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January 17th, 2017
Close or Die Trying! SXSW Style with Nathan
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Day 1  

First Rule of a Nathan Boot camp - Do whatever the Fuck Nathan says.

Second Rule of a Nathan Boot camp - Do not give a fuck what people think about you.

I have thought about this moment  for the last six months, as I walked into the  Hilton hotel. Nathan walks us upstairs and we get to know who is part of the this week's resurrection crew. We go over who we are, what we are doing here, and hat do we want from this. 

We do some exercises about opening, the default opener wins all. He explains, tap tap, my names is .... and you are adorable. It is that simple and the conversation starts. Now it is up to you to screen her on the qualities you like. This is what makes you, you.

Nathan asks us to go outside and tell three people, "I don't give a fuck what people think about me." I do this and it is so liberating. My heart is pumping hard. It feels great. 

It is SxSW, so the crowd is a little different, a heavy metal band is playing so I must be loud when I approach sets. Nathan explains these are social times, just be friendly and see what is going on. I open some cool girls on spring break, walk around, chat some more. It feels forced when I talk to people about random stuff. It is funny to see how easy the second night it was. I talk to more people, I find Nathan. He asks if I got numbers. Every interaction should be closed, looking for after parties and good times. Check, I thought numbers were earned. I realize cool people, interact all the time, and exchange numbers all the time. It just happens. 

We head to second bar, Nathan says right here, right now. I must go talk to the hottest girl I can find, I chat with one girl standing watching the band. We chat for a few minutes, her husband comes over. I introduce myself and head out. Nathan tells me I must work on sticking in sets.

I see a cute girl sitting on ground with her shoes off. I ask her what is this nonsense. She tells me it was too look cute, I tell her she is doing fine with out the shoes. We exchange numbers, I try to lead more, she declines, I try again, my feet hurt, excuse after excuse. We change numbers and move on. Nathan ask what we discuss, I must turn sexual at some point to move the interaction along. 


I head upstairs to chat with some girls. I see a seated 4 set with an additional girl standing. I meet the standing girl, tell her she is adorable and just had to meet her.  We get going on NH and why am I here, her friend chimes in and I grab a chair and sit next to her friend. We start socializing about things, I need to lead the conversation towards sexual things earlier in the conversation. I tell her we should meet up tomorrow night, she tells me she is working the Perz Hilton party, I tell her to throw me on the list, she explains I have to go online to sign up.  I don't have time for that this weekend. I see Nathan, he explains to me that I must unleash the dark side, I am getting lots of attraction but need to take control, be dominant and lead.

We head to the next bar, I realize now, I see cute girl, I must open cute girl. This game is easy. I see two girls dancing, I go open. We dance for a few minutes and I stop and start talking about who they are. I tell them I am looking for a wife. They say they come as a pair. Good thing I am converting to mormonism. I start roll playing. We chat for a few more minutes. I need a drink, I lead them to the bar. It is actually really simple, the pieces are starting to click in my head. I order my drink, and then start talking to other cuter girls. I notice out of the corner of my eye, the other girls waiting for me. I try to get this group to go dance. I fucked up, I did not befriend the friends. Live and learn. I go open one more set, nothing. I roll over to my wives. I tell we I am not sure if this is going to work if she is going to be running away on me all the time. We discuss getting a marriage counselor, I tell her I do not like counselors. I should have turned this more sexual, but I was not that in to her. 

I head upstairs, it is getting close to closing time. Full intent time. Learning the rhythms of the night was something that I understood a lot more while partaking in it as opposed to just in theory. 

I open two girls just hanging by themselves. They are people watching, I like dancing better I say. I talk to the girls, they say they are sisters. I don't believe them. She let's me check her ID's. Their story checks out, they are indeed sisters.  I tell them they have to come party after. They say they have to work in the morning. I try on like a scale of ten would be a 5. I eject and Nathan says "persistence." I jump back in and push, they say they do not have clothes, I tell them they can wear mine. I push for about another 5 minutes. I am done. I walk back over to Nathan, he laughs. "Close or Die Trying!"

