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December 9th, 2016
How Being Animated & Confident Makes Your Face And Body Look Better
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Tyler

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As mentioned in another thread, I've been recording every single interaction I've done since around December.  What I didn't mention in that thread is that I've also been studying them during the week, similar to a football team doing the post game review and analysis.

The biggest thing I've noticed is that despite being a pretty funny looking guy (I have a pudgy face and funny freckles), I look like a totally different dude when I'm in set.  I think this is a key peice of the pie to the chodes who are convinced that their looks are holding them back -- the fact that your looks LITERALLY CHANGE when you are being charismatic.

Likewise, I do a lot of confident posturing and even a lot of sexual stuff -- and despite that it's almost like Chris Farley doing an imitation of the Chip And Dales on SNL, it's actually legit enough looking to the girls that they get sucked right into it.  Typically I have them "touch the muscles" and despite that I'm at around 20% body fat, they'll oooooh and awwwww over it.  This reminds me a lot of an old buddy who had a small dick, and would repeatedly tell his girlfriends that he has the biggest dick ever.  They'd be having sex and the girls would complain "Oh God, it's so big, it's hurting me, but it's so hot!"

It also reminds me of how you'll be out and sometimes meet girls who are chubby, but you get crazy attracted to them anyway, and you can't figure out why.  Obviously I love girls with tight little bodies (and they definitely make for better video footage), but I've also found myself light-headed for bigger girls as well.  I just LIKE GIRLS in general.  And I think that girls just LIKE GUYS in general.  So for whatever reason, you focus on other aspects of their physique, probably because they're confident and sexual, and it tricks the brain into thinking 'This girl is super hot".

Now conversely, I also notice that when I'm SUCKING, and I look at the recordings, I suddenly look like a pudgy little freckle faced fuckhead again.  So it only works when you're kicking ass. :)

Anyway I think the power of your reality has a huge, MASSIVE, effect on the way that you look.  If you talk, walk, move, and are socially outgoing like a good looking person, everyone just assumes that you are.


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Alesis

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Yeah. It's funny how that works... :-)
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Mr November

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Tyler wrote:
If you talk, walk, move, and are socially outgoing like a good looking person, everyone just assumes that you are.


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The problem I have (and I see a lot of other not-so-good looking people with the same problem) is when I try to assume the talk, walk and movements of a good looking person it either comes off as phoney or arrogant -I can't seem to own it

how do you get there authentically????
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Gseus

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Does that mean that looks DO matter? I'm confused.... :(



... just kidding. I even had a guy friend telling me that to him, my physiology, my "looks" change drastically when I lose some of my stifledness when I'm feeling really great.

And I noticed myself that even the colour of my face (healthy/unhealthy) and the look of my hair (whether it looks lifeless or vivid) reflects my inner state this day, and that it can change within 10 minutes.

Not to speak of great body language, posturing, mimics, which makes you look like a complete different person.
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yeah, nimbus is always shining through....great observation!

the funny thing for me is that at some point you start noticing your primitive brain rationalizations like when you get a fresh hair cut or a new pair of shoes and mistake it for confidence. realizing this helps to understand that it always comes from within.
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NastyMick

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This is a pretty interesting post.

It just reminded me of what Leonardo Di Caprio says in 'Catch Me if you Can': People only believe what you tell them.

Obviously I think it's better to be naturally cool than putting it on or anything, but from my own personal experience aswell, people just get sucked in. You become something else entirely. So to speak
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In Tyler we trust
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I tell students this all the time. "Look at me," I'll say, "am I better looking than you? Taller? Better dressed? No, in fact, I'm short, pale, ugly with weird facial hair, and probably dressed WORSE than you (i usually just wear very basic shit these days with maybe one cool accesory like my NERD GLASSES). So how come when I go up, the girls love me and pull me in and want me to stay, and when you go up, they BOOM backturn and BUH BYE!"

It's because of this... what Tyler has outlined here. 100%. That's IT. 
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Yeah, actually, I also think the people in the RSD crew is pretty good-looking too, yeah even Tyler. One cool thing I noticed about tyler is that when I first saw some picture on him for like 3 years ago I was like "haha who the hell is that ugly nerd?" But after watching some dvds with him and seen his CHARIZMA I really think he is a cool looking dude now, pretty funny how that works.

I also think Jeffy is good-looking, yeah on pictures too. In my opinion Alex or Tim is the best looking guys in RSD, but somehow my eyes keep looking at Tyler when these guys are in the same group. Guess he is the most charizmatic and interesting dude right now or something.
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Join Date: 12/04/2008 | Posts: 24

 I have to say that since we as men start this path and improve hell a lot much, we find that many and many girls are also chodes. I really haven't seen the scene out of Europe per se, although I'm going to NYC for first time in my life in April, but only one of two things can happen a) the girls in the States do know this game better b) I've learnt this game pretty well and I find lesser challenges now that I did one year ago so... I really can't judge so far.

What I can reaffirm is that I am not the most advanced guy, but as many fellas in this community, I understand the Social Market and the Attraction very well, yet it's not easy to find girls who really understand how attraction works!!
They too have their fears and go to "logic" game even when you start busting on them and... sometimes I can't game them anymore because they seem oblivious sometimes. I have some females friends though who DO understand attraction, and so I get punched in the arm and get attention and sex from them, but those are only a few.

I guess my question goes like this: is there any major difference from the girls you have in the States and how the Social Market (meaning value, social proof, status etc) work there?? Or... maybe I what I really need to start doing is to spark more attraction and go further with girls to break their social persona??
Truth is I don't really see many "crazy chicks" around, I mean those who are really sexual when say you play and flirt with them.. rather I see chodes (girls) often times. (By chodes I don't mean they are not hot and/or cute, because they ARE hot)

Perhaps some guys agree with me that some of us enjoy more this game out of weekends, I mean out of clubbing. And really enjoy the mouse and cat game with the barista at Starbucks or the girl and the Clothing Store, those are where you have to show guts. I remember two days ago when I was looking on this book store for a NYC guide and asked this girl about the guides. I started asking her which one she thought was better and then assumed she's been in NYC and therefore who better than her to be my next guide woman and started role playing and sexual talk in a way... Man, her face turned red and her eyes brighten. Anyways..

I miss these things so I'm open to any suggestions about my words..

Cheers!



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