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Setting yourself free vs. imprisoning yourself
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De Reet Sap Rammer aka De Reet Thalys met 1986 kpu

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Haha hey babes, it's gonna be a quicky but oh so solid;
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This is a BEAUTIFUL subject guys.

Validation: The need for external events to prove how "good" your are or scared for the external events to prove how "bad" you are with girls.
It's 2 sides of the same card; except the latter is something that you get when you start out, while the first one is something you get after you've been in this for a while.


Read & contemplate about the following:


-You can not be REAL to YOURSELF and to HER by seeking any form of validation.

-You HAVE to be totally real like this in order to really bring out your intent, and to even have any form of REAL person-to-person NORMAL conversation.

-You can NOT be seeking validation and be real at the same time. It's opposites, so you have to choose. 
                  -This choice is as simple as getting & being proud and true to yourself vs. being a liar to yourself, to her, and to go home frustrated and alone.

-Had a bad night? YOU WERE SEEKING VALIDATION. That's what gives you that icky feeling. If you ACTIVELY (as in TAKE ACTION) go and NOT seek validation, but just EXPRESSING your desires, you WILL HAVE A GREAT NIGHT. Because it feels fucking wonderful to be true to yourself. That good feeling is what it feels like to be TRUE to yourself.
Have a bad feeling? Just ain't getting it? Lost it?

Validation man!


-You can seek validation from: Your friends, YOURSELF, your wings, your enemies, your girlfriend, your family, GIRLS IN THE CLUB, guys in the club, your social circle girls, etc. 



Imagine a REAL HIGH VALUE PERSON that is positively dominant & pre-selected by other women, and FUCKS ALOT does NOT seek validation. EVER.
It's not the "technique" of the opener or the interaction that girls screen for: 



NO. It's how much validation do you seek out of the interaction.
Validation-seeking is SOOO FUCKING EASY TO SPOT. You might think that girls might "not conciously know about the term validation, so it must be something else. "
Well, it fucking OOZES off you. Funny how you can do it for ages and still do it. Funny how you can KNOW about it and still do it.

(Same goes for giving value as well for that matter, but that's another story shades)


A true sexworthy man does not seek validation in any interaction, from anyone he ever interacts with.

Simple.

On top of that: just the fact that you ACTIVELY DONT SEEK VALIDATION means you're already more attractive than 99.99999% of ALL other guys she's ever met.

because almost every dude; good looking or not.....with game or without.....the "alpha males" in the group with the 5 hottest chicks in the club SEEKS VALIDATION OF THEIR WORTH.

THAT's why: if you are simply aware of this simple "little" thing that pretty much diseases EVERYONE; you are immune: you are REAL. You are HOT SHIT my friend.

Only when you no longer seek validation or seek to prove anything to anyone; including yourself; is when you can FINALLY START to radiate LOVE to everyone.

This is when you start to give value.
You cannot give value and need value at the same time.


When you stop seeking validation you FINALLY START being attractive. Before this you still stink of validation-seeking and you are not. No matter how "pre-selected" you are.


You can not even fucking FEEL YOUR OWN VALUE when you're scavenging for your worthiness in the reactions other people have on you.

Sounds simple right? Rather "Duh" right?  





Trust me, you can not have a good night and follow your core if you're validation seeking. And you will feel GREAT once you truly let go of seeking your self-worth in other people.

Unstifled = not seeking validation any longer
Expression = not seeking validation any longer
Give Value = only possible when you GIVE love. You can not give love if you don't have love & respect for yourself when you betray yourself.

Feel your own value.

TRULY SET YOURSELF FREE vs. falsely imprisoning yourself yet living like you are.




Check yo-self b4 you break yo-self suckahkiss




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Great post the seekings, is a way of making the person feel good for their deep seeded lack or hate to feel good and run away from the insecurity that they either have nothing to live for, or follow other people, care what people think.

Validation is ESCAPISM a feel good thing it's like EATING FOOD more and more but it will never be enough...................................

Find the source of the lack then you can move on Caveman your right valdation seeking you can never be there for the girl OR EVEN YOURSELF.
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Validation is just a temporary high followed by a crash...oh and its horribly addictive

Solid post.
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i know that vid is meant to be funny, but that guy seems so insencere. could fit into your point abou giving value, what if you come off like you're lying?

otherwise, great stuff.
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Remco~ wrote:
Validation is just a temporary high followed by a crash...oh and its horribly addictive

Solid post.
Yh dude, its the a dirty ego high that is really unstable. As soon as somone devalidates you it crashes. Its externally dependent.
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What´s up Caveman (Cavernicola in spanish !!)

You help to make my day today, thank´s dude!  Cos today in morning a friend called me telling me that was kind of sick of not getting results at this game, and quiting the pick up, and he was getting bad vibes into his head!
So I got a bit  down in my mood, but looking at the "validation" video you share it positively charged my mood..

Thanks dude!

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Trying to have more and more girls all the time is a form of seeking validation.

Men who don't need validation don't spend lots of time engaging with 'the girl issue'.

So saying not to seek for validation is a bit false.I would say it is better to hide it good enough.Of not need validation from a specific girl.

It is like when you see a hot girl.You may think that she doesn't need validation from men because they always hit on her.But the truth is she want it more.Of course she knows where she stands and knows how not to display it.

We have to accept we seek validation from women otherwise we wouldn't be in this game.The sooner we will accept it the better.


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De Reet Sap Rammer aka De Reet Thalys met 1986 kpu

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Remco~: Yeah for sure; and in the end it's actually cutting you off from the passion.

Yaboyraidawg: Just a video that isn't really about why validation is bad; but I found it funny how badly people NEED it; or at least are brainwashed into this. Its also gota a cool vibe imho.

Pimpcoat: yeah it's fucked me up in the past for sure.

The Hughesy: I feel ya.

Canello:


I believe that TRYING to have more & more girls is indeed a form of validation seeking; as long as you are trying to prove something to yourself or anyone else.

By saying  "dont seek validation" I'm saying don't seek your self-worth in the reactions from women (or men), and don't seek your selfworth in the amount of women you can get with.
Just don't seek your self-worth in your results.
Sure, the girl might LIKE validation; but in the end she's not gonna be attracted to you for validating her. You can't compliment a girl into the sack.

I'm not gonna lie and say it doesn't feel good after I fucked a beauty, or that I know that I can get girls. NO.

BUUUT:

I realize that the really good feeling DOESNT COME from the amount of the girls I can sleep with; but just rather realizing the abundance of PASSION that I can create for myself.
That feeling that you get from when after you had awesome sex with a babe doens't come from the fucking; but rather is the feeling of an EXCHANGE OF PASSION.

In the end: The reason I'm in the game is not because I want all women to like me, or continuosly prove to myself that I'm "attractive."
I'm in the game because I FUCKING LOOOOVE the feeling of setting myself free...of No longer seeking approval but just following my dick and setting her free into a sticky liquid fest of sex.

Of doing what you want. Of giving love to women and seeing the sparkle in their eyes because it's a reflection of how WE FEEL TOGETHER; and I'm sure she can see my sparkle too.

Seeking validation dulls your of that spark; it doesn't allow the spark to shine through.

It's about the love for the game
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