We end up heading back downstairs, he starts telling me to walk up to a girl full intent. "you are sexy as fuck." I really do not remember what happens after that moment. My mind goes blank about this interaction, this was the first time that I actually should full intent and put myself on the line. We walk outside and sit down. He has a smoke and I feel like Neo from the Matrix. "I feel fucking exhausted after a bunch of training exercises but I want more." Nathan says one more glorious set. 

I walk up to two beautiful blonds. I stand straight on the spot like a pillar and tell the girls they are beautiful and I just had to come meet them. Random sounds come out of there mouth. They are deaf. I stand dumbfounded now. I walk back to Nathan and he starts laughing as I explain the events that just happened.  

We debrief. 

     1. Stop leaning over, be the pillar.  
     2. Show more intent, be less playful 
     3. Lead conversations
     4. Be more dominant

What I learned from this experience so far 

     1. I can socialize with beautiful girls with out alcohol. 
     2. I have lots of attraction with girls but I need to tone down my energy.
     3. The reason I was getting approach anxiety was because I was objectifying women.
     4. I am a mother fucking 10, all day, every day.   
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 "In those moments that most people say I can't,  most people say self preservation, most people say what if?... We say "What if?" the other way. What if you land it? What if it is possible?" - Travis Pastrana - X Games Movie   "i'm not in this world to live you up to your expectations. And your not in this world to live up to mine." - Bruce Lee If you are taking more action than anyone else, why should you care about their opinion?" ~Derek "I want to see the world through my own eyes not in the reflection of others." - "While you standing around looking dumb. I make it happen, taking action over time. Got damn good at it too!" - T.I.
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There's beauty in simplicity. Glorious. It's funny how sometimes as we "learn" so much 'game' only to find the need to simplify it. We are there; we are actually enough in our full expressions of our true masculine selves. Epiphanies of destiny.

I can't wait for night 2.  The night of champions. Turning lemons to lemonade; water into wine; somthin' out of little. All you need is 'one' good interaction.

Thanks for the awesome SXSW weekend. After the glory of the perceptions of my job, you guys make it worth while.
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Day 2 - ( Part I) Break the Walls Down - Stretching Reality! 

We worked on street game, day game, and focused on how to tweak your game. 

Day Game 

Your voice is the most powerful tool you have. Use it ! 

"Hey" - "Positive Dominant" - On the street, using positive dominance displays you can get attention but also a positive guy. People are hardwired to stop if you are a positive dominant guy. 

This is something I have never been comfortable with. Now it seems like I is all about getting your voice to where it needs to be. I was able to stop a bunch of sets of cute girls, and I stopped some Aussie bass player, who I should have pursued. Next time, I will know where to go with it, we had a really cool chat about music, her tour, my playing of my guitar, the fact that I am like the only male in Austin not in a band. Really bad ass interaction. It's funny because Nathan knows I can do more. 

I also stopped two other girls who seemed really cool and made a joke about a dude who stopped to chat with me. Break the walls Down! 

I need to find my fury!!!! 

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Street Game - SXSW was a small scale version of Mardi Gras 

It was easy to self amuse one self during this environment. The three of us stopped three really good looking girls. Nathan did his thing, leading the conversation. He demonstrated how to cut and lead threads. One girl started getting really logically, Nathan chimed in with " Okay... Professor"

I might try.. "So....anyways" Your voice and dominance can control the attention of many people including girls.  

Also I learned how to reframe situations. If the girls is working, switch the frame, put her in a sugar mom frame. Do something to get her out of her logical mind set. She will be more receptive with her fun side showing. 

