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International man of Mystery...Hyxtery
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Hyxtery

Hyxtery

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Join Date: 04/04/2008 | Posts: 89

Hey guys,

I live in NY and have been going out for quite some time on my own since waaaaaay back in the days of David D. (way before "The Game" came out or "that show" :eyeroll: lol)...I would always keep this in mind and implement it every now and then, but only recently have I started to actually record and write about my nights out and my interactions. Doing this I've seen and experienced quite a lot of ups and downs, the good times and the ridiculously hard and painful times but hey, no better time than now to start writing this since I do find myself rolling with a couple guys from these forums. good luck to all you guys and expect me to post FRs soon. :)

-Hyxtery
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Hyxtery

Hyxtery

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Join Date: 04/04/2008 | Posts: 89

First FR and shit was awesome :)

So basically yesterday was completely NOT planned, My original plan was to meet up with a girl I kinda like and I'm hoping to take things forward with but it seemed that she was inviting me to hang out with her and her friend. I told her I want to hang out with her but there's other plans so I'd rather do it the next day. I was thinking of heading to my internship but I had a long day at work and Adonis was doing daygame and Crass just told me that he wanted to hang as well. I was supposed to meet up with Adonis, Mix and Raven but the cover charge was expensive and I wasn't in the mood for that and I was strapped for cash. So I decided to head over to another area and meet Crass who had txt'd me to meet up with him but even that didn't work out. Just out of sheer luck I had met up with some of my friends (a good friend of mine whom I interned with and some other cool guys out of state and the country as well) and let me tell you this...

IT WAS GOOD! so fucking money just hanging out with these guys cuz they're all pretty fucking money!... Since most of the guys were new to NYC I decided to go to some places where I knew were awesome for sure. when we get to the place it DEAD like one two ok girls and the rest are like lesbians and gay guys, needless to say, we've arrived at the wrong time LOL... the guys are getting drinks and I'm thinking; "well even if there's like 2 girls here I'm gonna talk to them" so I go up and start my first interaction with this one girls who's dancing, so I joke around and dance with her and 5 min makeout AWESOME :), after that all my friends are on the dancefloor and chatting up some other girls there one might have been straight...possibly two, I'm just amazed at the odds that I was able to just go in and first set of the night with like the only straight girl there LOL..the gods of logistics are smiling down on me.

So we decided to head out b/c the place is obviously not happening and we go to another place where there's actually some cute girls there and we're chatting them up but nothing's really happening. I managed to pull one of the girls to the dance floor; I just sort of took her hand and pulled her all the way to the floor. after that we tried heading out to another venue but nothing was really happening at that time so we all called it a night.

What I usually end up doing is I act retarded when I need to, :) (easier said than done but I have tailored it to myself). I joke around usually a little bit to gain some momentum, somedays I'm feeling slightly more high energy than usual so its easier but once its there, it's fairly easy for me to relax and enjoy the interaction. I escalate when needed to and I push the interaction but lately what I need is some form of logistics thrown my way, at the last place I was at yesterday there were like 7 bathrooms but  before that bar, there seemed like logistically there was no way (i.e. the bathrooms were crowded, the entire place was crowded and even outside there were too many ppl there and not a quiet/private spot in sight)...Eh, so these things just happen and it figures you're gonna lose some along the way but so long as you're committed...

So there you have it my first FR :)
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Hyxtery

