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December 6th, 2016
House Party vs Bars
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AdamVanWildest

AdamVanWildest

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Join Date: 02/28/2009 | Posts: 493

While I used to think that nothing beats a good house party I've recently learned that every bar you goto can become your own house party and most of the time even more fun. The reason that I love house parties is that you can easily go around and meet everyone with such ease, everyone is linked to each other some how, the conversations are natural and easy, and always plenty of seduction locations. A house party is one big set merger. What I found from bars is that It can be the same thing. You have two kinds of people in bars... those your know... and those you don't.
If you had a party at your house, you'll know the majority of the people there and anyone new, you'll go and introduce yourself and make sure they know where everything is at and having a good time. So why not do the same thing when you are in a bar? For all your next set knows, you could be the bar owner, the bar's biggest regular, or the fucking party host of the century, they have no idea, only what you project. I've recently been approaching everyone in the bar as if they were the only strangers left to meet at my house party. I'll make sure they are having a good time, ask if they know where everything is, the specials, then i'll set merge. After a while, you have met everyone in the bar and if you did a good job, you'll have sets dragging you back in and everyone watching you as you bounce around causing chaos. Whatever your goals may be, you could end up with a ton of numbers, lots of makeouts, makings a ton of new friends, getting future hook ups at other bars, and of course rolling home with The Hottest Chicka in the place.
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rsd.acolyte

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Join Date: 04/24/2009 | Posts: 49

I don't understand.. how do you makes ure everything's alright at a bar when you can't influence the outcome?
It's like..
-Hey girls, you having a good time? Everything alrgith, can I get you anything?

At a house party that's all good.. at a bar..? What do I do? Clean up the mess on the floor next to them? 
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AdamVanWildest

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rsd.acolyte wrote:
I don't understand.. how do you makes ure everything's alright at a bar when you can't influence the outcome?
It's like..
-Hey girls, you having a good time? Everything alrgith, can I get you anything?

At a house party that's all good.. at a bar..? What do I do? Clean up the mess on the floor next to them? 
But you can influence the outcome, if they are bored, you can show them a good time, you are an interesting person, you know everyone else in the bar, people like to mingle, they just don't like to approach and open.  You're not offereing drinks or saying can't i check on yoru order or anything. 

-Hey whats up guys, welcome to the cantina de adam, I haven't seen you before, you must be tourists.  Then just act on impulse with whatever's going on in the bar at the time.  Teach them a new bar game that everyone is playing, have them meet your friends (other sets) , give them value without taking away yours, and have fun with it.  My personal favorite is getting everyone in the bar into the "Game of Life" but thats just me.

i always call girls "guys" when approaching a set.... i don't know why i do it, but it seems that its smoother and will make them 1% less defensive.
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Brad

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Join Date: 08/28/2007 | Posts: 3014

Yep, I like this "frame/mindset".

Going up like you are totally at home in the environment, expecting everyone to be friendly.

Then you don't have to worry about anyone spilling beer on your carpet, or pissing on your bed.  :)
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AdamVanWildest

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Thanks M8knMoves,

I wasn't trying to get everyone caught up in the "pretending" to work there gig... it was more like "act as if" ... act as if you have a 20 inch cock, act as if you are the baddest mother fucker on the planet.... act as if you own the bar like you own your own house party.

I liked your story about meeting 100 people, thats what I am about and that makes my night fun.  I've been out every night for the last 2-3 months... some nights shorter than others of course, but half of the time i am NOT in the MOOD to go out... however, going out actually puts me in state now.... 

About what Tim said, thats exactly right... .Plus... it doesn't commit you to once set.  There are always hotter girls and by bouncing around between them all, you are becoming more attractive to all the girls even if you are not staying in set with them.   Then as the night goes on, you can start escalading things with the girls that you chose.
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AdamVanWildest

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Brad- wrote:
Yep, I like this "frame/mindset".

Going up like you are totally at home in the environment, expecting everyone to be friendly.

Then you don't have to worry about anyone spilling beer on your carpet, or pissing on your bed.  :)
I hate it when they piss in my bed confused
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