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December 11th, 2016
Living Success To The MAX From My Core!~
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roxsta89~

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Enough is enough, I give myself permission to have the top 1% ELITE congruence and be instructor level good with women. Fuck that, better.

The reason I'm starting this journal is to uncover all the layers and limiting beliefs holding me back and find who I truly am down to the mother fucking core and live from that state, every second, every day. Nathan's article about excellence really connected with me in that I want to have an abnormally strong reality and be excellent at what I'm passionate about. I will be who I'm meant to be. A good way to increase your results in anything in life is to "be excellent, not perfect". What this means is take massive action to the best of your ability, but don't stress too much about the details or you'll won't complete it as efficiently or effictively. "If something is worth doing, it's worth doing poorly" - Once you recognize the deeper meaning to that quote you'll begin taking action sooner and with more certainty.

I will use this journal to:
- Internalize good habits and beliefs;
- Post FR's to help identify my sticking points sooner and then proceed to annihilate them so I can move up to the next level;
- Write million dollar articles to contribute to the community that has given me so much already;

Rather than 'improving my skills with women' I want to improve my lifestyle and as a result, my improvement in skills with women will come naturally. This will sound paradoxical but try to understand; I want and desire sexual abundance with gorgeous women, and I know that if I have an awesome lifestyle where everything else in my life is taken care of, I will get that abundance with women. BUT - I truly want to have an awesome lifestyle simply to have, an awesome lifestyle. I'm not doing it to get women, even though I know it will sky rocket my success with women. Got it? Good.

Whilst remaining open minded, I want my reality to be sooo strong it'll be impossible to break down. If an F16 tried dropping a nuclear warhead onto my reality my reality would go Chuck Norris on its ass and show it who's the boss. I know that to strengthen my reality I need to break it down and build it back up over and over again, so I'll be doing some outrageous, wild, crazy, intense, epic, mind blowing and highly devastating shit to break it down. I'm open to your suggestions wink

I wanna go to sleep now so I can wake up at 7am tomorrow and get ready to take on the day head on and go door to door to local businesses doing direct selling for my internet marketing business at DoubleYourProfits.com.au (David D's DYD business makes $20 million/year, so I figured that would be a good name to model! I'll be content with $1 million/year for now, as long as I make enough to comfortably buy a Porsche 997 Turbo when I turn 21 in just under 1.25 years (I've had this as a solid goal for 4 years already). Currently I'm $8K in debt and making an average of $10-$50/day through affiliate marketing. I've been in the internet marketing industry for about 2 years and whilst I don't know everything, I have a pretty damn good understanding of it as a whole from a birds eye view. Once I sort out my debt, raise $4k for an operation my dog Sam needs to walk properly again and raise about $1-2K capital, I will put the offline consulting business (DYP) on pause and start investing my capital in affiliate campaigns so I can build up a steady and consistent income stream through affiliate marketing. Once I have a consistent affiliate income stream of $300/day, I will create my own information product business about something I'm passionate about (Modelling Eben Pagan's smart and excellent $20 million/year information product business strategy; RSD's commitment of only releasing high quality content that adds value to the world; and my favourite Internet Marketer Frank Kern's laid back attitude about business (whilst paradoxically being serious about it Eben Pagan style).

For right now the biggest attitude shifts I need to make and internalize more firmly are:
- be more unapologetic;
- stop being so nice and be a bigger arsehole (calibratedly of course);
- have complete self trust;
> I know that I can handle anything that comes my way no matter how hard or how painful, I truly do. Alex~ says I still don't have complete self trust and it's one of the biggest things holding me back in all areas of my life, so I need to work on this. But how??
- act through my own intentions;
- be more assertive, dominant and leading;
- know that what ever I say or do is the right thing because I'm saying or doing it;