Hyxtery

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Blue ballin

so today went pretty well, I pretty much txt'd EVERYBODY and nobody showed up, which is just the way I like it anyway b/c the last time I went there, there were like 40 community guys there. So I decided to roll out almost solo, called up a friend who wanted to hang out. I can really appreciate hanging out with non-community guys nowadays b/c for one they usually don't talk their heads off about game and it's actually nice to have a conversation about "normal" stuff for a while; it doesn't get my head all cloudy and outcome dependent. So there's a lot of ppl I'm talking to and everything's going ok, I'm actually pretty tired from hanigng out yesterday so i'm feeling low energy. I usually go into groups when I feel like I need to man up, mixed groups are fun too especially if people are respectful and nice, guys don't care and I don't care either, I give them the proper respect and they give it back; I'm really not thinking of them as chodes, everbody's on the same level, just a good general playing field to be on anyway. My high light of the night was talking to this group of three girls and one of them, the youngest and the cutest one I end up isolating, but it is SOOO FUCKING HARD TO ACTUALLY KISS HER! I had no clue what she was gaining from accomplishing teasing me...we literally went back and forth either logically arguing (minimally) and just randomly talking and just getting her into an emotional state for so damn long until she kissed me, no makeout, just one kiss. I've never had that kind of teasing but I definitely did enjoy it because 1. she was hot and 2. I was not really pushing my comfort zones until this interaction. I go and chat up some other girls and try a little bit of that comfort zone push thing, no go...but I'm definitely feeling comfortable being in that zone anyway since I was able to kiss that one cutie...off to more for next time, as always really good night tearing up the entire place :)
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Hyxtery

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A Bad Night...It happens

So I'm going to a party that my friends have told me about and there's soo many ppl from school that I know, it's ridiculous it was actually easy just social proofing cuz it's an outside party and there's actually not a lot of ppl there. So I pretty much joke around with my friends and we're acting retarded but incredibly blatantly so we attract a nice amount of attnetion and then I can narrow it down to "acting normal", pretty even energy level. then just grab girls hands and  dance with them. I actually dance with one of the girls and I'm pretty fucking on. Take her to the back of the party and try kissing her some resistance. I'm going too strong or I haven't built enough attraction yet :/ who knows??? Perhaps I should have taken my time but I was kinda liking the fact that I was doing things fast LOL. I'm looking at it from the point of view that I really need to man up and fuckin escalate, tho it's good that I can do that I perhaps need to really qualify this girl a little more and should have taken my time but w/e...After that we head over to LES and we split up me and another person and the rest of the crew goes to another venue, I kind liked it better in the sense that I have had experiences when there's too many poo-aahs on the dance floor, this place is packed and that's never stopped me before...actually I like it like that, It gives me more chances to bump into ppl and blame them for touching my ass :) LOL
There was like some sort of private party but since I knew the ppl they let me in,

WELL YOU CAN'T PLEASE EVERYBODY...AND THAT NIGHT, ALL THOSE PPL WERE AT THAT BAR! (Credit Mitch Hedberg for the concept of that Joke)

Shit was NOT hooking, And I had too many girls saying something like " WELL...IT WAS NICE TO MEET YOU" it was terrible, nothing was going anywhere. If I asked girls to dance they were like "NO!" ...Whatever : / 
I was trying to stay in too hard or what I have no exact idea, the winging wasn't super awesome either; the person that I was rolling with was not up to date w/ his wingman ettiquite. It's ok I don't blame him, and It should not be an excuse for my performance infield.
This is good b/c I got blown out a lot, this will give me a lot to work with...It's also funny to see how far I've come, a while back I would consider this a good night (really owning the party earlier)

OFF TO THE DRAWING BOARD WITH SOME NEW IDEAS

It's actually been fuckin awesome lately and I've gone out and had soo many awesome positive experiences, I've probly gone out at least sixteen nights and it's been awesome and this has so far been the only "BAD" night.

And looking at this night it will give me that much more to learn so I can streamline my interactions even more...

ps. I was going to write a FR about my night before this one, it was soo money :)...I just forgot to post it b/c I got busy doin other stuff..no worries since I'll keep posting more promptly next time...frequences of "bad nights" have dramatically reduced and good nights are all over these threads now and more of those to come...
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Hyxtery

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Gotta leave you guys w/ some value, :) I'm starting to love this song...and nerdy Video Game or Music Request are welcome as well...
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#5
Doge~

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Hey Hyxtery, good stuff.  Have I seen you around NY before?  If not I'm sure we'll bump heads over the summer.
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Hyxtery

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This will be a FR that consists of two days yesterday and the day before;

So first day was nothing special...It was pretty much supposed to be a hang out day. I meet up with a couple guys I know at W Village and they've pretty much tore the place already. They wanna go to Pink Elephant but I'm in no mood for cover (friggin' broke) so I head over plus two ppl to LES and go to my favorite place :)...I have no idea whether It IS my fav place or not but I seem to really like the staff and I like the general Atmosphere there, it makes me feel good :), it also helps with momentum b/c at the very least, you can talk to the staff. My First interaction is with this one girl, I order a water and I think I said something to her, and she replies back. I'm already thinking of some smart ass comment to reply and I choke LOL. That's cool, I blame her for poisoning my drink and wanting to kill me :), and it's going great, shehas really soft skin and I'm joking around with her and acting stupid.

