with absolute certainty that nothing can hold you back and you're gonna make her night.
Here's a quote from Think & Grow Rich that really resonated with me and applies to picking up girls, business, sports, everything. "Where failure is experienced, it is the individual, not the method, which has failed".
SET 1: So I went out by myself to this really hot club, luckily I met up with a few boys I play footy with but for the most part I was by myself. For the first 30 minutes I was pretty stifled and out of state thinking wtf am I doing here alone?! Then this one chode helped put my state through the roof. I was walking through the club and he was with a HB6. He pointed at me to the girl and said some sly remark to that girl. I didn't think much of it, but then as I walked by the them she ran up to me and asked for my number (clearly a dare). I wasn't interested in this girl, but there's no way this chode is getting her now that he tried to tool me
So I grabbed her hand hard and lead her in the opposite direction without looking back whilst saying aloud me phone number and rambling illogical non-sense to get her far away. She was laughing her ass off and was full into me, unfortunately I wasn't so after a few minutes I sent her off on her way (later that night she asked me for my phone number for real and put it in her phone). What can I learn from this? Lead hard, be the alpha, be dominant, don't give a fuck what anyone thinks of you, stay outside your head and let the words flow out of you, take risks.
SET 2: I was watching Tim's FLN earlier and did the blueprint exercise of my perfect woman - and there she was! She was a true Victoria's Secret HB10 - gorgeous face, really slender body, nice tits, blonde hair, hot clothes. Just as hot as supermodels like Adriana Lima, Meagan Fox and Miranda Kerr no joke! I'd have to say she was the hottest girl I've ever seen in a club - just amazing. Now I feel like fucking shit for not getting her because she was for me, here's how I started and later how I fucked it up... After finding true state for the first time all night I was feeling pretty good, I saw this HB10 and her HB8 friend at the bar with some chode. So I rolled over and put my hands around them both (don't remember what I said) and they turned around and I could tell they were thinking thank god for saving us from that guy. Then that guy poofed and these girls were telling me that they were on a holiday from Perth! OMG BINGO FUCKING YES FUCKING YES YES!!
After that, I quickly put thoughts of hotel adventure times away and focused on being in the moment and see where that takes me. We were talking and both girls liked me (In my mind I was shocked that a HB10 actually liked me and I was still in set! - bad mindset I know but that's what happened). These girls were really bubbly and looking to party so they ran off to the dance floor and I went too. They took a photo of me with em and then I spun them both around. But after that I was the most chode dancer ever. Not touching them, just bopping my head and bouncing a bit to freaking ONE LOVE DJ's! I didn't feel like I had blown this set, but I left because I don't like dancing and I could always see them later.Later on I met the other 5 or so girls in their group and all of them except for one very really vibrant and happy to talk with me. Whilst chodes were buying the HB10 drinks all night, just for fun I decided to kino this other one really heavy and was saying stuff like "Ohh you're a fucking cutie get over here" etc and clawing hard. I did this to 2 girls from that group (at different times) and whilst I EASILY could've made out with them, I chose not to because I wanted the HB10. Later on I saw the HB10 with her friends on the dance floor again, I choded in around their circle and tried dancing but it was terrible
I was stifled and they were ignoring me. As a last ditch attempt to step up or go home I said to the HB10 "hey I gotta tell you something in private come here" but she didn't. And fair enough, I now realize in my low stifled state I was trying to take value and move her from the warm end of the pool.What can I learn from this? Approaching with hard kino right away is fine and gains massive attraction for having the balls to do it, be the alpha male out of the guys, don't give a fuck about what the girl thinks of you and be completely indifferent and go for the kiss then, let her game you.
Question 1: Say you should be congruent and say that you like the girl of the bat eg. "You're gorgeous", or "I just had to meet you who are you". But at the same time you should have the mindset that hot girls are normal in your life and it's no big deal. So what's the deal here?
Question 2: After my chodey antics on the dancefloor, the HB10 definitely wasn't attracted to me anymore and probably thought of me as a weird/creepy guy. Seeing as attraction changes for girls on a second by second basis, what could I have done to get her attracted again even though I now seemed low value in her eyes?
SET 3: I was supposed to meet up with this girl who I number closed a month ago at this club tonight. I invited her out a few nights before, but she said she had work the next morning but would be at this club Thursday (tonight). So at about 11pm after fucking up the HB10 set, I decided to move on and not long later saw this HB9. She was happy to see me and we had a pretty good conversation for about 10-20 minutes [but it would've been better if I was able to spike her emotions more and harder]. Then she said "I'm gonna go find my friends and get a drink" and rather than following her (which I don't know was a good or bad move) I said alright cool and went to find my friends too. About 20 minutes I saw her again sitting down with another girl and a guy in the middle of them. I'm like 'hey come here' but she rejected and it seemed like she told the guy "pretent to be my bf or something" and so he clawed both girls in. I was a bit confused because I thought this girl liked me, but whatever, fuck her! For the rest of the night I just ignored her.