Here are some more outer game shifts in attitude I want to achieve:
- be comfortable taking conversations in a sexual direction;
- look forward to congruence tests and embrace the chaos;
- be like a hot coal rather than fireworks;
- really ingrain the belief of "what ever I feel, she feels". I've begun to understand it a lot better since BC, but still not at 100%;
- actually follow up on numbers and set up day 2's;
- take myself more seriously so I can pick up older women 21-25 comfortably and disidentify from the belief that I'm too young at 19 and have trouble growing serious facial hair haha;

Habits/Beliefs I want to internalize:
- rotate between having a session of swimming or yoga once a week;
- go gym 2x week;
- always try to improve my skills, fitness, speed, agility at every football training session.
- be outside my head and have 100% belief in my skills that I'm a fucking superstar at football and I will dominate the game (whilst remaining a good team player) on match day;
- wake up at 7AM if I didn't go out the night before;
- love my family and don't react or judge them no matter what, even when they say negative things about my business or personal development seminars and books I constantly engage in;

I really want to thank Tyler and Papa for putting together RSD - truly the best company in the world! I loved the Blueprint, Jeffy show and natural Tim.
But most of all, I want to thank Alexander~ who's made the biggest difference in my transformation and ascent to elite congruence! Alex you're a top bloke and I love ya for it, infact my pants just got a little bit smaller. If anyone's on the edge about doing a bootcamp with Alex~, sign up right now. I vouch for him 100% - he will help you take your game (and life) to the next level with fun adverture times, you beauty! Alex if you're reading this... I lied about everything I said and you're a dickhead - go fuck yourself.

Alright I really gtg now to get 8 hours of good S-Timez so this is enough for now. Good night.

"BE WHO YOU'RE MEAN'T TO BE"

And most importantly when you travel somewhere, don't stay at the Westin-fuckin-hotels!
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Adam~

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 Yes fucking yes fucking yes! 

Great post mate and awesome attitude as always. Will be keeping close tabs on your progress....
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What does your conscience say? — You should become the person you are. — Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche
Awesome goals Roxsta89!
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Record Hangover following After Exams Uni Party FR

The night begins with me and 2 other uni mates for pre-drinks. I brought a 700ml vodka + 4 mother energy drinks. Seeing as it was already 8.30pm and we had to leave soon, we some how managed to down that bottle in 15 minutes between the three of us + 2 beers each. As we arrive to the club, my friend falls out of the taxi and the night begins.

I snuck a bag of chips into the club and was just offering chips to all the boys and girls in sight. Except for one, no one really wanted them so I threw them against a wall. It was about 9.30pm and me and my friends were the center of attention as the most pissed dickheads at the party. Whilst my friend was ordering drinks, I clawed the 2 hot blondies and they were both into me and we exchanged names. Then some other friends called me overand I left the girls without a word. Hmmm, I have trouble remembering much else but I'll try.

This is my 2nd year of uni and I go to nearly all the parties, so I knew lots of people there and for most of the night either I was coming upto friends saying hi or they came to me. Crazy social proof going on - especially when a group of guys I don't really know all that well started chanting 'roxsta fucking roxsta' on the dFlo. Being drunk is always fun! I don't think I actually approached many girls because I was completely shit faced and didn't really care about picking up that night as I was having a good time already. Coming off from a few bootcamps in a row being an intern for Alex~ and practising difficult situations for me which is older women, picking up at this uni party where I'm friends with nearly everyone and have huge social proof, I was 100% comfortable and felt like picking up these uni girls would be the easiest thing in the world - which it should be! (But so far I've only hooked up at 1 out of 5 uni parties which is slightly worrying).

