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March 29th, 2017
International man of Mystery...Hyxtery
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#51
Hyxtery

Hyxtery

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Join Date: 04/04/2008 | Posts: 89

MOVIE MOMENT

I hate writing this FR because I was 90% done with it and then my computer fucking froze after which I lost all interest, however, this night was so awesome that I feel that I need to share it and now I'm writing it back up again from scratch.

What I liked about this day was that it had all the potential to suck but it didn't. It was raining outside and I was meeting up with my buddy Alphapunk at like 12am on a tuesday. Barely anybody was out but that didn't stop me from not choding and as a result the night went really well.

Saw one girl on the train, talked to her; she's busy and she gets off in two stops, nothing special

Alphapunk has an impromptu date so I head over to LES with my friend who's non-community and first set I open

She's like "You look so familiar...are you on tv? are you an actor?", I decide to kiss her in about 5 seconds after that because she thinks I'm sort of celebrity so she can have a story to tell her firends haha. I chat with her and dance, after which I pull her to a secluded location and finger her and start escalating. My take on this is it was too soon as she was getting in her head so we head back to the dancefloor and start dancing. I must've pulled her back and forth a total of 4 times also making sure to talk to her and get to know her since it was too loud to hear on the dancefloor anyway. Escalation is always stopping at a fixed point so I decide to get her number and she txt'd me not too long ago this morning.

me and my friend go to another bar and I spot this pretty blonde DIY punk rock girl, she's with a guy and another girl, I find her very pretty and I go up to her when the guy leaves to go to the bathroom. I talk to her and she's not all that interested and the guy comes back, it's obvious he's with the other girl and HB DIY is not with anybody. I'm talking to the guy, it turns out he's DIY's borther and he's here with a girl so his sister's third wheelin' in a way. I start talking to DIY and she starts getting into the conversation, she likes me. I intro her to my friends but it's closing time and now my friend has left with his buddies and now I'm with these guys. They like me, I ask DIY for her number and it turns out she doesn't even have a cell, they say they're gonna go get beers "so you can get to hit on my sister in person," says DIY's brother haha. Her brother likes me and at the end of the day anybody would want their sister/daughter to be with a cool guy anyway.

We all leave the bar and hang out in the rain.

DIY says whatever's on her mind and has quite an edge to her, I find her to be quite intelligent and I'm kinda digging her NGAF attitude, being gamey in this situation was DEFINITELY not gonna work and I think this girl can definitely see through that in an instant. WE actually separate from her brother and the other girl and it's me and her, I tell her to come walk with me to union square and we talk on the way. Fun ensues on the way and I get to know a bit more about her, the thing is, I can pull her towards me and give her an umbrella but she is NOT responsive to me trying to kiss her. On the way I tell her that she's cute, and that I wanna kiss her however she completely ingores it or would literally turn around.

We walk to union square and then she's like, "Have I seen you here before?" while giving me a suspicious look haha I don't remember seeing her ever before but it was funny that she was giving me that look almost as if she knew something so I just framed it as her wanting to makeout with me haha. We're walking around union square in the rain and nobody's out,  I tell her I want to kiss her and she confesses that she finds me funny and "Quite hot" with her british accent which I found to be quite hot as well. This makes me feel good because of the way that she was acting, she didn't wanna give anything away to even elude that she liked me before, much less think that I was hot. It came out of left field for me which is how good she was at it.

she wants to head off to the train station to go back to her place at which point I tell her that I want to kiss her again and she's like "I can give you a hug??" smiling and opening her arms. I don't argue with her, I don't verbally try to dismiss her hug I just laugh because I find it genuinely funny...as she's about to "hug" me I look into her eyes unwaveringly and she kisses me, we hug for a while and then we're making out hardcore in the rain and my umbrella has become a non-issue as making out with her was so awesome I didn't care about holding it.

We go down the stairs and we're making out for a little bit and she says she has to go, writing this I kinda feel like I should have plowed but I didn't, I had tried getting her number earlier and apparently she didn't even have a cell phone. Before she was about to leave I looked at her and told her "I wanna see you again," to which she replied "I have to go," at that moment I didn't feel like plowing and I was kinda torn, I accepted it as an awesome movie moment and I let her go.