Start opening with nonsense, get hugs from older women, will you be my momma? Ridiculous shit, keeps me up beat. 
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Back to the Hotel for more Day Game 

Nathan explains to me that my energy works great when we are in clubs, and bars but is too much at times. I need to tone my energy way down during the day. So he tells me to go talk to a girl, who is sitting down by herself. I walk up see if the seat is taken, she says I can sit down. She looks exhausted, I tell her she seems like she had a lot of fun last night, I tell her she must get her beauty rest. As I get to leave I say it was really cool to meet you. She flashed the most genuine smile I have ever seen a person. This stuff is that easy!

Nathan says we will take a five minute break. We walk over to get a coffee. As we were standing in line, Nathan is so easy to talk to. We both order coffee, we are just joking around, Nathan asks if you make mine as least gay as possible. I see how people can bring the party just while ordering waiting to order coffee. Enjoy every moment for what it is. You are alive and enjoy it. I tell Nathan I will be right up.  I see a really cute girl, sitting at a coffee table. I walk up tell her I think she is adorable, we chat, I tell her she should give me her number and I will text her to see where she is at later and we can meet up. She says cool and gives me her number. 
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Break for a Few hours to zone out - Texas vs. Duke Game is on !!!!  

I end up going to a bar to watch the Texas - Duke game. I walk in to the bar it is packed. I see two people sitting in the corner of a large table. I walk and ask it if is cool to sit down. This is something I might not have done a few months ago. We chit chat about the game, why I am here and why are they out. I buy them a beer for their hospitality. They leave to go see a band at half time. Some cool kids roll up and ask if they can buy meet a shot to sit down near me. I say sure. I find myself interact all the time during the day. I feel like I make peoples day when I make more than just simple conversation with them . 

Matt from Texas comes and meets me out but we end up running some errands and back to the house to change and freshen up. Matt does a car bomb and we enjoy the fireworks at SXSW.. I actually got footage of the roof. It was a little crazy, awesome view, new friends and great fucking weather!! It was an awesome way to start a night!! 

As we are walking downtown, we yell random stuff, I feel my state is constantly high, all the time. I have worked hard to change my mind set or my nimbus-o-meter to be happy when I am just living and enjoying the moment of life. I tell people to move out of the way, the shit is coming through. I meet a chip and dale dancer and he gives me a rupaul flyer. I walk up to a girl. May I have a female opinion on something " Is Rupaul a male or female or something else. " I am just dying laughing inside. It was that ridiculous too me. I realize people on the street are clapping when I clap, or scream when I scream . My energy is through the roof. 

We roll into the first bar, two girls are hanging out.. I chat them up and try to push interaction forward. Always moving forward! Nothing really hits. 
Matt and I see three girls at the bar with backs to us. I ask them if they have seen my friend.. " The hamburguler" from McD's! They look confused, I tell them they are probably too young to remember. They say oh yeah and eyes light up. I am in. I introduce myself to the girls, the closet girl next to me is a cute tiny blond. This become the best interaction of the entire weekend.

I start talking to blond girl for a few minutes, see what the plans for the evening is. I tell her we should meet up, I get her number.  We talk for a little bit about how I am looking for a wife and they will all do. I pull her in, I push her away. I lead her about 5 feet away. she follows. We go back to the bar, I tell her she is adorable and she had me at hello. She tells me she never said hello. I am clawing and pushing her away. I should have pushed this as far as I could go. It was so much fun as so easy. I tell her I lost myself in her eyes. She tells her friend what I said as she is dying laughing. This is going so well. I must meet Nathan at 10:30. I should tried to see how far this went. But I have a lot to learn and so little time to do it in. I tell the girls we should meet up. It seemed on but I pus myself back in the student role.     

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Bootcamp of Champions - Mar' 09! Austin Resurrection Crew !  - Embrace Uncertainty
Ozzie - July '09 - London - your social self and become you.