Note: The fact that I wasn't drinking alcohol again may have messed with her reality and social conditioning. If I was drinking, it would've been easy to say "Wet pussy shots let's go!" and get drunk together and make out. This way she was getting drunk, but I was sober so it was a bit weird.
What can I learn? Don't try building rapport, don't say creepy shit like "Give me a buzz or something when you're leaving and if I'm around I'll give you a lift", this is a club so have fun don't just chodey talk on the couch, spike emotions harder, give positive AND negative emotions, play hard to get and make her game me.
SET 4: Full of fury, I went to another room (massive club!) and clawed in a HB9 as she was walking by with her friend. I had intent, I was being illogical and fun. I said "you're my new gf for the next 5 minutes". She was like nah nah, but I kept persisting and she was loving it. Even her friend was watching on in spectator mode and laughing. After a few minutes of this, she said "I actually have a boyfriend sorry!" but whenever I saw her all night I had the most fun with her and was always flirting like "why do you do this to me you're too fucking hot its not my fault" kino, kino, claw, kiss on cheek, etc.
SET 5: Saw another really cute girl HB8 at the bar and did the same thing. She also loved it and was trying to build rapport, but also had a boyfriend! Arh!
What can I learn? Spike emotions by being illogical and self amusing, combine fury with intent to make it even more powerful, kino hard, move the girl around, walk straight upto her with absolute certainty that nothing can hold you back and you're gonna make her night.
Here's a quote from Think & Grow Rich that really resonated with me and applies to picking up girls, business, sports, everything. "Where failure is experienced, it is the individual, not the method, which has failed".
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“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” - Dr. Seuss
FR journal: Living Success To The MAX From My Core!~
Representing Team Alexander~ Melbourne "You beauty"
FR journal: Living Success To The MAX From My Core!~
Representing Team Alexander~ Melbourne "You beauty"
My Ego Came Crashing Down Like A House Of Cards Last Night - I guess my Identity wasn't as Strong as I thought it was...
ESPECIALLY after watching the blueprint for the 2nd time recently and going through Tony Robbins Get The Edge program, I thought I had a strong belief structure and knew who I was better than ever - without the ego bs. My results in pick up have improved dramatically and I believe I'm on the tipping point of reaching extraordinary success finally. After reading Eckhart T's 'power of now' and 'a new earth' my results plunged for a few months until I realized 'Fuck, why not have an identity. Why not have a strong reality where I think I'm the shit. Why not have strong beliefs about things?'. So whilst I could see the benefit of being present, I decided it's ok to have a bit of ego even though ET says it's bad.
FRIDAY NIGHT BOOTCAMP
So on Friday I went out as instructor assistant for Alex's BC and the night started of great. Every set I went into was great, I was simply being myself and having fun! Then I was annoyed at one of my friends for being a fucking pussy and not approaching, so I was all arrogant and charged straight into a 3-set with the attitude of here's how its down! After a few minutes I said something that was misinterpreted as extremely rude and basically I now had 5 very angry women in my face screaming "OMG you're such a rude asshole", "Fuck off", etc, etc. I was waiting to get slapped and have drinks thrown in my face but fortunately it didn't happen. A few minutes later whilst chilling with my bud the furious friend storms over to me and screams "Don't you know how to talk to women?!" to which my bud replies "WASSUP BITCH!?".
I cracked up laughing, she was speechless and stormed off. She then told her guy friends about this and now I had about 10 guys looking to beat me up. I was still pretty indifferent and didn't give a fuck on both counts. Not long later I see a friend from uni who is a year older than me and is pretty popular. He's helped me fit in to uni and introduced me to lots of great people over the past year and we always have a beer together at parties. He's been like an older brother to me. Anyway I see him come in to the club pretty drunk and wish him happy bday. Then the bitchy friend see's this and walks over and tells him the horrible thing I did to her friend (which actually was nothing and because she was so fucking stupid she wouldn't even let me explain how it was misinterpreted). This guy is very good friends with her and he turned from happy to see me to saying "Don't ever say this shit this is my good friend or I'll fkn knock you out", I tried explaining it to him but he wouldn't listen because he was drunk and then started saying "There are 10 guys who wanna knock your teeth out you're lucky I'm stopping them", then "That's it our friendship is over" and about 10 minutes later when I saw him at the bar "You just committed uni suicide". Needless to say this really got to me because I thought he was a good friend and now he's treating me like dirt. My state dropped hardcore and now I was worrying not only about him telling everyone at uni not to be my friend, but I was also anxious about my beliefs. All the rude/cocky/not give a fuck things I've ever said before were going through my mind and I was doubting myself whether it was all BS and I really can't say this stuff to women... even though I've been doing it fine and unapologetically for months.