Apart from pulling and clawing a few girls in and releasing them soon after, there was only really one set that I was really interested in. These 2 girls are both HB9's and always roll together with the same crew. Before I continue, here's a bit of my background with these two girls:
Uni orientation 2009 party #1: I had massively attracted girl1 and isolated her outside, talked for about an hour with her sitting on my lap. Although it was going great, didn't hook up. Turns up she has a boyfriend. Then when I tried talking to her later all her friends ganged up on me and were like "stay away she has a bf!! bla bla" very meanly - fucking bitches lol.
Mid-semester party #2: Tried talking to girl2 but she wasn't interested and hooked up with other guys.
>>> Saw girls at bar and later nightclub (not uni function) <<< I was with quite a few boys from my football team chilling at the bar. We had just arrived from a football function and were in a good state. I went outside to take a call and spotted girl2 at a table with a large group of her girlfriends, I think she noticed me too but I didn't pay attention to her and stayed focused on the person whom I was speaking with on the phone. After I hung up, I looked over to her table and she waved at me, so I came and sat down with them (girl1 was also there) and was just shooting the shit and she introduced me to her other friends. She said "Are your team mates hot?" so I took girl1 & girl2 and said I'll introduce you to the hottest, most built guys. Then I walked through the bar with both these girls holding my arm. Then I introduced them to the other footy boys and clawed them both. After 5 minutes of boring chat that was going no where, they left.
Later that night I went to a loud dance nightclub and saw them again. Danced with them and talked a bit, but neither would hook up (girl1 had a boyfriend). So I told girl2 "Hey you can be my wing woman!" but I don't think she heard me properly because she was like "Nooo!!", walked away from me and danced with her friend like a lesbian.
Boat cruise party #3: Tried talked to girl1 and 2 but niether was interested, meh. Ended up hooking up with another girl and later fingering her at the after party and was literally 1 minute away from fucking her until the mobile call of doom happened and she had to leave. I went back to the after party full of nimbus and alcohol and blue balls - talked/danced with the HB9's from before and they were pretty happy. Bought girl1 a drink, talked for 5 more mins and she left. Then chode danced around girl2 and whilst I was spinning her around and dancing a bit, she wouldn't hook up though. She pulled in the biggest chode and pretended that he was her bf, even though I knew he wasn't.

And now we get to last night; After exams party #4: When I first saw these 2 girls I clawed them in to say hi and they were fine with it. Then through out the night whenever I saw them I'd claw them in either seperately or together - and their bitchy friends. Eventually those 2 HB9's and their friends started saying shit to me like "i hate you"; "go away"; "fuck off"; "you're harrasing us"- and they used "you're creepy" a lot. what chu talking about  I very rarely ever get that sort of shit said to me, and the other girls I clawed in the same way that night were happy and cool with it - they loved it! Not these girls though.
The whole time I was being full unapologetic and had intent (although not 100%).
Later on which I'm not sure was a good thing or not, after girl2 told me 'you're harrasing us' for the 10th time I pulled her aside and genuinely apologized for harrasing them and hugged her.

Looking back I see that I was being a drunk idiot and no wonder I got those reactions. Although being a drunk idiot helps - looking back I always pick up the best looking girls when I'm sober or have had very little to drink. Whilst I don't normally drink often maybe (once or twice a fortnight) this was an after exams uni party, come on I'm getting shit faced tonight! AND I did thumbs up

Earlier this afternoon I msg'd "good night yesterday" to girl1 on facebook, but didn't get a reply - oh my gosh!
Just remember this - I will eventually fuck one of these HB9's girls I talked about above. It's an absolute certainty.

What can I learn from this?
- After picking a set, stay in there for at least 10 minutes before I choose to leave or not.
- Befriend the friends and motherhen, then try isolating the girl

My questions
1. Even though I feel totally comfortable and have lots of social proof at uni parties and feel great, why is it that I've only managed to hook up on only 1 of 5 occassions this year?
2. Just realized that all those nasty comments are really deep down congruence tests. How could I have handled them better?

PS: It's 4.56PM and I still have a hangover. Footy training is gonna be fun.
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Sunday night facebook stalker mode

This is basically a quick convo I had with a girl I've never met, but added her on FB one day a few months ago because she was hot! I can't believe I'm posting this. My convo was soooo lame I'm embarressed - but whatever it's the only way I'll learn.