 "In those moments that most people say I can't,  most people say self preservation, most people say what if?... We say "What if?" the other way. What if you land it? What if it is possible?" - Travis Pastrana - X Games Movie   "i'm not in this world to live you up to your expectations. And your not in this world to live up to mine." - Bruce Lee If you are taking more action than anyone else, why should you care about their opinion?" ~Derek "I want to see the world through my own eyes not in the reflection of others." - "While you standing around looking dumb. I make it happen, taking action over time. Got damn good at it too!" - T.I.
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and the cliff hanger... haha

SXSW Rocks!
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So many classic moments that weekend...

"The shit is coming through!"
"WHO'S GETTING FUCKED UP TONIGHT???"
"I really need to get laid tonight!" (this one is from a girl on the streetcorner, first thing she said to me)
And my opener of the night Saturday: "We love you!!!  Why are you so awesome?"
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"Forthrightness is the brain’s default response: our neural wiring transmits our every minor mood onto the muscles of our face, making our feelings instantly visible. The display of emotion is automatic and unconscious, and so its suppression demands conscious effort. Being devious about what we feel -- trying to hide our fear or anger -- demands active effort and rarely succeeds perfectly." -- Daniel Goleman
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Day 2 Part 2 - "It gets messy at happy hour"
 

We ned up meeting Nathan out and about on 6th street. This is one of the best places in the order to enjoy cheap beer, good music and party times and future pulls. 

Head over to spill, it is a really cool bar. It is much better than Friday night. It is also possible that I was just ready to rock and roll. I open everything that moves, especially women. It is ridiculously social times. I talk to lots of people, see where everyone is headed to night. Checking for all the cool after parties. I get a few numbers, it was that easy. I tell them we will meet up later. Nathan tells me to use role plays a little more. I jump on that band wagon. I walk up to two girls, open and hook. We chat and and I tell them I am James Bond, 007 and I need some sexy bond girls around me. I see Nathan over the corner of a girls shoulder start dying laughing. I tell one girl her name is galore. She does not like galore, she settles on ms. fantastic. At least she does not have a boyfriend.

We head to Pure. This bar is packed. Nathan teaches me the secret Oceans Eleven trick " Snatch and Grab." This works wonders in a busy bar. You are still being dominant but can open easily with the default opener. He tells me to try it a few times and it works each and every time. Pushing myself out of the comfort zone. 

I open a bunch of sets, each on building on the next. It gets easier and easier and I move to the next set. Shit just flows out of my mouth.  Nathan and I are discussing vague text from other student. As we are talking a cute girl flashes a huge smile in our direction. Nathan looks at me, I hesitate. He goes to tap tap. I snatch and grab and pull her in. I no longer remember how conversations actually happen at night. It is just random chatting and ridiculous things taking place. Girl leaves, Nathan explains "In this family, there are gifts, sometimes we don't always like them but we accept them."

We realize we have lost Caesar again, we must find that guy. Nathan finds him outside. We head over to the two floor bar that Nathan loves. I am drawing a blank again. We decide we need to hurry, Nathan goes in in front. I have ADD when I am out on 6th street and there are girls everywhere. I set two beautiful ones walking by, I S&G, I default and they stop we chat and then 8 more beautiful friends. "I saw wow, you guys are flock of beautiful women and I must go." Nathan is sitting in one of those riding carts. I hope i and the other student says he will meet us up there. I have a greater understanding of what an executive coach must go through. As we are in our cab Nathan says "If my job was only to pick up chicks, it would be the easiest job in the world." We had a good talk about this on Sunday as I am blown away how much energy it takes to actually coach this stuff. 