For me I still need to figure out if I'm joking around TOO much, like over compensating; I don't know, I'm still working to find that nice healthy middle ground so I can get them in the emotional state and then still carry things forward by leading them thru the interaction.

She's giving me some sort of tests (or at least that's what they appear to me) and I bypass them and I'm trying to isolate but I'm getting resistance b/c she don't wanna dance and I cannot haz cheezburger b/c she's still staying close to her friends.

I need to stay in and keep up with the fun stuff and the qualifying.

My friend comes back and he starts chatting the girl up, he's talking to her and I think I should've taken it upon myself to lead more; which was ok but not all that great. I talk to my friend and tell him I wanna talk to hotter girls when she leaves to go get a drink, she might have been close by enough to have heard it even LOL w/e : /.

I have other interactions with ppl but I end the night pretty early, I gotta finish up with work the next day and need to learn to prioritize better instead of going out hardcore (which I have done back in the days...night after night of going out to the point that I'm losing my memory...very goal oriented but too goal oriented and you're unnecessarily pushing yourself in the process instead of giving yourself room enough to grow).

Some Important things to take into consideration:

Leading more:
Leading in terms of the interaction and the flow. When my friend showed up I should be able to go back to moving things forward, sometimes I like to lay back and rest and sometimes I'm too uncaring to do anything so I just like to watch, gotta have that commitment :)

Good Decision Making:
I kind of regretted not talking to the girl that I was qualifying b/c in the grand scheme of things it totally wouldn't have been an issue if I had moved things forward with the girl, hell I was qualifying her already so I could have kept with that and the kino was there so shit was good and it was pretty much counter productive to just abandon ship and go for new interactions (which weren't going anywhere). From now on if I'm qualifying a girl enough to the point that I do like her I will take things forward as far as I can and stay with the interaction, it only makes sense :).

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Hyxtery

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Day 2

This was an interesting day,

I went out with one friend only to a gigantic rooftop bar and pretty much no one was there on the main area but at the roof there weresome ppl talking and stuff, I see the first interaction there occuring and I was kinda hesitating in my mind and decided to go for it anyway, awesome. The one girl said that there was a guy who was "on the same team" as me LOL, apparently someone must've opened her already. I kinda chat them up and then they leave, not a lot of ppl around so I kind of wander around a little bit (not aimlessly but rather I incorporate a little of self awareness so I don't look like a wierdo, just a man on a mission). I see the same group again and I chat them up, I say what's on my mind and talk to one of the guys there, it's fun and then my buddy shows up. We keep chatting up the ppl and after that we part our ways with the group.

We are thinking of going to Plunge but yet there's still girls here and I'm not gonna leave just yet :)... we talk to two girls. This is where it gets interesting;

In my earlier FRs I'm usually pushing the interaction forward FAST  and PHYSICALLY and though it's good, I realize I'm not qualifying the girls enough, which ends up biting me in the ass later on when they're Mrs. Flake-a-lot or they're off to nowhere b/c I'm "trouble" and perhaps their BT is spiked and some guy is out there havin all my sex :( ::tear::. 

Sooooooooo

I decide to tone it down, and not necessarily tone it waay down, I still will Kino and the occasional compliance test. I'm trying to find ways to isolate but this girlis with her only friend and I don't know if my buddy is doing a good enough job b/c he doesn't like her too much or w/e. In any case I should still be able to trust in myself and my ability to isolate her anyway w/ or w/o someone. There have been interactions where shit goes soo well where the friends will do the isolation for me :) and so that is what I need to replicate.