Quote:

Sasha
hey P.I.M.P
12:04amCarla
hii
12:05am Sasha
i don't think we've ever met, but u seemed pretty cool so i thought i might say hi!
and ur kaz's friend, so ur probly not a psycho or anything :P
12:06amCarla
do u have an older brother
12:06amSasha
just a dog
12:07amCarla
oh i thought u were my brothers best friends brother
got the last names mixed up
12:08amSasha
thats cool gtg now
sleep timez
12:10amSasha
if u ever see me at prince or whatever, just go straight up to me pimp style and go 'hey you're that guy who randomly talked to me on FB one night' and i'll be like 'yeah'
12:10amCarla
:S
were u at princelast night
12:10amSasha
lol nah - stayed in actually
12:11amCarla
o ok
12:11amSasha
broke my record of going out


PS: This is my 1st ever try doing pick up online. And you know what i realized, I sucked haha!! confused
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I had a quick realization today that rather than trying to sift through the 100's of tiny unconscious limiting beliefs I have and change them to empowering beliefs, all I simply have to do is get laid a couple of times and they'll autocorrect. DUH!! I came to this realization that after you fuck 12 or so different girls you generally shouldn't have anymore problems being a natural. I've spent years doing personal development trying to enforce empowering beliefs and eliminating negative beliefs, but I've only been laid twice from two different girls. But I now understand that won't help me live through 100% elite congruence, only results will. So whilst I understand the importance of beliefs and working on yourself, if I just get laid it'll fix itself. It's ironic because I use to do all these things TO get laid. Now I think I really understand what makes a natural a natural, just get laid a few times!
So without being attached to the outcome and not coming from a needy place, I just wanna get laid! devil

Right now the lifestyle challenge is coming together well. I started going gym again, did a session of yoga, pushing my comfort zone and doing things I've never done before in business (going door to door and cold calling business owners selling my internet marketing skills). It's funny, sales is extremely similar to picking up girls. If you have experience in one area, you'll have a huge headstart if you ever do the other.

Due to getting my lifestyle in balance first, I haven't been out to the clubs for over a week and that's why tonight will be epic! The Roxsta is back...
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Follow up FR to the post above:

First I met up with a few friends, then we hit the clubs - I was taxi for tonight so no drinking which is fine because I'm broke (Not for long though!). So we're walking to the bar when I suddenly get a massive, massive hug from a girl I haven't seen for months. This was right outside a club and everyone in line saw which was pretty good for my social proof I guess. Regardless, we continued past this club to another bar close by for further pre's. Opened one girl and had a really good quick interaction, then another set with the help of my friend literally pushing me in because I was being too picky. Didn't go anywhere, but I didn't really care as I wasn't interested.

Then onto the next club - which was awesome! Stunning girls everywhere and the girl who gave me that massive hug was their too and got excited talking to me as I walked in. Later on, she was telling her friend how when I first tried to pick her up about a year ago, it was like the funniest thing ever and was cracking up. I just remembered what I did, so for anyone curious what I did it was simply "MASSIVE STATE + opened with to a 2 set 'so is this place always so packed?...' + spun 1 girl around and stole her chair + best friends test + just hanging out being cool". Anyway later on I talked to a few sets which went ok, but nothing happened out of them. In the final hour, whilst my friends were in set having a good time I was doing loser laps arounds the venue and getting blown out from the few girls I approached. State gooooooone, feeling shit...