Alex turned this into a positive and said "Your ego has been really bruised. Now this will make you more centered and calibrated".
I was thinking about this for the rest of the night and couldn't fall asleep for over an hour - I felt rock bottom and that my social life at uni was now over and no one would like me. The next morning I played football and channeled this new found anger into the game. This ferociousness and fury actually helped me on the field by setting the standard for my team of how hard to hit and I was being started all over the ground. I hit back anyone that hit me twice as hard, got into many scuffles and was being very aggresive. After a half of this attitude, no one from the other team tried to fuck with me. They were scared.
After the game I was still feeling shit about last night, but rather than stay in self pity and misery I decided to get down to the core of this. I went on a walk and tried figuring out what was going on. Basicallly I realized that my new ego (I read ET, tried living with no ego, then realized fuck that I need ego so I'll identify with stuff again ego) was like a house of cards and last night it came crumbling down and was completely demolished.
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After realizing this I felt at ease like never before and all bad feelings disolved as a calmness washed over me and I finally felt free.
Coming from my core with no ego (no judgements or being attached to anything or anyone) I actually respected that guy from uni for standing up for his close friend rather than some guy he just gets pissed with at uni parties. I also was completely indifferent to his, or anyone elses approval. He could tell everyone from uni that I'm a piece of shit and everyone should hate me, but now I don't give a fuck. I know who I am down to the core and that's all that matters. If someone stops being my friend because he tells them I'm a jerk, then that person was not a true friend and I don't want those people in my life. I also know that if I'm unapologetic and be my true self, people will still like me regardless of what he says (no matter how much influence his popularity has). Basically what I realized is that whilst I consciously thought I was cool, deep inside I actually still felt uncool and needed this guys approval. This is one of the most deepest negative beliefs I've finally unrooted in my life! Now I really don't give a fuck what he thinks about me and whether he apologizes or not has no difference to me - and because of this understanding, now I really know I'm a cool guy to the core. I'm not putting on a mask anymore, I'm finally the cool guy I thought I was. And in saying that, I don't give a shit whether I'm cool or not anymore as I'm not identifying with either one. I finally realize how Eckhart Tolle's no ego no ego no ego teachings finally apply to this.
Whilst for about 18 hours I thought this was one of the worst things that could ever happen to me, it actually turned out to be one of the most humbling, growing and centering experiences I've ever had - and for that I'm grateful.
SATURDAY NIGHT BOOTCAMP
Every set I opened went better than ever. I wasn't being hypo or massive Woo!, I was just very calm and spoke from my core. I finally had no ego holding me back and not only did I feel amazing, but all the girls I talked to loved me! Even older women to whom I'd usually lie and say I'm 21 or 23 I said the truth that I'm 19 and they just nodded like it didn't make a difference to them. Whereas before I'd get lot's of congruence tests about my young age, now I wasn't even being tested on it. They just accepted it and wanted to keep talking with me. This is the first time I've ever been able to be so chilled freely express my self putting my personality 100% on the line. Being so chilled I forgot to escalte or apply kino harder so in the end I didn't actually get any numbers or hook up with anyone haha Regardless, after a few hours of feeling really good and having no ego, I started to become attached to the outcome of needing to hook up tonight and so my state dropped and now I was stuck in my head. The amazing results I was getting earlier vanished and I felt like pretty bad again (the ego's snuck in through the back door again arh!).
So before trying to change anymore beliefs or improve any of my skills or make changes to my game, I need to get 1 thing down to the core and that is train my mind to be in that state I was in for the first few hours of the night where I truly had no ego and was expressing myself congruently from my core. If I can do this and operate from this head space, picking up girls will be a peace of cake.
ESPECIALLY after watching the blueprint for the 2nd time recently and going through Tony Robbins Get The Edge program, I thought I had a strong belief structure and knew who I was better than ever - without the ego bs. My results in pick up have improved dramatically and I believe I'm on the tipping point of reaching extraordinary success finally. After reading Eckhart T's 'power of now' and 'a new earth' my results plunged for a few months until I realized 'Fuck, why not have an identity. Why not have a strong reality where I think I'm the shit. Why not have strong beliefs about things?'. So whilst I could see the benefit of being present, I decided it's ok to have a bit of ego even though ET says it's bad.
