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Doge~

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Doge~

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Sun. 5.29.11

Not too much to mention.  I find my verbals are getting much better each week I go out.  Even if I'm stifled, once I'm in set I'm pretty much able to just start pulling shit outta my ass, even on topics that I never ever talk about.

I also find that I'm building a repertoir of things I like to say to girls, just stuff I seem to like to default to time and time again.  Many of them are downright hilarious which is why I guess I like them so much.

I also really like this frame which I pulled from my Hot Seat notes.  The unlimited chips in the casino frame.

"The best guys’ mindset = approaching women as if you were given endless chips in a casino, and you were running around on a “happy frolic”, pumping chips into every machine you can find. There’s no downside to a machine not giving you the jackpot. You just go to some other machine and pump in more chips. Eventually one will give you the jackpot, it’s all good!"

There really is no downside to approaching women.  Even if the perceived approach has a low probability of anything happening, try it anyway just to see what happens, if even just to have fun.  You have nothing to lose.

Each week, I'm getting more and more reference experiences that the hot girls that use to get me all starry eyed are just regular girls.  They're no different than me.  Gotta look beyond the glitz and glamour and see her for who she really is.
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Doge~

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Thurs. 6.3.11

Nothing much to report.  Chiller night in the city.  Solo for a bit and did my thing.

First approach even though I was super logical and the words were kinda slow coming out, I wasn't really stifled and was still fairly proficient at holding a decent convo.  After my first approach, my verbal definitely flowed much better.

Even though my entitlement was low I was having fun, so there wasn't really much anxiety, nor was I really all that focused on it.  I was just having fun and letting loose.  It was probably one of the most relaxed nights out I've had ever.

Finally felt pretty good towards my last approach of the night.  I felt like I was pretty on point but for some reason the attraction wasn't there.  I really dunno why.  Maybe because I wasn't really being physical with her nor being bolder with my escalation.  Or it could just simply be a lack of genuine chemistry.  Who knows.  Maybe I'll understand more about it tonight as I'm starting to see a pattern where I'm losing girls mid-set for whatever reason.  Might be physicality.
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Sat. 6.4.11 - Bringing My Game Back



Out solo.  Still have problems with it but tonight I just let myself chill and relax.  Tough to self amuse when your by yourself.  It's getting better as time goes on.

I decide I want to bring my game back tonight.  Second approach, I go in hard, BR, escalate physically, verbally unstfiled.  Chick loves me, her friend not so much.

Her friend ends up interogating me when we have a bit of time alone.  Tells me I'm weird for being by myself, coming from Jersey, etc.  I remain chill and positive.  She lightens up a bit afterwards.

My girl loves me though so there's just no blowing me out.  The rest of the friends like me too.

The logistics are fucked so I don't really care to take it all the way but my girl is letting me know she's interested in hooking up tonight, so I just stick it through and chill.

I kinda wanna keep approaching but I can't unless I blow out this set.  In any case, as luck would have it, the group gets kicked out for starting a fight with a waitress.

I grab the number and possible day 2.  Dunno if it'll happen as she lives quite a distance away.

By this time I'm in spectator mode and don't open anymore.  Chill a bit before I meet up with my friends and then head home.

Thoughts:
1. Grrrr.  Even though tonight wasn't bad per say, I always feel like I didn't have a good night unless I've done a lot of approaches or done the approaches that I want.  I just haven't reached that point.
2. Buyer/seller dynamic was very obviously in my favor.  One of the few times where I genuinely felt like she wanted it more than I did.
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The Legend of JT

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 Don't feed the pain bodies!!!!!!!
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Thurs./Fri. 6.9/10.11

Not much to mention Thurs.  Just another one of my more difficult nights to get going.  Interesting enough I was opened by a chick and because I was chill about it the chick was impressed and introduced me to her cuter friend.  She even wanted me to get her number.  I wasn't really all that into her though so number is basically a dud.

Friday was much better.  Again, I usually have good nights after nights where I have trouble.  Don't wanna jinx it but so far this has usually panned out.

Also my beliefs were just much better about approaching overall so that helped.

Got a number of a cute Asian girl early on.  Finally a number I'm willing to burn to the ground.  Well actually I've had a few numbers I've burned to the ground but I didn't have much of a chance with those anyways.  This was at least a solid interaction.  Well as solid as it can be without physical escalation.

