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May 23rd, 2013
I started to ask her then I seen her waiting and I stalled and acted like I was looking at apples.
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Join Date: 04/25/2009 | Posts: 5

I seen this beautiful girl at Wal- Mart today, I see them all time but this one was just something else. So i'm standing in the nail polish aisle acting like im seriously looking at the stuff, tryng to figure out my approach. I was going to go up to her and start talking about her shirt, which said TAPOUT which is a mixed martial arts organization, I have a interest in that so i thought what a good approach to start a conversation with a stranger. I didnt approach her at the time, I think maybe I was waiting on her. So i hear the woman shes with say shes going to produce, so after a few minutes I make my way to the magazine aisle which is by produce so i can look at her and find the balls to go to her, By now Im certain she has figured out I'm hangin around. I made the decision to go ask her when she stopped parallel from me and started stretching and pushing her butt out, my mouth about hit the floor because I knew she was doing that because I was looking, so i contemplated for a minute and said fuck Im going to her and saying your are beautiful and I would love to take you to dinner. So I'm making my way to go find and ask her, she steps around the corner and stops and stares almost like she was expecting me or she was waiting on me to ask her and I hit a roadblock in my plan or something just deters me from continuing and I stop and make it seem like Im loking at apples. I am trying to figure out why i stopped when that was probably the best timing I could have asked for. Normallly I wouldn't I be so obsessive about missed opportunitys but I feel like this was a one in a milllion, just everything about it, her looks, the tapout shirt that showed about her interests. The way she basically pushed her ass out  and made my jaw drop. I kept stalling around trying to find another opportunity but I just pussed out after that intial attempt. I was even at the checkout line behind them trying to decide if i should go and ask in front of all those people, didnt happen, so i stopped by subway and waited on them to walk by so i could  ask her, she looked over at me and I broke eye contact and made it look like i was looking at the ceiling or whatever. Then i looked back and they were gone, Never seen them again. Now i feel fulll of regret and what ifs. To make up for it I was at the gas station afterwards and was at the pump next to this beautiful blonde and she goes and pays and comes back to her car and looks and smiles at me, after a minute i wave and motion to roll down her window. I say hey I have seen you before and continue making small talk and ask her out. She asks me old I am and I tell her(24) and she tells me shes only 16, which I couldnt tell, so i ended that conversation real quick. But the fact is i asked the question, now why couldnt  i have done with the girl I was so hard up for in Wal-Mart?  help me out someone I really need some advice or words to make me feel like I havent missed out on possibly my soulmate or great girlfriend or just great partner or great period.
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Eight

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Join Date: 12/24/2008 | Posts: 217

Striking up a conversation with a beautiful girl can be intimidating.

"What if I run out of things to say?"
"What if she doesn't like me?"
etc..etc.

Do it anyways. Open her. It doesn't matter how you open her. A smile, a laugh, a greeting, a question, a comment, a grunt, WHATEVER. It's just a way to get the two of you interacting.

If you want to talk to a girl, JUST DO IT. Especially when a girl is throwing Approach Signals at you like that.

Say something, even if you're scared.

Say something, even if you can't think of anything to say.

What do you do? You say something! Don't think about it, just do it. Don't think, act.

This fear goes away the more experience you get with opening girls. And as the fear disappates, it's like the lifting of a cloak, revealing your expressive, core-self. Then your opening game will really become smooth.

But don't worry about missing out on that hottie. If it's meant to be, you'll run into her again. When you do, say something! ;)

You already know from your gas-station experience that it's not so bad once you break the ice.. In fact, chatting with a new girl is pretty damn enjoyable, isn't it?
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u gota mess up to improve
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See you should never wait and never analyze what you're going to say.  It just gets you stuck in your head and after that you're done.  I always have a hard time approaching after I've already hesitated.  I think, shit too late, passed the "approach" period.
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Shane Vendrell

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This is good, next time you have aa, think about how it will feel if you DON'T tal to her. Trust me this can kill your aa.
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Here's the thing man.  How would you talk to your girlfriend?  You wouldn't be nervous, right?  You'd just roll right up, say something casual, not make a big deal out of it.

Well, you're approaching this girl because you're interested.  At least enough to know you want to have sex with her, and maybe she could be girlfriend material!  You never know.  My point is that you need to talk to her like you'd talk to your girlfriend, or a fuck buddy, or a girl you're already familiar with. 

If you don't make it a big deal, it fuckin won't be man. 

And - if you get rejected - which is a very real possibility - you will feel like a million bucks afterwards - Guaranteed.  I have never been rejected by a girl and not left the interaction smiling and beaming inside.  Ironically, getting rejected is maybe one of the quickest ways to be in state because you realize all that shit you were worrying about can't hurt you. 

Go get rejected man - try to.  You will feel like a king afterward... I guarantee it.
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-Nate37874Photographer-

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Join Date: 04/25/2009 | Posts: 5

thnaks for your input. what is aa?
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All great stuff postet  before

But I want to focus on something different.

Don't mess yourself up, that she is THE ONE, or she was a soulmate or whatever crazy thing you come up with.
What you have experienced was massive attraction because this girl had probably some characteristics about her which pushed a lot of attraction switches on you.

I experienced the same thing the last time I was in the club. There was this hot canadian chick and I sat down beside her and spoke to her. At first I thought she was just a regular hot girl - BUT THEN, she had this AMAZING SHY CUTE VOICE!!!! DAMN I could have killed for that sweet babe. Sweetest thing that happened to me since a few months. It's like having an animal which makes this cute actions and you dont know why, but you find it soooo adorable!

You know what, it is the man's protective instinct which turns on in that moment. It feels like undying love and you would die for her/it. When I am daydreaming I often think back to that girl, just to refeel this emotion :)

Same thing with you. This girl you saw, just had a side on her that made you "fall in love" with her. It goes away after a few days. Don't mess with your head about not approaching her and missing a chance in a lifetime or stuff. You will meet tons of women like this one on your way. Stick to it and you will get'em.
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some really good info here, and I agree If I just do it and quit thinking about It I will be happy no matter the outcome.
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JamesBond

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seLF shit auto corrects..

everyone has been there..me 2..last year i still fucking remember ..those are funny memories now i laugh at them..u will 2 later..
one word: PRACTICE  regardless results


watch blueprint decoded first..then Transformations

u will be rocking
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