FRIDAY NIGHT BOOTCAMP
So on Friday I went out as instructor assistant for Alex's BC and the night started of great. Every set I went into was great, I was simply being myself and having fun! Then I was annoyed at one of my friends for being a fucking pussy and not approaching, so I was all arrogant and charged straight into a 3-set with the attitude of here's how its down! After a few minutes I said something that was misinterpreted as extremely rude and basically I now had 5 very angry women in my face screaming "OMG you're such a rude asshole", "Fuck off", etc, etc. I was waiting to get slapped and have drinks thrown in my face but fortunately it didn't happen. A few minutes later whilst chilling with my bud the furious friend storms over to me and screams "Don't you know how to talk to women?!" to which my bud replies "WASSUP BITCH!?".
I cracked up laughing, she was speechless and stormed off. She then told her guy friends about this and now I had about 10 guys looking to beat me up. I was still pretty indifferent and didn't give a fuck on both counts. Not long later I see a friend from uni who is a year older than me and is pretty popular. He's helped me fit in to uni and introduced me to lots of great people over the past year and we always have a beer together at parties. He's been like an older brother to me. Anyway I see him come in to the club pretty drunk and wish him happy bday. Then the bitchy friend see's this and walks over and tells him the horrible thing I did to her friend (which actually was nothing and because she was so fucking stupid she wouldn't even let me explain how it was misinterpreted). This guy is very good friends with her and he turned from happy to see me to saying "Don't ever say this shit this is my good friend or I'll fkn knock you out", I tried explaining it to him but he wouldn't listen because he was drunk and then started saying "There are 10 guys who wanna knock your teeth out you're lucky I'm stopping them", then "That's it our friendship is over" and about 10 minutes later when I saw him at the bar "You just committed uni suicide". Needless to say this really got to me because I thought he was a good friend and now he's treating me like dirt. My state dropped hardcore and now I was worrying not only about him telling everyone at uni not to be my friend, but I was also anxious about my beliefs. All the rude/cocky/not give a fuck things I've ever said before were going through my mind and I was doubting myself whether it was all BS and I really can't say this stuff to women... even though I've been doing it fine and unapologetically for months. Alex turned this into a positive and said "Your ego has been really bruised. Now this will make you more centered and calibrated".
I was thinking about this for the rest of the night and couldn't fall asleep for over an hour - I felt rock bottom and that my social life at uni was now over and no one would like me. The next morning I played football and channeled this new found anger into the game. This ferociousness and fury actually helped me on the field by setting the standard for my team of how hard to hit and I was being started all over the ground. I hit back anyone that hit me twice as hard, got into many scuffles and was being very aggresive. After a half of this attitude, no one from the other team tried to fuck with me. They were scared.
After the game I was still feeling shit about last night, but rather than stay in self pity and misery I decided to get down to the core of this. I went on a walk and tried figuring out what was going on. Basicallly I realized that my new ego (I read ET, tried living with no ego, then realized fuck that I need ego so I'll identify with stuff again ego) was like a house of cards and last night it came crumbling down and was completely demolished.
After realizing this I felt at ease like never before and all bad feelings disolved as a calmness washed over me and I finally felt free.
Coming from my core with no ego (no judgements or being attached to anything or anyone) I actually respected that guy from uni for standing up for his close friend rather than some guy he just gets pissed with at uni parties. I also was completely indifferent to his, or anyone elses approval. He could tell everyone from uni that I'm a piece of shit and everyone should hate me, but now I don't give a fuck. I know who I am down to the core and that's all that matters. If someone stops being my friend because he tells them I'm a jerk, then that person was not a true friend and I don't want those people in my life. I also know that if I'm unapologetic and be my true self, people will still like me regardless of what he says (no matter how much influence his popularity has). Basically what I realized is that whilst I consciously thought I was cool, deep inside I actually still felt uncool and needed this guys approval. This is one of the most deepest negative beliefs I've finally unrooted in my life! Now I really don't give a fuck what he thinks about me and whether he apologizes or not has no difference to me - and because of this understanding, now I really know I'm a cool guy to the core. I'm not putting on a mask anymore, I'm finally the cool guy I thought I was. And in saying that, I don't give a shit whether I'm cool or not anymore as I'm not identifying with either one. I finally realize how Eckhart Tolle's no ego no ego no ego teachings finally apply to this.
Whilst for about 18 hours I thought this was one of the worst things that could ever happen to me, it actually turned out to be one of the most humbling, growing and centering experiences I've ever had - and for that I'm grateful.