I open one last girl on the train ride home to which she says "it's too early in the morning" I smile because her morning probly wasn't like DIY's.

I learned a lot last night, my "sko sko" attitude earlier in the night and my laid back accepting/lover personality later on with DIY. If I would've incorportaed a little bit of the warrior "sko sko" personality at the end of the interaction with DIY, I wonder what would've happened.

Mixed groups are generally not as bad, cool guys don't amog and guys who amog only make you look better, what's there to lose? Also most guys are pretty cool if you're sensitive to the situation, are fairly normal, not nervous and not a tool, they'll even be on your side if you make friends with them. I learned this lesson from a 4 set that quickly turned into a 12 set at the end of the night with Alphapunk where I befriended a guy who was friends with the hottest girl in the entire group and got her number.

There's 8 million people in NYC but what's funny is I find myself running into the same people over and over, perhaps I'll run into her again.
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#52
Hyxtery

Hyxtery

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Join Date: 04/04/2008 | Posts: 89

FRs Starting Again :)

Wow, It's been quite a while since I've replied on this thread (3 months ago) but I think It was worth it to me to just go out, accumulate the experience so I could track my progress better along with my patterns of success. The last three months have been awesome, a lot of going out and lots of awesome shit happening, no time for posting because I'm always on the move. Has my "game" gotten better? Yes, and with it several other aspects that I need to work on have come to surface as well. I've been getting some contradictory advice from my council members; Summa, Haze, Adonis etc. (too many to name) but ultimately what I think is gonna save me is my own sense of self trust and my own goals for achieving what I want. I'm finding myself hitting somewhat of a plateau where my game is good, just not good enough. I would say a large part of what will help me get there is really working on things outside of game while not fully ignoring going out, but setting my priorities in order and taking going out off from number 1. I realized that my life has been so centered around going out that I have ignored just the regular things that I like to do naturally like taking action in my life; there's just so many things that I want to do that I know I should be doing like:

-Working out
-Following thru with a martial art (I've always wanted to do that) 
-Making fuckin' money LOL (looking for work again and finding other ways to increase my skillset in business) 
-Working on getting enough $$$ to move out

It seems that by going out I'm definitely working on my social provider/protector role but I definitely want to work on these areas of my life to fulfill my physical provider/protector role as well (Which I have ignored for too long)
I definitely can feel where the "Looks and Money matter" article is coming from because I am definitely feel some incongruence with the way I'm gaming as opposed to the way I'm living.

I KNOW I'm a cool fucking guy, I KNOW I'm a badass but I'm really feeling a disconnect with that type of energy because I'm not doing the things outside of PU that I really want to do and treating going out as a chore, game or even sport in order to "get better" instead of letting it enrich my life. I am definitely guilty of turning this into "the PU Olympics" as Summa calls it and as of late, this is hurting my ability to have fun. My game is good enough that I am able to draw some kind of state and have fun in this mode but it's pretty external as I'm only having fun when I'm "winning", I'm also being super hard on myself and my ability to have fun goes WAAAAY down as a result. 

How's my game going? I'd say it's going pretty awesome but all answers right now point to me working on my baseline. If I have just some simple logistics in place (like having my own place or at least somewhere to pull, having a steady job/income) I know I'd be doing a LOT better just by simply fixing my lifestyle alone. I need to get in touch with the awesome part of myself that can rock shit hardcore, I think that will be achieved by at least creating some sort of a baseline and having fun in my life outside of game.
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#53
TheHitter!

TheHitter!