I left at around 2am and went home alone, feeling like a shit night. I didn't even wanna write up this FR because I felt nothing had been achieved and I didn't live up to the expectations I set for myself. Then today I was watching the blueprint (2nd viewing 1 year later) and Tyler said:
- Focus on the positives and you’ll be in a good state. If you focus on the negatives, you’ll feel like a loser.
- See the best in yourself and cut yourself a lot of slack


So just for shits and giggles I closed my eyes and looked back on this night trying to focus on the positives, here's what happened:
Venue 1
- had a girl scream and run up to me with a big hug and kiss on the cheek because she was so happy to see me (then added me to FB the next day, reckon she's interested?); tounge
- dropped a comment to a turbo girl walking by something like "nice strut, fkn bad ass... keep it up" and got a massive smile as if I just made her night;
- got myself to snap out of chill mode with friends and opened a set even though I didn't feel like it;
- talked to a bouncer I've become friends with over the last few months and changed his state of boredom to being happy and excited;
- got looks from nearly all the girls as I walked through the venue with an energy of total presense, unapologeticness, intent and masculine polarity.
Venue 2
- the girl I knew from before ran upto me and introduced me to all her girlfriends and went to get a drink with me
- a girl was walking past with the attitude of 'I'm the shit...' with a completely straight face - so as she walked by I pulled her in and said "just smile" cheekily to which she cracked a BIG genuine smile! I talked to her for a bit and said "Hey aren't you Carla? Poke out your tongue for a sec". She wasn't but she was laughing and enjoying herself, then all of a sudden her friends swooped in and said "hey she's got a bf bla bla bla" my RAS didn't really listen. Then one of her friends pulled me aside and tried picking ME up. She wasn't a stunner or anything, but still :)
- saw a real TURBO girl strutting past and quickly pulled her in "You're fucking gorgeous." to which she genuinely smiled and said "Thank you!! You're really cute too".
- then some guy asked me "Hey are you roxsta?". Turns out he knows me from the melbourne pickup forums even though I'd never met him. Anyway he's a newbie and after talking with him for a minute or so, I pulled in a hottie from a group beside us and she tested me with "You can't tap this, I'm out of your league and you're too young bla bla bla" to which I tapped her butt a few times, then clawed her in and said something like this (can't remember exactly but it was good!) "I can tap this anytime I like, etc etc". Then she tested me again with age, she was 20 and i'm 19. After practising on women averaging ~25 years old on BC's with Alex~, a girl who's a few months older than me is a joke! Anyway I passed that test with flying colours too and she started talking to the guy from the lair. I was now beaming with positiving and feeling great, so I left those 2 alone so the guy could be isolated.
- opened a 3 set and quickly isolated the hottie and talked with her for about 5-10 mins.
- saw my friends gf's friend, called her over, sat her down on my lap, talked, danced, she left her friends and 4 chess club chodes dancing around her to get a drink with me (Probably the easiest one to have pulled).

Now looking back on that night from this positive frame, even though I didn't pull, hook-up or number close it was actually a good night. But on my way home and the last few days I felt like that night was a complete disappointment. But once again, if I look at the positives I can truly appreciate how far I've come and how if I had a night like this a year ago, I'd be over the moon!
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Just finished my 2nd viewing of The Blueprint... damn it's good. I soooo respect Tyler even more for putting it all together - that is one hell of an achievement. As much of a fan I am of Tony Robbins I'd have to say that The Blueprint is the best personal development product ever! I am just speechless.
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Whilst there was a lot of good stuff, here are the key points I need to keep in mind from the blueprint:

