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December 5th, 2016
Things Won't Take Care of Themselves
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Eight

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Join Date: 12/24/2008 | Posts: 217

Lately I’ve been getting more “outdoorsy”. The daily stress and chore of life can beat you down and train you into a state of permanent apathy or agitation. But there’s something inspiring and therapeutic about having that great expanse of open air above and around you. The naturality of it all can really swing you back to the center of your being.

So get out of the house, the car, or the workplace, and just go wherever your feet may take you. You weren’t designed to be boxed in.

Following my own advice, I recently found a trail that I like walking on. It’s very earthy. Lots of dirt and rocks, and endless varieties of vegetation.

Yesterday I saw an orange cat in the area. He spotted me and darted off. I kept walking and came to a clearing, where I saw two more cats. This time it was a mother, with white and brown fur, with her similarly-coated kitten. The kitten was nursing and seemed oblivious to me standing there, just a few feet away. The mother stared steadfastily into my eyes, almost pleadingly.

It was obvious she was hungry, and probably thirsty too. Having to nurse probably takes alot of nourishment. But I didn’t have anything with me. Oh well. I had more exploring to do. So I said “goodbye” to the staring momcat and her kitten, and I went on my way.

That was yesterday. Today I walked up the same trail, this time, looking really closely at the earth beneath my feet.

Have you ever really looked closely at things? There are worlds within worlds. I found a trail of ants and peered at them as they busily went about their work, oblivious to the looming giant that was me staring down at them. One ant, in particular, was struggling to carry a rock.. about the size of a grain of sand. To the ant, it was like a massive boulder.

How big are the burdens that you carry? Are they really as large as you think they are?

Life is full of wisdom when you look at things from a new perspective.

It was in this “zoomed in” mode of looking that I came up to the clearing. I looked over, hoping to see the momcat. But instead all I saw was her kitten. It was dead. Lying belly up, with flies around the open mouth.

What had happened? I could think of two possibilities..

1) The mother abandoned the kitten because she couldn’t take care of it

2) The orange male cat that was in the area had killed it, probably after fighting with the mother

Whatever had happened, it made me realize something: You cannot expect things to take care of themselves.

Applying this to attraction and seduction, you have to make things happen. If there’s a girl you want to talk to, don’t wait for her to give you a signal, because it may never come. Just talk to her. If you’re talking to a girl and you want to get her phone number, don’t wait for her to offer her phone number. You make it happen.

Just like the unfortunate kitten in the clearing, there is a “Murphy’s Law” of sorts: “whatever can go wrong, WILL go wrong.” I don’t completely agree with that statement, but I think there is some semblance of truth in it.

I would more accurately say, “things won’t take care of themselves.”

I had an opportunity to save the momcat and her kitten. But I didn’t act on it. How many times have you had the opportunity to do something, but you didn’t take any action because you didn’t think it was necessary? Or worse, you didn’t act because you were afraid of what might happen?

How many girls have you liked but you were too scared to tell them how you felt? How many of them secretly liked you back, but now you’ll never know?

How many times have you second-guessed yourself, instead of expressing yourself authentically?

Our lives are a culmination of decisions. We are always making choices, what to do now, where to go, what to eat, who to see. Many choices will lead to a different outcome.

But there is one choice that will always lead to the same outcome: if you do nothing, nothing is what you will get.

Think of the kitten as a metaphor for Possibility and Potential. With girls. With yourself. With life. Just because it’s there, alive and well, doesn’t mean it’s going to stay that way. You need to make things happen, to take things into your own hands. Opportunities can wither away and die before you know it.

It’s better to take action and make something happen, even at the risk of failure, than to walk around thinking back on “what could have been”.
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Shazam!

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This is why sometimes the concept of state can mess people up, from my viewpoint.  They think of it like "yeah I'll just get in state at some point and then bam! It's all taken care of!", but really state just inspires you to take action with confidence, to do what you want without making a big deal out of it.  Getting used to doing that without any kind of validation or pump up to start myself off is one of my short term goals, we'll see how it works out but I bet it's for the better =P
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PillowFire

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Great post. I feel sorry for the kitten.
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Caligula

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This is a post more people need to read.

-Caligula
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tkat

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Awesome, fantastic post. It's all about proactivity
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Getupa

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When you are afraid of making decisions it has a purpose... The path that you'll have to walk to get proactive is a path of discovering what life is all about.
It is a true journey! It is not a light switch (I didn't make choices all my life, but from now on, I DECIDE, I will take right action!). It is not like this...
That's why I recommend phylosophy, self help, and RSD.
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Blue x Light

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 Acutally lately.... I've been letting life take care of me if I'm at the right place and where I need to be.
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Lotus.SD

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 Nice plot twist. The post does relate to me, your problems won't solve themselves (not serious ones anyway), just like in that Tyler motivational video - do nothing and nothing is going to happen. We are pretty small in this universe and our lives are short. Don't expect miracles, but do expect a more satisfactory life from applying oneself. Wish I myself would remove excuses and just go for it
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