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Join Date: 09/18/2008 | Posts: 218

dont take this the wrong way, but i think 80% + of guys' issues would be solved by moving out of their parents' house. 
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#54
Koolaid

Koolaid

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Join Date: 03/02/2007 | Posts: 2245

I moved out 6 years ago and it didn't change too much. There's lots of guys who are pretty cerebral and have their careers going smoothly and are worse with women that dudes living at home. However, moving out is good in general.
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http://www.rsdnation.com/node/138865

Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471

Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223

Field report thread.
http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
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#55
Hyxtery

Hyxtery

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Join Date: 04/04/2008 | Posts: 89

 The way I see it right now I'm gonna make working on my lifestyle and baseline priority # 1 and going out priority # 2. I like the idea of having my own place, having steady income, independence etc. Will it save me? probably not but it will make things easier for me, I can't be attempting bathroom pulls or pulling girls to my friends' places all my life. Even so I have to take full responsibility and make the most of what I can do right now with the resources I've got. I have a friend of mine who's in the same situation I'm in right now (not having his own place), it's basically a lot more work all around. 
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#56

Summa

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Join Date: 08/27/2007 | Posts: 185

Hyxtery wrote:
 The way I see it right now I'm gonna make working on my lifestyle and baseline priority # 1 and going out priority # 2. I like the idea of having my own place, having steady income, independence etc. Will it save me? probably not but it will make things easier for me, I can't be attempting bathroom pulls or pulling girls to my friends' places all my life. Even so I have to take full responsibility and make the most of what I can do right now with the resources I've got. I have a friend of mine who's in the same situation I'm in right now (not having his own place), it's basically a lot more work all around. 
That other friend would be me I think. lol.

It sucks donkey horse nuts.

I'm at a pissed and need to get this shit handled stage. Same level of "anger" that drove me to game a few years ago. So thats why I have been going out once a week or so, returning few phone calls, and being a bit removed from my "game" centric life activities.

Having sex with a 100 or 1000 girls makes no difference at this point. I simply don't care much about that stuff right now.

That being said, I'm still crushing and gaming the HSGs (high school girls) hard and making the most of my time when I do go out.
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#57
Hyxtery

Hyxtery

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Join Date: 04/04/2008 | Posts: 89

Summa wrote:

Hyxtery wrote:
 The way I see it right now I'm gonna make working on my lifestyle and baseline priority # 1 and going out priority # 2. I like the idea of having my own place, having steady income, independence etc. Will it save me? probably not but it will make things easier for me, I can't be attempting bathroom pulls or pulling girls to my friends' places all my life. Even so I have to take full responsibility and make the most of what I can do right now with the resources I've got. I have a friend of mine who's in the same situation I'm in right now (not having his own place), it's basically a lot more work all around. 
That other friend would be me I think. lol.

It sucks donkey horse nuts.

I'm at a pissed and need to get this shit handled stage. Same level of "anger" that drove me to game a few years ago. So thats why I have been going out once a week or so, returning few phone calls, and being a bit removed from my "game" centric life activities.

Having sex with a 100 or 1000 girls makes no difference at this point. I simply don't care much about that stuff right now.

That being said, I'm still crushing and gaming the HSGs (high school girls) hard and making the most of my time when I do go out.

You're not the only one :) lol, we've got an entire crew of guys who live with our parents (You, Me, Adamo, Haze and the list goes on..) yet we still manage to get out there and make it happen :D  
I admire your ability to take action so hardcore, I thought I was good at doing that until I met you bro. This is actually inspiring me to get off my ass and get shit handled myself as well.
I'm gonna get myself a F/T job and then work on making $$$ in other ways as well after I have a steady income, I'm already going hardcore on these job interviews and I'm getting call backs so the gears are definitely turning. The way this is going, I'm hoping to move out the same time as you brah! :) 
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#58
Hyxtery

Hyxtery

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Join Date: 04/04/2008 | Posts: 89



VALUE!!!

Having been a while since I last posted on here I've just decided to post a whole lot less and go out more. I don't feel like writing my inner thoughts on here but long story short, I believe I'm reaching conscious competence is several areas of my life all at the same time. Which is fine by me because that allows me to be aware of it and now I can actually do something about it. As far as going out is concerned I definitely have made progress but I'm gonna need a day or two to just relax, think and gain perspective, there's a lot on my mind lately, and this is outside the realm of going out. I know what I have to do, I'll keep you guys posted next time on how things are going.
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