SATURDAY NIGHT BOOTCAMP
Every set I opened went better than ever. I wasn't being hypo or massive Woo!, I was just very calm and spoke from my core. I finally had no ego holding me back and not only did I feel amazing, but all the girls I talked to loved me! Even older women to whom I'd usually lie and say I'm 21 or 23 I said the truth that I'm 19 and they just nodded like it didn't make a difference to them. Whereas before I'd get lot's of congruence tests about my young age, now I wasn't even being tested on it. They just accepted it and wanted to keep talking with me. This is the first time I've ever been able to be so chilled freely express my self putting my personality 100% on the line. Being so chilled I forgot to escalte or apply kino harder so in the end I didn't actually get any numbers or hook up with anyone haha
Regardless, after a few hours of feeling really good and having no ego, I started to become attached to the outcome of needing to hook up tonight and so my state dropped and now I was stuck in my head. The amazing results I was getting earlier vanished and I felt like pretty bad again (the ego's snuck in through the back door again arh!). So before trying to change anymore beliefs or improve any of my skills or make changes to my game, I need to get 1 thing down to the core and that is train my mind to be in that state I was in for the first few hours of the night where I truly had no ego and was expressing myself congruently from my core. If I can do this and operate from this head space, picking up girls will be a peace of cake.
__________________
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” - Dr. Seuss
FR journal: Living Success To The MAX From My Core!~
Representing Team Alexander~ Melbourne "You beauty"
FR journal: Living Success To The MAX From My Core!~
Representing Team Alexander~ Melbourne "You beauty"
After hanging out with Alex this weekend here are the most potent things I learned:
- ESCALATE! (shamelessly if need be)
- DHV's are only responsive, you can't DHV by trying to DHV.
- The glory is mine for the taking
- I need to inspire people to be involvement worthy
- You can have strong intent whilst remaining hard to get by having the intent come from a self amusement frame where you're EXPRESSing yourself. Be totally indifferent and she'll react to you and try validating herself.
- To get 9's and 10's you need to have very strong intent and be totally unapologetic.
Here's a point I don't need but I thought it was very interesting...
- If you dress expressively like Dennis Rodman think will think you have that outrageous attitude too. So for the same token, even if you're cool as ice but dress chode people will assume you're a chode right off the bat.
Most importantly, I need to stop being a student of the game and just be the alpha male I know I am. Alex used a really good example in Brett Deleidio. Whilst for the first 2-3 years of his AFL career Brett was trying to soak up knowledge from all the coaching staff and players around him to improve his game. NOW he is at a stage where he is elite and he has stopped worrying about learning how to improve. He is just being elite. Because of this his rate of learning is significantly reduced, but that's ok because he's already elite and is a leader of his team mates.
- ESCALATE! (shamelessly if need be)
- DHV's are only responsive, you can't DHV by trying to DHV.
- The glory is mine for the taking
- I need to inspire people to be involvement worthy
- You can have strong intent whilst remaining hard to get by having the intent come from a self amusement frame where you're EXPRESSing yourself. Be totally indifferent and she'll react to you and try validating herself.
- To get 9's and 10's you need to have very strong intent and be totally unapologetic.
Here's a point I don't need but I thought it was very interesting...
- If you dress expressively like Dennis Rodman think will think you have that outrageous attitude too. So for the same token, even if you're cool as ice but dress chode people will assume you're a chode right off the bat.
Most importantly, I need to stop being a student of the game and just be the alpha male I know I am. Alex used a really good example in Brett Deleidio. Whilst for the first 2-3 years of his AFL career Brett was trying to soak up knowledge from all the coaching staff and players around him to improve his game. NOW he is at a stage where he is elite and he has stopped worrying about learning how to improve. He is just being elite. Because of this his rate of learning is significantly reduced, but that's ok because he's already elite and is a leader of his team mates.
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Inspired by Lawson's 'Why I am so money' post I decided to make my own one, so here it goes... I feel like a bit of a tool for blowing smoke up my own arse because I like to think of myself as relatively humble, but what ever this should be fun 
WHY I AM SO MONEY:
(I literally finished watching American Beauty a second ago and am at such ease, peace, tranquility like never before. I feel so calm with no thoughts going through my mind - i'm completely in touch with my core. I've never really felt like this before, it's like Eckhart Tolle x10)
- I have big aspirations and at only 19 have learned enough success mindsets that I'm ready to achieve and conquer anything
- I'm grateful for every second alive and am completely at peace with the world
- I play football every week and am improving at a rapid pace compared to my team mates
- I live in a time of complete opportunity and freedom to do whatever I like and no one can stop me. Nothing is actually that hard to achieve compared to the big picture when you know that in reality it's really nothing at all. This achievement is miniscule and insignificant when you compare it to the entire universe which is mind blowingly infinitely enourmous.
- I'm an entrepreneur and have the opportunity to create a successful business that will allow me to do anything and give back to my family. I have the potential to help them relax and start pursuing their passion. I have the ability to do fun stuff with my friends like race Ferrari 430's, go skydiving, trek in a tropical rainforest or go travel around the world and have adventures.