At the end of it all I would say I wasn't leading enough in the isolation dept., I probly didn't give myself the permission to do so.

I actually see that this girl might need some talking time to so I talk with her, emotionally engaged.

Do not be fooled, the actual interaction is not taking in one place. There is a lot of moving around and these girls go to the bathroom, they come back, they see us talking to other girls. I talk to my girl :) they leave. I see them talking to another guy, and I accuse the girl of cheating on me [ seriously, that shit doesn't fly :) ].

Long story short, I can kino her and whatnot but I'm being waaay too much of Mr. Listening guy. Although I can listen and am a huge proponent of doing it well Aka. Juggler Vacuum [see also: not talking about yourself, see also: not waiting for her to say things so you can interject with your cool shit] this interaction had her leading the entire aspect.

I need to find that healthy middle ground of listening to her and taking the interaction forward to where I want it to go, otherwise I'm just wasting my time : /.

I get her card but I tell her to put in her number anyway (soo much better than some card), I liked her style and the attraction was there and soo was just the general interaction, and kino and everything but more leading was probly in order, if anybody could help with this situation and has either been in the same dilemma or understands the bigger issue your input will be greatly appreciated :).

After that, we basically just chill and shoot the shit with some ppl, numbers are not an issue in my book. I'd rather go for numbers after at least a makeout, at the very least some comfort : /, giving me a reason to follow up.
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Hyxtery

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Such a good night :)

This night was awesome, not because of any success but the sheer quality of it and the amount of learning that I did. It wasn't just one situation, there were soo many things going on and soo many NEW different situations that I had put myself in that it was getting super AWESOME to really get immresed in the actual night and thinking about it is amazing cuz I see just how much potential I have for learning from all these different interactions.

So the night started with me meeting up with a couple buddies and then heading over to a really trendy bar in LES, it was not packed but that doesn't stop me from shooting the shit :). I talk to the few girls that are there and we go looking for other venues. We hop around from one bar to another and we end up at another bar close by, nothing new just a couple inteeractions and everybody gets warmed up. My plans of going out alone have been "foiled" but I wouldn't want it any other way cuz I had just met up with my friend whom I haven't seen in a while. He's been really wokring on himself to get this part of his life handled and is making some serious improvements FAST and it's pretty cool to watch him work, he also makes for an excellent wing :).

One of the reasons for why I wanted to go out alone is because of the amount of learning you can do, also there's such a gigantic social stigma to going out alone especially "With a purpose to get laid" so it really helps me build my "Not Give A Fuck" muscle.

Even though this day I wasn't able to go out alone I must say I did get a schooling in all the different interactions regardless. We were rollin' with probably six ppl and so we ended up splitting up into one group of two and the other of 4 or 5. Commitment to a venue is key and I saw other guys saying stuff like "let's ditch this place" after only being there for like 20 mins. The newer guys were more gung about this but at the same time it seemed that they were the first ones to call a certain place "lame" and move to other bars too quickly.

That is the beauty of going solo, doing what needs to get done :), I personally like to stay in one place and burn the place down..but maybe that's just me and the newer dudes don't appreciate the amount of learning that can be done in a given environment instead of hopping around one place to the other without building a solid foundation in a bar.

So we end up back at the original bar that we decided to go to LOL and we chill there talking to ppl, one group of three girls was interesting becuase the girl that I thought was the cutest, after I ended up talking to her the convo got kinda stale. I personally didn't even think it was her fault it was my fault for leading her into too much of a logical mindset, it was also pretty cool to see her talking about herself; I liked her confidence and the interaction could've have gone smoother. I end up talking to her friend and I'm joking around with her a little bit more but I'm still thinking about talking to her friend. I have no idea why but now the cuter girl I can't talk to so I just eject cuz it seems kinda counter productive.