Then I basically spent the rest of the night fucking around and having fun.  Really difficult for me to hit state though however it really didn't matter too much except that I only approach really hot girls when I hit state.  It's getting better regardless.

I had a cool set where I talked and got to know a lesbian couple.  They were both really cute and cool.

A chick opened me today and straight up told me I'm hot. Really cute hispanic chick. I was kinda in spectator at this point so she eventually leaves as I don't really do anything.

I didn't hit state till later on in the night and this wasn't until after a period where I got kinda sleepy and wasn't doing shit.  I was almost tempted to leave but I managed to stick it out.

The interesting thing is once I actually started to approach my sleepiness completely went away and I woke up and began going into state.  This whole time it might of just been ego doing it, I dunno.

So I eventually bounce on to a venue across the street after a big downpour of rain.

I get inside and I finally have some pretty decent interactions.  First with an Asian girl, I'm escalating but the chemistry isn't there.  I eventually leave.

I then hit up another cute brunette, just fucking around, picking her up and having fun.  Call it a night soon after.

Thoughts:
1.  Hm, nothing much really.  I guess I just gotta remember to escalate even if I'm not feeling it.  Vocal projection is good (usually) as well as just being able to talk nonsense.  Tonality is usually good although I'll sometimes slip on this.  Just gotta be more physical with girls, be bolder and make moves.
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The Legend of JT

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 Dude! are you driving an hour into the city because you want to meet hot girls or because you want to be Ronald McDonald?
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Doge~

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Sat./Sun. 6.11/12.11

Sat. was quite interesting.  I started off at my blowout venue and hit up sets right away.  Got into state kinda quick actually.  Then venue change.

I do a few approaches then stop due to there not really being that many sets to do and also there being a private party so people were being held back downstairs.

So I fall outta state and end up choding a bit.  I eventually get myself going again but at this point my approaches are sucking really bad.  A lot of de-validation which is cool btw.

I eventually get myself to some kinda indifference where I don't really give a shit anymore.  Anyways, I hit up my next venue and inside I'm choding AGAIN for a bit and fall outta state.

However, it was cool because I got myself approaching again and this time my approaches were much better as I was actually escalating and finally hitting some sorta consistent state.

Sunday I went out to the new Gans since they have a pool party.  Turns out the RSVP is bogus, so we end up chilling with a couple buddies and shoot the shit.  We decide to hit up Le Souk later in the night.

It turns out to be pretty good for a Sunday spot so we might hit it up from now on.  In any case we hit up MPD around 10 and go to the Standard.

I don't really do shit today but it was a good learning experience regardless as I got to pick the brain of someone who's much better than me.

Thoughts:
1. Interesting how I fell outta state twice but still managed to get myself approaching again.  That never happens.  This was probably the first time.  I notice that even if I'm feeling bad, I can get myself going at any moment which is pretty cool.
2. My beliefs about approaching are getting better and better.  I'm caring less and less about it, especially when I'm alone and doing it solo.
3. Escalation is still an issue unless I'm in state and feeling good.  Not really worried though, it'll auto-correct in time.
4. I gotta stick into set longer and stop leaving unless they leave.  Any sign of resistance or dis-interest just ignore and continue.
5. I'm also realizing I gotta be more and more comfortable expressing genuine sexuality and interest.  I can't be doing shit because NATURAL GAME says it'll get me the girl.  It's gotta be coming from a place of authentic expression or else it's hollow and empty.
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Doge~

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synergist wrote:
I love the solo shit you've been doing the past few months.  It's the toughest thing in the world.
Yeah dude.  Funny enough, I was sorta forced into doing it against my will because I usually come with a wing but he usually runs off in the beginning of the night to go do something else for a few hours.  I'm basically left to fend for myself.

At first I fucking HATED it because my state would take a very noticeable hit and my approaches would suck.  Now though, the discrepancy is very slight... being by myself doesn't bother me anymore and I can hold my own no problem.

I was basically forced to start drawing state from within or else I would either not feel good and not approach or my approaches would be super lame.

I think I still have a few more months to go before I'm totally comfortable with it but it's definitely been very beneficial for me.
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Make sure you're aware of the 2 hour rule to allow you to let go and get into a RELAXED state. Make sure you understand relaxed arousal.
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