THE FORUMS
Enough is Enough! Where do I start? (For a newbie)
1. Buy The Blueprint.
2. Try new things. Ex: Rock climbing, ice hockey, learn to become a good cook, volunteer your time
3. Use your experiences during number 2 to solve your conversational problems.
4. Enjoy the good life.
2. Try new things. Ex: Rock climbing, ice hockey, learn to become a good cook, volunteer your time
3. Use your experiences during number 2 to solve your conversational problems.
4. Enjoy the good life.
Yea.. so been there. Blueprint is DEFINETLY a life changer. It will take a while to watch, but you will be blown away, GUARUNTEED! Also... if it's too expensive, check out 'Power of Now' or 'A New Earth' by Eckhart Tolle. These two books helped me A LOT. Blueprint + those books wll change you man. No doubt. Seems impossible.. but it's not.
Quick tip for quick change.. smile at EVERY girl you see walking by. EVERY GIRL! You'll start to feel better, trust me.. tell me how it goes.
BE HAPPY! :)
Quick tip for quick change.. smile at EVERY girl you see walking by. EVERY GIRL! You'll start to feel better, trust me.. tell me how it goes.
BE HAPPY! :)
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"Fuck social conditioning and fuck what anybody thinks of you!" ~Tyler Durden
Rejection > Regret
COLORADO
Rejection > Regret
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But I find the Blueprint very theoritcal. I was hoping if there are more pratical methods? I will still watch the blueprint.
You get self-esteem by getting things you want in your life, by achieving something and by changing your mindset.
There is no other way.
You can't sit on your couch and suddenly "Woaah I'm such a cool person! Hey ladies wazzup?"
1. Read online about what self-esteem is and how self-confident persons think.
2. Then take action and achieve something.
Everything else is woo woo bullshit.
There is no other way.
You can't sit on your couch and suddenly "Woaah I'm such a cool person! Hey ladies wazzup?"
1. Read online about what self-esteem is and how self-confident persons think.
2. Then take action and achieve something.
Everything else is woo woo bullshit.
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hmmmm. What about things that you feel you have no control and if you do they will take too long to change?
You get self-esteem by getting things you want in your life, by achieving something and by changing your mindset.
There is no other way.
You can't sit on your couch and suddenly "Woaah I'm such a cool person! Hey ladies wazzup?"
1. Read online about what self-esteem is and how self-confident persons think.
2. Then take action and achieve something.
Everything else is woo woo bullshit.
There is no other way.
You can't sit on your couch and suddenly "Woaah I'm such a cool person! Hey ladies wazzup?"
1. Read online about what self-esteem is and how self-confident persons think.
2. Then take action and achieve something.
Everything else is woo woo bullshit.
Hey bro.
Step 1: Go out consistiently.
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Step 1: Go out consistiently.
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"It Does"
If you want more practical methods then try out the free "RSD Newsletter".
But basically it is like W Mitchell said. Go out consistentiently.
So basically all you need is.
TO enter the club and approach the first people you see. I dislike the word approach. So instead "Talk to the first people you see". And keep doing that. Socialize. You do not have to pick up or amog every guy you see. Just be a fun, social and cool guy. Just be there and have fun. To show you what kind of fun guy and having fun guy you should be then watch the movie "The Weeding Crashers". Those guys have fun.
These three important mindsets.
* I do not give a shit about what anyone on this planet thinks of me.
* I am the coolest motherfucker on this planet.
* My game is a 10!
If by practical methods you mean openers. YOU DO NOT NEED OPENERS. Just get into state and one way is by talking to the first people you see. And getting used to that. And then you just come out with something on the spot because you are so in the moment.
Goodluck.
But basically it is like W Mitchell said. Go out consistentiently.
So basically all you need is.
TO enter the club and approach the first people you see. I dislike the word approach. So instead "Talk to the first people you see". And keep doing that. Socialize. You do not have to pick up or amog every guy you see. Just be a fun, social and cool guy. Just be there and have fun. To show you what kind of fun guy and having fun guy you should be then watch the movie "The Weeding Crashers". Those guys have fun.
These three important mindsets.
* I do not give a shit about what anyone on this planet thinks of me.
* I am the coolest motherfucker on this planet.
* My game is a 10!
If by practical methods you mean openers. YOU DO NOT NEED OPENERS. Just get into state and one way is by talking to the first people you see. And getting used to that. And then you just come out with something on the spot because you are so in the moment.
Goodluck.
ProjectX
Junior Member
Join Date: 08/13/2007 | Posts: 10
I'm pretty much a normal guy (22yr old college student, graduating soon) but with a very low self-esteem. Outside I may look like an average joe but I'm inside quite timid. I am also taking anti-depressants and struggling with that. The fact that I was bullied in high school doesn't help me much either nor have had a girlfriend.
The other thing about me is I'm insecure about my looks. Yes I am. Don't judge me though. I have a receding chin because of a deviated septum and that has pretty much stopped me from approaching girls and even socialising my entire life. Its not THAT bad, but its noticeable and sometimes I move my jaw forward just to hide it.
But yesterday, I said enough is enough. I am just going to live with it. Sure I can get a genioplasty after earning enough for a few months or a year. But right now I am just going to have to live with it. I am no longer going to seek external validation, everything will have to be internal.
The past few weeks I have been taking steps to improve myself. I am an avid reader of personal development. I read blogs from this guy stevepavlina.com and also currently reading the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. I've read materials by Dale Carnegie and Napolean Hill. I also go to the gym regularly.
But now its time for me to fix my social issues. And this is where RSD comes in. There are so many materials I don't know where to start.
Which seminars should I watch first?
What can I do from being a social hermit to having an active lifestyle?
I don't know what things to talk to people about, especially girls. By definition I am a social retard.
What can I do to improve my conversation skills?
Thanks.