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October 16th, 2017
Heartbroken... FUCK i got it bad.
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Svall

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Join Date: 01/21/2009 | Posts: 1084

Arent you the dude always promoting this tolle shit? NOW BE IN THE MOMENT AND YOU HAVE NO PROBLEM JAO!
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#12
Matt~

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There is a solution, watch this vdeo:

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#13
Calavera

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Join Date: 08/02/2007 | Posts: 719

Best thing to do after a break up, I made a list:
start new roles (volunteering, new job, etc.)
hang with friends OFTEN
keep yourself bus yand doing stuff that really keeps you ENGAGED
Travel
JOG A LOT (endorphins help feel good)
Meet TONS of girls.

ad nauseum
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#14
Getupa

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It is for your growth dude.
you'll pass over it.
most importantthing now:abundance mentality... This is the time when it really matters to have it
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#15
ImDaniel

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I know what your are going through man. You develop a hope that you will get back together, and in your head all you can see is her being intimately fulfilled by someone else.You feel like you should be the only one to love her. It does seem fair, but life isn't. I know that me any my ex are not really friends, even though we say we are. I can't talk to her much, because I know she is seeing other guys, and she gets a lot of validation from that. You are never going to like the idea of her seeing another guy...... EVER! So you need to decided if you are going to move on, because you could be missing out on a lot out there. Get rid of all the shit you had together. It is over, and you need to start living. I blocked her on my facebook, and I even changed my number. If you can't let her go, then cut her off.

1) Get rid of all the cute stuff/things you had together. You will always have memories, those could be considered just as tangible.

2) Take up some new hobbies, and start experiencing life.

3) Don't listen to music, or purposely go places that bring back memories. No matter how romantic novel it may seem.

4) Accept that you two are not together, and that it hurts. She is not the only one, and you will learn from this experience, never allowing one person to have so much control.

5) Go out and meet girls, because soon will realize that there could be a better girl out there for you. If you don't believe that, you will never really move on, nor be able to find a new great girl.

6) Be happy even if you are faking it, fake it till you make it. Accept sad thoughts and don't resist them. Then move on to positive thinking.

7)). STOP ALL CONTACT. Don't email her, or ring her, or text her, or talk to her unless you're obviously put into a social situation where you can just say hello (but do not actively seek this social situation, ever). If she ever initiates conversation with you through any of these means then sure, be polite, but generally ignore any crap she says. Treat her like you would treat some HB3 trying to talk to you when you've got an HB10 lying in your bed behind you.

8)Hang out with friends and have a good time. Don't show her that you're having fun or have fun just to show her that you are. Just actually enjoy yourself with mates and don't let her see that you're still whinging and moaning over her.

You are going to be fine. It is rough at first, but don't waste your life being sad, and moaning over this. I took up jiu jitsu, I promise you that you won't be thinking of her while you have a guy trying to choke you senseless. Hit up the forum when you feel like talking to her, and masterbate when you REALLY feel like talking to her.... it helps. Good luck man.
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Frank_Castle

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Join Date: 04/06/2009 | Posts: 230

Ignore the haters, ImDaniel nailed it bang on. Nothing else needs to be said.


-Castle
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sabster

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Svall wrote:
Arent you the dude always promoting this tolle shit? NOW BE IN THE MOMENT AND YOU HAVE NO PROBLEM JAO!

haha wow. this is funny.

but anyway duG, i hear you man. shit like this can happen from time to time. i would just slow down, and take it one step at a time. like people said before, try to go workout. i know everytime i stressed or i am feeling this way, i hit the gym. i always feel better after leaving. and just do something BESIDES trying to better yourself. if your always worrying about being 'in the moment' and trying to be your own person and get self esteem from inside, your going to stress yourself out! just let go! just relax! you know you've been to the top, and you know that higher highs mean higher lows, and you know it's only a matter of time before you bounce back mah man. just accept what you are right now. accept your depressed/sad and not let it get to you
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IvánPérez

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Join Date: 07/05/2008 | Posts: 1715

Call up a friend and have some beers with him, someone that knows you more than an internet anonymous user.
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Some principles that have been getting me some success:
- When I'm out: it's me-time. I focus on expressing myself and doing what's fun for me, I don't care about girls. Self-absorbedness.
- 'It's all good, it's going to be fine, I am enough'. No worries or concerns. Let the dynamics work for me.
- Nobody is going to pull girls home for me. Self-image will stop you, take action regardless.
- Focus on finding a girl DTF vs. trying to game/arouse/whatever girl after girl.

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#19
IvánPérez

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Oh, fuck it, pm me your email if you want to talk. You seem like a cool dude. I've never been heartbroken but I had to go through loads of shit in my life, I know what you are feeling.
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Some principles that have been getting me some success:
- When I'm out: it's me-time. I focus on expressing myself and doing what's fun for me, I don't care about girls. Self-absorbedness.
- 'It's all good, it's going to be fine, I am enough'. No worries or concerns. Let the dynamics work for me.
- Nobody is going to pull girls home for me. Self-image will stop you, take action regardless.
- Focus on finding a girl DTF vs. trying to game/arouse/whatever girl after girl.

IvánPérez.
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#20
Remco~

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This too shall pass.
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