We end up at said previously forgotten bar,  we walk around and it is dead. Nathan mentions that "it looks like fucking happy hour." It really did. We end up walking around the bar and ended up downstairs in the dance floor area. I open a cute Asian and things go well, I start implementing everything that has been hammered into my head. I lead, I move around, we dance, go for the make out but she pulls away but keeps dancing, i isolate to couch, I bring her to the bar because my drink was empty, I am glad to say it was full and it was a good excuse to go to the bar to enjoy some quiet time. We end up in the bank, i move her from spot to spot. This all seems well and good, I learned some valuable lessons in the last 30 minutes of saturday night. I learned the intrinsic value of buying temperature. Sko.. no...Sko...no.. Cock clock friend, LMR.. It was all there. This was my first experience dealing with all of it. I feel myself becoming a more natural person. I am feeling more confident in my everyday life.   

Nathan, this was an incredible journey. I thank you for everything and all the energy you put into the experience. I will recap Sunday soon. It was a barrage of knowledge and a few more exercises but it was those moments that allowed me to feel like I can do this and do this with ease in the future.       
  

  
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Bootcamp of Champions - Mar' 09! Austin Resurrection Crew !  - Embrace Uncertainty
Ozzie - July '09 - London - your social self and become you.

 "In those moments that most people say I can't,  most people say self preservation, most people say what if?... We say "What if?" the other way. What if you land it? What if it is possible?" - Travis Pastrana - X Games Movie   "i'm not in this world to live you up to your expectations. And your not in this world to live up to mine." - Bruce Lee If you are taking more action than anyone else, why should you care about their opinion?" ~Derek "I want to see the world through my own eyes not in the reflection of others." - "While you standing around looking dumb. I make it happen, taking action over time. Got damn good at it too!" - T.I.
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 So I have decided to go on an Eurotour of my own. I just booked a one way plane ticket to Ireland. I plan on spending a month traveling and living. I feel liberated. The more I read and work on myself, the more I feel confident I can take on the world, even in the current crisis that we are living through.  

Here I come Europe - Ireland - JUne 29th 
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Bootcamp of Champions - Mar' 09! Austin Resurrection Crew !  - Embrace Uncertainty
Ozzie - July '09 - London - your social self and become you.

 "In those moments that most people say I can't,  most people say self preservation, most people say what if?... We say "What if?" the other way. What if you land it? What if it is possible?" - Travis Pastrana - X Games Movie   "i'm not in this world to live you up to your expectations. And your not in this world to live up to mine." - Bruce Lee If you are taking more action than anyone else, why should you care about their opinion?" ~Derek "I want to see the world through my own eyes not in the reflection of others." - "While you standing around looking dumb. I make it happen, taking action over time. Got damn good at it too!" - T.I.
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 So I went out on a slow night in Manchvegas, NH. It is crazy slow and I end up at a open mic night. I think I am going to try it out next week.

We chill for a little while and the show ends. We end up moving bars because the show is over.  Not many girls are roving about so I decide to chat it up a bit. I see some guy I meet out one night with some girl. I go over and her here talking about being gamed. She says there is no way she will get gamed buy some dude. She chats and I mention something that the game is over. I go chat, we talk, she puts up shield, I deflect her bad vibes and move on. She starts talking about self actualization. I say I need a drink , grab her hand and lead to to bar. Thanks Nathan! Something I never did before. 

We chat some more and then I walk away, telling her I need to go talk to my friends. I shot the shit for a few put on the show and the go back. I open again, we chat more and i am much more low key. We chat about my trip to Europe. She say "we have to get together in the near future." I get her number and we chat about things. She gives me her back story and start interviewing me. It is late, we both have to go our own ways. I give her a hug on the way out and tell her we have to meet up soon. She says she is definitely up for it. I was getting amoged left and right and she was  up for it.

It is funny, 1 year ago, this would have been game. It would have been all bullshit, but I am on my own path and I want the best for me. It is funny how this shit actually becomes what you are not what you do.   

  
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Bootcamp of Champions - Mar' 09! Austin Resurrection Crew !  - Embrace Uncertainty
Ozzie - July '09 - London - your social self and become you.