The place isn't packed by any means but I see at least 3 guys there with all the girls that I met earlier on the dancefloor talking to them, my friend says their from "Capt. Save A Ho". I told him it sounded familiar and then I asked him if that was a PU company LOL (There's so many companies these days anyway). Anyway Save A guys are al over the girls that I've been talking to earleier so I just go in and start chatting the girl up that I was talking to earlier like nothing had happened, it looked like the guy was trying to have a real conversation with this girl but hey I saw her first :P

She is actually pretty responsive to me and I'm able to get her talking to me more than this guy, cept now he pulls the girl over to dance with her. The very thought of this actually makes me laugh b/c I'm thinking "oh no AMOG battle" LOL. I think the girl is pretty cute too so this fight is more for my penis than for honor or showing the other guy up. Doing this shit for so long I never really have seen other guys who do this as competition but as on the same path that I'm on but there are like no other girls in this venue and the guy literally pulled the girl away from me when she was talking to me, pretty insulting. I'm actually pretty non-reactive to the situation and I make sure that I keep myself that way, I'm figuring out my COA (Course of Action) on this and I'm also slightly amused at the fact that I'm getting AMOG'd, I even feel a little bit GOOD about it b/c this guy must feel threatened. It doesn't matter, I won't chase this girl, I'll reinitiate contact with her and keep doing what I need to and should this guy keep trying to pull the girl away from me again and again he will be seen for his one trick ponying and effectively blow himself out.

I truly believe this is how the situation would've played out and I was super excited about getting into one of them AMOG battles If it wasn't for one thing. This girl that I've been seeing gives me a call to hangout. The girl that is calling me, I wanna see her so I decide to meet up with her and her friends, I like her and she likes me I see this interaction going further so I choose the path of least resistance :) and decided to ditch the venue in a couple mins. Before I do so I end up throwing myself under the bus for a couple more interactions, a mixed group of two girls and one guy. Man this guy is PISSED, I have no idea what it was, perhaps they were having a very private conversation or what but he is super angry that I interrupted their party. I talk to him because I assume that he definitely wants to be listened to and he's giving me one word answers or fake answers, I make sure I'm smiling the whole time and really staying in the interaction. He keeps saying "OK BYE!", "OK BYE!" and I keep asking him questions like "Ok how do you guys know each other?", "How long?", "What's your name?" LOL all I know is I'm not shaken up by this dude but I also don't wanna waste my time getting into a pissing contest. The awesomest part of this interaction that I personally am really proud of is my ability to stay in, the girls have to leave and this guy is leaving too, he's giving me a lot of BAD answers but he's definitely not insulting me. It's fine the guy is not liking me one bit and is porbly threatened b/c I'm the slick PUA who's gonna swoop in and steal "his girls" away from him so he has to be Mr. Benevolent and "Save Them" I get the whole act, buy I'm not buying it :)

The girls are pretty much leaving and I'm trying to get some real answers out of this guy, in this situation I felt it was definitely important I talked to the guy cuz he seemed super pissed and would've probly determined the flow of the interaction with the rest of the group so I hold my frame, smile and talk to him for a little bit. The girls are actually leaving and they pull him away so I tell them later and that's that : / two AMOG battles...uneventful

After this dude the Save A guys don't seem so bad anymore and I go back to the dancefloor, tell my buddies I'm out, I talk to the Save A guy for a bit and then I head out to meet the girlies with a friend of mine.

After some walking I meet up with the girls and one of them totally loves me :), this is gonna be a fun night. The other girl I like and I'm talking to her now and making sure the entire group is coheasive and stuff and we're all doing awesome. We head over to this bar that I know and it's definitely more packed that what I've seen at other venues. My friend actually splits but the ratio is 2:2 and it doesn't really matter none of those ppl I know so It feels like going out alone. Hanging out with the girl that I'm seeing definitely feels at least a littler bit different cuz I'm just soo goddamn single whenever I'm at this bar :)...I decide to be more "low key"/low energy but I've built up soo much momentum from the previous interactions so now trouble just keeps following me :)...