- I LIVE UP TO MY STANDARDS AND OWN WHO I AM 100%.
- I BRING GIRLS INTO MY WORLD. I TALK ABOUT STUFF GOING ON IN MY LIFE AND THINGS I FIND INTERESTING.
- I TAKE WHAT I WANT AND DON’T LET ANYTHING OR ANYONE STOP ME.
- I WILL ENJOY THE EXPERIENCE FULLY, WITHOUT GETTING ATTACHED TO THE OUTCOME.
- I TAKE RIGHT ACTION 10 OUT OF 10 TIMES BECAUSE I AM A CHAMPION.
- WOMEN LIKE ME JUST FOR ME.
- I EMBRACE CONGRUENCE TESTS FULL THROTAL.
- I HAVE UNWAVERING CERTAINTY AND BARELY ANY EMOTIONAL REACTION TO CONFLICTING VIEWS > DOMINANT REALITY.
- I AM AT EASE IN MY REALITY.
- MAN – ACTION (LEADING); GIRL – REACTION.
- I ACT THROUGH MY OWN INTENTIONS.
- I AM ALREADY CHOSEN BY EVERY GIRL IN THE VENUE.
- I APPROACH WITH NOTHING IN MY MIND, I’M JUST FEELING GOOD.
- WHATEVER I SAY IS GOOD ENOUGH BECAUSE IT’S COMING FROM ME.
- IF I’M IN THE MOMENT, I UNDERSTAND THAT MY FACULTIES WILL PROVIDE ME WITH EXACTLY WHAT I NEED AND EXACTLY WHEN I NEED IT. BECAUSE OF THIS I TRUST MYSELF TO RESPOND WITHOUT THINKING, BUT RATHER LETTING THE WORDS FLOW OUT OF ME.
- I CAN SEE NEGATIVE FEEDBACK, BUT I DON’T FOCUS ON IT AND LET IT AFFECT MY STATE. I ALWAYS HAVE THE STRONGEST REALITY.
- IN RESPONSE TO CONGRUENCE TESTS, I ALWAYS HAVE THE BETTER ANSWER.
- I PUT MY TRUE SELF ON THE LINE AND LET THE CHIPS FALL WHERE THEY MAY.
- I DON’T STRETCH FOR THE OUTCOME, I JUST STAY PRESENT AND SEE WHERE IT TAKES ME (CALIBRATED LEADING).
- SEX IS JUST A NATURAL CONSEQUENCE WHEN I HANG OUT WITH A WOMAN, IT’S NO BIG DEAL.
- CONFIDENCE AND FEELING GOOD IS MY DEFAULT STATE.
- I LOOK DEEP INTO PEOPLES EYES AND SEE THE LIGHT FROM THEIR TRUE SELF SHINING THROUGH.
- I ENJOY THE WHOLE INTERACTION. SEX ISN’T THE ONLY FUN PART, IT’S JUST ONE OF THE MANY PARTS.
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Went to a DJ Competition

So I went out to this nightclub to support my friend who was in a DJ competition (The amount of social proof he got before he started his set was ridiculous!). Pretty much every interaction I had tonight was good except for a few. I won't post every set and every detail, just what's relevant.

- Saw my DJ friend outside and he introduced me to 2 girls that came down to support him. I mini-isolated the hot one (HB8) whilst my wing talked to the other. Then we went inside and just on the edge of the dance floor I started building a bit of rapport with her. So far about 5 minutes had passed since we first met. She was dancing a little whilst talking and kept getting closer and touching me a bit (It was a very similar vibe to the one in Brad's quick makeout video). This is the time when I should've kino'd her harder and gone in for a kiss. I felt that 'it was on like donkey kong' and my mind immediately started thinking about pulling - my car? her place? This is when I first got attached to the outcome. When I talked to her before, I really didn't give a fuck and had an abundance attitude that I could have any girl in this club.
Then this guy friend of hers (who is a HUGE chode) came over. I introduced myself and talked for a bit but was finding this guy pretty boring. So I said to the girl "Let's go to the other room where our DJ friend is about to play soon" she happily agreed, but pulled the chode with us. We get into the other room and I see my friend from uni, so I talked to him whilst the girl and chode got a seat on the couch. My uni friend gave me a drink card but since I was driving, I decided to be nice and use it to get the girl I met a drink. So I waved her over to come here to the bar, but she shook her head and pointed for me to come to her. Ok too bad, now she misses out on a free drink. I chilled with uni friend a bit more, then I came over to her and her chode friend on the couch and they were both pretty silent and bored. I didn't have anything interesting to say so I quickly left. WHATEVER I SAY IS GOOD ENOUGH BECAUSE IT’S COMING FROM ME.
A bit later she was on the dance floor by herself for quite a while, whilst I was on the otherside of the room now looking for other girls and out of state. I assumed she wasn't interested in me anymore so I didn't even try dancing with her. THE ATTRACTION IS ALWAYS ON SO I CAN COME IN ANYTIME I FEEL LIKE IT & SHE'LL BE HAPPY.