- I love my dog so much. He doesn't always behave, but he's my best friend and is such a pure expression of do what you want and be 100% real and congruent.
- I can go through heaps of beautiful women and have an amazing time with each of them and feel good for both me and her. But one day when I'm done living crazy I'll be able to find that one special woman who I'll cherish forever and start a family with where we'll have happy kids.
I really don't know what to say, everything is so meaningless but at the same time beautiful and extraordinary.
Had I looked at my post here 3 hours ago I'd think that I've gone crazy and am some weird hippie organic dude. But it's just the real me saying exactly what I want without caring what others will think of it. This is me to the core. This feeling may go away later I don't know, but I've never felt so calm for so long without thoughts rushing through my head. If you haven't seen it yet, watch American Beauty.
WHY I AM SO MONEY:
(I literally finished watching American Beauty a second ago and am at such ease, peace, tranquility like never before. I feel so calm with no thoughts going through my mind - i'm completely in touch with my core. I've never really felt like this before, it's like Eckhart Tolle x10)
- I have big aspirations and at only 19 have learned enough success mindsets that I'm ready to achieve and conquer anything
- I'm grateful for every second alive and am completely at peace with the world
- I play football every week and am improving at a rapid pace compared to my team mates
- I live in a time of complete opportunity and freedom to do whatever I like and no one can stop me. Nothing is actually that hard to achieve compared to the big picture when you know that in reality it's really nothing at all. This achievement is miniscule and insignificant when you compare it to the entire universe which is mind blowingly infinitely enourmous.
- I'm an entrepreneur and have the opportunity to create a successful business that will allow me to do anything and give back to my family. I have the potential to help them relax and start pursuing their passion. I have the ability to do fun stuff with my friends like race Ferrari 430's, go skydiving, trek in a tropical rainforest or go travel around the world and have adventures.
- I love my dog so much. He doesn't always behave, but he's my best friend and is such a pure expression of do what you want and be 100% real and congruent.
- I can go through heaps of beautiful women and have an amazing time with each of them and feel good for both me and her. But one day when I'm done living crazy I'll be able to find that one special woman who I'll cherish forever and start a family with where we'll have happy kids.
I really don't know what to say, everything is so meaningless but at the same time beautiful and extraordinary.
Had I looked at my post here 3 hours ago I'd think that I've gone crazy and am some weird hippie organic dude. But it's just the real me saying exactly what I want without caring what others will think of it. This is me to the core. This feeling may go away later I don't know, but I've never felt so calm for so long without thoughts rushing through my head. If you haven't seen it yet, watch American Beauty.
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Ill hire and watch it tomorrow. Honesty is the best policy and feel good doing it ;)
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SO I WENT BACK TO THIS GIRLS DORM ROOM AFTER UNI, BUT NOTHING HAPPENED :(
Last week I met this girl in my lecture and talked to her a bit, then number closed her afterwards.
Today at 6pm during the lecture I wasn't there and she txt messaged me asking where I was. I said I had something on but lets get a coffee when the lecture is over at 8pm. So we met on campus and grabbed a coffee and talked for about 20 minutes. Didn't escalate much, only kino was whilst we were sitting on a couch together our legs were touching just a bit.
She's a canadian exchange chick and has her on dorm room at the other campus 15 minutes drive away. I drove her home and offered to transfer some music from my iPod onto her PC so I came in. Once inside we were alone and we played around on facebook, itunes and talked for about 1 hour. I didn't escalate much, but there was some light kino involved. I thought this would be a guaranteed root but after a while things staled out and nothing happened. I think I'm in the friends zone - I was too nice and didn't do anything sexual.
*During the drive to her student apartment dorm she found out she was 3 years older than me (19 vs. 22) and I think that turned her off a bit, but I didn't make a big deal about it so I don't think that's the problem.
Whilst I think I can still salvage this by taking her out tomorrow night to a club and have a few drinks together, I'd like to know how I should've approached this situation differently?
I haven't hooked up for about 2 months (my biggest dry spell since BC) and now closing has turned into a big deal again arh! This is so frustrating - I was able to close anyone really quick no worries back in January/Feb. Without over thinking it too much, I guess this is because over the past few months I've tried changing from fireworks party state to chilled, hot coal state. Whilst allowing me to talk longer, this has fucked up my ability to kiss or f-close!! Once I find the right balance between being chill and aggressive glory will ensue...
Last week I met this girl in my lecture and talked to her a bit, then number closed her afterwards.
Today at 6pm during the lecture I wasn't there and she txt messaged me asking where I was. I said I had something on but lets get a coffee when the lecture is over at 8pm. So we met on campus and grabbed a coffee and talked for about 20 minutes. Didn't escalate much, only kino was whilst we were sitting on a couch together our legs were touching just a bit.