I'm actually tired from all the walking and this girl is totally not engaged with me in conversation, I decide to shoot the shit with her friend (who I don't find attractive) and get a drink for myself and I really don't have to do much to get myself into shenanigans. I see a random girl and I wave to her and my girl's friend is like "do you know her?" I just shake my head, the universal "no" [ except in Turkey, that means yes from what I've heard :) ], we're kind of secluded but ppl find their way into our area :)..."My Girl" is talking to some guy, a friend of her's that she brought with her from work. Totally cool with me, however, I just don't want to feel like I'm wasting my time so I go get myself a water and chat up the lovely ppl that are on the way. I come back and I go outside with my girl and talk with her. We talk and we kiss and we're back on, we head back into the bar and there's a lot of ppl here, especially a gay guy who is touching me ..A lot, not enough to lose my street cred..but seriously w/e little touching he's doing is totally enough. I see his friend who is ok looking and tried to chat it up with her but this guy has totaly got me in the mood to not even be around that same area LOL (looks like he won that AMOG battle).

Anyways, we're back we're at the same area, the gay guy is there and his ok friend...I jokingly tap her (ok girl's) foot and my girl gets mad, she's seen me talk to other girls perhaps but I stay unreactive. It was kind of a cool way to find out just exactly how much she likes me too cuz she's been keeping up the too cool for skool/cold fish act, leaving me with no other choice than to talk to ppl (there were some  HOT girls there btw). I actually get a chance to talk to her outside the venue and logistically things are a no-go but that's fine, things seem solid if I do things properly...I'm pretty sure I can at this rate :)

Such a great night, and so many awesome interactions to learn from, so many successes...just gotta keep moving forward, overall awesome night
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Hyxtery

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Field Tested: Mother Approved

So today was pretty good, met up with a buddy and we were originally supposed to go to 230 Fifth but we end up going to another place nearby that area. This place is packed with super hot girls (Mostly Indian Girls) and there's probably a private party going on as well. The place is nicely packed and back in the days I don't like private parties b/c I can't go all out because all the little social cricles know each other, and maybe this is just stereotyping but Indian Girls generally stick together more and high energy doesn't translate very well (Unless this is Plunge), the place doesn't look ideal for that kind of movement...I talk to my buddy and tell him to go slow and we'll do everything slight and situational, great :). I comment on a guy's awesomeness for tearing up the dance floor and the dude is awesome :D, he introduces me to his friends and a couple women (one of which is friggin CUTE and the other who is really cool too). God bless this man and it's really cool to see people coming from the mindset, next time we're hanging out I'm returning that guy the favor for sure. Anyways one of the girls that I like I'm doing ok with and the other one I'm having fun with more. Might be something I need to consider how I behaved in both interactions were one went well with the girl I'm not attracted to and where the other went OK with the girl I did like.

My style is to go in retarded and say stuff that is for the most part retarted and has no deep meaning behind it, it's just having friggin fun and exchanging interview type information is for those who have a good resume, which includes the ability to have FUN.

In any case, the stuff is way too "heavy" for them, which is gay and I am getting blownout a lot more than usual today. The girls are hotter tho and perhaps I'm building myself up more now getting my comfort zone out there, handling myself with the HOT women as well, and not just the cute ones...definitely awesome :)

The venue isn't very kind to me and I'm taking a lumping. The guys are cool and I like chatting it up a little bit, but I'm here on a mission :), I'm actually no stranger to socializing but it seems to be hapening too slowly; no clue as to what that even means, off night? I need more patience? change venue?..w/e time will tell if anything.

A guy tells me to approach a girl and he says she's been eyeing me the whole night LOL w/e kinda chodey of him to say that (as if he REALLY wanted to go there). Anyways I have nothing better to do, I'm leaving and this girl DOES look cute. I shoot the shit and joke around and get her number. I remember I found myself getting a little logical and the interaction kinda died, she gave me her number but she didn't give me her name...wtf, Hyxtery no like, if you're gonna put in your number and I can't build up enough compliance to even get you to put your name in there, you best believe this girl doesn't care to put too much emphasis in this interaction.