- Saw a full TURBO stunner girl walk in (short skirt, high heels, blonde hair) and I just knew, she's for me! I didn't approach her straight away, but about 5 minutes later when we were both outside I did. She was in a group of 4 girls and everything was going fine until I sat down next to her and said "I think you've got the hottest outfit on in this club". She just blew it off with "Yeah whatever, its the 7th time I'm wearing it". After that she started to ignore me more and was giving one worded answers and looking to her friends who my friends were winging. Should I try using neg's or disqualifiers in this situation? I normally never use them, but usually when I tell a stunner "I think you're hot/gorgeous/cute/best outfit" they just smile and say thank you. However this one didn't even do that - she just became highly turned off instantly. Is it because I didn't have enough intent? When a hottie is with her not so attractive friends, I seem to turn down the intent because I don't want to make the friends feel bad because I didn't say it to them. Looking at this in writing it seems so absurb that I care what her friends think! But then again, to get the girl you need to win over her friends... so what do I do here?

- My wing opened a massive 6 set outside who were spilt up into 2 groups. I can into wing so whilst he talked 1-on-1 to his girl, I talked 1-on-1 to mine. Turns out this girls are from Sydney for the weekend (BINGO! BINGO! BINGO! - They are DTF!). So we talked for a good 10-20 minutes but it was mostly pretty logical and I only kinoed her once when I clawed her for about 5 seconds because I was cold. She seemed interested, so said lets go inside. She said sure but let me bring my friends. Her friends didn't wanna go in so she didn't want to go either. She was stuck in 2 minds and whilst she was pulling to leave, she also pulled to stay. Eventually she chose to stay so I just went back inside alone. During this time I wasn't leading, didn't take her hand, just stood and waited for her to come. What should I have done here?

PS: This is so weird but I figured you guys would find this funny so here it is... I had a dream tonight that I met Tyler at a park and we were just shooting the shit
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Here are some important concepts from Alexander's article I need to internalize to take my game to the next level.

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10. If the girl isn’t gaming you, you’re not going to have sex with the girl. It’s true that people value something they have to work for, or something they think of as higher value than them. And this can be confusing if you are learning cold approach pick up. ‘How can I approach her, then, get the girl gaming me?’ Furthermore, to think that you have to game the girl implies that you are lesser than her, and this implication with become a self fulfilling prophecy to the girl you are interacting with. After all, the way you approach her is the way she makes up her mind about you. The way to get the girl gaming you is in the VALUE INVERSION POINT, what some people call the transition or the point when you go from 90/10 to 50/50 talking ratios. Go in chat, even entertain her and arouse emotions. Then withdraw. This usually elicits a question from the girl. Usually something chodely like ‘where are you from?’ or ‘what do you do?’. This is her gaming you, once you get this going, keep it going, answer with statements (obviously), express yourself to inspire attraction and she will continue to game you. The more she finds herself gaming you (unlike the way guys usually try and game her) the more she will find herself liking you and the closer you’ll be to sleeping with the girl.

11. Whatever you do, DON’T try for rapport. There are many levels of communication when two people interact and there are subsets of communications within them. To name a few there are verbal, non verbal and physical ways to communicate; and if you want to be more technical there are logical modalities and emotional modalities, direct or indirect. The modalities aren’t as important as using them to ensure you don’t try for rapport. In any interaction people automatically fall into a role of high value and low value. If you’re trying for rapport you will automatically communicate low value, if you don’t, you won’t communicate low value. To try and break rapport is tricky, and to force it is actually a form of trying for rapport. What you will find is that when you are completely natural, as a man, you never try for rapport, and others automatically respond by taking on a subordinate value to you.


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