She's a canadian exchange chick and has her on dorm room at the other campus 15 minutes drive away. I drove her home and offered to transfer some music from my iPod onto her PC so I came in. Once inside we were alone and we played around on facebook, itunes and talked for about 1 hour. I didn't escalate much, but there was some light kino involved. I thought this would be a guaranteed root but after a while things staled out and nothing happened. I think I'm in the friends zone - I was too nice and didn't do anything sexual.
*During the drive to her student apartment dorm she found out she was 3 years older than me (19 vs. 22) and I think that turned her off a bit, but I didn't make a big deal about it so I don't think that's the problem.
Whilst I think I can still salvage this by taking her out tomorrow night to a club and have a few drinks together, I'd like to know how I should've approached this situation differently?
I haven't hooked up for about 2 months (my biggest dry spell since BC) and now closing has turned into a big deal again arh! This is so frustrating - I was able to close anyone really quick no worries back in January/Feb. Without over thinking it too much, I guess this is because over the past few months I've tried changing from fireworks party state to chilled, hot coal state. Whilst allowing me to talk longer, this has fucked up my ability to kiss or f-close!! Once I find the right balance between being chill and aggressive glory will ensue...
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SO I WENT BACK TO THIS GIRLS DORM ROOM AFTER UNI, BUT NOTHING HAPPENED :(
Last week I met this girl in my lecture and talked to her a bit, then number closed her afterwards.
Today at 6pm during the lecture I wasn't there and she txt messaged me asking where I was. I said I had something on but lets get a coffee when the lecture is over at 8pm. So we met on campus and grabbed a coffee and talked for about 20 minutes. Didn't escalate much, only kino was whilst we were sitting on a couch together our legs were touching just a bit.
She's a canadian exchange chick and has her on dorm room at the other campus 15 minutes drive away. I drove her home and offered to transfer some music from my iPod onto her PC so I came in. Once inside we were alone and we played around on facebook, itunes and talked for about 1 hour. I didn't escalate much, but there was some light kino involved. I thought this would be a guaranteed root but after a while things staled out and nothing happened. I think I'm in the friends zone - I was too nice and didn't do anything sexual.
*During the drive to her student apartment dorm she found out she was 3 years older than me (19 vs. 22) and I think that turned her off a bit, but I didn't make a big deal about it so I don't think that's the problem.
Whilst I think I can still salvage this by taking her out tomorrow night to a club and have a few drinks together, I'd like to know how I should've approached this situation differently?
I haven't hooked up for about 2 months (my biggest dry spell since BC) and now closing has turned into a big deal again arh! This is so frustrating - I was able to close anyone really quick no worries back in January/Feb. Without over thinking it too much, I guess this is because over the past few months I've tried changing from fireworks party state to chilled, hot coal state. Whilst allowing me to talk longer, this has fucked up my ability to kiss or f-close!! Once I find the right balance between being chill and aggressive glory will ensue...
ok Sash... before you get to my reply read you own question as though you were going to give an insightful answer.Last week I met this girl in my lecture and talked to her a bit, then number closed her afterwards.
Today at 6pm during the lecture I wasn't there and she txt messaged me asking where I was. I said I had something on but lets get a coffee when the lecture is over at 8pm. So we met on campus and grabbed a coffee and talked for about 20 minutes. Didn't escalate much, only kino was whilst we were sitting on a couch together our legs were touching just a bit.
She's a canadian exchange chick and has her on dorm room at the other campus 15 minutes drive away. I drove her home and offered to transfer some music from my iPod onto her PC so I came in. Once inside we were alone and we played around on facebook, itunes and talked for about 1 hour. I didn't escalate much, but there was some light kino involved. I thought this would be a guaranteed root but after a while things staled out and nothing happened. I think I'm in the friends zone - I was too nice and didn't do anything sexual.
*During the drive to her student apartment dorm she found out she was 3 years older than me (19 vs. 22) and I think that turned her off a bit, but I didn't make a big deal about it so I don't think that's the problem.
Whilst I think I can still salvage this by taking her out tomorrow night to a club and have a few drinks together, I'd like to know how I should've approached this situation differently?
I haven't hooked up for about 2 months (my biggest dry spell since BC) and now closing has turned into a big deal again arh! This is so frustrating - I was able to close anyone really quick no worries back in January/Feb. Without over thinking it too much, I guess this is because over the past few months I've tried changing from fireworks party state to chilled, hot coal state. Whilst allowing me to talk longer, this has fucked up my ability to kiss or f-close!! Once I find the right balance between being chill and aggressive glory will ensue...
