THE FORUMS

well the rsd way is to pull her from the nightclub, and then decide whether or not u still want to give her ur D!

From my notes on this topic...  This isn't terribly difficult.  It's easy, really.  I've kept women in FB status for a year straight.  It's all about how much you contact them.   You don't need to say anything.  Your actions will speak for you. 

How often should you talk to a girl who you are starting to get involved with?

The amount of times that you contact her will lead to certain expectations and it will lead to assumptions about the relationship that may not be your intention. The reason why is because girls don’t listen to your words, they listen to your actions. You can tell a girl we’re just seeing each other, I don’t want to be your boyfriend, this isn’t committed. You can say that everyday. You can send her a telegram that says it, but if you call her every day and you hang out with her 4 times a week, she’s automatically going to assume you wanna be her boyfriend, even though you told her that you didn’t. That’s just the way it works. If you want her to want you as a boyfriend, call her a lot. She’ll get a boyfriend expectation built up and try to talk you into it. If you want to keep a girl as a non-committed thing, you cannot be calling every day. You cannot be emailing every day. Contact per week must be low. Meeting up once a week is good. Twice a week, sometimes, but you’re getting into a danger zone. Skipping a week once in awhile is a good move. Phone once-twice a week plus see her once a week is probably a good position. Keep it short. 3-4 times a week on the phone and she is going to get the wrong idea. Don’t be on emails all the time either. Remember emails also. 2 emails almost equal 1 phone call… remember that girls keep score. Also remember that girls wanna move forward and that you cannot move backward. That’s the business of dating for them. Girls can’t move back. Guys can. Emotionally they get resentful if you try to move them backwards.

Typical scenario – Boy meets girl, they hang out all the time, he says he doesn’t want a commitment, and she gets hurt feelings and he says “I told you I didn’t want a commitment.” Then she says (crying) “I don’t know why, I just thought that maybe we could…” And he says he’s sorry, and she says that she is sorry too, and a bad time was had by all. If you don’t know about pickup, you don’t know to “manage her expectations”.

If she is in fuck buddy status and you stop by and have sex once a week and that’s about all, you can manage that.