 "In those moments that most people say I can't,  most people say self preservation, most people say what if?... We say "What if?" the other way. What if you land it? What if it is possible?" - Travis Pastrana - X Games Movie   "i'm not in this world to live you up to your expectations. And your not in this world to live up to mine." - Bruce Lee If you are taking more action than anyone else, why should you care about their opinion?" ~Derek "I want to see the world through my own eyes not in the reflection of others." - "While you standing around looking dumb. I make it happen, taking action over time. Got damn good at it too!" - T.I.
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Nice! Traveling is awesome.  A life without travel is like reading a book and reading just the first page. 
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So I head out on a random wednesday, I chat with a few people during open comedy night night. I have a few drinks, I am here just to enjoy the show. A cute girls comes over to order a drink and we start chatting, we chat for a while. The bar is closing and we end up moving locations. I start to man handle her physically, I am much better at toning down my  level of intensity. We start just jumping on topics, she mentions I am losing her. I go uber ADD. I like your watch, have you seen this and that, and that and she is back in. It is starting to seem obvious if a girl is in it or not. I try to get her number 1 time, and we get disrupted by her friends and mine. I move back and chat some more. We end up outside and I go to the restroom, to really see if she is DTF or not. I come out and the two girls are still there. I reopen and we chat for about 5 minutes. We part ways, I walk around the corner and my friend follows. 

All of a sudden my friend stops me. He tells me they are calling my name. I walk back, grab the girls hand and tell her I tried to get her number and she should not be so difficult. She pauses for a second and tells me she is not going to give me her number if I am going to be like that. I remain  unreactive. I pul her in, twirl, she is super close. I fall in love.   

Nathan! I love you in the none gayest way possible that you could order a latte with skim milk and a splenda. Thank ou for everything. 

I end up getting her number but forgot her name. She starts to shit test me, I mention that my eyes are soft and gentle and I gaze into her eyes. She eats it all up, little does she know.  I have dangerous blue eyes that are out to fuck the shit out of her. Just got a text back. It is amazing at when you need this stuff it just kid of comes out.     

Need advice on how to get her name and no Sinfeld ideas. 

This is honestly the first time I was called back by a girl so I could get her number. This shit is powerful be forworned. 
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Bootcamp of Champions - Mar' 09! Austin Resurrection Crew !  - Embrace Uncertainty
Ozzie - July '09 - London - your social self and become you.

 "In those moments that most people say I can't,  most people say self preservation, most people say what if?... We say "What if?" the other way. What if you land it? What if it is possible?" - Travis Pastrana - X Games Movie   "i'm not in this world to live you up to your expectations. And your not in this world to live up to mine." - Bruce Lee If you are taking more action than anyone else, why should you care about their opinion?" ~Derek "I want to see the world through my own eyes not in the reflection of others." - "While you standing around looking dumb. I make it happen, taking action over time. Got damn good at it too!" - T.I.
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Steve-0 wrote:


Nathan! I love you in the none gayest way possible that you could order a latte with skim milk and a splenda. Thank ou for everything. 

I end up getting her number but forgot her name. She starts to shit test me, I mention that my eyes are soft and gentle and I gaze into her eyes. She eats it all up, little does she know.  I have dangerous blue eyes that are out to fuck the shit out of her. Just got a text back. It is amazing at when you need this stuff it just kid of comes out.     

Need advice on how to get her name and no Sinfeld ideas. 

This is honestly the first time I was called back by a girl so I could get her number. This shit is powerful be forworned. 

Love the latte bit haha!

Names...remembering them is The Key to The Castle. The first time you talk to someone or reopen someone and call them by their first name...Builds Instant Connection. They automatically get an emotional spike after you remember that shit.
I remember Nathan! talking to me about how I remember 20 names after the night out.
Remembering is Def. one of the keys to My Game. Add to it the whole, if you forget my name or I forget yours owe me a beer stuff and presto...you've got some attraction sprinkled around:)
As far as getting the name if you forget...Honesty is your best approach in my book! Fuck it...just ask her.
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