The answer is clear. And more to the point, you need to stop seeking guidance and go rockstar mode on yourself. What do i tell you everytime... you wont perfrom if your to busy learning everything. There are times were perfromance must regres to make way for some learning but its like seasons and pre-seasons. Peaks and toughs.
What else do i always tell you...your all postiive all nice guy - little to no assertiveness and/or dominance. Short answer is, if you were there with her that long, she was attracted to you. Hurrrr-durrr ... you already knew that :D
Imagine this....your there, playing around smiling and getting into some deep rapport. Shes hanging with a guy whos smarter, more well acheived, stronger and more mature than PROBABLY ANYONE SHES EVER MET. Will she make a move... nope, point 26, its incongruence of you not to escalte. Did it fell bad and awkward when you didnt escalte...point number 5 (or somthing) whatever you feel she feels. YOU MADE HER FEEL LEFT OUT AND BAD AND AWKWARD.
I told you about the blue cunt.
Anyway...if you went for it... and she didnt go for it, you were unapologetic, and you were smiling, and if you didnt let her initial lack of complete sluttiness dissuade you (ie she didnt get naked on your first advance but otherwise made you pass a few tests, but shes feeling comfortable with your advances the whole time) something probably would have happened.
Realisitically, in that situation, she might have only made out wiith you - but hey - its a mayple syrup drinking college girl, she might have, but more importantly SHE WOULD HAVE THEN KNOWN THAT YOU ARE THE SORT OF GUY WHO GOES FOR WHAT HE WANTS. Mega attraction.
At first shed be like 'i shouldnt do this' then after you went for it unapologetic style, got turn down, but didnt care anyway, you leave her thinking... fuck hes cool, hes nice, hes hot, and i know that hes not going to get emotionally attached stalker zone unlike every other 18-25 yo she ever met.
And realistically you would get some calls later on to meet up, usually once shes in a drinky, party mode mindset. Then....waa waa wee wah, [spit in hands, rub them together and clap] 'very nice'. You would get laid.
Also, with the age thing.
Dude, you are smarter, stronger, have started more businesses, drive a better car and make more money then most 35 year olds. So tell them your somewhere around that mark. Your age related limiting beleif has become a joke... so i hereby knight you with the ability to joke about it when it is addressed.
If they ask you how old you are say....
'oh, my mum doesnt like that for religious and cultural reasons, im not supposed to talk about that until the perpendicular solstance in the northern hemispere. I know its a bit unique... but i respect my parents, especially my mother's wishes. I love her.' [seque into topic of conversation about mother]
This way the will be confused and realise it will be way too indepth and more confusing to even figure out what your talking about. If they pry, you have two social get out of jail for free cards, your mother, and culture/religion.
But otherwise in short sasha. Go and look in the mirror and tell your self your a little bitch for NOT CLOSING. A real man wouldnt take not escalting lightly.
Ill be back in melby soon.
Oh... and btw, the fact that your busy working on your ebook will make you more attractive. Say to girls offhandedly your really fucken busy but i have a small window of time... come meet me for a coffee. Your the rockstar here.... and dude, for your age you genuinely are.
STOP KIDDING YOURSELF. kidding yourself almost warrant another self addmittance that your being a bitch. You can decide on that.
Speak soon... think hard... act harder.
Alex~
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'I AM A LITTLE BITCH' Friday night
Went out to a club and finally had a few drinks and basically just hung out with friends. I only opened 2 sets. First one I simply said 'hey'... and thats it. Then later I saw 3 hotties (later found out they were strippers) and overhead 1 talking about how she doesn't like dancing, so I said 'yes finally a girl that doesn't need to dance' or something along those lines. She was happy to hear that and would've kept talking, but I didn't do enough to stop her friends pulling her away onto the d-floor. Surpisingly I ended up leaving early (12.30am) because my friend had some stuff on the next morning. Whilst I know I would've done more had I stayed a bit longer, the fact is during the 2 hours I was there I didn't - therefore all I can say about myself right now is, I AM A LITTLE BITCH.
Look at that. That's the last fucking time I'm ever gonna say that.
Went out to a club and finally had a few drinks and basically just hung out with friends. I only opened 2 sets. First one I simply said 'hey'... and thats it. Then later I saw 3 hotties (later found out they were strippers) and overhead 1 talking about how she doesn't like dancing, so I said 'yes finally a girl that doesn't need to dance' or something along those lines. She was happy to hear that and would've kept talking, but I didn't do enough to stop her friends pulling her away onto the d-floor. Surpisingly I ended up leaving early (12.30am) because my friend had some stuff on the next morning. Whilst I know I would've done more had I stayed a bit longer, the fact is during the 2 hours I was there I didn't - therefore all I can say about myself right now is, I AM A LITTLE BITCH.
Look at that. That's the last fucking time I'm ever gonna say that.
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