I leave the place and I'm walking around for some water, I go back in to get my friend and I can't find him...I see no name girl twice and I talk to her twice the last time I joke around with her but she's STILL too busy, but I do get her name and was able to engage her more emotionally so definitely a plus (if not for her then for the next girl). Great, I head out and walk over to Plunge simply for the reason that I haven't been there in a while. I have a PRETTY GOOD IDEA that I can't get in, it's way too late and I see there two girls walking [ one of which is totally cute and my type w/ black hair and dark eyes and fair skin; gorgeous :) ]. They actually head over to this venue nearby plunge and I think to myself, "hey, if these girls are going in there I wonder how cool this place is and how many more hot girls go there all the time???" Cool, I'm all by myself and this is perfect for me learning to go out solo, plus, I have to take a piss.

So I'm walking in the area and it's a narrow ass hallway thingy and my girl is right ahead of me, at this rate my bladder takes priority and plus I'll check out the entire place a little bit. I get out of the Loo and there goes my girl. I totally pat myself on the back for not choding out and engaging this girl, she's with her friend and I'm talking bullshit, I see her friend trying to get her to come her way and I totally ignore her like it was a non-issue. I don't know what it is, but I have a theory that if I would've looked at her friend the attention would have totally switched, almost as if I'm acknowledging that it's ok to listen to your friend who wants to leave me, does this make sesne?...this was very cool because I stayed with my bullshit and I totally am not looking at her friend, we're joking around and this girl knows how to have fun. I'm talking to her more and more, I"m qualifying this girl and I'm getting a solid amount of raport in, things are going great and her friend shows by again. Now I know her friend isn't gonna try to make her leave, so I talk to her for a little bit [ awesome :), it's almost as if I'm rewarding her with attention, rapport and value giving joking around for not trying to pry her friend away from me, something really powerful in that :) ]

I get the my girl's number, and the three of us are all heading out and then we part ways. I walk to the train station and BS with three girls that are taking up waay too much space, almost ..as if.. they want me to say something..:)

So I joke around with the girls and head down to the train station, I'm fucking beat and I see a couple girls next to me. I'm beat and right now this shit feels like work LOL...and that's definitely not completely true but I have spent a LOT of energy and now I don't wanna go out of my way to really talk to anybody. Anyways so another girl sits next to me and I chat her up about an awesome little something on her hand and we're having a cool convo :)...doesn't fel like I'm wasting my energy and the interaction is coming to me...lazy man game :), I like LOL. I talk to her on  the train and she Facebooks me (I hope) she seemed like a cool girl. NOW, I'm a little fired up, totally got a facebook without trying, the asian girls from before are not too far away :) so I get up and go over to "read the subway map"... I have no clue but something in my head told me to go indirect so I do and ask her a question about the train service and then sit down. Now that I've sat down I try to BS with her and it goes bad, It's kinda different, and kinda nerve wracking...I decided that this was gonna be my opportunity for getting a little bit back into chatting up girls in the subway since I'm deathyl afraid of that for some reason (soo many cute girls are found in the subway anyway, especially if you have a long commute)...I'm effectively on a no talk basis with this girl and I'm feeling not so awesome as when I feel in a place where I can walk away from the "wierdness" of the situation. I decide that even though I got "blown out", and even though I'm feeling not so "aligned" and even tho the guys are looking at me that are sitting across from me I am going to STAY in my seat and maintain my position there. It's only wierd for me if I make it wierd so I better get used to my new comfort zone of not giving a fuck when the response doesn't go over well in the subway train. Also, it's my territory and I keep with it, I don't abandon it. Also, getting blown out is a non-issue and just because she doesn't like me means i has nothing to do with me, just her and I shouldn't feel bad for talking to a girl that I like...

Soo many things I learned today and soo many awesome interactions:
Looks like I'm back to getting numbers, it feels like I'm back to David D. LOL number collecting time :)
Even though I have my rules, I'm making them flexible enough so I can follow them as guidelines to add more versatility and experience (going situational, indirect, slow, fast, getting numbers in different stages of the interaction)
I like the subway and I like opening classy/confident and low-energy...I'm gonna work more on that espeically with my vocal tonality wihich was going crazy today LOL to get that voice that can come off as in tune with the laid back vibe/energy of the environement, but still commands a presence that doesn't come off as meek or overcompensatingly try hard.
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Doge~

Doge~

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Join Date: 09/19/2007 | Posts: 3689

haha... would've loved to see ya if you came to 230 5th.
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